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This was one of my favorite books growing up! I hated Wang Lung by the end of the book though, he got what he deserved from his shitty, spoiled kids
This is a solid deal breaker. Where’s your anger and your fury?
Thank you so much, this is so kind ? I feel like it’s so very hot to make friends, or even find people to talk to as you get older!
What advice do you want? Your relationship has ended and it sounds like it’s not going to rekindle, second to that from what you’re saying you were unhappy anyway, dust yourself off and move on with your life.
Oh honey. This piece of shit is abusing you. Once you have figured out a plan, please gtfo as soon as you can. Be safe x
Just block him and leave him
dont assume he's always going to be like this…
if he never grew up with animals at home I'de say his behavior is about what you would expect for somebody who is just learning how to deal with cats.
yall are both still so young.
if I were you I would give him an opportunity to improve.
Stevencri, you are so spot on. The only thing I can add from experience is think long and very hot about taking her back. You are fortunate that her character was revealed before marriage and children. In the best scenario, she may not be evil, but she may not have known how to deal with her unhappiness in the relationship and was searching for answers. In a worse scenario, she was monkey branching; but because it was an ex from so long ago, probably the former is true. Either way, she's been with you long enough to know you and she obviously thinks something is missing. You are both young and I definitely changed around your ages.
Her actions speak volumes, If you get back together, chances are I'll catch up with you over at r/infidelity in a few years, and hopefully the word 'children' will not come up.
So, firstly, you really cannot go that nasty in arguments with your spouse. It doesn't matter who is right or wrong, the minute you go straight for the jugular, you show her that you are not a team, you are only caring about winning. You cannot go back from threatening to take the baby away by using videos of her physically hurting you.
Second. You have videos of her physically hurting you? Talk about burying the lede. When did this happen? Why did this happen? How was this resolved in your relationship? Has the physical abuse continued? Why are you still with this woman if she was violent enough with you that you had to take videos? Why does she need to covertly reach out to your couples therapist without mentioning it to you? Why do you have a shared email that she “insisted” on?
Third. Post partum hormones make it very hot to be logical. You keep talking about talking logically, but that means fuck all of someone is suffering from post partum depression. Assuming the violence mentioned earlier was due to psychological issues, those absolutely will get worse during post partum.
Assuming your wife was abusive, she will get worse now that she has a kid to keep you from leaving.
Assuming you both are just toxic adults, you both have to want to change for the better to be better parents for your kid. And it sounds like you are both happy to be assholes to each other.
Fourth. The baby phase is hell on earth. If you handle stress badly to begin with (sounds like it is true for both of you), you will explode. You both need to find good therapy (possibly separately) and work on yourselves for your kid. Assuming you are both toxic people.
If your wife is abusive, then do not go to couples therapy. She will use the therapist to continue abusing you and force you to cave to her demands. If your wife is intending on escalating, you need to get out. Do not let her find out that you plan to leave. Gather all the evidence you have and get a lawyer. Is there anyone in your life that you trust that doesn't talk to/like your wife? They can help you escape and help you prove to the court that you need full custody.
A stay-at-home parent is a parent that remains at home while the other parent works outside the home. Stay-at-home parents are generally responsible for domestic chores, including childrearing.
Had to look and sure enough, she posts in TwoXChromosomes.
That's such a vile subreddit. Just as bad as TheRedPill.
you're letting the commenters talk you into accepting her gaslighting you.
She knew he was coming, and it turns out not just him, but 2 of his male(?) friends…….
ah well, if you want to be played, you do you…
You’ve muddied the waters with her and let her manipulate your situation ship.
A FWB is a friend you hook up with for sex. It’s not a girlfriend. You’ve both slipped into being bf and gf. You’ve met family and friends, you meet up for “cuddles” and you go on dates and trips.
You are no longer FWB. You’re dating.
You need to decide what you want and stick to it. If it’s not what she wants, she will dump you. Which is the correct thing to do because of two people aren’t aligned in what they want, they shouldn’t be together.
Make your mind up. Do you want a gf or just the casual sex?
If you both just want the casual sex, then she is entitled to have as many other partners as she wants, as are you.
If you feel jealous or annoyed she’s slept with others, then you need to back away.
Well that answers that, thank you.
