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This is what I'm saying and yet I was downvoted to hell.
Precisely. “Accidental anal” where you get off on and actively try to put barriers up to ensure pain for your partner, is a rape fantasy. He's trying to reenact this, not initiate anal play.
I would not stay with a person like this. I wouldn't feel safe being drunk with them, or compromised in any way lest he takes the opportunity.
In a comment he states she withdrew consent.
You’ve only been with your boyfriend six months, it’s way too early to expect him to commit to marriage. Like, I guess if all you care about is finding someone willing to marry you, go ahead and get back with your ex. But I wouldn’t leave a promising new relationship for a previously failed one just to get a ring on my finger.
i’m scared of the idea that I just wasted 5 years of my life.
I don’t see any red flags on your side or his side. Just keep checking in with each other and respecting each other’s boundaries you’ll be ok
Sounds like he has an addiction. This will not he an easy fight for you unless he admits he has a problem.
I would rethink my future is he's not willing to change.
Well, break up with this one and then maybe date a different kind of guy next.
Is this what was happening before? Your sister wanted to keep the door open in case they decided to accept her down the line?
Seriously, use the money you’d use for surgery to get therapy.
What will you do when you get the surgery done but everything in your life stays the same? Your bf will still tell you how he likes Kylie Jenner, you’ll still feel inadequate or that your butt isn’t big enough because he will be the same bf and he’ll still be lusting after other girls because it’s not the body shape, it’s that he’s an AH who doesn’t respect you enough and is more interested in what he doesn’t have than what he does.
You getting surgery won’t change any of that, because it’s your body you are changing and not his mind or his personality.
A lot of people don't realize that it is a big step for long time friends of opposite genders in straight couple relationships to be able to hang out with one another and have that confidence so because this is something that is relatively new to the both of you it is understandable that you both would feel this way and have concerns on both sides. Just make sure you guys are open and honest with one another and everything should turn out okay
It's time to find another girlfriend. One of the ways that you can tell someone is a piece of shit is by how they treat others.
You have a girlfriend who goes out of her way to be rude to service workers. That's unacceptable, no matter what. These people are just out there trying to earn a living, and she's judging them, and being a complete bitch to them “just because.”
You need to ghost this person. She is nothing but toxic trash.
Had she had an argument with you and left with the dog only to realise she couldn’t take the dog where she was going so she took it to her ex’s. I can understand her position because things between you and her were not good in that moment.
Read her comments. He's a family friend who has been grooming her since she was underage.
And according to her, they kissed but did not have sex.
This isn’t gonna be solved with hugs and happy thoughts.
Gotta stop thinking you can “fix” people and get them to transform into a great partner if you just keep trying hot enough and love them enough.
And in a few months we’ll be reading “My boyfriend and I opened our relationship at my request, but now he’s breaking up with me. What should I do?” Go ahead and break up now. If he’s not enthusiastic about it now, he’ll never be. Break up and be FWB maybe, but not in a relationship.
Yeah if convo keeps dying like this, he’s not interested in anything serious
i feel like, based on your comment history on r/tinder as well, you dont have a very stable romantic life
Lose weight
That's really good to hear. Far to rarely justice is served in cases likr these. Nice to see that it will be different here.
However, i also hope, that you recognize, that you made a plethora of bad decisions to reach that point. I hope, that you have learned from that
Are you 12? You can just break up with him and do whatever you want. Boundaries are put in place so they were comfortable if you don’t like it don’t agree to them but it seems like you already did. She can’t go out and party with your friends like you’re 17 darn it.
OH! that changes things! He should work for this outfit for a couple years, but then change companies. With that degree, it's eminently doable. A little industry experience under his belt will make him very employable and not all of those jobs are transient. (Of course, he shouldn't tell the company this is his game plan!)
Good on ya!
How did it go?
Okay thank you very much for this response
I’m so so sorry.
3 weeks seems a bit early to make demands. I'd understand if you were officially BF / GF but after a couple weeks of dating it is kinda extreme. I will say though that most of my girlfriends in life have always despised the idea of me seeing an ex in person while we were together, regardless of whether we were just friends
This is a thing that bothers me about so many women. How easily they allow other people to influence them. You've explained at length what a great guy he is and how happy he makes you but just because he doesn't tend to connect well with others you let that get in your head and influence how YOU perceive him.
Ironically that might be exactly the sort of problem he keeps running into.
And if he's aware of this problem as you seem to imply, he likely tends to come on a bit too strong/eager as a way of overcompensation and that can put people off as well.
Ironically I have the opposite “condition”. I'm deeply introverted and wish to high heaven that 99% of the human species would just leave me the eff alone….yet people often seem drawn to me even when I explicitly try to act standoffish, curt, and uninterested.
