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Are you changing things so you can always work with him? Do you try to make sure you hang with him and speak to him at work? Basically, are you acting on the crush? If not, then you're fine, it's natural to feel an attraction to another person, people have crushes on celebrities whilst being in relationships all the time, but it's acting on that crush that will make it an issue. If you find yourself thinking about the crush more than your partner, then there's a problem.
Thats fair. But again, you two are newly together. That's akward as is… it's naked to go to a bar or event and be like 'it's about me. But here's my boyfriend. Here's my friends…' it's easier to go and have fun in the moment. And apparently her friends knew the dude. Tbh I'd just watch though. Because it's weird that they didn't even voice 'arnt you dating someone?'
I'm not sure where you personally find value in your relationships, but, perhaps entertaining the notion that for some people, an emotional, established, and cultivated mental connection is important to open the door to sex, is a healthy thing to do.
There's an unhealthy stereotype that men always want sex, and if they don't jump at the prospect of sex, something is wrong with them.
It's an uneducated way of thinking.
So, this is a great time to reflect on your partner and recognize, he probably values the connection sex generates, and he wants to know YOU, before he knows 'you'.
I know it seems like a fun exercise and that it can feel like the fact they are hitting on your despite being in a relationship means they like you more.
But really it's the opposite. Reality is your friend isn't someone she is willing to end a relationship for. Maybe it's because she doesn't like him enough, maybe she is just too weak, maybe this is just her jerking guys around because she sucks.
But whether you like it or not that will always be in the back of your mind. You can claim she is making the first moves but clearly she didn't make the only one that really mattered.
He attacked your boyfriend after creeping and putting his hands on you. Then instead of checking if your boyfriend is okay, you spend 30 minutes with this asshole before even noticing your boyfriend had left. Seriously, that is all kinds of fucked up. I honestly don't even know how'd you'd explain away, that your first thought was not to go to the actual victim who was only defending himself and YOU, but instead to go to the instigator of it all and comfort him.
At the end of the day, she's yelling at you for something that you just can't do. Is that how a girlfriend should treat you? If you want to stay together there's a lot of work that needs to be done.
I went and got diagnosed with adhd after having a long period experience similar to yours where my ex eventually left me. Attention disorders require so much patience and understanding, you really can't expect your girlfriend to be a psychiatrist and just know how to deal with it.
Going into relationships now, I try my best to educate my partners with things that I've learned about myself because we really online with an illness that is not normal.
Maybe suggest couples therapy to her if she won’t speak up, that’s not right at all for her to outright refuse a conversation with you. Intimacy is extremely important in a relationship, good luck man
I don’t know if you’re gonna be able to process this but I just want to give you some perspective here. This is arguably the best way a relationship can end. Like there is literally nothing you or her could have done or can do. No one’s died, no one’s cheated, no one had any ill will. Like you are a good enough guy that even someone who is totally incapable of a romantic relationship thought “idk man let’s give this one a shot and see how it works out.” That’s pretty cool in its own way.
That said, if you haven’t ended things already, just calmly express that you need someone capable of being romantic in a, uh, romantic relationship. It might hurt now but hopefully you can process this and be friends sooner than later. Good luck.
My response to this would be
“The clothes will be returned when I do the washing”
Then I'd probably get some more clothes that I just kept at my house 100% of the time (get the kids to change and send them back unwashed with them), to avoid having to interact with a control freak that still thinks you're obliged to pander to their demands
Have her get tested again immediately before the drugs can take effect. That’s the only way you will know. If she refuses you have a problem. Tick tock
Take her on a romantic night out, do something thoughtful. Trust me, girls love this.
This sounds like a trauma born need for perfectionism. Until you deconstruct where it comes from, and rebuild a healthier sense of what control feels like, this will continue to manifest. I suggest EMDR therapy
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Info- how long was your mom in your step sisters online and how old are you both?
I love scream singing! Happy belated birthday!
How long ago did you extend that invitation?
How long until she's supposed to show up?