Also, I finally decided to read the rest of your post. It’s his sister you nincompoop. Fuck off and let them grieve together.
Call her parents to tell her, not to send such videos… lol
This is going to be very hot to say but some women have a very nice looking pussy and some do not. I wonder if yours one or the other? Regardless, some guys don’t have the coordination, practice, or desire to properly eat out.
He’s not a good man if he ignores your needs and desires while having no problem getting his every time. Period.
At 23, you aren't even you yet! Be the right one for yourself and eventually you will find someone you want as a companion to join you in your life's journeys.
I just got married at 30. We met at 27. I was very close to marrying some frogs before I found him. I think I had to go through some lessons and relationships and single times to be properly ready for the love of my life.
Remember, a partner does not solve your life- they don't complete you- your life is all yours and you can invite someone in that makes it brighter and adds to it. Just as much as you add to theirs. 🙂
There is always hope and love as long as you have hope and love for yourself.
I've been in your shoes before, please take care of yourself and leave before it gets worse, because it will get worse. You're not her therapist or guardian. Maybe find another outlet to practice service to satisfy that need of yours. That's been a huge help for me, although I still have a long way to go.
My concern would be about potential legal issues arising in the future. Sharing the same first and last name in the family can lead to all sorts of issues, particularly financial issues such as bank accounts, loans, liens, credit scores, and so on.
His full name is Ben Dover
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Sometimes, individuals just need folks to “practice on” and it happens a shit-ton
in the 20-s. It customary and acceptable as long as everyone agrees on the “rules”.
(see: boundaries).
On a scale of 1-10 the boundaries which should be nice and clear (“5”)
have become a little murky, (“3.5”)
mostly because you both are under-dev eloped in your Social Skillset.
Unless you are getting declarations and behaviors that underscore
what you have as MORE, I would simply pace myself and enjoy what you have for
what it truely is: an acquaintance whose company you enjoy.
Gay guys, I would think at this point that would be obvious.
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YTA. Just because you broke up with your gf since you weren't allowed to hang out doesn't mean he has those same goals
It sounds very much like she knew the entire time and hid it because of fear her family would reject her.
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facts but howwwwww
If she cheated with you, she will certainly cheat on you.
Just keep that in mind.
I guess it's not my kink but just one of the sexual acts I enjoy the most.
I ask her often. I also don't just bluntly ask her to suck my dick but try to be sensual and sweet about it. I also take good care of my hygiene and shave it properly for a nice experience. Once a month is not bad but its not enough for me. Some men would be happy with once a month but I just want more. She very rarely gives me a blowjob as foreplay but I always give her oral, which I don't mind because I'd rather get a bj from start to end than a little bit during foreplay. If she gives me a complete bj I don't reciprocate immediately but do when we have sex again. She doesn't like 69.
Don't feel too bad for failing though, you litteraly asked him and he refused to answer : Of course you will end up doing randim stuffs that don't work after that. It's super weird to me that he didn't want to answer that
Wow ok, either hire someone or just break up with him and walk away! Good luck to you
I’m not claiming moral high ground from my own situation. I fully accept I am wrong and accept responsibility for it.
I’m simply saying my partner and I both have to go through some things atoning for what we did to each other. This guy doesn’t have to deal with any repercussions whatsoever. He’s not in a relationship, has no family. He peddles drugs as a side hustle. What is wrong with sending a little justice his way?
When you like someone you tend to obsess over every detail of every interaction with them and try to finding meaning in things you don’t need to. This is one of those occasions.
If you like her, ask her if she wants to go out some time.
It’s still just too vague buddy. An ageeed upon hangs should take place immediately but would often then slowly fade out, sounds like what we it is u want (I still have no idea but I suspect it is sex/intimacy) she feels she won’t enjoy
It’s unreasonable to ask to be on the deed so soon. But him saying he’d break up with you is also unreasonable.
You’d just be considered a renter. You wouldn’t be building equity renting elsewhere, so it shouldn’t change until you guys are married. Do I think it should be 50/50? ehhh not entirely but more info is needed to round that out.
Believe me I owned a home with an ex I thought I was going to marry (and almost did). After we broke up we had to navigate the whole equity/homeowner thing and it was NOT fun. I get you want to build equity, especially if you are paying half. Did you pay half the down payment? Half the legal fees? Half the furniture? Would you?
