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I never said to tell him. In fact I said to just do it without discussing it. But it's not like it will be a secret once her deposits aren't coming to his account anymore.
We don't know this man. Again, what's abuse and what's toxic are different and up to OP to determine based on his reactions to her sticking up for herself and taking control of her position in the situation.
Maybe there are rare times where it works, but that’s very much the exception, not the rule. Ask anyone who dated someone much older when they were young.
Eh I always dated older guys and even now at 30 don't look back and cringe or find who I dated cringey because of the ages. I dated a guy at 17-18 that was 26-27 for a year. Not boyfriend, just sex. He wasn't using me for sex. I was using him for sex. I met my husband when I was 16 and he was 21. We didn't date till I was 19 but we've been together happily for 12 years this February and have a beautiful family together. I pursued him.
I don't think people should be put down for age differences unless its a massive difference and it's a pattern for them. I may have been 16 when I met my husband but I was anything but childish. We had lots in common.
Well, then you know you are gonna be a single parent. The question here is, how involved do you think he is gonna be? Is he coparenting his other child? does he support her? is he in any position to provide for this child? are you?
If abortion is off the table, do you plan to keep and raise this child or are you considering adoption? If you plan on raising this kid you need to be fully aware that you'll be tied to this guy in one way or the other for life (or at least 18 years) are you prepared for this?
Their view is bias as they’ve stated they’ve been groomed. So to them, any guy who is x age can’t talk to a kid x years old without it being grooming or sexual.
After a talk with my boyfriend he seemed to understand my perspective and reached out to his friend letting him know that the way this was handled was not okay and borderline disrespectful – especially due to the behavior regarding taking his phone / ignoring my calls.
Ball is in friends court moving forward. I am not going to walk on eggshells. Of course I will be cordial if I see him, but I will not go out of my way to make him feel better based on the events so far.
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Can we assume that this was not an actual attempt by him to mock my dream…
Uh, no? That's exactly what he did. He's a huge jerk, covers it up by calling it a joke, and then tells you that it's your problem to figure yourself out because…
it’s not an important issue
… that he is constantly hurting your feelings.
You are dating a jerk who doesn't want to be a better person. There's no “magic way” to get him to see his behavior, because he's decoded its not a problem.
I don't actually control my emotions, controlling would have led to a build up. It's like if i want to express something and the emotions behind it are anger & hate, I sit back and pause for sometime. This helps me to express the same thing in a better manner.
I am still open to her, although it's only whatsapp chats now since she doesnt respond to calls. But even in the chat I feel like she doesn't want to be open to me about her side. This made me feel that she probanly doesnt like me anymore and has made new contacts to share her feelings. I thought i was intruding. There have been times in the past year when I stopped my chat communication, she seemed to notice that and would ask about it. I really get confused?
Sorry I'm a whiny virgin that can handle you having a life before me, so I'm going to go cry in the gym and pretend this is your fault….that would work
This is an insanely dangerous setup you’re describing. This is the type of man that will literally kill you. He will kill you. Get away. Far away as possible.
And get new friends because the one that said you’re overreacting is an absolute moron.
If you truly like each other this is all that matters. If people talking things (as they always do) bothers you this much you should talk to a therapist to understand better your insecurities
If you truly like each other this is all that matters. If people talking things (as they always do) bothers you this much you should talk to a therapist to understand better your insecurities
The “before” was just an act.. he showed his true colors the first time you dated and is showing them now that he’s got you locked in with a pregnancy. Please leave for you and your child’s sake.
To be as fair as possible, the answer depends on her political leanings. Are the richest 1% not paying their fair share? Or is there an over taxation of businesses and the wealthy, hindering prosperity and growth?
So first off, it's weird that you didn't tell your wife that you're giving someone a ride home up front. Wouldn't you have told her if it was a male coworker?
Also, I once dated a guy who just didn't seem super into me. He claimed he hated all kinds of PDA, even hand holding or a quick kiss on the cheek. But then he told me his coworker was having a hot time so he gave her a hug. I was furious, because he wouldn't even hug me in public. He said I was being jealous, catty, and completely overreacting.
I don't think hugging someone is cheating. But I do think it's shitty to treat others with more affection than your own significant other.
You work night shift. Do you spend any time with your wife? Do you show her affection? Do you guys go on dates? Or are you pretty much roommates?
