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If you really have to marry, wait at least until you're 30+. Of course her decisions revolve around you because she doesn't have any dreams. Cybersec is very cool. Pursue that. Personally i'm never gonna marry and i'm mid 30s but in my country, marriage is rather the exception than a rule and women are not expecting it. But think if you're willing to pay a lot of money a month ´when (not if) she divorces you.
I grew up with Everyman I knew in my life cheating on their wives/gfs I guess it was just so common for me growing up. My own dad had a mistress, and child outside of marriage.
I’ve never really dated so I don’t have much of my own experience with romance really just sexually
Hmm your concern is valid but for more clear understanding I would like to gather some more data, such as her Instagram account
Suggest an abortion at this time, and even if she don’t go along with it, you should begin packing your bags as we speak
I know bro I feel the same way, it is just a lame excuse of them to assume we are insecure. My advice is to have one more good talk about this and if she clearly doesn't want to accept it, you should cut ties or accept it brother. Because controlling isn't going to do any good, especially later in the relationship.
Damn you are really just too far gone, to even argue with. So sure, you keep thinking that?
OP, try having individual, on-line counseling to think this through with a professional.
This is my own take- for what it is worth: It sounds like your wife has coped with the difficulty of having a disabled child by becoming the indispensable expert on his care. That is pretty common when a kid is that level of disabled. If she is going to have to change her life this much to care for him, she needs to feel that it is worth it. She needs to be the only one who can soothe him, or the one who makes the most sacrifice for him because then, maybe it is worth it. Even if you are also an expert, she is the “uber” expert and has taken on this identity.
She is choosing her role as his care-giver over her role as your wife but she may not know it. She may feel like a martyr or like she is being rejected herself. The sleeping thing is a good example- this happens to alot of parents of kids disabled or not. It is harder to train a child to sleep by themselves than to comfort them by sleeping next to them, at least in the moment. For most kids, this solves itself. For some though, it never ends. If parents have some difficulty between them, it becomes even more tempting for one parent to sleep in the child's room.
This is going to take some work and you can only do so much. Telling a professional and getting some advice on how to bring this up so she is more likely to hear it would be the first step I can think of. Other actions you can take would be to find out what services there are for short term respite care in your area. Often there are places that provide respite care for people in your situation. You could also join an online or local real life support group for parents of disabled kids. Good luck, OP. It sounds very lonely but I can think of at least a few things you can do.
I tried to do this, but the photos that appear to have been downloaded from snapchat don't have the phone details in the properties the way other photos do. It just shows “Backed up from iOS”
Woot woot! All is well that ends well! All you needed to do is have an honest conversation with.
No hair picking that I’ve ever seen her do. She does pop pimples while doing her plucking, but she’s never picked up the tweezers to just pop pimples. I’ll certainly remember the “I” statements when it comes up again. Getting into couples therapy would be a great starting point too.
No,man.If she truly loved you and cared about your feelings she wouldn't have done it to you.
Record him next time he signs his disgusting pedo song. Look into getting self defence classes and if you can’t do that look at self defence videos on-line. Please tell your school counsellor what is happening at home. You are in danger and your mother is enabling it. Your mother has failed you as a parent. I am sorry that she has put you in danger. You deserve safety and support not the hell your mother has married. Learn how to physically defend yourself. If you can look into getting a job or join clubs and other activities that will keep you out of the home as much as possible.
Don't respond, he deserves nothing, don't waste your time.
My point still stands. Very convenient for a man in his late 20s that he has a ~guilt free relationship with a 20 year old
thank you i will consider it ?
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Two problems. One is living with them. You do need to establish yourselves as a separate household.
Second, your bf’s value system is based probably on socioeconomics. Picture them behaving the same way suiting in a Mediterranean villa sitting on $3 billion net worth flying you guys in every time. He would probably treat them as quirky old world Europeans that he would respect.
You have decisions to make here.
Just date his brother instead he seems nice and not a petty douchebag
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You’ve been together over 6 years? Has she always done this ?
Sadly many. I was told I’d be better off putting him in foster care because I had cancer.
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nah that isn’t necessarily the answer at all, maybe she just doesn’t want the pressure of having to please someone else or maybe she enjoys being able to do it for herself. the fact she does it in bed next to him makes me assume she finds him sexy otherwise she could just go somewhere else and never have to deal with a sexual situation
Thank youuuuu. ?
Yes, this is just silly. 300% silly.
You’re also break dancing on ice at the edge of a large cliff. The likelihood of social dismemberment or death is now wildly higher than it was before. Block and disappear from her life.