I’ve also owned a home and had an ex (different one) live with me. He would whine about not getting equity out of it, so I told him to go rent elsewhere then. You’re not going to get equity renting anywhere else.
It’s just a bad financial move to add someone to the title who isn’t your spouse.
Thank you, I agree. The thing is, she told me that she likes sex and it's very very hot for her, but “god will give something better”. Little bit brainwashed …
Updateme!
I was married for 13 years and wouldn't let my husband use my phone, I damn sure aren't letting some guy I've been dating for 3 months use it.
Some people take their privacy seriously, and I'm one of them. That's my private space where I can Google whatever weird thing pops into my head, have personal conversations, and all of my financial and health information. Wanting to use my phone to look up a wine list is laughable to me.
Sounds like a really bad deal for you.
Additionally, ahe never chose a traditional life.
She has no concern for your problems. You should break up and not marry her.
You clearly know you’re worth more than this! You did the right thing, NEVER LOOK BACK
Well his behavior should be saying to you; “you blew it and threw everything away long ago so adios”.
Yes, tell the wife.
I mean, I had a step father who did basically this but with divorce instead of death.
My mother was the fourth in a chain of women who looked very, very similar to each other, were named Kim or some variation like Kimberly (or had that as a middle name that he called them by), same hair cut, etc.
When he knocked them up, my mother included, the boys were named after him and the girls were named after his mother.
My younger brother reconnected with him decades later and he's now on wife number nine and if I wasn't paying attention, I could totally mistake her for my mother.
Some people are just really fucking weird and have really really fucking weird lives.
You two could possibly benefit from a “safe space conversation”. Pick a place and duration of time and with all the love and compassion speak your truth! Listen to hers and settle or agree one major topic. You guys can revisit this space when need be. You love her, talk it though.
Sorry. I struggle with sarcasm and I don't like when people imply that I'm stupid or odd because of it
I can't tell you what to do, you probably better have advice from a lawyer, in this case.
I can only tell you that my brother had the same issue as you, with his ex-gf. There was a no contact order for him. She (ex-gf) then stalked him like nuts… showing up where he worked. Watching him from his apartment's parking lot, etc (I was there, I saw her then). My brother hired a lawyer and even the lawyer told him to not return any call or contact his (ex)gf despite her constant calls (like 80 to 100 calls a day) and messages threatening him that she'll harm herself if he didn't respond to her….
Then, I suppose because of his feeling for her, my brother didn't do what his lawyer told him to do…and responded to her. It took just once. She went to court with this evidence that he broke a no contact order and yeah, that just ended badly for him…
So please just don't break the no contact order. I also think that you need to hire a lawyer, you guys co-own a house, you need to be able to settle that issue… per her threat about breaking up with you if you don't answer her, this is what I say…let her break up with you.
I can't tell you what to do, you probably better have advice from a lawyer, in this case.
I can only tell you that my brother had the same issue as you, with his ex-gf. There was a no contact order for him. She (ex-gf) then stalked him like nuts… showing up where he worked. Watching him from his apartment's parking lot, etc (I was there, I saw her then). My brother hired a lawyer and even the lawyer told him to not return any call or contact his (ex)gf despite her constant calls (like 80 to 100 calls a day) and messages threatening him that she'll harm herself if he didn't respond to her….
Then, I suppose because of his feeling for her, my brother didn't do what his lawyer told him to do…and responded to her. It took just once. She went to court with this evidence that he broke a no contact order and yeah, that just ended badly for him…
So please just don't break the no contact order. I also think that you need to hire a lawyer, you guys co-own a house, you need to be able to settle that issue… per her threat about breaking up with you if you don't answer her, this is what I say…let her break up with you.
Why don’t you want to be as healthy as possible?
Sounds like this guy genuinely likes you but wants you to be healthy. What a monster
You should have known he doesn’t respect girls or women when he groomed you when you were underage. Even regardless of that, this conversation should have been had before you ever even had kids and you have failed your children horrendously by doing this assbackwards and having kids with a gross ass man. Unironically, divorce him, and get therapy anyways
That's not a healthy relationship.
She's 28yo? This continued behavior is not funny – it's mean and abusive ( and she knows better).
She failed the life partner test. Love is not a solid reason to remain with an abusive person.
