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He probably isn't the one for you if he isn't understanding of your situation.
You don't ask for nudes right after apologizing for messing up already. That's well beyond insensitive. Add in the fact he couldn't put his game down long enough to properly apologize and talk with you about it, he is probably a bit immature and lacks empathy. If he was playign games with a friend, he might have been showing off for his buddy by asking for the pics.
Either way, move on. You don't need a jerk, you need compassion.
I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. He can take 10 seconds out of his night to text you he’s safe. It can easily become a habit to do when he walks into his home after a night out.
But as others have said I do agree with getting therapy to deal with your anxiety. And also you can’t force him to text you. You can’t force anyone to do what they don’t want to do. He’s a 37 year old man who has never been in a relationship so he’s probably very set in his ways.
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I feel sorry for the parents because they are seeing this trainwreck unfold. Their son is going fall right into a hole towards the Earth's core and they can't do anything about it.
I'm loving the storyline you've setting up over the last week:
Started dating a single mom of 5 Girlfriend doesn’t seem to like protection during sex My girlfriend is pregnant after two months of dating. What do I do now?
… and now …
How to show my family that she’s right to marry?
I can't wait for tomorrow's exciting instalment, what will it be:
Is it my baby? Girlfriend has gotten pregnant with her ex (father of child 4 and 5). Girlfriend is making me choose between her and my parents.
If he is a perfct boyfriend he understands a “No, I'm not comfortable doing this. Don't ask no more.” He also doesn't go and cheat or leave you because one of his sexual fantasies didn't get fullfilled.
If the situation with your boss has been handled and he is no longer bugging you, then all has been resolved. Just make it clear to your boss that you want nothing to do with him from the standpoint of a relationship. If your boss is still making passes at you, then find another job, resign and leave. Keep copies of his attempts to come on with you and report him to government agencies that deal with such issues, better yet, since he is a big fish in the industry, sit down with a reporter and show person his correspondence.
Your bf is a different matter. He is not trusting you, without having a reason not to. You need to determine whether staying in that relationship is the right choice for you. If not, prepare financially to move out on your own.
This is not a boundary – this is about control. Boundaries are implemented to moderate our own behavior. In this instance, a boundary for him would be “I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who dresses immodestly.” While I think that’s silly, it is his prerogative. He’s perfectly entitled to set that boundary for himself. What he’s doing is setting rules for YOUR behavior, and it’s the first step in his plan to control you. It’s not okay, and you deserve better. Ditch the boyfriend and wear what you want.
I would keep talking to her and like I said, get a few vibrators and try that out too. Sex talk is uncomfortable, but it's also super important if you are seeing someone. Don't give up hope just yet!
Let me be very clear on my thoughts on feminism. I'm a firm believer in phase one: Voting. I believe in phase II: equal opportunity for all.
But phase III is over the line. Thar lie is women can go sleep with as many men as they want. It doesn't matter and no one's business. Focus on career and ignore finding a spouse until 30s.
Well that false belief I'd crashing and buying. No matter what women want, most men don't want a high body count wife. (Ask your brother). And men don't care about your $$. Why? It's your money and you don't want to share it anyway! It's true. See surveys. Lastly, a 33 year old good man with good job is not interested in a 32 year old. They can find a fit feminine and friendly 24 year old without all the baggage and trauma.
I know this sounds mean but go watch some podcasts. Pearly. Whatever. Etc. They've put 1000s of hours researching this.
And you were snooping on his phone, why?
Sounds like you had trust issues, was there any previous experiences?
With them both being cheaters, I’m not sure them staying together is gonna help anyone avoid either of them
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Thanks so much! This comment made my day! You too – Merry Christmas and happy new year ?
I mean the NEXT baby daddies lol
He probably isn't the one for you if he isn't understanding of your situation.
You don't ask for nudes right after apologizing for messing up already. That's well beyond insensitive. Add in the fact he couldn't put his game down long enough to properly apologize and talk with you about it, he is probably a bit immature and lacks empathy. If he was playign games with a friend, he might have been showing off for his buddy by asking for the pics.
