Then you already have your answer on what you need to do for yourself. You are still very young, explore the world and different people that are on the same mindset and needs as you. Don’t ever sell yourself short for anyone.
You've been through extremely complex and severe emotional trauma, with both your husband and your parents betraying you, and your husband going so far as to have sex with other people and kick you out of your home, both during the time you're pregnant with his child, and now your husband is trying to get you to forgive him for all that, also while you're still pregnant. You absolutely should have a solo therapist. Even if you've never previously experienced the slightest trauma ever in your life, that's more than enough trauma right there to merit getting a therapist for a while.
The solo therapist can help you decide whether or not couples therapy is even a good idea. It's not a foregone conclusion whether you forgiving your husband is a healthy goal or not. A solo therapist will be better able to help you sort that out than a couples therapist.
Your husband also needs a solo therapist, for different reasons. Him disbelieving you caused all of this, and he's going to need help grappling with both the reasons why he disbelieved you and also the effects that his disbelieving you have had upon your feelings about him. If you're ever able to trust him again, he'll need a therapist to help him understand how to start earning back your trust; conversely, if you're never able to trust him again, he'll need a therapist to help him understand why that is and how to avoid wrecking other relationships in his life with similarly untrustworthy behavior.
He is. I was you. Different issues but I had to ask myself if I had the right to raise boys that would treat women the way I was being treated. I didn’t. And. Sadly we ended up with a lot of orders of protection for the boys. You don’t give a 3 year old pot. You just don’t.
That's deep. I don't know another word for it, I know that's normally you sarcastically, but I guess I mean to say that it's very insightful.
I guess the flip side would be that if she did not get it because I objected, it wouldn't make their friendship any less meaningful either. She's someone that loves her friends deeply, whether they dated his kids or not. And that's one thing that I love about her.
Well, The GF definitely sucks since she not only wastes her bf's time but she also lets him be assaulted in his own dang house not standing up for him.
For the BF, your future is bright, you will find a worthy partner. Good luck!
No you're not being silly. A long time ago a BF wanted to take me to the country he said was paradise on earth. We went, and yes it was paradise. But he rather spoilt it by always saying “you see, it really is paradise” and “please don't spoil paradise” (any time I didn't want to just follow his lead) and “ah now you're starting to get it” (any time I expressed any positive opinion).
(We split up and he then took his next GF, and came back and said the place had been ruined by mass tourism and fast expansion)
Your mom is only making you weaker. She's taking all of the power away from you. You'd be best to let everyone know so their children don't fall prey to that monster. The strength to stand up is already inside of you you just need to take hold of it
Is this really the guy you want to be your husband and father to your kids?
Then you already have your answer on what you need to do for yourself. You are still very young, explore the world and different people that are on the same mindset and needs as you. Don’t ever sell yourself short for anyone.
Insulting and prejudicial. Not all people of one philosophical view are the same
You've been through extremely complex and severe emotional trauma, with both your husband and your parents betraying you, and your husband going so far as to have sex with other people and kick you out of your home, both during the time you're pregnant with his child, and now your husband is trying to get you to forgive him for all that, also while you're still pregnant. You absolutely should have a solo therapist. Even if you've never previously experienced the slightest trauma ever in your life, that's more than enough trauma right there to merit getting a therapist for a while.
The solo therapist can help you decide whether or not couples therapy is even a good idea. It's not a foregone conclusion whether you forgiving your husband is a healthy goal or not. A solo therapist will be better able to help you sort that out than a couples therapist.
Your husband also needs a solo therapist, for different reasons. Him disbelieving you caused all of this, and he's going to need help grappling with both the reasons why he disbelieved you and also the effects that his disbelieving you have had upon your feelings about him. If you're ever able to trust him again, he'll need a therapist to help him understand how to start earning back your trust; conversely, if you're never able to trust him again, he'll need a therapist to help him understand why that is and how to avoid wrecking other relationships in his life with similarly untrustworthy behavior.
He is. I was you. Different issues but I had to ask myself if I had the right to raise boys that would treat women the way I was being treated. I didn’t. And. Sadly we ended up with a lot of orders of protection for the boys. You don’t give a 3 year old pot. You just don’t.
He’s telling you this is who he is.
Who he is is not what you want or need. Time to end it and find someone who you are more compatible with.
That's deep. I don't know another word for it, I know that's normally you sarcastically, but I guess I mean to say that it's very insightful.
I guess the flip side would be that if she did not get it because I objected, it wouldn't make their friendship any less meaningful either. She's someone that loves her friends deeply, whether they dated his kids or not. And that's one thing that I love about her.
I hope you’re a troll. This is just selfish and delusion. It’s completely unfair for your husband and one-sided. I hope he divorces you.
Well, The GF definitely sucks since she not only wastes her bf's time but she also lets him be assaulted in his own dang house not standing up for him.
For the BF, your future is bright, you will find a worthy partner. Good luck!
I was married 20 yrs previously…and know I had the 2 yr glitch and my ex had the 7 yr itch. My fitbit helps track my period…I love it.
You have to tell him your boundaries, and it’s very possible you are not compatible and are needing to break up.
What are you hoping to do single that you can’t do in a relationship?
Hi, are you doing ok?
No you're not being silly. A long time ago a BF wanted to take me to the country he said was paradise on earth. We went, and yes it was paradise. But he rather spoilt it by always saying “you see, it really is paradise” and “please don't spoil paradise” (any time I didn't want to just follow his lead) and “ah now you're starting to get it” (any time I expressed any positive opinion).
(We split up and he then took his next GF, and came back and said the place had been ruined by mass tourism and fast expansion)
Your mom is only making you weaker. She's taking all of the power away from you. You'd be best to let everyone know so their children don't fall prey to that monster. The strength to stand up is already inside of you you just need to take hold of it