There was a post here a month ago about wife finding out or at least thinking that her husband microwaved her birth control pills so he could have a kid….
To be honest, it can be very hot to handle relationships when you're in the middle of something that is mentally and emotionally draining. Some people don't have the capacity to handle your needs on top of their own stresses.
I don't actually think she lost interest in you, but rather that she's being honest that she can't handle everything together. You'd likely end up feeling neglected or ignored because she might just want to shut off at the end of the day instead of trying to maintain the relationship.
It's actually good that she's being honest. Maybe there's a chance to reconnect after the custody battle is done with?
Either way, she did offer to speak in person. If you want to, go for it.
He didn't actually said that. All interactions we had were positive. I just gathered the assumption from his indirect social media posts which were too much to fit in this short post.
By all accounts, sounds like yes, you should leave him. Lying about promises is one thing, people change, circumstances change. But being a lazy ass bum unable to keep a job and being unconsidered of you, too many reed flags.
By all accounts, sounds like yes, you should leave him. Lying about promises is one thing, people change, circumstances change. But being a lazy ass bum unable to keep a job and being unconsidered of you, too many reed flags.
Honestly, hope you don’t convince some poor woman to have children with you. Nobody deserves to be subjected to somebody like you except people like you.
I don’t mean to sound selfish it’s just that I feel he’s put his sexual needs before mine in the past. More than once. And I do other things for him/us. I don’t feel that I should HAVE to give him a blowjob. I would not make him do something he didn’t want to do no matter what it was. What’s the point when the other person doesn’t enjoy it? How does that get anyone off? I would find it off putting if I asked him to do something to me and he wasn’t enjoying it.
there is something fishy about your mom refusing to say who it is. i am not sure why who it is is a secret, but your dad finding out who may make it worse if she won't tell him.
I think your best chance to meet many different kind of people will be university! Just do your best to be social there and you’ll meet people, including girls 🙂 Don’t worry too much about being experienced talking to girls, we’re not aliens 😉 just treat them like human beings and not just potential gf/hookups
Exactly how you explained it to us. Tell her you’d love to take your relationship to the next level and move in together, but you want to hear what she thinks about it.
There’s a couple things you guys should definitely address; some people are divided about talking about these things but my experience is knowing these things help make move ins together less stressful:
1) Cleanliness expectations; what’s her definition of clean and yours? Do you have particular chores you guys like to do (I love doing laundry for example).
2) What does individual self time look like? Do you need time to mentally prepare for work? Do you need time for reading/gaming/other hobbies?
3) What’s the financial responsibilities look like? How do you guys handle rent, utilities, etc?
4) Will you guys have a set “date night?” I know people who have a “This is OUR night” and I think that’s beautiful bc it offers space to check in with your partner.
5) What does conflict resolution look like? I’m sure you guys have that down, but living together makes it so different.
There’s was a whole channel of helpful relationships conversations (pick what resonates with you of course) but I think those were the ones I thought were super helpful to me.
Why are you still with this controlling, egotistical man? He does not respect or value your thoughts and opinions. How are you sharing your life with him when you have to conform absolutely to his tyrannical views? You cannot negotiate with someone like this, especially about important life topics like raising children, finances and where to online (!). Please find someone who treats you with RESPECT.
I never said to tell him. In fact I said to just do it without discussing it. But it's not like it will be a secret once her deposits aren't coming to his account anymore.
We don't know this man. Again, what's abuse and what's toxic are different and up to OP to determine based on his reactions to her sticking up for herself and taking control of her position in the situation.
Ummm he is at fault still. No man or woman our age is that obvious to that extent.
It’s work to use these dating sites and not natural. You’re probably also not petty as so many early dates are. Who wants to be disappointed?
Maybe there are rare times where it works, but that’s very much the exception, not the rule. Ask anyone who dated someone much older when they were young.
Eh I always dated older guys and even now at 30 don't look back and cringe or find who I dated cringey because of the ages. I dated a guy at 17-18 that was 26-27 for a year. Not boyfriend, just sex. He wasn't using me for sex. I was using him for sex. I met my husband when I was 16 and he was 21. We didn't date till I was 19 but we've been together happily for 12 years this February and have a beautiful family together. I pursued him.
I don't think people should be put down for age differences unless its a massive difference and it's a pattern for them. I may have been 16 when I met my husband but I was anything but childish. We had lots in common.