Either way, move on. You don't need a jerk, you need compassion.
I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. He can take 10 seconds out of his night to text you he’s safe. It can easily become a habit to do when he walks into his home after a night out.
But as others have said I do agree with getting therapy to deal with your anxiety. And also you can’t force him to text you. You can’t force anyone to do what they don’t want to do. He’s a 37 year old man who has never been in a relationship so he’s probably very set in his ways.
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You get a better BF!! He is worried about sex, not you!!
How long have you known him before you started dating?
She’s an adult and she needs to start acting like one
She’s coming out an abusive relationship. God forbid she needs some help for the time being and doesn’t want to live with a random person.
GF is the problem. She’s an adult but isn’t acting like one. “She’s annoying” is her reasoning to not live with her. What a joke
If they didn't have a conversation of boundaries and safe words before the event, it IS rape. There's no victim role in this, she played a part, gtfoh
I feel sorry for the parents because they are seeing this trainwreck unfold. Their son is going fall right into a hole towards the Earth's core and they can't do anything about it.
I'm loving the storyline you've setting up over the last week:
Started dating a single mom of 5 Girlfriend doesn’t seem to like protection during sex My girlfriend is pregnant after two months of dating. What do I do now?
… and now …
How to show my family that she’s right to marry?
I can't wait for tomorrow's exciting instalment, what will it be:
Is it my baby? Girlfriend has gotten pregnant with her ex (father of child 4 and 5). Girlfriend is making me choose between her and my parents.
If he is a perfct boyfriend he understands a “No, I'm not comfortable doing this. Don't ask no more.” He also doesn't go and cheat or leave you because one of his sexual fantasies didn't get fullfilled.
You need to get out now girl
If the situation with your boss has been handled and he is no longer bugging you, then all has been resolved. Just make it clear to your boss that you want nothing to do with him from the standpoint of a relationship. If your boss is still making passes at you, then find another job, resign and leave. Keep copies of his attempts to come on with you and report him to government agencies that deal with such issues, better yet, since he is a big fish in the industry, sit down with a reporter and show person his correspondence.
Your bf is a different matter. He is not trusting you, without having a reason not to. You need to determine whether staying in that relationship is the right choice for you. If not, prepare financially to move out on your own.
He wants all the benefits of marriage with none of the responsibility.
Next time she leaves change the locks and have her stuff outside. Quit being a pussy.
This is not a boundary – this is about control. Boundaries are implemented to moderate our own behavior. In this instance, a boundary for him would be “I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who dresses immodestly.” While I think that’s silly, it is his prerogative. He’s perfectly entitled to set that boundary for himself. What he’s doing is setting rules for YOUR behavior, and it’s the first step in his plan to control you. It’s not okay, and you deserve better. Ditch the boyfriend and wear what you want.
I would keep talking to her and like I said, get a few vibrators and try that out too. Sex talk is uncomfortable, but it's also super important if you are seeing someone. Don't give up hope just yet!
Let me be very clear on my thoughts on feminism. I'm a firm believer in phase one: Voting. I believe in phase II: equal opportunity for all.
But phase III is over the line. Thar lie is women can go sleep with as many men as they want. It doesn't matter and no one's business. Focus on career and ignore finding a spouse until 30s.
Well that false belief I'd crashing and buying. No matter what women want, most men don't want a high body count wife. (Ask your brother). And men don't care about your $$. Why? It's your money and you don't want to share it anyway! It's true. See surveys. Lastly, a 33 year old good man with good job is not interested in a 32 year old. They can find a fit feminine and friendly 24 year old without all the baggage and trauma.
I know this sounds mean but go watch some podcasts. Pearly. Whatever. Etc. They've put 1000s of hours researching this.
It would only be weird if they were fucking in that bed.
Yeah I guess, thanks. I just don’t want to let him go he’s been everything to me I can’t just throw that away