And I don't have nearly as much going for me as your BF does. Stop letting other people's views influence your own.
If this is something you think you can comfortably discuss there is a suggestion you can make that might help your BF make friends more easily. It took my years to figure this out but it fits so much of my life experience and observation that I think it perfectly explains why my efforts to be standoffish have the opposite effect.
Ironically I figured this out because of a really snotty, arrogant little cat I own. This cat helped me figure out something about women, and about people in general. She's a good cat…even if she was also an evil little demon bitch.
This cat was VERY anti-social for the first couple years I had her. When all my early attempts at affection got me clawed up and bloodied I learned to mostly just ignore her. Feed her, water her, clean her litterbox and otherwise ignore her. Any attempt at physical contact would almost always result in either her running and hiding, or attacking. So I just ignored her. I considered getting rid of her at a No-Kill shelter but figured a cat that hostile would inevitably get dumped at another shelter by whoever took her in…and they might not care enough to make sure that wherever they dumped her was also a No-Kill shelter.
Over the years though she started gradually getting closer to me. Physically I mean. She'd lurk in whatever room I was in. Then on a stray peice of laundry I left on the floor. Then near my bed. Then on my bed. Then she'd literally sleep beside my keyboard when I was working on the computer.
Throughout all this I would STILL get savagely mauled if I tried to pet her. And sometimes she'd reflexively attack my hand just for pushing a button near her while sleeping beside my keyboard.
Not gonna lie, that earned her a good good smacks. I'll put up with being mauled when I'm the one violating her boundaries but i'll be damned if i'm gonna have to go bandage my hands just because she wakes up startled when she was the one creeping ever closer into MY space.
Eventually she moved from near my keyboard to my lap, and now even as I type this she's practically draped over my like a damn fur blanket.
One day i was just looking at her and musing over how affectionate she was toward me when I had literally done nothing but ignore her for years. It made me reminisc back to my dating life in my twenties and a brief stint of about half a year I spent being “a bad boy”. A womanizer.
It was after i'd basically been used, exploited, and repeatedly cheated on throughout my late teens and early twenties, no matter how hard I tried to be everything TV told me a good man is supposed to be: Caring, open, affectionate, sensitive, attentive…blah blah blah.
And the whole time i'm doing my best to be the perfect ideal of “a good man” i'm watching all my sleazebag family members and friends/aquaintances easily get multiple girls who are way out of their league practically crawling on their hands and knees to be with them despite the fact that they were all jobless losers with criminal records longer than a porn star's bodycount. Many of those girls were cheating on good men to be with these jerks.
After years of being the nice guy who got cheated on, i had a rough breakup and got pissed. Not just at my Ex, but all my exes, and basically all women. The ones who I knew were cheating on good men with my “bad boy” loser family members and acquaintances. The ones who pretended to want good men and then snuck around with dirtbags.
To make a long story less long, I had more women in that 6-8 month time span than I ever had before or since. And they practically clubbed each other to death competing for me. And they were all out of my league.
And I felt like constant scummy filth. I hated myself. I couldn't keep being that kind of person. But it was very illuminating about human nature in general and looking at this cat I had ignored for years now desperate for my affection when she would have savaged me before made me remember that period of my life when all I did was go from trying my best to be a perfect guy to trying my best to be a total scumbag…and suddenly women that never would have given me the time of day were physically fighting over me.
And even now, today….when I just generally want to be left alone and behave in a cold, aloof, standoffish way….people go out of their way to try and befriend me.
It's annoying. But between my cat, my bad boy phase, and my current antisocial phase it kind of made me realize something…when you act aloof and disinterested it seems to trigger something in many people(and cats, lol) that makes them want to please you. That makes them want to feel worthy of you….even when by any objective standard they're actually “better” than you and more successful than you.
It's both hilarious, and sad. And one of the things that has made me just not want to be bothered with most of the human species today. lol
TLDR; Tell your boyfriend to stop trying so very hot. If anything, tell him to act polite but otherwise uninterested in most people he meets and little by little some people will begin to go out of their way to try and “earn” his friendship…whether he wants them to or not.
Is the sexual component the only main issue? Could you ask about opening that part of your relationship, if he’s not interested? Otherwise, your only other real option is leaving.
I gave my brother 2 years and charged him little to no rent or expenses to help him out. He's done nothing with that time….so thats not my responsibility.
You reckon it’s a rejection? We talked about it many of times and he’s not really been rejecting it in my eyes.. but I’m not sure I’ve not really been through this sort of stuff
You lost me at the title
“Keeps cheating”
Bruh ?