What makes you think she's misinterpreting your invitation as being more than just fun?
It takes time for meds to begin to work effectively, and being frank, this is about her well-being right now. Stop whittling about yourself, she is in need at this point in time, so try to support her. She can’t be responsible for your feelings at the moment. Things will improve. But knowing you’re backing her will go a long way, rather than feeling your resentment or judgment.
So that makes it ok ?
He probably figured they change but instead of changing they’re passive aggressive and sneaky.
“Please don’t call me that. I don’t like it and it bothers me.” If they continue, and you feel yourself getting angry, you can remove yourself from the situation that is making you angry by putting distance between yourself and the issue and leaving the area. You do not: Put your hands on a person to scare/ hurt them. Invade their space to physically intimidate them. Push someone against a wall so they cannot escape you. Tell them you can do whatever the fuck you want and threaten them. Use your anger as a weapon. Sexually assault them. You say you would never harm her, but you are actively harming her. You just didn’t leave visible marks. You should reflect on why you cannot use what I’d tell my students are “gentle words,” or “feeling words” and instead have to resort to intimidation and abuse. Saying I’m sorry is nice and all, but it doesn’t erase behavior, or fix it. If you break a plate, and then say sorry to the plate, the plate is still broken. There are free anger management resources, and therapy is available on a sliding scale or even free depending on situation. I suspect you have reasons for reacting this way, but that doesn’t change that it is harming those around you. I hope you can look into it a bit.
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OP – read this ☝️comment 10 times.
If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one. Don’t ask anyone questions you’re not prepared to hear the answer to- otherwise you are fishing for compliments and being manipulative.
Now, Skippy there shouldn’t be dating a teenager when he’s clearly playing games either.
And one tidbit of advice… when you’ve found “the one” you don’t need to ask how you look. They are going to make you feel like a golden goddess, even when your nose is dripping snot and you’re dressed like a 400 truck driver. They will see your beauty all of the time and they will feel grateful that you’re theirs. They won’t be playing the “who’s hotter” game. Didn’t that stop when grade 6 ended?
I’m really sorry for triggering you and I hope you get help soon
are you asking her to wash her hair before bed too? if so, that is completely unreasonable and i’d NEVER agree to sleep with wet hair every night and if she did she must really love you but if you’re just asking her to rinse off for 2 minutes i think she could just do it to make you happy. overall, this is not a reasonable thing to impose on someone but i’d probably comply if it was really the only thing you wanted IF you were in therapy to work on this as it does sound kind of psychological.
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Your continued reference to the girl's mental health shows that you really have problems, she never cheats on you but drugs etc are causing it.
she doesn't sleep with the whole street, she only sleeps with ex, drugs only encourage her to lie down .?
your relationship is great, you are great, your girlfriend is great,
don't mind cheating
You can distort the facts as much as you want,
You must be very young and new to the world. You're in for a lot of disappointment in life. Good luck.
ur totally correct!! and i even confessed and they shared a korean song where the lyrics mentions that “i'll let u call me baby soon” + i legit didn't say no over this cuz at first i was confused at the signs they are showing me- but im sure that they like me the same the moment when i checked the song with the meaning of the lyrics days after. (im so blunt) rn i really struggle with backpedalling gracefully fr
If you guys like to travel a lot (or even only once every year or two) then you can have your very own trip for an engagement down the line which will be 10x more meaningful. IMO there are a few important things people should do before getting engaged and one is travelling, one is living together. So definitely move in first and make sure your day to day is equally as compatible.
Don’t
Wishing you strength and recovery!
You didn’t have 60 seconds while you’re sitting on the toilet to text “hey, how’s your day going?”? I call BS. You didn’t think she was serious.
1 month after only 4 months is too long, that would be like me telling my husband of 25 years that I want a 6 year break. Just break up
I agree, but also don't think reaching out would be a bad thing if she wanted to.
Just something light and without obligation on the ex's part.