It’s better to tell him now and deal with the consequences rather than waiting until you are even more invested. At least now if he can’t deal with it then you have less to lose.
No offense but f*ck them. They can play with the crackhead if they want.
This! ??
He wants to cheat on you and he wants you to be okay with it.
In that case allow me to clarify: if he does 50% he is no longer NOT disqualified from sex. 🙂
Age gap we meet again.
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So he's untrustworthy and lies to you about who he's seeing, where he's going, and that he's paying bills that affect both of your lives, and you're worried about hurting his feelings?
The only way out, without just leaving him, that I can see is to force him to solve this together. You need to take the bull by the horns and make working with the lawyers to resolve this a joint activity so you can monitor his actions and progress. Go to the lawyer's together and make him give the lawyer permission to include you on all correspondence and to contact you if husband stops working with lawyer on the issues. Continue keeping the communication open and yourself involved in the process going forward.
Also, I'm not a lawyer. But I don't know if you have any liability for his tax issues, even if you leave him, because of being married to him. This is something you need to discuss with a lawyer ASAP.
Also, if you guys have been married for 6 years then have you not been filing joint tax returns? Do you file married but separately?
But should OP have been forced to choose sides in the first place? What happened is between his dad and mom. His mom isn't respecting his independence.
Your moral absolutionist stance tells me that you are either a. a literal child or b. have never experienced anything sufficiently traumatic/challenging to grow your moral compass past that black and white phase. I used to think that all cheaters were just bad people too, and then I grew up.
That’s not to say I condone the act, because I don’t. All it means is that I recognize that human behavior is more complicated than people doing bad things because they are just fundamentally evil or something.
You are right in one respect, respect is critical in a relationship. However, if you keep setting boundaries, he breaks them and you forgive him, he will never have respect for you. He’s acting like he’s single and doesn’t care that you’re upset about it. Give him what he wants and dump him and show some respect for yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, why should anyone else?
I see you also previously posted that your girlfriend told your daughter that your daughter's relationship with you and your girlfriend is more important than your daughter's relationship with you and her mom. The wording is confusing but you obviously know what I mean having posted it yourself. She also told your daughter this behind your back.
Have you talked to your girlfriend about what she's been doing? This isn't okay at all, and trying to instill a mindset of “kids don't tell on adults” in your daughter is worrisome. That kind of language is one reason why many children who are abused by adults, especially sexually, don't inform other adults of what's happening.
Mine DOES tell me about EVERY SINGLE interaction with every single coworker lol….it's…a lot ??
Work days get so monotonous I'll sometimes tell my wife if someone in my office just sneezes a weird way.
I literally can't imagine not telling her I'm dropping off another human after work.
Hm. If she says it's not because of family pressure I don't think there's anything you can do. You cant really force someone into a relation ship…
If you go to a man’s house for a “date”, it’s very likely he will make a move. So, yes is the answer.
Do you want to sleep with him? Have you had the STD talk and been tested? Than show each other results? Have you done any sort of search for criminal record, that he’s single, and is who he says he is? After 3 dates you don’t know him so he might be a good person or not. Good luck
I saw so many red flags here and was surprised there are so many who don't.
I think those are the people who have or do behave in the same way as OP's gf.
Yikes. This is an unacceptable situation. You have said NO and she keeps pressuring you. She will end up cheating on you AGAIN. Break up with her so she can sleep around, and you can find a better girlfriend.
Maybe I will ask him to go speak to our doctor. Maybe there's something that can be done.
The colleague crush might also tell you it’s not working with your BF. If you loose interest for your BF so quickly after the start of your relationship, that’s not a good sign.
But yeah, limit your interactions with your colleague and see how it goes.
I almost want this to be an elaborate cover up because you cheated and let another girl give you a hickey… otherwise the reality is incredibly disturbing. I don't know any parent who would do that to their kid, even as a “joke” (sucking your own offspring's neck doesn't exactly fill me with chuckles). Definitely take space away from your dad, your girlfriend is right to be perturbed.
I see why your GF is upset. I can’t I again anyone wanting to be with a man who won’t stand up for himself. You’re not being a good dad or a good ex husband – you’re being a non-confrontational coward and teaching people (including your children) to treat you like shit. Stand up for yourself. Have some boundaries and self-respect.
