Maybe framing it as “for him it’s weird to have a post wedding party but he’s going along with it, so I can cut him slack – and manage my mom – by respecting his wishes not to invite his family even if that’s odd to MY family” would help?
Granted I had to be talked into having one wedding and if my husband had said “oh and here’s another party six weeks later!” I would have entered witness protection lol. So I feel for your fiancé here.
I hope at the end of the day your mom enjoys her party!
You’re not the victim here. Your husband might be, but you’re not a victim.
Maybe framing it as “for him it’s weird to have a post wedding party but he’s going along with it, so I can cut him slack – and manage my mom – by respecting his wishes not to invite his family even if that’s odd to MY family” would help?
Granted I had to be talked into having one wedding and if my husband had said “oh and here’s another party six weeks later!” I would have entered witness protection lol. So I feel for your fiancé here.
I hope at the end of the day your mom enjoys her party!