I would be out immidiately
News flash… your both gay
If you continue this relationship, you are signing up for persistent religious harassment. Think carefully about that.
Culture and religion will always be an issue no matter how accepting you are. That doesn't mean cross cultural or interreligious relationships can't work. But denial does not serve them well. Both these things offer many additional issues for a couple to navigate in order to succeed.
Parents who are rigid about their faith and/or culture will cause problems. It can be any religion and any culture. This happens with all of them. Some people are fundamentalist and unable to tolerate differences. Those people do not make good inlaws and will cause serious problems for you.
It feels like a lot for any guy to have to go through. I just don’t know why she wants me to do this stuff for my boyfriend. It’s just weird he was away for a day and a half and she wants me to get him balloons, candy, etc like damn it was just a day and a half he wasn’t fighting in a war
What can I do? Why is he being like this?
He's an alcoholic. You cannot force someone into sobriety and this dynamic will only continue or worsen. Get out as soon as you can and seek support.
We aren't you snuggling your wife and baby? This seems the easy solution for night time cuddling issues. Just cuddle both of them. If you are expecting to get sex 2/3 times a day anytime soon you are delusional
HE IS NOT A NICE PERSON
if he took a woman off the street, handcuffed her to stop her going to university would you think he's a nice person? No.
He did it to someone who trusted him – making it a violation of trust as well as a crime.
Stop listening to your mother. I can hear from your post that you want her to support you and be less critical. However you don't have that type of mother, she is clearly wanting you not to leave and experience the world, stay at home and be just like her and fulfill whatever role you are in right now, possibly scapegoat child given her comments, (key word “scapegoat child” for futher research).
You are going to have to strengthen your resilience and independence and do whatever you need to do without the backing of your mother, even going home may well be mentally draining for you. If you have other people in your life that can be your supporter or that you can work with to fulfill that role for you then that would be great, your mother is not going to be that person no matter how much you want her to be.
We cannot change the people around us, or what you are going to get from them. If is it negative then you have to learn to block it out, look elsewhere for your needs and understand eventually that they don't have control over what they can offer either, they are as much a product of their upbringing as you are. You seem to have some more self awareness but as someone who has worked on their independence I do know it is very hot to accept that they will never be able to love you and be nice to you the way you would be to your children.
I was saved by kind grandparents who did show unconditional love and acceptance and I hope you have or find someone in your life to show that to you as you should have that.
Whatever your path, if you believe you can do it and you have the opportunity then do it no matter what she says, she is going to be scared of the world and you being in it, that doesn't mean you have to apply her standards to your life.
The end goal isn't to go to university, it is to get life experience and the qualifications that are required for the job you want to do. So if there is something you want to do then go for it.
Stop listening to your mother. I can hear from your post that you want her to support you and be less critical. However you don't have that type of mother, she is clearly wanting you not to leave and experience the world, stay at home and be just like her and fulfill whatever role you are in right now, possibly scapegoat child given her comments, (key word “scapegoat child” for futher research).
You are going to have to strengthen your resilience and independence and do whatever you need to do without the backing of your mother, even going home may well be mentally draining for you. If you have other people in your life that can be your supporter or that you can work with to fulfill that role for you then that would be great, your mother is not going to be that person no matter how much you want her to be.
We cannot change the people around us, or what you are going to get from them. If is it negative then you have to learn to block it out, look elsewhere for your needs and understand eventually that they don't have control over what they can offer either, they are as much a product of their upbringing as you are. You seem to have some more self awareness but as someone who has worked on their independence I do know it is very hot to accept that they will never be able to love you and be nice to you the way you would be to your children.
I was saved by kind grandparents who did show unconditional love and acceptance and I hope you have or find someone in your life to show that to you as you should have that.
Whatever your path, if you believe you can do it and you have the opportunity then do it no matter what she says, she is going to be scared of the world and you being in it, that doesn't mean you have to apply her standards to your life.
The end goal isn't to go to university, it is to get life experience and the qualifications that are required for the job you want to do. So if there is something you want to do then go for it.
He is completely fine with masterbation which is what makes it so weird as I don’t see the difference
and I hope S is as well.
It's just sleepy sex! Tell him you're not into it. Or get into it! Nice way to wake up.
He didn't persist when you moved him away, if you've been together 8 months none of this sounds weird.
Okay well, you can do both?
It sounds like your gf is willing to move around with you for a few years, so that's good. Go explore other places! If she wants to eventually settle in Family City, what does that look like to her? Is she thinking in two years or 10?
