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he just says he’s messing with me because it’s “funny”.
If you found it funny, you'd be laughing.
he tells me i can’t take a joke and that i’m too sensitive.
“It isn't a good joke if it hurts me, Todd.”
ive tried to talk to him about how this makes me feel but it never gets taken seriously and im always being too dramatic and take it too seriously. what do i do now?
This dude is not a good partner for you – or maybe for anyone. He's mean and rude and when you tell him it's hurtful he keeps going. Bye, boy.
No, although ive always i mean ALWAYS known what sex was ever since i was younger.
Why was he showering in the master bathroom?
What concerns me is he’s wanting a one way open relationship- for him. I had a friend like this once, that demanded loyalty from the women he dated while he played around. We were great friends, but I’d never get involved romantically with someone like that.
He wanted what he wanted and took the opportunity when it came to him. Of course he doesn’t want an open relationship bc the woman usually gets a lot more play.
Proceed with caution, my dear. We can love men like this, as I do my friend, but they can’t love us back like we need.
That's nice of her to ask, but I would also have felt awkward accepting. I'd have also felt awkward not accepting, lol. This is probably one of those cases where either she shouldn't have a MoH, or there's somebody in her wedding party that has known her longer. I've been to several weddings where neither the bride or the groom have people standing with them. Or their wedding party is family (siblings or cousins mainly).
It is what it is. And if she's happy having someone that doesn't know much about her doing something like this, then good for her! Makes it easier on you, too, as your speech can be generic and you don't have to worry about including people, because you don't know them or have stories about them.
BTW, my ex wife didn't have anyone in her party at all, she just didn't feel like she was close enough to anyone at that point in her life, which was true. For whatever reason, she just didn't have close friends. She could have asked any number of girls she knew back then to be her MoH but ultimately chose not to. Within a few years of the wedding, she wasn't in touch with any of her girlfriends from that time – not one. So it was a good decision. I had a best man, but no groomsmen. I could have, but decided not to make it glaringly obvious that my ex wife had no one to stand with her. And she wasn't embarrassed, either. I think she would have been more embarrassed asking friends she wasn't particularly close with to take on this kind of role.
You can end any relationship for any reason. Although I would recommend that you talk to your partner about how you're feeling neglected, due to this event
It’s already cheating my guy, you’re hiding it from your gf for a reason.
Since you hate hm and have never got along, it's unlikely he'll take your advice. And since you hate him, why do you care what he does? Does it reflect on you directly? How?
I'm so proud of you ?
Sweetie, you were raped and he convinced you that that meant he was your boyfriend. That’s horrible. He does not love you, despite whatever feelings you’re having. You should NOT be with him.
Except that it IS. He maliciously distributed her pornographic images across the internet, TO HIMSELF. I LITERALLY HAD THIS HAPPEN TO ME.
He's being really dumb. It can be extremely difficult for naturally thin people to gain much weight. I dropped into the underweight category due to medical stuff and it took me over a year to get back up to a “normal” weight.
If anyone tells you you're not allowed to be upset, that is a really bad omen in my experience. It means they're going to keep mistreating you and tell you you're the asshole for objecting to their poor treatment.
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You could just be honest.
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Oh I know. The comment came from, unfortunately, personal experience
I’ve been with my SO since March but we’ve no plans on moving in together anytime soon. I actually just resigned a lease at my current place until May 2024, so probably not until after that. But I’d say a good 1-2 year timeframe should give you plenty of time to decide if moving in with each other is something you’d like to do.
I think it's odd. I had an ex spring poly/open life style on me and kind of force me to agree. But I was allowed do what with who ever though she already crossed that line by already sleeping with some else which was cheating this reminds me of that just more straight to the point and it's about control. They want it how they want it comply or by. So in my situation it was good bye and she went off with other dudes or people she had lined up I was told you dont control me I do what with my body. I wanted monogamy so I had no choice comply or get hella out hurt 6yrs down the drain. This dude is literally like no I want it this way same thing but only difference everyone knows everyone is ploy/open. But he commanding versus pulling a fast one like my ex did. Regardless this is boundaries issue and need real conversation or it not gonna go well. I not into this life style but I get what goes on different strokes for different folks.