“Hey, I'm X's wife. If this is unwanted, feel free to ignore this message.” Explain where OP's at with everything, ask to talk if/when she ever feels ready to. ,?
It sounds like you aren't that interested in him. You may be friends, but it doesn't seem like you have a romantic interest in him based upon your description. You need to let him go.
This is what I was thinking, like goddamn, that’s ballsy.
Depending on state:
CPS will typically ask you and Michael and dad questions; determine the severity of the situation, track stories/etc; and determine course of action from there. In my state CPS very rarely takes child away immediately if it's not imminent threat to life/limb/safety of the child, and typically if they do they find family who can take child in ASAP; that might be you, if you can find a safe place away from dad, or your parents/etc.
But because you want to consider it child abuse, go to an emergency department (pediatric ED or hospital knows the ins/outs of this and has pediatric ED RNs on site most frequently) – urgent cares don't typically take cases like that, and you WANT a forensic nurse or ED RN/hospital that knows how to protect and gather evidence for a case like the back of their hands (an urgent care CAN do this, but they're unlikely to know exactly what to do and might call a larger center for answers anyway; and, if not an immediate threat to life/limb, might tell you to go there anyway).
Read the thread. The person I replied said there was no difference between 1 dick or 100 inside of her.
No no he is jealous of inanimate objects sheeeesh
Time for tough love. You should tell him that if he doesn’t knock it off you’re create burner accounts and start looking at jacked guys with big dicks.
Or better, just start doing it and leave your device strategically open.
A UTI doesn't always mean she had sex. Do you have anything to make you feel that way other than a few selfies and the UTI?
Are you two sober at 3-6am when making these plans? Are you certain he even remembers making them?
I think the disconnect here is that your mom is throwing the party “in his honor” but he doesn’t really want it. And you can’t make him want it, not even for the sake of your mom. You both agreed to a compromise — you gave up getting married in your hometown and he agreed to let your mom throw a celebration with dance performances. He’s holding up his end of the bargain but you’re the one letting your mom’s feelings throw a wrench into everything. Your fiancé has made his expectations clear, now your mom needs to adjust hers. That being said, if this is more an issue of him not caring about what’s important to you (as you mentioned in a comment), then you have a bigger problem and might want to really consider whether or not you’re compatible. And you definitely need to take the time now to hash out boundaries that don’t allow the feelings of either of your families to interfere with your relationship the way they currently are. This is a breeding ground for resentment.
If he’s asking you this, then he likely already has his eye on someone and just wants to be able to have sex with them without being labelled a cheater.
It also means that even if you say no, odds are he’ll sleep with them anyway.
Your choices as I see them are: 1. Decline as you value monogamy but be alert for the fact he’ll likely cheat on you anyway since he’s actively wanting to have sex with other women. 2. Accept his proposal but only on the basis that you can be with other men as well (it’s naked for previously monogamous relationships to survive this but it can be done, but a one sided open marriage, where only he can wander, will certainly fail due to animosity and a lack of respect). 3. Decline and leave him as he’s going to sleep with another woman regardless of your answer and you deserve more than that.
So not a great choice of options. Sorry he’s put you in this position for his own selfish wants.
Do you think this may have anything to do that he also feels lonely being far away from the irl social circle?
Maybe I am part of the issue because I don’t even know what to say when it gets to this point. She’s incredibly sensitive and I feel like I have to tip toe around these subjects. I’ve explained to her that I’m trying to provide more than what I had growing up for our kids. Therapy might be the correct answer for both of us. Something I will definitely talk to her about and look into. Thank you
I get where you're coming from, you think you're trying to help her but my guy this is the definition of controlling behavior. You both aren't even old enough to drink at all. Maybe she is being irresponsible but you certainly don't know better or have any authority to be able to tell her what to do.
You do not get to do what you did. You stalked her, showed up to a party that you weren't invited to and dragged her out like a parent pulls a kid away from a play pen in the mall that they don't want to leave.
If you don't like what she's doing, end things and find someone who does things that you approve of. Take it from someone twice your age, you absolutely will never be able to “fix” anyone. She needs to want the same thing you want. You can't make her.