Is that when you have kids? Does she want kids? do YOU want kids? Because settling for 10-15 years in a big (hopefully interesting and diverse) city with plenty of family might be a good thing when children are happening.
Then again, if you REALLY don't want to on-line in Family City under any circumstances, then, well. You two are not compatible with your life goals.
At first blush this seems like a deal-breaker (it would be for me) but maybe talk about it more and see where you get.
Good luck OP.
He wasn't complicit in excluding her. He had no choice in the matter. He could have told her that she was excluded. It may have cost him his job had he done so.
That's the problem though. We don't know that either. And OP hasn't provided enough information for us to know, (probably because she doesn't know). If she worked with these people as closely as she says and she was the only one excluded then I would hope the others would also have questioned her exclusion, even if they weren't in a relationship with her. As to why the partner didn't tell her, yes there are a number of reasons why he might not have. But one of those could be because he's an asshole. We just don't know.
This girlfriend of yours either has some mental health issues or she’s extremely immature. You cared for your disabled sister in a way that many people would not be able to in fact as a 37 year old I probably couldn’t to that so hats off to you sir. Your girl has major issues if she’s managed to turn this into a problem for her she sounds like a very immature self centred child. Don’t change for her.
But when you say cuddle what do you mean, and when would be to far or what would be weird to you
Yes exactly, I wasn't snooping was just using to google and saw the searches below and thought “no way she would actually be watching this stuff” and had to make sure.
Wow, another out of touch person.
First of all, what proof do you or the OP have that the ex would be doing something like that?
Even if that has or does happen, the OPs mom or family members can think for themselves and come up to their own conclusions on whether what is being discussed is in fact true, or fabrications from a jilted ex partner.
I had a good relationship with one of my ex BFs mom and dad. They helped me through difficult family times (my home life was a nightmare). Over the years we would catch up with life and how things were going. My ex and I were cordial and there was no bad feelings towards each other. I would ask how he was getting on with his degree etc. and they would say he’s doing great and doing work at XYZ (a good profession) and I was genuinely happy for him.
After I had my kids they would love hearing about my young family life and how my hubby and I were doing etc.
In essence, I can understand if the OP has concerns the ex would be saying false things to make him look bad, but why? The “why” of it speaks to me of major insecurities and that’s something he needs to work on to overcome, AND express to his mom his concerns.
Depending on how they ended (amicable or not) whatever the circumstances whatever the ex would like to meet for coffee over is none of his business. Even if she wants to talk poorly about him- yes, it’s true. It’s none of his business what she thinks of him, it speaks to her character and who she is as a person.
Sorry OP, but I agree with the majority of people I’ve seen saying you should seek counselling to work on yourself and your insecurities. Think about how your ex got along with your mom, was it pleasant and light hearted? Chances are, their reason for agreeing to get coffee originally doesn’t have anything to do with you.
Stop getting into the thinking patterns of doom and gloom, it’s not doing you any favours. You don’t have to like they occasionally talk I guess, but this isn’t a boundary you get to enforce because as I see it, it is none of your business and has nothing to do with you.
I get that it is easier to take swipes at me but I am not your boyfriend.
Direct your anger in a sensible and healthy way.
My pet rabbit chewed all the buttons off my remote control one time. That sucked.
Lmao does this sub fucking look like r/funny to you
Why pay someone to fix your relationship while you can do it yourself for free. communication is key. So use it.
Dude she spoke to you once, you immediately asked her out, she laughed at you and you touched her shoulder. You sound like a creepy fuck. Leave the poor girl alone because if you’re noticing her “looking at you” that means you’re absolutely looking at her and you need to quit that shit.
What area do you on-line in? Some places in the US, if a couple divorces because of cheating, the cheater is SCREWED if they think they're getting anything out of the divorce.
You know what you want and deserve in life OP. You do what makes you happy. Looks like your BF's priorities have changed. For better or worse…
She’s sick. If she had an infection, she’d need antibiotics. She has an eating disorder and she’s depressed. Anger is often sadness turned inside out. Psychiatrist and a therapist. For her sake.
An easy way to avoid the green if you don’t want to tell him is to get some clear nail Polish and paint around the inside of the ring with it, on the part that makes contact with your skin. That will stop the green colour.
I love how he turned his issue into your issue. You're dating a narcissist and they will sucks the soul out of you. Please leave this person. He doesn't love you.
I wouldn't give up my animals for anyone, ever. I also think it's really early to be talking about moving in, given that there's a child involved. Wait until you're well past the honeymoon phase to see if you're still stable before you let the kid get too attached.
