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I understand wanting to spend Christmas with your husband. But it’s never been a priority before, so why is it a priority now? He always spends Christmas with his family, and you with yours. But now that you’re back, his plans need to evolve all around you? He invited you to his sisters. You said no. Because you “can’t fake a smile” because you’re too upset that he didn’t rearrange all of his plans for you. Well obviously seeing him for Christmas isn’t that important to you either if you couldn’t bring yourself to be included in the plans that were already made.
You’re having a pity party right now. I get it, you’re hurt. But instead of blaming his sister for everything, maybe take a look in the mirror. You’re refusing to go to his sister’s house because it would make you unhappy. So he’s refusing to cancel plans because that would make HIM unhappy. Instead of trying to compromise or come up with a solution, he’s automatically in the wrong for keeping the plans he had already made? With his family? On Christmas? That you were INVITED TO??!
You’ve literally refused to answer several questions that others have asked you. You refuse to elaborate, say things like “it’s complicated” and “Reddit wouldn’t understand” but you’re literally asking for advice on Reddit, and refusing to give further details when asked. I’m sorry, but you honestly sound like a nightmare. It sucks that you’re alone on Christmas, but honestly that’s entirely on you.
C; sending them back is a form of contact. Don’t acknowledge anything and keep moving on.
If I were to give my most charitable interpretation, she might have purchased these gifts before you broke up and thought to send them anyway. In that case, she wouldn’t care about contact, she just didn’t want them to go to waste.
At worst, she’s trying to manipulate you into getting back in contact. Don’t fall for it (if you don’t want to).
Yeah, you know the answer here before you posted… this guy is a complete AH, he's no your boyfriend he's a fuck buddy without the buddy part, he doesn't care for you, your loss or your feelings you are merely a spunk container…
Walk away, get through your grief, cry buckets, look at pictures of your mum, remember the good times, it will get easier, not today or tomorrow or even next week but you will cry less and smile more. You will still have times when you want to cry because you miss her, let it all out. There is no magic cure to grief,
??? Leave this guy.
You aren’t compatible. She doesn’t like it and you’re asking her to do something she doesn’t want to do. So stop.
True love doesn’t come by easily and it sounds like you and your bf have a good thing going. Your parents will either learn to accept it or they won’t. It’s unfortunate your parents are so racist but that’s their problem not yours. I feel your parents would eventually come around. This is your chance to show your parents they cannot guilt or manipulate you into doing what they want. This may be an opportunity to open their eyes of the error of their racist ways eventually. Either way make a decision – don’t keep your bf around if you’re unsure of what you want as that’s unfair to him! Wishing you the best.
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You need to pack up and move back to your family, and to be near your support network. Can you go and stay with them for a while?
Your fiancé's family don't seem to be very welcoming to you or understanding of your medical needs, and this doesn't bode well for the future.
Your fiancé's brother and his partner seem to be trying to get him away from you (are you invited to this cruise?) and I think you should consider what that means.
And we’re back to her original complaint that he never puts effort into gifts. If all you want is his money to spend, don’t complain that he doesn’t make occasions magical.
It’s his responsibility to find a way to stay in the US. He probably has a lawyer, an employer, or an agency managing his current visa. They have the network and resources to help him with his options.
Do not commit visa fraud because he’s nice. There will be legal and financial repercussions if you are caught. It’s also not just signing a contract and all of a sudden he has citizenship or sponsorship. The process is expensive and can take years. You will be financially and legally responsible for him if you were to sponsor him. It’s unfathomable to me that you’d take this on for someone you’re not truly in a relationship with and planning for a long term future together.
You know why, you have identified all your issues so try to get those things under control first. Seems like your self esteem is the biggest problem you have, so maybe start there. Pick a therapist that gets you and is going to help outlining a treatment to follow up with. How should we know what therapists you have seen and what you need to work on, you know this better and clearly you need more of it. Either way you seem to be struggling way too much, you hurt your partner and now trying to backtrack. The sentiment is – fix yourself before you attempt a relationship. That's a good starting point. No relationships for you for a while until you fox the relationship with yourself.
What a weird take as a blanket stance to take. People definitely have red flags on first dates and I think more people ignore red flags rather than analyze them. OP might be one of the few that's jumping the gun. I see a lot of waving red flags galore that people question if it's bad or not when it obviously is. Women especially put themselves on dangerous situations by not picking up on behavior that is preluding to criminal characteristics.
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Awesome, you found a special boy with a special drinking problem! Is this something you want to live with? bc you are not going to be able to ‘fix’ him – I’m speaking directly to your life inexperience here. Find a better partner. Better yet, stay single and work on yourself.
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“I've canceled our therapy appointment. I just don't think you're worth it. Here are the divorce papers, I'd like to be done with this as soon as possible.”
No combination of words will magically make him give a shit. There is nothing you can say or do to make your husband a good person. He's just a creepy 27 year old dude chasing after a 21 year old coworker. You should be disgusted with him.
Listen to this. If you plan on staying together forever then there is not much different from getting married or not. Might as well do it. Your fears of getting married are no different than they should be not getting married. If you break up, it's going suck either way. I lived with my gf for 8 years and when we broke up it was like starting life completely over. You're not going to escape that by not getting married.
I never expected anyone to tell me I was right. I know I'm wrong for what I've done.
No, you did not fuck up here. He’s showing jealousy over a celebrity crush. Run away now. If you stay with this guy, pretty soon he’ll be saying he’s uncomfortable with other dudes even looking at you and accusing you of cheating.
Three months is way too soon to be saying anything like “I love you” in a romantic way.
Let him go be insecure and jealous with someone else.
Pranks are never meant to be innocent fun IMO as someone has to be the brunt of these “jokes”. Your boyfriend sounds like he has a mean streak.