I think it would be a good idea to have this conversation with a couples therapist present. Obviously your wife is struggling in some way, but apparently she has not been communicating any of these feelings to you, because you are feeling totally blindsided. I think a therapist will be able to help her communicate the things that she would like to change, and they'll also be able to help you form a plan. Right now it sounds like you are both kind of spiraling from this revelation, I really think a neutral third party will help you both to get to the root issues without getting caught up on details like “who is going to tell the kids.”
Every time.
I divorced without my husbands consent- it’s been a while but lawyers know how to do it. Get it done.
Learn to work with the dog, Pet Smart has training courses. YOu need to learn to work with the dog. Not get rid of the dog.
Of course he's a yoga teacher, I fucking knew it. It's always the male teachers posting this sort of shit, making everyone think the rest of us must also be this pretentious.
I am very confused about why you've commented and not read my post. If you read my post, you will see that I talked to Amy about making it a couples thing and inviting Beth.
But you'll also see that I updated my post (and have responded to many comments) saying I will not be going on the trip.
That’s definitely not something I’d be ok with, but if it works for your relationship and is fair and not one-sided, it’s no one else’s business. On the other hand, it’s also not your problem that others assume about your friendships with other people.
Yeah that’s what I’ve been told by all my friends and my parents but I didn’t want to get a biased answer towards me . That’s why I’m on Reddit. She gets off at 3 pm everyday but would always be streaming by 4. I play games in my pc too but I would always make time for people.
Perhaps you were raised to think children born outside of marriage are the woman's responsibility, and the man doesn't have to care about her or the child they created together. That's not true. You are both responsible, legally and morally. You are fortunate if she's not asking anything of you, but your post is pretty shameful if you are saying you were in love with this woman, and she was in love with you. And a kid needs loving parents and financial support. If you want to evade your responsibility, you are fortunate indeed that she is not asking you to help raise this child or financially contribute.
The gap itself isn't even really that large, if we're talking 32 and 40, for example. I think the issue has more to do with the stage of life.
OP, you're living in a dorm and he's going to be 30 in the near future. Liking each other is never enough to build a relationship on. Everything else has to be in sync too. Your lives are just in very different places right now, both figuratively owing to your age difference and literally because he lives in another country. If you can't handle the casual, when-he's-in-town nature of how this has to be (until he finds a serious partner in his new nation) then tell him that. Explain that you can't just be available for when he has time. Inevitably he's going to build his life in this place where he lives now and that's probably going to preclude having a LDR with someone he has to travel to see. So stand up for yourself and let him know that there'll be no more kissing, no more messing with your bra straps and no more him assuming you're just sitting in your dorm room awaiting his return. The more liberties you allow him to take the more difficult it's going to be for you to get past this. Good luck
Fr if she was a guy people be committed no forplay nothing romantic nothing. A lot of these people want to be woooed all the time but they are shit at doing it back lol.
You have an unproven premise.
His experience may be that women in their 30's are self-obsessed with commitment, and snagging a quality man as the ticking of the biological clock grows unrelentlessly louder, and overtakes compatability They may settle for you and ultimately lose all interest in sex.
Under those circumstances, he may find the masks, and facades inviolable.
A slightly younger woman may be easier to get to really know.
Not to mention wear and tear. It's like a sports car. If you drive it to much the leather begins to wear and the seats begin to sag.
She's not concerned about the illegality, she's concerned about this man taking advantage of you. You've been groomed.
Why do you feel this isn't the end?
OP…. from the moment your husband said “I DO” you have had the BEST marriage. Happy, fulfilled, and monetarily sound… everything your husband has attempted and succeeded in was for you and because of you…..
I know what you think I might be saying, but I'm not telling you to forgive him. I'm telling you, your marriage wasn't a lie, it wasn't a sham, and it was magical.
Never doubt that for a second.