Yeah don't sleep or have a kid with a cheater. I'm sorry but there is no fixing this. Definitely a deal breaker imo
Why haven't you blocked him? Why are you still receiving and reading his messages? You're leaving yourself connected after fully detailing why you never should have been connected with him in the first place.
Block him on everything. You're somewhat isolated from him being in a “Semi long distance” situation, but your first step is to, you know, stop leaving yourself open to him. I've never read such a strange situation where a person is clearly unattracted to someone in multiple ways but dates them anyway. Then refuses to use the simplest tool available to them: THE BLOCK FEATURE.
Knock this shit off OP. Don't date guys you don't like. Don't let those guys you don't like constantly message you, and don't read those guys' messages after you've, for some reason, decided to let them continue messaging you. If he decides to show up and cause a scene, well you can call the police at that point. Your mom is already on your side with the restraining order, so you can go down that route if you need to.
People who aren’t assholes are good in bed and they’re not your current partner.
If you like the other person call, text, reach out!! Listen to your gut not your idiot friends. People who are interested in you will want a call and to talk. My now husband called me every single day while we were dating. The calls went always long, sometimes just a 5 minute conversation. It showed me he was interested and he got laid because of it. Being standoffish will be felt by the other person who is going to think you aren't interested or are just rude.
OP, you're not being an asshole, you just phrased your concerns poorly.
This is something that needs to be talked about. Sex is supposed to be fulfilling and intimate for the both of you, not a chore in which she just lays there and waits for you to finish up so that she can uphold the bare minimum.
I will say, that her immediate answer to this being stonewalling, anger, and leaving the situation, is super unhealthy. It really shows that sex is still something that bothers her greatly and she is not over her trauma imo. That or she just has poor emotional regulation.
You'll need to talk to her again, but make sure that you frame the concerns in an honest and complete way. Heck, showing her the text in this post, or telling her what you told us, might help here. You laid out the actual problems quite well, but maybe try to deliver with a bit more kindness and understanding.
You're in an environment where she seeks your help and is comfortable with that touching in that context. Don't be the creep that makes girls question why they have guy friends. Be her friend. If she wants more, she'll text you outside of the gym or give you some other indicator. It sucks that women can't just be nice to a guy or have a guy friend who isn't biding their time to try and fuck them.
I agree with you, but the man seems to not want to be serious even without the baby. He’s not trying to grow up with OP
Okay thanks needed to hear this.
Get yourself tested before doing anything without a condom with your bf. Sometimes it takes 6 months for a good test result.
Break up with him, he doesn’t deserve this. And then you can fuck whoever you want.
Talk to your family. Be open & honest with them, show them this post. Let them support you.
Don’t fall for the sunk-cost fallacy.
If, by chance, your family still wants you to marry him, then meet with vendors to see if you can change days or get refunds. Get your parents back as much money as possible. Then do what is right for you: pause, cancel, whatever. When you can, pay the remainder to your parents.
It's Ireland, no one's tipping for a pint in the pub
It depends on the person, if my best friend slept with my brother I’d definitely be upset. But I don’t think it would be okay to bring that drama to your mutual friends and everything?
She is extremely addicted but thats not your problem anymore, block her and move, its over.
People with ADHD often have trouble forming healthy habits, something that requires discipline. However, addiction requires the opposite of that, so the idea that having ADHD somehow protects you from being a full blown addict is terribly naive imo.
Inconsistent behavior can just mean: “taking this drug often but at irregular intervals”. And when someone finds a substance that just clicks for them, that's gonna be very hot to let go.
Based on your descriptions so far I think your bf has a problem. Coke works, and that's the issue. Because it's easy for him to fall into the trap of thinking he's actually solving a problem this way. And now he's starting to lose control but he's not ready to face that.
I would really think about what want from your life and what role illegal drugs play in that. And then think about what future you want with him and wheter he can provide his part in that.
I used to also be pretty terrible with cleaning my living space, and saving money, but when I met my now partner of 8 years, I wanted the relationship to work so I decided to learn to be more tidy and considerate of the living space. Now, I happen to love cleaning and I spend a bit of every day tidying my living space. And, for the first time in my life, I actually have a bit in savings.
Basically, what I’m saying is that its not worth it to nuke an entire relationship over qualities that can be improved over time. If you’ve brought up these issues before and she refused to change, then I get wanting to end the relationship. But if you both really like each other, then you both should give each other the opportunity to prove yourselves to one another by working on your less than ideal attributes.
You’d be surprised
she felt insecure of me going out because of things that I have done/have happened in the beginning of our relationship (which I really don’t understand why she doesn’t move on from)
Kind of burying the lede there, huh. Can we really hope to give you accurate advice if you aren't even being clear about the real problems?
