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Date: November 4, 2022
You’re assuming that this woman knew any of this from one date. If I go out on a date with a guy it doesn’t matter if he sees me as potential wife in his eyes, he doesn’t own me.
You’re not owed exclusivity or monogamy.
Women don’t owe you chastity just because you’re interested.
It’s already hot enough to find safe casual partners to meet our needs so if we have a FWB who fills that it makes logical sense to continue getting that need met until the relationship has been actualized meaning we mutually agreed to be together. She did not fuck some random. But either way it still doesn’t matter.
It makes no sense to assume and project all these ideals on a woman you simply had one date with. This is allll ego driven behavior.
If he had said “don't date a gaming addict” how would you feel?
Very sorry you’re going through this. I would suggest talking to a trusted teacher in school, talking about how his behaviour effects your life at home, and is affecting everyone around you. It’s not to say there will be any legal actions taken, but the teacher could talk to your parents privately about it.
You shouldn’t have to go through this, but if it’s really bad (worse than what you’ve written), then if you wanted to I’m sure you could move in with your grandparents or any trusted relatives (at your own accord), as long as that wouldn’t be too much of a hassle for you.
As for your brother, because he’s so young, the most they would really do is try and get him therapy. He’s not exactly old enough to go into a hostel, and judging by the lack of discipline he faces, even if he were old enough (16+), I highly doubt your parents would kick him out.
Basically, his age will allow him to get away with quite a lot, and that’s not fair, but the only person you can really go to is a teacher, as they have the highest chance of sorting your situation. Again, very sorry you have to go through this.
Psyco bitches are like every other chick
You should have moved on when you realized you were the side chick dating a guy who could be her father.
You know you're his side piece right?
True, but if he could quit tomorrow to pursue his passion like OP has done he probably would
This whole situation sounds really crappy for your girlfriend. I feel bad for her. So you said she is 3ish years behind you, career-wise, which would made sense since she is 4 years younger than you and you were actually in her position about 4 years ago, according to your post. You said that she moved to your city – was it for work or for you? I don't know why anyone would relocate for an entry level position. If we assume she moved to your city for you, and then you are on here complaining that her career isn't as advanced as yours and you're annoyed she has no friends there or money since she's essentially starting over in a new job near you…..Is this what happened or how did she come to on-line down there by you?
From the sounds of your priorities, it does not sound like you are at a place to be in a serious relationship. It sounds like you want to put your job as your top priority, followed by the experiences you believe you are missing out on. Here is the thing, you can go do those experiences without her, but skiing alone, traveling alone and going out to new restaurants alone won't be the grand experience you reflect upon joyously when you are 80 years old. Experiences are nothing without the people you share them with. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices in relationships, and putting your own desire to have experiences on hold for a couple years while being supportive of your girlfriend pursuing her career. That is probably the path I would choose. If that isn't something you are willing to do, it might be time to be single for a while or see if you can find a partner who has the same priorities in life as you and is in the same stage of life. It feels like if nothing is done, resentment on both sides will just build.
there is nothing wrong with going for vacation with your future in-law!
It’s not a humiliating experience IMO but she can feel it is
ok I am a grown woman. -and I have seen in the past and present and know of these behaviors, in girls and young women.
So she jokes and gets physical and says she: “knows I have a crush on her”
and you want to know what this means. I think it means that she is into you and is sending signals that if you make a move on her she would be into it. She is doing it that way because if you are not into her like that and do nothing then her self-esteem is preserved.
so
“What would be the best way to react and to reply next time she says this?”
Well, if you are interested in her – make a move
if you are not interested in her like that – you could pretend to be oblivious – and just keep doing what you are doing now with her when she says that kind of ignoring the statement or moving on to a different topic. Or you could tell her that you don't have a crush on her. Honestly, after a while, if you don't make a move to escalate the relationship to a romantic one – she will move on. And I bet she is off somewhere currently asking her friends if they think you like her and what should she do and what does it mean when I say this and he responses like that?