Well, then you know you are gonna be a single parent. The question here is, how involved do you think he is gonna be? Is he coparenting his other child? does he support her? is he in any position to provide for this child? are you?
If abortion is off the table, do you plan to keep and raise this child or are you considering adoption? If you plan on raising this kid you need to be fully aware that you'll be tied to this guy in one way or the other for life (or at least 18 years) are you prepared for this?
Their view is bias as they’ve stated they’ve been groomed. So to them, any guy who is x age can’t talk to a kid x years old without it being grooming or sexual.
That's called cutting your nose of to spite your face.
You're reacting to her reacting when it's new territory for both of you. You're both in shock.
You're bringing this situation into her life, she's got every right to have questions and you need to answer them.
Exactly!!
After a talk with my boyfriend he seemed to understand my perspective and reached out to his friend letting him know that the way this was handled was not okay and borderline disrespectful – especially due to the behavior regarding taking his phone / ignoring my calls.
Ball is in friends court moving forward. I am not going to walk on eggshells. Of course I will be cordial if I see him, but I will not go out of my way to make him feel better based on the events so far.
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Yep! My guy best friend swears up and down his ex cheated on him and I’m like bffr, I saw tinder on your phone
Any more thoughts?
this is the only answer worth reading tbh
He’s a really good man,
No, he isn't.
He has never been maliciously mean to me
Yes he has. That's what this is.
Can we assume that this was not an actual attempt by him to mock my dream…
Uh, no? That's exactly what he did. He's a huge jerk, covers it up by calling it a joke, and then tells you that it's your problem to figure yourself out because…
it’s not an important issue
… that he is constantly hurting your feelings.
You are dating a jerk who doesn't want to be a better person. There's no “magic way” to get him to see his behavior, because he's decoded its not a problem.
I don't actually control my emotions, controlling would have led to a build up. It's like if i want to express something and the emotions behind it are anger & hate, I sit back and pause for sometime. This helps me to express the same thing in a better manner.
I am still open to her, although it's only whatsapp chats now since she doesnt respond to calls. But even in the chat I feel like she doesn't want to be open to me about her side. This made me feel that she probanly doesnt like me anymore and has made new contacts to share her feelings. I thought i was intruding. There have been times in the past year when I stopped my chat communication, she seemed to notice that and would ask about it. I really get confused?
She had to go through an abortion which is very-very difficult. I have always asked to use a condom but she hasn’t wanted it till now.
She has moved work wise and it’s a little stressful.
True, I think I found her.
Sorry I'm a whiny virgin that can handle you having a life before me, so I'm going to go cry in the gym and pretend this is your fault….that would work
He's asking for permission to cheat.
If you want your relationship to survive, you need to nip this in the bud and have him cut Alyssa off.
True
This is an insanely dangerous setup you’re describing. This is the type of man that will literally kill you. He will kill you. Get away. Far away as possible.
And get new friends because the one that said you’re overreacting is an absolute moron.
If you truly like each other this is all that matters. If people talking things (as they always do) bothers you this much you should talk to a therapist to understand better your insecurities
If you truly like each other this is all that matters. If people talking things (as they always do) bothers you this much you should talk to a therapist to understand better your insecurities
The “before” was just an act.. he showed his true colors the first time you dated and is showing them now that he’s got you locked in with a pregnancy. Please leave for you and your child’s sake.
To be as fair as possible, the answer depends on her political leanings. Are the richest 1% not paying their fair share? Or is there an over taxation of businesses and the wealthy, hindering prosperity and growth?
I forgot to add that she was in an open relationship at the time.
Simple, she's your ex fiance now.
So first off, it's weird that you didn't tell your wife that you're giving someone a ride home up front. Wouldn't you have told her if it was a male coworker?
Also, I once dated a guy who just didn't seem super into me. He claimed he hated all kinds of PDA, even hand holding or a quick kiss on the cheek. But then he told me his coworker was having a hot time so he gave her a hug. I was furious, because he wouldn't even hug me in public. He said I was being jealous, catty, and completely overreacting.
I don't think hugging someone is cheating. But I do think it's shitty to treat others with more affection than your own significant other.
You work night shift. Do you spend any time with your wife? Do you show her affection? Do you guys go on dates? Or are you pretty much roommates?