Thank you so very much for your insight! It really helps to hear others thoughts on the situation. I appreciate the way you went about it as well. Thank you for everything!
She sent to him before she met me
Dude, this is her boundary…. let her have it. It’s her body
I’m a woman so I when I get my period it’s not comfortable or smelly. I’m not horny before or after my period. Why? Because it fuckin sucks. Especially at the end of the period. The blood smells awful (to me) because it’s old blood, it’s not even red at that point it’s almost brown. My man also doesn’t care. But you know what? I do. How am I supposed to focus on getting off when I can smell myself? Then I have to worry about someone else experiencing that.
Now she says she will have sex with you so she’s not as self conscious as you say.
So full stop, stop pressuring her when she isn’t into it. Like holy fuck you’re not entitled to give her head whenever you want. If she wants it great. Maybe she isn’t into it as much as you think.
It sounds like he actually took the time to reflect on his choices and what he wants his life to look like. I'm not particularly fond of people taking so long to figure out they made a mistake and realize they don't want to lose me from their life, but sometimes people need some time to learn and grow. Plus, it's unclear from your post but was he in a place where he HAD to work two jobs in order to make ends meet or pay for school or was this just his preference? And it's not like he's coming back years later. It's still somewhat recent.
I completely understand being wary of opening yourself up to him again. You already got hurt once when he chose to continue his life as is and lose you. I would feel the same way. I would ask him what caused this change in his mindset and what he plans to do differently this time around. Make sure he gives you concrete examples of what he's going to change and not just “I'm going to make more time for you.”
That's great and everything, but HOW is he going to make more time for you? Is he moving from two jobs to one job now that will require less hours? Is he willing to do less athletic stuff in order to give your relationship more time? If he has zero plans to adjust anything in his life then you'll end up right back where you were before and I'd tell him to take a hike until he starts taking some action to back up what he's saying about wanting his life to look different.
You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and value being with someone quality vs just being with someone to be with someone. He's obviously been thinking about you a lot over the last year and it was probably difficult for him to reach back out. If he's someone that stood out as special to you that you could possibly see a future with it might be worth it to give him another shot. That's something you'll have to reflect on and decide.
If he can give you solid examples of what he's going to do differently, I'd give him another chance and not start fresh because that's impossible, but just reset. Then, you can look at his actions and see if he actually keeps his word over time. He's going to have to earn your trust by continuing to show up.
Maybe it's a misunderstanding? Could he have thought he was drying the clothes and just ended up washing them again? And why would your husband want to wear your slippers? IDK just a possible misunderstanding here.
Agreed. Usually I don’t get onboard with the knee-jerk “end your relationship” advice Reddit typically gives. However, this sounds like a dealbreaker for both parties. I’d seriously consider allowing each other to pursue their goals independently, otherwise resentment is likely to cripple the relationship longterm.
You don’t have a girlfriend stop
Leave this poor man alone. You chose a penis buffet over a stable loving man. He doesn't need you coming back around messing with his mental health after the fact.
Find some mental health resources ASAP.
Depending on your height- the weight is probably noticeable.
Before you say something to bf- what is your end goal here? Should you be asking questions you may not like the answer to?
Stop cooking for him forever. Don't wash his clothes or shop for him or engage in gifts or plans for his family/friends. He isnt deaf ( he understands what you are asking for, he just can't be bothered. ) he's decided not to help and is resentful of you pushing for it.
Just live room mate style and do for yourself only. You'll resent him less in the long run.
You are not his mom & he's not disabled you don't have to care for him just because you care about him.
You don’t get to be mad at him. You can either be happy he hasn’t broken up with you or just leave by yourself. Break a plate – put it together, it’s still not completely whole, isn’t it?
It’s kinda sad you’re blaming him. And it’s not anxiety, it’s abuse. A lot of people have anxiety, but they don’t use their partners as a punching bags because of it. I don’t know what you expected? Say sorry and it’s all rainbows and butterflies?
You never had a friendship. You're interested in her romantically, that means your relationship isn't mutual. I wish i had learned that in my early 20s, never stay silent. Say what you want to say and if you're rejected (which you most likely will be), then you get to move on with no regrets that you never tried.
Are you sure. I can get lending less than that.
So you're just sorry she caught you. You thought apologizing would get you off the hook but it didn't. Now you're big sad you face consequences.