I get the feeling you have misread his signals. In grief, he may seem distant, but that doesn't mean he doesn't want you nearby. Grief is a special case, it's not about setting a boundary, it's about being overwhelmed by a sense of loss.
Now, you seem hurt that he didn't turn to you. I urge you to continue to make overtures of caring and try to meet him where he is.
So did you go to the funeral? (By the way, invitations to a funeral are not customary, it's not like a wedding.)
Wait, is he a good husband? Does he treat you right?
If so, I would say the therapy is doing great for him and he trusted you enough to tell you.
If he hasn’t cheated on you or abused you and you are willing to leave him because he is who he is born as, your the monster.
Yeah, something isn’t right about the situation.
Actually op I just looked it up and it’s normal. Like sleepwalking, sexsomnia is a parasomnia, a sleep-related disorder that occurs when you're in between deep, dreamless sleep and wakefulness. Behaviors during an episode may include fondling, masturbation, sexual intercourse, pelvic thrusting and spontaneous orgasm.
But you looked at their texts and there was nothing inappropriate. I don’t care who throws themself at me I am married. I can resist and would because I morally won’t cheat. Never have and never will.
This isn’t about her. How many people have to tell you that? This is about you being jealous of someone pretty who has a working friendship with your now ex boyfriend.
I had to scroll back to see your age. I expect this from a 16 yr old and not a 30yr old.
Your dad is a creep. He cheated on his wife with a girl 18 years younger and married his affair partner. They certainly suit each other.
This exactly, geez occasionally I get shit for ignoring an asshole and that is something I wish to pass on, know your duties and ignore the rest.
Are different hobbies really red flags?
I shudder to think what a mystical proposal is, but she sounds like an entitled brat, as u said, let her buy it herself, she has no respect for your finances, and she won’t when she walks off with your house after the divorce either
See this is another idiot that is trying to make you feel bad for having preferences. You made you decision op stay the course.
I’ve ended it and I’m really sad. He reacted to my message even after I asked him to not reply back.
An anecdote re: “fussiness” : I’ve stepped onto people’s doorsteps and visibly retched because they had too many dogs and not enough time to mop as frequently as they should have. I felt so guilty but even my normal nosed friends said the house smelled bad. The homeowners obviously thought I was fussy and how dare I not ADORE their unwashed “fur babies.” Also, before I receive judgement, they had up to ten dogs at a time. The smell truly was unbearable.
You might be able to find really strong soap used for removing oil from artists’ and mechanics’ hands. She shouldn’t use it all the time, but if you have an emergency and are near a meltdown, it could help? I could never use that sort of thing without my hands bleeding, but my skin is also super sensitive.
Thank you. I’m going to try to pull people he loved and respects together to talk to him. We don’t on-line in the same state as most of his family but he has a couple of very close friends here that I think can sit down with him. Thank you for your support.
Hopefully the kid isn’t yours, don’t wanna saddle yourself with your ex permanently.
She probably cheated. Who would get tested so many times for STD's while in a relationship? And you can't know she actually tested negative unless she shows you medical records. It's extremely easy to get these, just one phone call or email to get them.
Maybe she cheated, caught chlamydia and got paranoid over it so got tested a bunch. Possibly to see if she tested negative. But if she kept having sex eutb you after infecting you and then took the cure, she'd get infected again from you. Both partners need to take the cure and avoid sex until the doctor says it's okay.
Then again, don't want to jump to conclusions. Have you had previous sexual relations with other people before her? Chlamydia can lay dormant, possibly you got it before dating your GF. Ask your doctor to check if the chlamydia affected your body. When discovered early, there's generally no damage. But if you have it a few years or so, it can cause permanent damage to your body such affect the testicle and fertility.
