Girl, he is abusing you and it will not change. What if it was a friend or sister in your position, what would you say to her? Leave his lame ass behind and go live in peace.
Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you lose yourself. I did the same thing in my first marriage which ended in a divorce. I would come home from work and want to release with gaming and she would yell and get mad because I didn’t want to spend it with her. She just wanted to watch something together and then just be on her phone and not be present.
She needs to be independent and you need your independence back.
You have to decide/ask and figure out how much this is just idle fantasy, and how much is fantasy she'd like to try in some form.
I know I probably think about things sometimes that are exciting to think about, but then if offered it in real life I'd think “uh, no way.”
Think of it on a less emotional, non-sexual way. Every guy (and likely every girl too) probably has fantasized about being the hero! A bunch of armed bad guys break into your home and you fight them off, and you're the hero! Fun fantasy! But if someone said “oh, cool, so should I hire some guys to come break in with guns?” You'd say absolutely not.
Fantasy lets people imagine things, and focus on the 'good' part of it, and pretend the bad part doesn't exist. We all fantasize about all kinds of things, sexual, but also family related, work related, whatever, that doesn't mean we want to bring them into reality.
“23m”… “this late in life” lmao ?
if it wasnt sexual it wasnt cheating. Hes crazy and best to not deal with crazy
Girl, he is abusing you and it will not change. What if it was a friend or sister in your position, what would you say to her? Leave his lame ass behind and go live in peace.
Focus on yourself and getting better so you can have a successful relationship with someone else in the future.
Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you lose yourself. I did the same thing in my first marriage which ended in a divorce. I would come home from work and want to release with gaming and she would yell and get mad because I didn’t want to spend it with her. She just wanted to watch something together and then just be on her phone and not be present.
She needs to be independent and you need your independence back.
Fantasy and reality are two different things.
You have to decide/ask and figure out how much this is just idle fantasy, and how much is fantasy she'd like to try in some form.
I know I probably think about things sometimes that are exciting to think about, but then if offered it in real life I'd think “uh, no way.”
Think of it on a less emotional, non-sexual way. Every guy (and likely every girl too) probably has fantasized about being the hero! A bunch of armed bad guys break into your home and you fight them off, and you're the hero! Fun fantasy! But if someone said “oh, cool, so should I hire some guys to come break in with guns?” You'd say absolutely not.
Fantasy lets people imagine things, and focus on the 'good' part of it, and pretend the bad part doesn't exist. We all fantasize about all kinds of things, sexual, but also family related, work related, whatever, that doesn't mean we want to bring them into reality.