If it takes a village to raise children your daughter should have consulted the village before she decided to get pregnant. You are not obligated to be a full time carer and I would point out to your daughter how selfish she is being to assume you are giving up your life to basically raise her child. I assume she's give her in laws the same speech?
You keep saying that but I think your friends think differently..
That is simply just not true. I know the “realist” in you wants to believe that people are gonna do or think the worst thing possible, but there's something called empathy that I think you don't understand fully. They do see that what he did was wrong.
and once again, it sure sounds like you are trying to influence them…
Wanting clarity and to be on the same page as everyone is not the same and trying to influence them to make a decision. It's up to them to come to their own conclusion, I just want to be aware of what the consensus is so I can either move on or stay with them.
Why is this any more likely than him actually being unsure? I am 30 and literally everyone I know except myself (I would never inflict existence on an unwitting being without their consent like that) and the people who already have children is saying exactly what OP's husband is saying, “maybe one day but not right now.” This is an extremely popular position to hold, I'm not sure why it is more likely he was diabolically planning to steal all her money and string her along with no intention of ever considering it. Did someone hurt you guys to make you all think this way? I'm not saying it's impossible he's that much of an asshole, but is that really all that much more likely than him genuinely still being unsure?
If it takes a village to raise children your daughter should have consulted the village before she decided to get pregnant. You are not obligated to be a full time carer and I would point out to your daughter how selfish she is being to assume you are giving up your life to basically raise her child. I assume she's give her in laws the same speech?
You keep saying that but I think your friends think differently..
That is simply just not true. I know the “realist” in you wants to believe that people are gonna do or think the worst thing possible, but there's something called empathy that I think you don't understand fully. They do see that what he did was wrong.
and once again, it sure sounds like you are trying to influence them…
Wanting clarity and to be on the same page as everyone is not the same and trying to influence them to make a decision. It's up to them to come to their own conclusion, I just want to be aware of what the consensus is so I can either move on or stay with them.
Even if nothing happens romantically, he doesn’t seem to care or respect your feelings or boundaries. ?
Why is this any more likely than him actually being unsure? I am 30 and literally everyone I know except myself (I would never inflict existence on an unwitting being without their consent like that) and the people who already have children is saying exactly what OP's husband is saying, “maybe one day but not right now.” This is an extremely popular position to hold, I'm not sure why it is more likely he was diabolically planning to steal all her money and string her along with no intention of ever considering it. Did someone hurt you guys to make you all think this way? I'm not saying it's impossible he's that much of an asshole, but is that really all that much more likely than him genuinely still being unsure?