Easiest solution would be if she showed you all of her medical records regarding the STD tests. If she doesn't, yeah… She's hiding something. Trust me, any woman suspecting a cheating man would rub evidence in their faces. If they don't while they claim to have evidence, they're probably hiding something.
Your snapping at her she’s walking on eggshells your saying shes over exaggerating . It doesn’t sound like she is .
I got right on that!
My pleasure.
You could tell he was by the way he kept arguing about the fact the girl is 18 now… he’s a creep
Isn't most work done to get money, & doing things you don't really want to do? If I didn't have to work for money, I would work on smaller passion projects, or not work at all ha
She's keeping an old fuck buddy around to do chores man. Come on.
Look I'm not going to tell u to break up with him because ultimately it is ur choice hun.
But you have every right to be weary. You aren't being controlling. You aren't pressuing him. You arent being manipulative and u aren't using your past trauma against him. I need u to know that!
His reaction was out of pocket and douchy. He has no right to blame you for his actions.
It's easy to only see the good and dismiss the bad. He probably is now apologetic because you didn't roll over and die at his unreasonable bullshit.
Please just expect better and don't allow him to gaslight u. A man that is all talk about marriage and securing a future with you shouldn't be this hesitant and getting nagged to get rid of something from years past
And you should think long and hot about his behavior and actions hereafter if u choose to stick with his bumass.
Also i would suggest he make haste with finding a place very soon. You arent a bnb as kind as u are. U need ur own safe space away from someone that has outburst like this. I'm not saying it's a regular thing.. but rather safe than sorry. U dont want urself to feel trapped by being in the same house as this dude if he proceeds to be a dick.
Why not?
I appreciate your candor and am open to growth. I do realize I was wrong but can you try to be more specific in your criticism?
Please don't blame alcohol. Even after eight beers I would still know that this is stupid behaviour.
It goes both way in a marriage. If the wife doesn’t want her husband to permanently alter his appearance then he should strongly consider that. It’s not about men controlling women — it’s about being a team mate with your partner.
You'll have to see them outside of that setting.
None of this is your fault. Reading your post and your comments, I really think you should walk away from this shit show, all for your own well-being. I feel horrible for their children involved, but you don't have to stay with a manipulative and just absolutely disgusting person who doesn't actually value you. You also shouldn't stay and put up with his vile ex-wife/affair partner either. They've fucked up their lives, and they're just gonna continue to fuck themselves up, and they will try to drag you down with them. You deserve infinitely better than that shit.
How is it your fault he's a POS? You have to remember his goal was to die leaving you with that false sense of guilt to carry…his goal was to HURT you even after death. Stop repairing a sunk ship, less you want to sink with it, don't stoop to his level and think above yourself and who you're hurting by acknowledging him
Has your physique changed dramatically in the last 7 years?
Also when is the last time you guys went out for a date?
Well I'm very close minded so I definitely don't, and I don't wanna be a “girlfriend” for the rest of my miserable life. I don't know what to do. Seems kind of incompatible to me.
I'm so sorry. Ugh. I really feel for you.
If it was me, since you're invested, I would try to have a last ditch conversation with him, and let him know that you are considering ending the relationship over this. I would set a time frame in my mind for things to improve. Maybe i'd put it in a letter so he can have time to process it, and schedule a conversation about it. I would be very direct and very clear with what needs to change.
You do deserve the kind of relationship that you want, and it's not unreasonable to want to see your partner of a year more than once or twice a week. It's not unreasonable to want time to connect on the phone or with texting.
Maybe y'all can find a compromise, but it should not be just you compromising. He needs to show that he cares with actions, not just words. In my very strong opinion, you shouldn't be “squeezed in” – you should be prioritized, and other things can get squeezed in around that priority.
Sending you hugs OP. Love and crumbs aren't enough!
My bet is that it’s not that your libido is naturally going down – your bf is killing your libido by being stupid, dumb, forgetful, immature and someone who doesn’t care about his partner having good sex.