Whether you divorce him or not. Move on or not… cherish those untainted years. The day your friend showed that message, may be when your marriage ended, but it was a great one and you don't need to question that part.
I agree. Love languages are real, they're just simplified ways of talking about certain needs in relationships. I've had two therapists refer to them.
Right! This was my main takeaway. OP has said his mother has been great, supportive and always there for him but will have a great relationship with his father AND mistress who put his amazing mother through hell. The math isn’t mathing
“How do i let my husband divorce me?” Seems like she ask this in reddit and learn some tricks
Can’t expect things you don’t give ?♀️
Have you asked her what she wants
Wow That’s disgusting
Lack of empathy, lack of empathy, lack of empathy.
It’s called a scat fetish, and yes it’s a kink. It’s going to be for you to decide if you can tolerate it because it’s highly unlikely that he will stop.
Yet it still seems fitting
Family therapy.
I don't know I agree she started the discussion. I would say you did, by telling her a guy was eyeing you. If I were her, I would probably would have assumed you telling me a guy was checking you out was an attempt to start a discussion about it.
In addition, I don't think it's fair to say she's pushing this fantasy when it sounds like you've only talked about it once. Unless she keeps bringing it up it sounds like she was just letting you know she's would be open to talking about and exploring this part of your sexuality more.
Yeah. Keep telling yourself that your wife is stupid and there's no problem.
Give it to her but if you really want to avoid a discussion then leaving is probably best after you give it to her. Perhaps say that you are open to a discussion once she has processed the news.
You’re a confusing person. Did you work service jobs in the US? Cause you’re justification of “I’ve been there” doesn’t fit at all. Did you ever risk not eating because of your income when working the service industry? If not, maybe consider yourself lucky and realize you actually have no familiarity with the importance of tipping. Tipping can mean the difference on a single mothers ability to feed her children. But, in your opinion, it’s more important that a 19 year old can feel like a big shot even through they can’t actually afford their bill? If you can’t afford to tip, you can’t afford your bill. I don’t care what jobs you’ve worked. You know nothing about the service industry in the US if you don’t know that’s true.
And BTW, I worked BOH most of my time in restaurants so I generally watched servers make more than me in less hours. I STILL understand the importance of tipping.
It's not your responsibility to be her caretaker. I have an incurable illness and a condition called SVT (Superventricular Tachycardia). It causes my heart to randomly get out of rhythm, beat too fast, and causes fainting. The only thing my family and friends can do is call an ambulance or get me to a hospital when it happens.
The description you gave of your girlfriend's disorder, particularly the hyperventilating, sounds like anxiety.
I would suggest that she see a therapist about her anxiety and panicking over this condition.
As far as you, you have to let yourself off the hook. She's an adult and can take care of herself. If she's ever legitimately sick and needs you to drive her to the doctor or hospital, fine. However, you can not be expected to babysit her 24/7.
When my child’s father got a vasectomy his mom sent some “tidy whities” to hold his balls in place but he hated them so I took them all. I love those underwear.
My cheating pathologically liar ex gaslighted me so badly he made me get therapy cz I was “too emotional and all of our problems were because of that.” Therapist aren't supposed to tell you what to do, but mine told me to move the fuck out after like our 3rd session. I'd never have realised he was gaslighting and abusing me if I didn't go to the therapy HE instead I went to.
Arts major, not math
But i dont feel like he was abusive. And i do have high standards. Maybe i was to difficult for him as im very demanding
Just don’t do what Ross did when he had dinner with Rachel’s father.
Anyway, jokes aside, have fun! it’s so refreshing to see a happy post out here!
Why not just get a cheap ring?
Why not just get a cheap ring?
Maybe you should stop invading his privacy and instead communicate directly with your partner. You cheated on him and it sounds kind of recent. It also seems like you're dumping your emotional baggage onto him which isnt fair. Im not sure how much of his venting is appropriate or not but you seem like a toxic partner. Tell him what you did. Apologize and refocus your energy onto working on yourself.