Have some self respect and dare someone who actually likes you
You say you only got back together because she was sorry and would start to be accepting of your hobbies. She is not being accepting of your hobbies. Why stay when she broke the promise you got back together over?
1-800- Intimacy/Sex therapy.
There’s a reason why high school sweethearts don’t normally last after school, adulthood is much different on us and normally changes us and how we perceive things and do things. It’s nice to explore when young, you have room to make mistakes. Always take time and have a clear head when making big decisions and know what you want.
I'm sorry to tell you that you need to get tested. A gynecologist should not be 'weirded out' by a wart in the pubic area. If it's a potential STI, she should have been tested. If it's not potentially an STI, then what exactly was weird about it? That whole thing just sounds strange, and it would give me pause.
Definitely don't have sex again until you have been tested, and ideally ask HER to also be tested. Make sure that you are both negative before any intimacy. You need to actually see her results too, don't just take her word for it.
Setting boundaries is not toxic.?
I mean.. if he shuts down, then you have your information either way: absolutely do not move in. Not because of the poop thing, there's room for solutions and compromise here, but because it is a 100% awful idea to move in with someone who shuts down when you are trying to discuss an actual problem with them. Hell, I would even say that a serious long term relationship will not work out if you can't discuss uncomfortable, but important issues due to the partner shutting down.
So even if that happens, you will have your answer.
Yes.
Next question.
There’s no “insane deal”. And even if this mythical insane deal existed, it’s not working for you anymore, which is reason enough to end it.
So the conversation sounds like this: “Mom, I’m a 22 year old adult, and I’ve decided it’s time to remove the tracking apps from my phone. I know you might not agree with that decision, but it’s my decision to make, and I’ve made it.”
And know that she’ll almost certainly blow a gasket. Probably several. There’s pretty much no chance that’s she’s going to be like “cool, high five!” So just prepare for it to kinda suck for awhile, relationship wise. She’s used to a certain (at least perceived) level of control, and this loss of that perceived control will freak her the. Eff. Out. So expect that. Expect the panic, the bargaining, yelling, sobbing, accusations, love bombing, silent treatment…all the things.
Hold firm anyway.
This IS your choice to make, and it IS a reasonable one. Really really. Mom’s response, whatever that might be at the time, doesn’t change that. She’s going to try REALLY hot to convince you otherwise, but nope.
And if the prospect of dealing with this freaks you out…well, yeah! Of course it would! Change is very hot! Especially with moms! But hang in there. And be kind to yourself if you slip up or regress. It’s ok, you’ll try again tomorrow.
Well, yes. It is still an insecurity and with every insecurity, the initiative needs to be taken by the person themself. So, my advice remains the same. Don't brush this under the rug, this is an important milestone in your relationship. You need to know where stands before you make such a huge commitment.
I would just ghost him. No explanation. No contact.
Send her a canvas and paints and when it arrives you also have one and then do an online easy sip and paint experience.
How sad, you poor thing. I think it was wrong to push you through with the wedding. Your grief must be insurmountable and having to pretend you're happy on what's supposed to be a happy day, when you've just lost your baby, I honestly can't even imagine the sorrow and the whole head fuck of the wedding stuff. I got a bit teary reading this. I can't imagine living it. Must have been very surreal.
Massive hug from me for you. Xoxo
How sad, you poor thing. I think it was wrong to push you through with the wedding. Your grief must be insurmountable and having to pretend you're happy on what's supposed to be a happy day, when you've just lost your baby, I honestly can't even imagine the sorrow and the whole head fuck of the wedding stuff. I got a bit teary reading this. I can't imagine living it. Must have been very surreal.
Massive hug from me for you. Xoxo
The problem here, is that a lot of men follow through on this. Does he have a history of being violent? Even if not, please be safe about how you get away from him. No, happy relationships do not evolve from murder threats, I think you know that
Given that he has tired to invite himself over to your house, I wouldn't count on him being anything but a creep.
Most normal people would offer to take you out or meet up for coffee.
Trust your gut. He's a creep. Stop responding and block him.
So a sex toy would fulfil this fantasy 100%? If it ever came about
I am aware of the stats for divorce etc on longterm relationships etc my only insecurity is time and dont want to waste it with something that isnt going to work hence me wanting to clear this up if a fantasy to try a huge dick (im already big just not 9inch) can be solved with sex toys? I’m not wanting to talk to her about this because I don’t want to ruin the open chats we can have as she has done nothing wrong. I’m content and very lucky with the size of my penis just not a superhuman that can provide the mysterious unknown thought and experience of feeling destroyed from the inside out ?
Oh my God she liked a sex toy designed for gratification that can come in any imaginable size, shape, and maybe has Bluetooth and 73q vibration settings?