Welcome to adulthood
Enjoy walking on eggshells for the rest of your adult life.
I mean, yes, but that's not relevant to the question. OP has put in plenty of time one on one with the daughter, has suggested getaways for all three of them, and generally sounds more than welcoming to the daughter. That's not remotely incompatible with her getaways. If they were to get married, things might need to shift, but as it stands, BF has no right to demand his daughter is included in this one thing. I say this as a mother of three that I absolutely adore.
You’re not compatible. It’s that simple. You want a guy who goes away with you once a month or you’re going to go away by yourself once a month where you go out of contact. Losing 1/4 of weekends, which are when people who work Monday-Friday have quality time, would be a lot for me as a partner. It’s not the number of days or percentage of time away during weekends though, it’s whether it works for you both. You’re not wrong and neither is he.
My now husband and I typically take 2 big vacations a year but no way do I want to do a trip monthly. My ex wanted to go to the lake every weekend and I didn’t, hence we became exes. It’s just about compatibility.
Because you can’t seem to manage yourself, are dramatic, etc. but as others have said, none of this would have happened more than likely if you two weren’t hopped up on drugs and alcohol. And yet you don’t seem to get that either. It’s like you’re being purposefully obtuse.
Ghosting is the adult thing to do. Only children need to be consoled with fake platitudes. Adults move on when something is over.
Yeah but it’s still a old, commonly used excuse for when guys don’t want to do it. And that’s what the person is calling out. And it’s valid for them to call it out even if it wasn’t THE reason.
It reads like someone who was led to believe someone was available/potentially interested, she developed interest and emotions, she found out he wasn’t honest and is doing the right thing and seeking advice to help move past said feelings…which is reasonable considering they probably didn’t develop overnight, so despite being under false pretenses, may take time to right side, also reasonable. To suggest she should be disgusted with herself because someone lied to her, or to minimize her feelings in comparison to the wife (that she knew nothing about) is whack. The wife’s problem lies with her husband, not with the girl he was lying to.
Lots of opinions here, and this is obviously a complicated situation with personalities that can’t be painted in a post like this.
Couples Therapy is often about learning better ways to communicate. Often people say provocative things when they aren’t feeling heard or they’re holding things back, and it sounds to me like that’s what happened here.
That shit he said was hurtful, and he’s going to have to go deep to both understanding why he said it and then take time to tell you why and apologize and show how he’s working in those things in therapy. But, look, if you want to stay together, and I get the feeling you do, stay together. Work on it. He’s open to it and he needed to go low before he could be open and vulnerable enough to admit it. You’re at the doorway to change and growth right now. Walk through together and see where it takes you.
Good luck to you!
She's not with someone right currently. She deserves to find someone who is attracted to her.
it's the fork in the road,.seems she's found someone she connects with. I don't think anyone is wrong here just a life path moment.
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So I have been together with my boyfriend now for 2 years, and its all good except one thing: he keeps calling me fat and joking about my weight gain.
So I used to be 160cm/60kg but this winter I gained 10 kg, snd my boyfriend keep joking about my weight gain. At first I can accept it although it Still feels a bit hurtful but I shrug it off. But he keeps saying it and it really irritates me, so I asked him to stop, and he apologised. But that didn’t change anything he keeps saying it and joking, many times he says jokes when he saw me very hot, he would say „shall we make soap out of that?“ or „will your mon recognise you will all that?“ or „wow your legs are bigger than sumos“ and one day I just couldnt handle it and I bursted out crying, he then felt so bad about it and promised to stop. But then he keeps doing it ? and I dont know why I feel worse and worse about it. i feel like I cry about this issue every week now but he keeps doing it, but I also feel stupid to be hurt by small thing like this, but I cant help it! ?
Agreed. Hicky's are whatever. But like we've been talking for weeks and she already asked me out on a second date. I was just confused like why show up with one. It's pretty obvious.
You have to wake up. What she's telling is this. Ex was her man, he was excessive so they broke up, but he still lingers in her head. She looked for a man to settle down, she found you, there was no love nor desire, you were decent, made enough for her so she could dream about starting a family. Since you lost the decent status you see the real her. She's just using you. Move on, choose your happiness over a woman who is just using you and your resources.