Dude, he was 20 years old. Come on…he agreed to something his girlfriend asked of him when they were 19 and 20 and y’all are acting like that was a damn contract written in blood.
I'm not asking gory details, just asking what profession. One word answer will do. You have the right not to answer if you don't want to.
Sounds like you're justifying her extremely cruel comments, don't do that there is no justification for it .
That being said I don't think what you asked was necessarily a bad thing. If you plan something and she has plans you didn't know about that would cause obvious issues.
Maybe be more proactive to find out her plans and/or tell her to keep “x” weekend available because you are planning something.
She should also take initiative to plan things because 1 person cannot do it all (unless she is already and you're not).
Just some ideas.
My wife makes more money than I do. She has never held it over me. Not once has she tried to emasculate me over money, we have a shared account where both paycheques are deposited and where all the bills are paid from, it work for us.
Okay so I think that you might have a misconception of this kind of books. I, for example, read a lot of fanfiction, because I kinda refuse to pay money for this kind of entertainment and also because I really love fanfiction. Anyway, sometimes it's very hot and steamy and sexy. Now, I am not a man and also not a regular porn consumer, but I think the goal for watching porn is having an orgasm right? To watch and masturbate.
So when I read steamy stories I never masturbate. I don't have an orgasm or even the need to get off or anything. To explain it more concrete, I read this, I get butterflies in my stomach and I certain scenes might affect me. But then I close my phone and that's it.
Also, I think it is perfectly fine for her to read a novel and Espace reality. I mean really? Sometimes reality sucks. And sometimes you simply need to distract yourself. I mean other people watch videos or play games.
Maybe you could tell her that if she ever wants to try something she read in the novels, you would be down for it?
You’re not in a relationship. This man, whether still married or not, is clearly NOT AVAILABLE!
Oh my goodness! All these men seem to all want Ellie and to groom her!
Are you sure you're not interested in Ellie? This girl must have cast a spell on all the men in your friend group lol
I’m sorry this has happened to you. Prepare yourself. You can bet she has been cheating for a while or at least this isn’t the first person. You don’t deserve to be with a person that doesn’t respect you or your vows.
I get what you're saying. About the relationship thing, it's partly me feeling like I shouldn't pursue something with someone already involved with someone else but also I guess having a relationship isn't one of my top priorities right now (but it would be nice) if that makes sense. I know he doesn't owe me anything in terms of his private life but it would help if said a little more to set some boundaries in our relationship. I think my concern is mostly from the fact that he openly flirts with me and hints that he wants to pursue something while also being in a situationship and that's why I don't know why he'd be vague. Like I haven't dated in a while and I feel like actively trying to make a “real play” for someone in a situationship is wrong?? I hope this clarifies things
Listen to your gut. Don’t get married.
Just because you have been through a lot together doesn’t mean you are stuck together forever. Your partner might be a good and kind person but that doesn’t mean he’s YOUR person.
Read back your letter and imagine a friend of yours wrote it. What would you tell that friend to do?
My co worker got pregnant with her IUD although it’s extremely rare
I’d leave my relationship to be honest. I respect my boyfriend to never communicate with exes and he never talks with them either.
It’s emotional cheating
A few days and he’s “patiently” waiting for the ability to start monitoring you? Make like Jasper and ghost…this guy is a budding psycho.
Of course there's gaslighting, he tells her it's her fault that he did this. OP, you really need to leave, but you're going to need a plan and somewhere to hide. The level of his rage and now blaming you is what happens just before he really beats the crap out of you, for no reason whatsoever. Soon all you'll have to do is look at him 'wrong' and he'll start pummeling you.
You aren't married, you have no kids, RUN!!! Why do you stay? Do you think you can help him? He doesn't want help, he blames you and 'makes you pay' for every perceived slight. Do you need him to put you in the hospital before you accept that you are a victim of physical and emotional abuse? He's groomed you, he always leaves that little bit of hope so he can keep you there to 'help/heal him'. I'm sorry, but there is no hope.
