“I feel like she could be great for me if she was on anxiety meds”
Bro, thats a pretty fucked up thing to say. If she isn't your type, just accept that and be done with it.
Don't date someone for their potential or focus on changing them. It will be a bad time for both of you. Let her go, and don't say anything to hurt her self-esteem on your way out.
Second, in his eyes you did cheat on him and hes choosing to “forgive” you. (Use the term forgive loosely)
But he needs to make up his mind and stop being a prick, if he truely doesn't believe you then him feelings on the matter is expected but how hes handling them is wrong. People can forgive but you never forget(and you shouldnt)
Hes acting like he didnt forgive you and he needs to f off and make up his mind.
Sit down and tell him straight that he either believes you or he doesn't but that the bs behavior over it needs to end.
Look it would be one thing if he was no longer ok with you going out drinking without him because again in him eyes you did cheat if thats his boundary. But the crap hes doing now is a waste of everyones time and mean.
If he believes you then he needs to stop this behaviour. If he doesnt then he needs to leave you and/or stop this behaviour.
Im sorry you went through that at the bar and now this with your bf. Good luck
If you’re not happy, it’s not gonna get better with time. You should break up. But there’s a way to break it off and still be supportive if she really needs it
Dude tell her you will no longer be going out to restaurants for dates because you can no longer afford it. I guarantee she will dump you and find someone else to use.
But there IS a difference and you are just assuming she’s making a mistake (because a woman with beats and mother of two teenage girls can’t tell the difference between young and small).
I’m sorry men are fucking dickheads and told you sit like that. But it doesn’t mean that everyone makes that mistake or that people with breasts can’t distinguish the difference.
We all know that teens have as varied breast sizes as adults and that small only equals young, like pre-pubescent young and fuck men manning that association.
This isn't an overnight thing. It took a.long time to get here. They're flagrantly irresponsible. And now they want their 24 year old daughter to pay the price.
The ex sounds jealous and petulant, notice this custody threat only showed up AFTER the husband turned down her invite for an illicit rendesvous. That will look awesome in court…!
Depending on jurisdiction the ex might want to pipe down about aborting the husband's baby. The old days are gone and really, she wants to watch it. An abusive new husband also isnt the best look. Her custody battle is iffy at best…. Best to OP and her husband during this exhaustive fight.
HE created that. So it was NOT normal. And NOT an automatism done in every office by every boss and every assistant every monday/ tuesday/ thursday/….blah.
I imagine what is not clear from his side, given his age, is the amount of anxiety the whole process has caused you, as well as the constant back and forth on the condom usage. I think having a frank discussion on why you are so upset is urgently needed.
I also heavily recommend that you look into alternate birth control. Be it the pill, an IUD, etc. I also recommend that if you are keeping the condom approach, you should only agree to not using a condom on specific occasions. Say birthdays and Christmas, or something to that affect. That way they are special moments, and it will stand out more
If you two don't work out, I hope you find a man that won't even ask you to pay anything; You can set the standard to be taken care of. There's nothing wrong with splitting or even paying for some things, but there are men out there that would take care of you while you're trying to better your job through college. ❤️
she is never home? who she fuckin? divorce asap
Yep, you can leave him alone.
You're a walking red flag. WHy do you even still have videos of you with somebody else? Get rid of it and treat your boyfriend better.
“I feel like she could be great for me if she was on anxiety meds”
Bro, thats a pretty fucked up thing to say. If she isn't your type, just accept that and be done with it.
Don't date someone for their potential or focus on changing them. It will be a bad time for both of you. Let her go, and don't say anything to hurt her self-esteem on your way out.
She cheated, move on.
I think your partner is playing you… Because you are an angel of a person! You should get out of his life.
First of all you are a victim. Shes a asshole.
Second, in his eyes you did cheat on him and hes choosing to “forgive” you. (Use the term forgive loosely)
But he needs to make up his mind and stop being a prick, if he truely doesn't believe you then him feelings on the matter is expected but how hes handling them is wrong. People can forgive but you never forget(and you shouldnt)
Hes acting like he didnt forgive you and he needs to f off and make up his mind.
Sit down and tell him straight that he either believes you or he doesn't but that the bs behavior over it needs to end.
Look it would be one thing if he was no longer ok with you going out drinking without him because again in him eyes you did cheat if thats his boundary. But the crap hes doing now is a waste of everyones time and mean.
If he believes you then he needs to stop this behaviour. If he doesnt then he needs to leave you and/or stop this behaviour.
Im sorry you went through that at the bar and now this with your bf. Good luck
If you’re not happy, it’s not gonna get better with time. You should break up. But there’s a way to break it off and still be supportive if she really needs it
Dude tell her you will no longer be going out to restaurants for dates because you can no longer afford it. I guarantee she will dump you and find someone else to use.
You should do what's best for you. His insecurities are his to deal with. If he can't handle them, maybe it's best to move on.
But there IS a difference and you are just assuming she’s making a mistake (because a woman with beats and mother of two teenage girls can’t tell the difference between young and small).
I’m sorry men are fucking dickheads and told you sit like that. But it doesn’t mean that everyone makes that mistake or that people with breasts can’t distinguish the difference.
We all know that teens have as varied breast sizes as adults and that small only equals young, like pre-pubescent young and fuck men manning that association.
Say no.
This isn't an overnight thing. It took a.long time to get here. They're flagrantly irresponsible. And now they want their 24 year old daughter to pay the price.
Absolutely not.
The ex sounds jealous and petulant, notice this custody threat only showed up AFTER the husband turned down her invite for an illicit rendesvous. That will look awesome in court…!
Depending on jurisdiction the ex might want to pipe down about aborting the husband's baby. The old days are gone and really, she wants to watch it. An abusive new husband also isnt the best look. Her custody battle is iffy at best…. Best to OP and her husband during this exhaustive fight.
NOPE! If it were… he would have mentioned it!
Other way round.
HE created that. So it was NOT normal. And NOT an automatism done in every office by every boss and every assistant every monday/ tuesday/ thursday/….blah.
No, just don’t read messages unless you have time to respond.
I imagine what is not clear from his side, given his age, is the amount of anxiety the whole process has caused you, as well as the constant back and forth on the condom usage. I think having a frank discussion on why you are so upset is urgently needed.
I also heavily recommend that you look into alternate birth control. Be it the pill, an IUD, etc. I also recommend that if you are keeping the condom approach, you should only agree to not using a condom on specific occasions. Say birthdays and Christmas, or something to that affect. That way they are special moments, and it will stand out more
1.. decide whether YOU are her friend or not. Not whether she feels like just your friend. If you want more, just move on.
Shes probably extremely depressed right now and I wouldnt take it personally.
Let her suffer, what’s done in the dark will be brought to the light (let it guide you, OP❤️)
If you two don't work out, I hope you find a man that won't even ask you to pay anything; You can set the standard to be taken care of. There's nothing wrong with splitting or even paying for some things, but there are men out there that would take care of you while you're trying to better your job through college. ❤️