Because you frame it as if she is just controlling or paranoid. But it seems like you beat that into her with your actions and you've now compounded it with not just the lies, but the sequence of increasingly absurd lies, one that if it succeeded would have put a strain on her friendship as well. Just a truly, bafflingly selfish approach to take and not for the first time in your dynamic either.
She will need to decide for herself how she feels. In some ways I hope she walks away after she sees that this dynamic has honestly just made you both worse people. And I hope you reflect on the kind of person you are right now as well.
Thank you! I genuinely from the bottom of my heart feel that what I have with him is one-of-a-kind, and I'd regret it forever if I lost him. I think things can be improved on, and as you say, a huge part of the situation is due to health reasons that were out of his control for a long time. He only got the surgical fix in the last two years, so I know there's still room to improve with some more time
Thank you! I genuinely from the bottom of my heart feel that what I have with him is one-of-a-kind, and I'd regret it forever if I lost him. I think things can be improved on, and as you say, a huge part of the situation is due to health reasons that were out of his control for a long time. He only got the surgical fix in the last two years, so I know there's still room to improve with some more time
Thanks for this perspective. Been second and third guessing myself over this. Just wanted to know if I was being in the wrong for feeling the way I am. Getting my ish together as we speak…
Our culture greatly stresses the involvement of family in our marriages. I want my family to be involved in our marriage and they want to be involved as well . I just don’t want my father to be part of it but if he doesn’t approve, the rest of my family cannot participate in good faith which is why my fiancé wants me to talk to him ….
I'm not calling him a perv. I'm saying that OP implied that he is a perv. By saying the she was “judging him heavily” by the average age of girls at a Taylor Swift concert, she's implying that a grown man has no place at a concert predominantly patronized by young underage women.
The use of the word “judging” can be viewed as particularly harsh; the only people who await judgment are in court. Judging also implies finality.
Most men(myself included) won't go near or talk to a child that is not his in fear of being arrested over a misunderstanding, carrying a stigma that never goes away.
Judging(court). 15 year old girls(underage). Is it really that much of a reach in your mind?
She's the same person that lied to him yesterday and the 7,299 days before that, who is the same person that cheated.
Cheating and lying aren't mistakes they're choices. Every single day she didn't come clean was a choice and every day she chose to lie is a day she chose to be the same person when she was 18.
Now u/callmemuddled is gonna tell us how therapists should be. Lmao reddit is a joke.
As a therapist, I can tell you it depends on your specific field, and location. Like I said in another comment, the state licensing board would be able to help you determine that.
Thou shalt not poop where you eat And thou shalt not covet thy neighbor
You're mistaking 'normal' and 'common'. Snoring is common, but it's not normal. It's a sign of irregular or obstructed breathing.
You're 20 years old, and have only been “together” for 5 months.
Let it go. They aren't worth your effort.
Fair enough!
This right here.
This right here.
What was your living situation?
How were you supporting yourself? And most importantly, can you go back?
Please please leave him.
No man who does this is going to trust you.
No man who does this will ever be fine with you having a life outside of the relationship.
This is controlling behavior.
He cannot find people his own age to date because he needs to control them.
These types of relationships can end with the controlled party (in this case you) unalived.
Please, run.
“You're so mature for your age.” – Every old dude trying to fuck a 20 year old ever
I couldn't keep going with her. I'd be afraid she is poking holes in condoms or lie about taking birth control. You're already not having vaginal sex because it's probably in your head too. How can you be with someone who you can't trust and walks all over your boundaries.
This sounds very hot, OP
First, yes, it’s normal for people to want space at times of stress.
And, it’s normal for you to want regular time with your bf.
Gently, OP, it’s not ok to keep asking someone who has said ‘no’ to do something for you that they didn’t want to do. You asked, he said no, you offered an alternative (that’s usually ok) and he said no again. You wanted to spend time with him but he wanted to be alone and see you next week. It’s normal to dislike that, but it’s more grown to say, “Ok. I don’t like that you’re deprioritizing time for us. But I’ll see you later.” Accept the ‘no’ and move on with finding something else to do with your day. Pressuring him into seeing you isn’t ok and will breed resentment.
If he’s not able or willing to make the minimum amount of time you need in a relationship, it’s ok to acknowledge that and decide to break up with him.
Stop!! Are you color blind? She is dropping red flags left and right surly you are tripping over them. Open your eyes every red flag is a stop and think about this behavior. You need to stop and really sit down and think about this.