Go ahead and get a restraining order if it makes you feel better. It's just a piece of paper that won't stop him, and the police won't get there fast enough to save you. The statistics, according to Alexa and Google is 11% of every 231 women have a restraining order in place when the male intimate kills them. About one-fifth of the female IPH (?) victims who had a restraining order were killed within 2 days of the order being issued, about one-third were killed within a month.
Don't become a statistic. This is not the life your parents were raising for. Put a plan together, make arrangements to leave while he's gone and do it. Pack the stuff you need, the rest is material and can be replaced. A few weeks after I'd had my second child I went to a relatives funeral with a black eye and bruised/cracked ribs, but he was sorry and promised it would never happen again. It didn't, he just kept the bruises where they'd be covered by clothes instead. Please don't stay, they don't change. You really are in grave danger!
She’snot just flirting bud. I promise. You need to dump her and move onto someone that can at least pretend to be faithful.
Well, let me tell you something: he will eventually seek intimacy outside. Damn, with religion! What kind of marriage is it if there is no sex?
She doesn’t want you dead. She said something stupid in a time of stress. She has said she is sorry. Whether you want to end your relationship over this one moment is up to you, but if this is very out of character I think just move on and forward from it. There are bound to be stressful moments and arguments in your marriage should you decide to go dine that route.
Just wait for the day. It's only 10am. Don't make a scene when you don't even know what he has planned. Also, being the first one to type a “Happy Bday” message does not mean anything in my opinion, at least not after the teenager years…
Tell her that you meant the cute romantic things that you do for each other, and it was her mind that went straight to sex.
And while you don’t want to hear it, her behaviour could be a red flag ?, she may have been cheating on you while she was apart from you, or may be looking at leaving you, and looking for any reason to make it your fault.
If I don’t agree to this, he says he will request Japan.
So, no, he hasn’t changed. He’s still being emotionally manipulative and controlling.
Do not move with him. You will be isolated from you family in a foreign country with no support system. That sounds like a really bad idea.
T is the one not respecting his pronouns, I’m a non-binary person who also uses both he and they and whenever I’ve had even some of my closest friends say “hey just checking in would you prefer me to only use they” I tell them nah it doesn’t bother me bc I legitimately like to use both he and they as identifiers so it’s fine
How do I do that like ofc she’s gonna be hurt is there anyway to make it not suck so much
It may very well be a “huge difference” as 1 vs 50 (or however many) but the act is still the same; fucking for money. That is the part that is relevant. Trying to downplay it based on a numbers game is disingenuous. The issue isn't how many, the issue is what you're doing with them
Yeah at the end of the day Op clearly only cares about herself. Pestered and coerced her partner into something you clearly didn't want and even continued when he cried. That's some sick shit and he needs to get away asap.
I mean honestly I hope not but this could be a serious possibility. OP is 25 and she was not ready to get married. He is 31 and it sounds like he really wanted her to marry him. He could be forcing her hand to marry via the pregnancy or exacting revenge on both women. I hope not but I dated this type of guy and because he was “sweet” and fun I did not see how manipulative he was at the time. I hope who Op becomes through this process works out for the baby.
Not at all improbable. Usually they don’t even test for it if your pap is normal, but you could be infected and have a normal pap. If you have a normal pap one time and an abnormal the next, that doesn’t necessarily mean you got the virus in between.
Thank you I was just going to try and do that. I do this from my phone so it very hot to see the formatting i always hit enter so that it will but that doesn’t seem to work so I’m going to try and see if I do it a couple times if that will work.
This is a test I hit enter like three time so hopefully this looks better.
You aren’t a nice human.
He says that Healthcare is too expensive and he doesn't want to pay a doctor hundreds of dollars for them to tell them nothing is wrong.
Well I've got good news for him then, because based on the rest of this post that is DEFINITELY not what his doctor is going to tell him.
For his sake I want to put my foot down and tell him he needs to suck it up and eat a vegetable once and a while, but I don't want to be controlling. I just hate having to watch him suffer with his health.