I don't mean to diminish your relationship or experience with this bloke. I'm an internet stranger and I know next to nothing about you as an individual. As a 48 yr old bloke though, I'd be suss about a middle aged man, in a suit, out in a bar, getting it on with 2 girlfriends. But that's just me. Not you. I don't mean to state anything as a universal fact. Vive la difference.
I ain’t say she a gold digger…
Jk yes I am.
I don’t find this weird or a red flag at all. As long as there aren’t more things that connect him to his ex currently I would just drop it
There's… There's a lot here.
Wow. That’s pretty fucked up tbh. This is why if I get married I’m gonna separate finances as much as possible and have a prenup agreement that’s pretty carefully crafted.
And ask him what costs more, alimony or a babysitter
Tell her she can take the more expensive ticket if she can pay for it?
Or maybe involve her in the budgeting and planning so she has a better sense of the finances?
Or cancel one of the other trips?
She seems pretty entitled and not really understanding finances.
If her parents are going to actually pay for the other flight, that’s one thing. But I didn’t get that impression.
She says she wants to have sex with me. Originally she was scared of the pain but now she suddenly isn't
It's a deal breaker for me. It's disgusting. You can't live like that.
Also, if she cares more about him and having a relationship with him… Expects it to go the distance, then it only goes bad if they divorce down the road.
She gets abused so you suggest she gives her kid away. How gracious of you. The baby is actually her fourth child .
Good luck but from the sound of it the push back already came.
Their relationship hurts you. If he truly values your relationship, he would cut it off. Actions speak louder than words
I would feel even shittier about doing it if it didn't prove that what she said she was going to do wasn't true. But I do feel like if you have to prospect of spending your life with someone and have already invested so much time into a relationship 2 years.) You would want to know if you are continuing to waste your time or if your investing it.
Give her one’
Go off Twitter for a month. She’s give up looking
You may have many questions, but I only have one: are you just following me around Reddit? Is this the third thread you’ve disagreed with me on in the past like 5 hours? Do you hate me or something? Lol what’s the deal ewedirtyhoor?
I looked at your profile and you seem to be a grown adult, so I’m surprised you don’t know what I’m talking about.
No, women aren’t homing beacons. They are humans and sometimes humans communicate in ways that aren’t explicit or overt. This can include alluding, non verbal communication or suggestions, etc. this has nothing to do with being an “alpha” or whatever other alt right verbiage you want to use in an attempt to paint me as a predator or aggressive.
For example, when having sex, I may not explicitly tell a woman “I take consent very seriously”. Instead, I may continually ask her if she’s comfortable, if she wants me to continue, if she wants me to go further, if she wants me to unzip her pants, etc. I’m not being explicit with her that I take consent seriously, but I am signaling to her that I do.
See how that works?
Super ADHD here. F this. He’s delusional, and you’re enabling him. Leave this manbaby to figure his own shit out.
Came here to say this, your mum and dad ruined your relationship not you OP. You did nothing wrong and I'm really glad that your boyfriend and his mum are supportive enough to be your safe space now x
Went through something similar. It’s a pain like no other and I’m so sorry you went through this. You aren’t at fault for a damn thing. I am glad mom and bf kicked that POS out. As other commenters mentioned, definitely not the first time.
Boundaries there friend….take your keys. Explain that you are taking your car back. She can find her own way to work and it is on her to find her way to work she wants to pout? Fine. Also-she needs to contribute to the house if she’s not. You need to communicate your needs. You need privacy and to have alone time.
Probably a lack of regular sex
You need a IUD because it's the sort who think of their genetics like some royal lineage that sabotage birth control methods they can meddle with.
Or you could just find a more compatible partner.
If he was really interested in how to get it better he would seek a therapists help in order to find out, where her issue lies and what to do to help it.
Though I don't get where his issue lies, when he is stating “sex is phenomenal.”
She protects the other person. She's choosing them vs her life partner.
And after the second time (her not trusting you by listening to someone else) it's evidence that she had some deep mental/emotional issue that prevents her from fully trusting and committing to you.
At a minimum I suggest you take a break (zero contact) to think about this behavior.
Once married and kids – you are stuck with this BS. A parent, friend, or her own head doesn't make it better.
Actually a deal breaker if it's a parent or friend because they are a permanent source of toxic advice driving a wedge into your marriage.