Get away. You don't want your son to grow up believing this is what long term relationships look like.
There was a post here a month ago about wife finding out or at least thinking that her husband microwaved her birth control pills so he could have a kid….
Was it actually a joint decision? He said he wanted a baby?
To be honest, it can be very hot to handle relationships when you're in the middle of something that is mentally and emotionally draining. Some people don't have the capacity to handle your needs on top of their own stresses.
I don't actually think she lost interest in you, but rather that she's being honest that she can't handle everything together. You'd likely end up feeling neglected or ignored because she might just want to shut off at the end of the day instead of trying to maintain the relationship.
It's actually good that she's being honest. Maybe there's a chance to reconnect after the custody battle is done with?
Either way, she did offer to speak in person. If you want to, go for it.
He didn't actually said that. All interactions we had were positive. I just gathered the assumption from his indirect social media posts which were too much to fit in this short post.
By all accounts, sounds like yes, you should leave him. Lying about promises is one thing, people change, circumstances change. But being a lazy ass bum unable to keep a job and being unconsidered of you, too many reed flags.
By all accounts, sounds like yes, you should leave him. Lying about promises is one thing, people change, circumstances change. But being a lazy ass bum unable to keep a job and being unconsidered of you, too many reed flags.
Honestly, hope you don’t convince some poor woman to have children with you. Nobody deserves to be subjected to somebody like you except people like you.
I wish we could bet on whether these relationships work out or not. ?
Can you explain trauma bonding?
I don’t mean to sound selfish it’s just that I feel he’s put his sexual needs before mine in the past. More than once. And I do other things for him/us. I don’t feel that I should HAVE to give him a blowjob. I would not make him do something he didn’t want to do no matter what it was. What’s the point when the other person doesn’t enjoy it? How does that get anyone off? I would find it off putting if I asked him to do something to me and he wasn’t enjoying it.
Lets be real dude.
If you're contemplating marriage with someone, don't you think it should be a no brainer decision?
People come with flaws, and we accept that side of them. However, to ask reddit our opinion on a life altering decision:
Should I marry this girl, or should I not?
That should tell you all you need to know. You are not in love with things as you think you are…
Correct them before you consider marriage, or save yourself the grief and find someone who you have absolutely no doubts about.
there is something fishy about your mom refusing to say who it is. i am not sure why who it is is a secret, but your dad finding out who may make it worse if she won't tell him.
He’s probably just living a life he ain’t happy with.
Let him take a bath for an hour and smoke pot and get him to think about what he actually wants out of life.
I think your best chance to meet many different kind of people will be university! Just do your best to be social there and you’ll meet people, including girls 🙂 Don’t worry too much about being experienced talking to girls, we’re not aliens 😉 just treat them like human beings and not just potential gf/hookups
She cheated, doesn't matter if it is a male or a female, she cheated.
If cheating is a boundary for you, time to talk to a lawyer. She blew up your marriage.
Exactly how you explained it to us. Tell her you’d love to take your relationship to the next level and move in together, but you want to hear what she thinks about it.
There’s a couple things you guys should definitely address; some people are divided about talking about these things but my experience is knowing these things help make move ins together less stressful:
1) Cleanliness expectations; what’s her definition of clean and yours? Do you have particular chores you guys like to do (I love doing laundry for example).
2) What does individual self time look like? Do you need time to mentally prepare for work? Do you need time for reading/gaming/other hobbies?
3) What’s the financial responsibilities look like? How do you guys handle rent, utilities, etc?
4) Will you guys have a set “date night?” I know people who have a “This is OUR night” and I think that’s beautiful bc it offers space to check in with your partner.
5) What does conflict resolution look like? I’m sure you guys have that down, but living together makes it so different.
There’s was a whole channel of helpful relationships conversations (pick what resonates with you of course) but I think those were the ones I thought were super helpful to me.
Good luck OP!
Why are you still with this controlling, egotistical man? He does not respect or value your thoughts and opinions. How are you sharing your life with him when you have to conform absolutely to his tyrannical views? You cannot negotiate with someone like this, especially about important life topics like raising children, finances and where to online (!). Please find someone who treats you with RESPECT.
Im sorry. It wasn't intentional. I just fucking love her and she's perfect and i just want her to know that. Im an idiot. You're right though
This is financial abuse. Plain and simple. I’m sorry