I understand your position, and it's a fine line to walk. At the end of the day you can't MAKE him be healthier, and in all honesty that's for the best. Right now you're probably wishing you could just say “eat a damn vegetable” and he'd go eat a damn vegetable, but at the end of the day if he never cares about his health for his own sake and will ONLY take care of himself when you order him to do it you're going to stop feeling like his girlfriend and start feeling like his mother very quickly. And then before long you'll stop feeling like his mother and start feeling like you're the warden of the prison, he's the inmate, and you've got to constantly inspect his cell looking for contraband junk food. That is no way to run a relationship.
So no, you can't make him be healthier if he doesn't want to be healthier and even if you could make demands you wouldn't want to because it would change the dynamic of the relationship in a really toxic way. What you really want is for him to want to be healthier, and right now he just doesn't care.
All you can really do is communicate honestly with him that this is becoming a dealbreaker for you. You're not allowed to control his behavior but you're absolutely allowed to have boundaries for yourself, and tell him something like:
“I can't watch someone I care about slowly fall apart and do nothing to help themselves. Your health and how you handle it is your own choice and I can't make it for you, but I need you to understand this is becoming a relationship dealbreaker for me. I'm not going to control what you eat, but I want to be honest and clear with you about how it's making me feel and what I need to do for my own mental health.”
and this guy is still your boyfriend?
husband acts blatantly misogynistic “Guys I think my husband is a misogynist” Girl you need to either run or nip that behavior in the bud before your daughter is even more influenced by it
Thank you!!
Don't confront him. Act like you don't know in front of him, report him to the police, contact a lawyer for a divorce.
Me either.
The more I think about this scenario, the more I feel protective of OP because I'm concerned that this was a full-on breach of a boundary test.
What will the escalation be from here ffs?!
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Only a rapist would think I'm being obtuse here. Braking up is very sound advice. I've been in this girl's situation before, and it was not the best for my mental health. I'm still fucked up from it to this day.
My aunt has a two part first name (think like Anne Marie), and had teachers who would try and call her only using the first part, like just Anne. And she wouldn’t answer. Same story with the teacher’s conference, and her response of “My name’s not Anne.”
She usually goes by the initials of her first name now
Let's just keep it simple here; he said what he said. There's a reason he said it, which we all logically know, but did he himself say what he needs to happen to proceed from here?
I have no trauma or issues around this type of behavior, but if I asked my boyfriend/husband not to touch me in a way I’m uncomfortable and THAT was the response I got, it’d be the last time he touched any part of me.
Physical intimacy, like sex, is supposed to be enjoyable for BOTH parties. The fact that your husband thinks he’s “entitled” to your body even if it’s in a way you don’t enjoy, actually find traumatic, is revolting. His sexual satisfaction takes priority over your ability to feel safe and secure in your own home. Please really think about that when considering your next steps.
Sweetie, you can have chemistry all you want but it’s been in plain sight that he is NOT ready for absolutely any kind of relationship.
If he doesn’t want to get help, don’t try to save him. He is not your responsibility. Specially for a grown ass man.
Why on earth would you organize a outing with his EX and HER family? Also HE lied to you about going out. It’s pretty clear his reasoning. He wanted you not to be there. Sound shady af.
If you want to try to work on your marriage, he needs to go nc with his ex and focus on your relationship.
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I've come close to cutting off my dad, and by association, my mom, for nearly the exact reason's OP is alluding to. We're Eastern Europeans immigrants. I'm liberal. My dad is conservative. He needs to be right and he needs everyone to believe he's right. No respect for boundaries. Verbal, mental, and emotional abuse (though no actual physical violence). All that fun stuff.
I would've cut off anyone else for one tenth of the things he put me through “but this is my dad”. I still can't say if I would've been better off doing it even if things are much different now.
OP, your child likely valued you two more than any other people in the world for a long long time. Just imagine for one second how much hurt you must've caused him to override that. You won't since you didn't even finish the message but you really should.