I am sorry but it sounds like he likely has another relationship, possibly marriage somewhere else.
Go for it. You only online twice
I don’t think she’s that bad I can’t lie, I’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship. This isn’t quite the same. I believe it’s just a case of her not being in the right place emotionally to be in a relationship, it seems like right person wrong time which is what makes it hurt more.
We’ve had it before where we discussed taking ten minutes away from each other until we’re ready to talk calmly. She asked a few times I let her be, we came back and talked. I asked once and she pretty much didn’t let me until I pointed it out 2/3 times. I told her yesterday I didn’t want to see her today (we had plans for her to stay over) as we needed some space away from each other. This became a big thing right before both of us had to go to work.
Gotcha. Did you cheat?
Couples counseling, figure out how to rebuild that trust. It is going to take time, and her honoring her commitments to the relationship
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And that was “years” ago so…. probably teenagers.
And they had a kid. Great mental prowess in this couple.
Fair about the driving next time but I probably would only charge my friends actual gas money and I would include myself in the split lol it’s weird to say just because you’re driving you don’t have to pay for gas
A foreign student says he’s always been most attracted to white women and you think that’s negative?
I don’t see that much different than someone saying they prefer blond hair or an Australian accent. Its okay to have preferences in who you date and it’s probably biologically encoded to be curious about people who aren’t similar to you.
Sounds like the relationship is over either way. If he’s a good guy, has been kind and you care about him as a person the least you could do is finish out the next 60 days. That’s just my opinion.
Trust your gut. If I got home from a wedding without my husband I’d tell him everything just because I like to tell him about my day. Her leaving out seeing a mutual acquaintance would have to be purposeful. Even if it was “I saw that guy who sucks but I think I can use the connection for a job,” at least you’d be in the know. Seems odd.
“If you think you got raped why not go to police?” Pretty easy to victim blame men
Yah this would be me too.
Hubby and I have full access to each other’s phones, neither one of us have any reason to look, ever. He is the most loyal, honest man I know, but if something was sus like these events he listed I’d be in his phone looking.
Trust your gut OP!
Damn spot on.
Depends on the practice and specialty.
I am so sorry you are hurting. You sound like you've had a really naked life. Getting help was the right thing to do and now you need more help.
Unfortunately, she can't fix you and it is hard and probably destroying her life now as well.
Life isn't fair, there is no such thing as fair. It sucks, I know.
All you can do is reach out to any family you have left and ask for their help. Reconnect with a counselor and start talking as much as you need to. It may not feel like it but with time this gets easier.
At some point you need to take control of your life and take actions like going back to school or even taking a class at a community college. One small step at a time until you can walk again and then run again.
At first I thought you meant Stardew Valley was a childish game and I was ready to fight you lol
Well said. Unfortunately, it sounds like OP didn't respect himself enough and in his own mind agreed with John when he said that OP was “batting out of his league” with his GF.
The odds of you being with two sex addicts in a row are astronomically low
You need individual therapy to help deal with your experience and how it is affecting your relationship.
She most likely won't do that. As ending her life would mean she can't go on pestering you.
People are stupid that way sonetimes. But mostly not stupid enough to follow through with their threat.
She sounds anxiously attached. You guys must be able to communicate better about this issue. You should be honest with her how this makes you feel. Continuing this dynamic will not work out in the long run. And she should take some responsibility and seek therapy for this.
Don't be sorry to ask, I posted on here to get the feedback-
I grew up with narcissistic abuse. So my ability to sus out good romantic partners is difficult. My ex husband was also exhibited narcissist traits. I am actively working on these things and the fact I think this is wrong is a huge step. I know that may seem like a no brsiner to most, but it's huge progress for me.
The irony is that I thought I waited a while to introduce him, we'd been talking for about 4 months total. And things were going really well until Easter weekend.
I'm not sure about the self sabotage honestly.
Talk to her like a grown up