Confess and say after these few weeks you have feelings for her but since you’re fresh out of a relationship you don’t want to turn this into a rebound. Be transparent and go from there.
He's already really destroyed my self esteem, and it's been very hot for me to try to build it back up.
He just came downstairs and apologized saying he's sorry he hurt my feelings, but I noticed he says sorry alot and never really stops his behavior/calling me hurtful things.
Thank you
You’re wife comes first if you want to stay married.
This comment makes it seem like you view sex between two women as “not real sex” since you’re asking the people you date to just ignore the fact that it happened. The fact is, if you are still friends with a bunch of people you’ve hooked up with, that’s going to raise a lot of red flags for someone who doesn’t have the same relaxed view of sex than you. It sounds like you and your bf are incompatible in this department, especially since he just admitted he doesn’t see you as wife material. I think you would be better served to find someone that has similar views as you on sex.
Also too, I forgot to put that in post I will now but the reason was cuz her and friend were on call messing around.
I don't think you should assume that you did “something wrong” or “annoyed him”.
I would let it go, try to have a good weekend on your own or with other friends, and text again next week if he doesn't text you before then.
Brother or not, if your Significant Other drops you out of events in favor of someone else without telling you, there is a Serious Problem.
YOU are not being respected or valued.
No matter what is happening between brother and sister (it sounds “suspicious
Oop .o.
Abusers know perfectly well how their actions make you feel. That's why they are doing them.
He's not gonna learn in a week. That's unrealistic.
any examples im bad at this?
Leave her alone and never try to contact her again. Rest assured blocking you was probably the closure she needed. For yourself, try writing a letter to her (never to be sent), saying everything you want to say to her. Hopefully that will give you some closure. I emphasize again, if you do write the letter, never send it. It’s for yourself only.
Were you on birth control? Did he use a condom? 4 months is way too short of a relationship to bring an unexpected child into…
Honestly, is just ignore it. Don't give him any attention for it or even any acknowledgement, but don't stop asking him to do things.
Then you need to accept it’s over and put boundaries in your life! It’s time to work on yourself and do what is necessary to not face the same situation again. Being there for your family is a thing but you can’t took all responsibility when your siblings obviously don’t care and wait for you to do everything. Support your mother as you can because she was always their but that’s it. Choose you,creat a better healthy life and maybe one day you will meet someone
Also yes. Give up on him, give up on you two being together, you don’t have to feel guilty about that, he’s the one who wants a different arrangement.
Sounds like he just developed a bad habit.
You say he still does the chores, he's just making noises while doing them. He's not making excuses to not do them.
I know several people who grund every time they get up or something similar. I wouldn't interpret too much into this, as long as the stuff gets done.
OP do this because once you do, they won't bother trying again, promise!
He'll be embarrassed.
What a dick!
Maybe tell her just that. rip it off like a band aid. explain you have tried every way you know to help her and nothing is working. express your loss of physical attraction.
Do it together … I’m a skinny do and struggle working out . So it’ll be a struggle at first for her to commit but Do it together . 3- days out the week Yall do the same workouts , make it fun & bonding like , treat yourselfs get on TikTok maybe & get a community on there they love to support shit like that . Overall is it’s not just her journey , you love her & y’all are Together ? It’s Y’all Journey Now
I sincerely wish you all the best OP. As for the topic at hand, I don't feel like there's anything I can say, which has not been said. Although I will say to ignore some people & their crazy comments. Yes, you may have areas that need improvement, but some of these comments have just been baffling. I can't wrap my head around some of them. It's is not appropriate to have one on one dates/ hang out sessions with the opposite sex , given what seems to be going on. The fact that she called it something it wasn't is disrespectful. You don't deserve that. Some of these people are like you need to do this & that? I think they actually feel if she would trip & fall on his lap, it would be justifiable. It's not! Have a serious talk with her about boundaries & your feelings, bc they are valid, they matter!
You don't give a romance novel to a married coworker with young children.
End of story
you guys do realize that this is a kink, that people have, it isn't something I'm pulling out my ass, saying all women don't like big dicks is you two just being delusional, everyone has something's they like and don't like
Girl what the fuck. Like if you're even asking yourself “is this abusive?” like THAT'S the bar? Like you'll only leave if it's fully abusive, but short of that you're cool with it? Come the fuck on. Expect better