If he wants to fix this he has to go work on his self and start reconnecting to you. If he’s not doing that, then there’s little hope. You can’t fix this or him. If you aren’t feeling any effort from him, then that’s likely what’s adding to your feelings of it being over.
Thanks so much for that link! I actually gently brought up the subject with him and sent him this link and said he should check it out. He was very receptive to it and was completely understanding of my concerns. He said he’s going to really work on it in order to help himself and our relationship.
A few things. 1. Her wanting to get off meds, happens a lot. They either don’t feel like themselves, duh their normal self is a mess, that’s why they are on drugs. Or some will call themselves “cured” and feel they will be fine without them, umm wrong. 2. You are in an exclusive relationship. This exclusivity isn’t just sex. Spending long hours and an overnight at another man’s house is breaking your exclusive relationship with her. 3. I can almost guarantee you that her thoughts about getting off the drugs has come from his other guy. They are probably the only thing that keeps her from leaving you and being with him permanently. 4. She has emotionally cheated on you. Her “not feeling the same” comes from her feelings for him. She’s blaming the conflict on the drugs (with prodding from him) not the fact that she’s having an emotional affair. 5. Whether or not things have gotten physical, you can sure of one thing, he wants it to be physical and for her to leave you.
You can do what you want with that information but here’s what I would do. Sit her down and tell her the wedding is off. That she’s not acting like a proper GF much less someone who is engaged. Tell her flat out that she is having an EA and if it doesn’t stop immediately, not only will there be no wedding but there will be no relationship period. If she claims it’s not an affair, tell her fine then you shouldn’t have any issues with going NC with him. If she says anything other than “okay” end your relationship. Lastly, that you will not accept her going off her meds unless she has a qualified doctor take her off the meds slowly and under supervision. This too should be a dealbreaker if she doesn’t agree.
I’m sorry but if you want to save this relationship you are going have to stand up to her and make your desires known. Frankly, odds are she’s already slept with him. That’s another question you need to ask and have answered. Sorry but you need to stand up for yourself.
I didn’t really get the vide that dude doesn’t want kids, it seems he does but he isn’t ready. I also said similar boat, not same boat, so also check your reading comprehension. Idk why you’re being so argumentative, combative, and mean when I was just being positive towards her. This sub is so quick to say “dump him” when there’s even a whiff of a problem. There’s still time for both of us to have kids, it’s not too late, and I’m not going to dump the love of my life just for this reason when he makes me so happy for all the other reasons. You’re honestly just a negative person.
yeah… guess so ?
It starts with small oopsies and ends with a mountain of credit cards maxed out in your name
You don’t choose your family, so dumping someone for their family members actions is totally uncalled for.
That said, what were you doing when your family was allllll making him uncomfortable? If you just sat back and left him to flounder in the discomfort then it’s reasonable he can’t trust you to be a good girlfriend and advocate for him.
Well, no. You wouldn’t entertain this notion if it weren’t a prerequisite for marrying him.
I call her mom now but for awhile I used eggdonor so kinda a slip up.
most likely it’s bad.
I am under a strong feeling that your BF only ant to marry for the public image. I would have report the wedding myself if it happened to my wife. who in its right mind could think a wedding can cancelled a death ? he doesn't seems very affected by the lost of the child.
The simpler answer is to do nothing. There was no problem before, there's no problem now. If she doesn't want to see what's on there, blocking her is an effective fix to keep that from happening. Out of sight, out of mind.
Sunk cost fallacy.
You lose more the longer you stay with him.
Do you know for certain she’s divorced? Depending on how often you see her and stuff, you might be her secret boyfriend
First, I hate your screen name bc youre not stupid. Second; What exactly DO you get out of this relationship that’s good?! He’s not supportive. He’s not even holding his own in the bedroom at the moment. He resists any opportunities you take to try and actually get this resolved like reasonable adults- where’s the benefit for you? Start saving your money sis so you can make a clean break.
Saying I love you shouldn’t be said with the expectation of getting an answer, it’s an expression of your feelings. Expecting the other person to feel the same way you do at the same pace is kind of unreasonable imo