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Date: November 24, 2022
This is a great point
Nearly all relationships end
That doesn't mean they never should have started
Something can be the right thing for you for a time, and then no longer the right thing.
Found someone who will appreciate your needs. You have tried being vocal but are being dismissed. The only difference between close friends and a girlfriend is SEX. She is getting her intimate needs filled, and you are not. But that door is a two-way street. You can stop cuddling and fulfilling her needs, and when she asks you can give her the same dismissal remarks. But honestly, that never really works.
I don’t think you’re making a big deal out of nothing, because this is important – but that doesn’t mean your boyfriend has done anything wrong.
Most people are uncomfortable around the grief of others. Especially younger people like your boyfriend who probably haven’t known a whole lot of loss and don’t have experience of their own to guide them. He probably just had no idea what to do. Add in to the fact that (and I don’t mean this as a criticism) you’ve been sending some VERY mixed signals about how you want other people, including him, to handle your grief.
When we approach our grief in an indirect or even a dismissive way by doing things like making jokes or trying to hide how seriously our loss is affecting us, it often sends the message to others that we don’t want them to directly address our grief. We’ve been sending signals that say it makes us uncomfortable, we don’t want to really talk about it and we don’t want to show the depth of our emotion – so it stands to reason that you wouldn’t want someone who cares about you to bring up those painful feelings, even accidentally by checking in on how you’re doing. If you haven’t been together that long and he already wasn’t quite sure how to support you during this time, I’m not at all surprised that he kind of dodged any direct recognition of the significance of the day – he had no idea how you would respond, and in fact good reason to believe it wasn’t what you wanted.
What I’ve learned from my own grief is that if you need support around a particular time or event or just in general, you’ll probably have to ask for it. Not because people don’t care, but because they often just don’t know what to do, and they don’t want to risk doing the “wrong” thing and making your pain worse. I do understand why you’re upset and your feelings are entirely valid – but the sense of hurt you feel at not being supported does not mean your boyfriend is an unsupportive person. You can be hurt not to receive the support you needed, but also recognise that you didn’t actually communicate what you needed from him (and in some ways gave the opposite impression). Speaking up about how badly we’re hurting can be terrifying, but it’s also the only way you can make sure the people who care for you will show up for you how and when you need them to.
I’m sorry for the loss of your dad. I hope you’ve been getting a lot of love from other people around you.
No he’s clearly dishonest and doesn’t keep his promises
Can you clarify what you mean? No boarding school but private school educated. He also went to a private catholic university and law school.