By letting him suffer unknowingly (chlamydia is often asymptomatic in men), he’s spreading this to more and more women. Chlamydia makes women infertile! This isn’t the time for “revenge”
Pay HIM back? Hold on, if there’s been no mention of money in the group chat and he’s told you to pay him, do you even know if this is what the family has decided to do ( esp. if they invited you and they’re all wealthy) or is he just pocketing the money himself?
Do y’all have kids? If not, I’d get out of that marriage and make one of those a win is a win Tik Toks and keep it pushing. A man like that is absolutely wreckless with his energy and you don’t want that energy inside of you.
Ask her to hang out. Worst case scenario, she says no or ghosts you (and then you have your answer and can stop worrying). Best, and most likely, case scenario, she's feeling anxious as well and wants you to ask her to hang out again.
If you don't ask, then both of you will just be fraught with worry which will make breaking the silence even harder. You're her boyfriend — ask
If it’s toxic enough where you feel like you can’t tell her directly yet. Then plan to move out and tell her when you already have a place in order so you can just leave without her trying to convince you to stay. This can get complicated if you both or on the lease and it’s not month to month. Do what’s best for you and leave.
How would you approach this situation? I would like this relationship to go the long and work through this together, even if it requires couples therapy.
At two different high schools I went to in the same town, there were two guys who were pale readheads with greenish blue eyes. Turns out they were cousins, and each of them came from a family with at least 6 other siblings, and the entire rest of their immediate families were quite dark and looked nothing like these two complexion/hair/eyes wise. Apparently it was just something that happened in their family
Trust me…, I want to tell my siblings same thing… I used to be only one to help until my dad passed away now it’s my older sister and me.. I want to hit other 4 over head and say it’s your mom too… so I totally get where your coming from
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this, I would not be okay with any of this and would do some digging for myself. Clearly she’s hiding something and only admitted to this because you confronted her, she’s 100% not going to be forthcoming or honest with you. So many red flags!
Listen, if I ran into my partner’s ex friend that had caused all of that chaos, you best believe I’m calling/texting my partner soon thereafter to spill the tea. The fact that she omitted telling you about their “first” interaction says a lot! If they did in fact meet at the wedding, something inappropriate must have gone down.. because why lie by omission?
It all comes back to the same question… why lie? There’s no justifiable answer in this situation IMO
I guess that's talking about your boundaries, which is a different thing from having them. I'd feel uncomfortable discussing the specifics of my boundaries with the people who made it necessary to figure those specifics out.
She’s not extremely close with her family, she’s dependent on them. Having a loving, supportive, cool as shit family is attractive in a partner. What you’ve described is too much and becomes unattractive.
Man, I had a more detailed explanation but why waste words on this chump who had more viable genetic material in the sock by his bed than residing between his ears. You nailed his status impeccably.
This.
By letting him suffer unknowingly (chlamydia is often asymptomatic in men), he’s spreading this to more and more women. Chlamydia makes women infertile! This isn’t the time for “revenge”
Pay HIM back? Hold on, if there’s been no mention of money in the group chat and he’s told you to pay him, do you even know if this is what the family has decided to do ( esp. if they invited you and they’re all wealthy) or is he just pocketing the money himself?
Do y’all have kids? If not, I’d get out of that marriage and make one of those a win is a win Tik Toks and keep it pushing. A man like that is absolutely wreckless with his energy and you don’t want that energy inside of you.
Ask her to hang out. Worst case scenario, she says no or ghosts you (and then you have your answer and can stop worrying). Best, and most likely, case scenario, she's feeling anxious as well and wants you to ask her to hang out again.
If you don't ask, then both of you will just be fraught with worry which will make breaking the silence even harder. You're her boyfriend — ask
I’m not saying she doesn’t have a void. It’s just I can’t call it that when talking to her.
If it’s toxic enough where you feel like you can’t tell her directly yet. Then plan to move out and tell her when you already have a place in order so you can just leave without her trying to convince you to stay. This can get complicated if you both or on the lease and it’s not month to month. Do what’s best for you and leave.
How would you approach this situation? I would like this relationship to go the long and work through this together, even if it requires couples therapy.
At two different high schools I went to in the same town, there were two guys who were pale readheads with greenish blue eyes. Turns out they were cousins, and each of them came from a family with at least 6 other siblings, and the entire rest of their immediate families were quite dark and looked nothing like these two complexion/hair/eyes wise. Apparently it was just something that happened in their family
They can both be bad it’s not that’s serious
Nah, you trolling. You can't be this dumb. I refuse to accept it haha
I really feel like sending you an old fashioned, hand written card to wish you all the best. I feel like your story deserves something like that…
Oh damn. You may be onto something here. Maybe he didn’t want her to wander into the messages and notifications tab.
What made breaking up “impossible” in the past?
Trust me…, I want to tell my siblings same thing… I used to be only one to help until my dad passed away now it’s my older sister and me.. I want to hit other 4 over head and say it’s your mom too… so I totally get where your coming from
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this, I would not be okay with any of this and would do some digging for myself. Clearly she’s hiding something and only admitted to this because you confronted her, she’s 100% not going to be forthcoming or honest with you. So many red flags!
Listen, if I ran into my partner’s ex friend that had caused all of that chaos, you best believe I’m calling/texting my partner soon thereafter to spill the tea. The fact that she omitted telling you about their “first” interaction says a lot! If they did in fact meet at the wedding, something inappropriate must have gone down.. because why lie by omission?
It all comes back to the same question… why lie? There’s no justifiable answer in this situation IMO
There are definitely exceptions to that rule, and violent homophobic assholes are definitely at the top of that list.
I guess that's talking about your boundaries, which is a different thing from having them. I'd feel uncomfortable discussing the specifics of my boundaries with the people who made it necessary to figure those specifics out.
He probably doesn't feel you☠️. As a guy that's probably what I'd say
She’s not extremely close with her family, she’s dependent on them. Having a loving, supportive, cool as shit family is attractive in a partner. What you’ve described is too much and becomes unattractive.
Man, I had a more detailed explanation but why waste words on this chump who had more viable genetic material in the sock by his bed than residing between his ears. You nailed his status impeccably.