I would leave it alone
She seems pressured. But not that interested
U tried and were nice. So just leave it. If she wants to, she’ll reach out for before sunday
This is not in any way, shape or form “something so small.” This is a HUGE DEAL. Your boyfriend's brother tried to take advantage of you in a disgusting way. Tell your boyfriend and his mother what the brother did. Tell the brother and mother that their stay has now ended, and if they don't want to go home they are welcome to rent a hotel nearby, but they can no longer stay with you.
If your boyfriend sides with his brother over you, then I'm sorry but you need to break up with him. The age gap and timeline with you and your boyfriend is already questionable; if he can't have your back 100% in this scenario, then he is not a good man and you deserve better.
Thanks I agree
I don't think that a 16 year old dating a 24 year old is in any way a good idea but it's unfortunately so so normalized in some places that reacting like the guy is going after 10 year olds is just not going to work in that context. Like you said, it's actually not illegal in many places.
People have started applying the word 'grooming' to any relationship with a sus age difference but that's literally not what the word means… though I suspect that battle may be lost by now.
something can be potentially a terrible idea but it seems so often like people on this site want to all prove they can have the loudest reaction – not the one that will be the most helpful.
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Not here to comment on what you should or shouldn’t do. But in many states, a paternity test is required by the hospital. You may have to submit to one regardless. Clearly you don’t have trust in your relationship. Whether you get a paternity test or not really is not the issue.
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I think you need to have an honest discussion with your boyfriend and tell him how you really feel. You may find that this could bring you closer together or you may find that this is the end of the relationship.
However, either way you will have a clearer idea with what decision you want to make.
Every reason she has is valid.
What a strange statement. You literally have no idea what her reason is.
Her reason could be that she is or wants to have sex with someone else.
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Cut ties with the friend. They are not a positive person for your relationship.
He shares stories about how good he is? …where are the bodies?!
I've got one. I'm in Canada.
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I thought I had done just that as well as downvoting…
thanks. he is totally valid to be upset about what i did bc i didn’t tell him i messaged the friend. i just personally felt like i needed to message for myself? if that makes sense bc i wanted to say goodbye.
Happy new year!
You should start off by getting out of that relationship, speaking as someone who would probably be ok in your position, AS LONG AS THAT WAS THE DYNAMIC AGREED UPON WITH MY PARTNER. Otherwise yeah thats a pretty lame excuse, “everyone was doing it it’s tradition lol” uhhh ok but why not kiss that wonderful grandmother in the corner on the cheek, or if it’s not a family gathering, let the couples kiss, and mingle with the singles. That’s a wtf and the reasoning was bullshit
I wish you a fresh new year and I promise you, if it’s something you don’t feel ok with there’s someone else out there for you! Stay strong, take it in stride and move on with new vigor.
I have never seen a non-hetero relationship post stuff like that here. And if the boyfriend here has not earned her trust after all that time – again. Break up. And how do you earn trust? By not cheating? Reminds me of a childrens story. Girl gets told to be aware to not fall down the cliff, so she goes extra close to the cliff to practise not falling down. If I enter a relationship I trust my partner and I expect trust from them. “Yes we can be together but you first have to work to earn my trust”. I don't enter a relationship on a “Guilty until proven innocent” basis.
Hire a PI to investigate?! Why?! Just break up and move on.
They are both yellow. B is very yellow.
Oh heck no
Duh. You just said in another comment that your KIDS love your gf and her family. So it is NOT 100% long distance.
This isn't rocket science how your wife found out.
News Flash: Kids go back to your Ex and share what they did while with you. They can't love your gf and her family unless theily interact with them.
You are being intentionally vague or very obtuse. You need to edit your post to say that it is not 100% long distance. People are literally asking you how your kids even know about your gf if you are in a long distance relationship… becauee by definition, she would not be in town.
Yeah, all these people who are saying you should put the dog down because it “killed in cold blood” are forgetting it's an animal. Would they say the same about a cat who killed a bird?
Your not overreacting at all. Balance of probabilities: you need to just leave him.
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Yeah you’re right. I don’t think I really realised the severity of the situation until writing this out on here and getting outsiders opinions
Yes, you have said this same thing several times. I have given the best advice I can give. What is it that you still don't understand?
You don’t need to give him an ultimatum, you need to recognize his behavior as abusive. It’s a different form than your ex’s, but it’s still controlling and devaluing you. Just because you don’t think it’s “that bad” doesn’t mean it’s okay. Stop taking those excuses. Being cussed at for falling asleep during a movie? That’s not okay. Please seek some help and consider seriously what your future would be like with him. Just move on.
It feels like you checked out of this marriage & trying to reconcile for the sake of your child.
Might be a red flag that his preferences are set to include girls that much younger than him. Honestly, when I was 24 I considered everyone under 21 to be off limits, and if I ever saw a guy dating teenagers (because technically, yes you're a teenager) I would run in the opposite direction.
Not to say that the relationship wouldn't work, but it is very important to ensure that you're not putting yourself in a situation to be groomed.
Someone mentioned discussing past relationships and this is a great idea. “What's the longest relationship you've been in?” Is one of my favorite things to ask, follow-up with “and why didn't things work out?”
You should both block her number and all of her social media. There is no reason for her to be checking in.
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This story is impossible to follow and makes no sense
He could choose to embarrass and make you feel sad by pointing out your imperfections, or he could be proud of you and grateful for your efforts, and make you feel encouraged and loved. I think he’s making bad choices and it’s fair and healthy for you to want your life partner to choose the second. That’s one choice I’d need him to make if he wanted to be my partner and I’d let him know in case he wants to, but I wouldn’t force him.
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“seemed a bit angry with me for whatever reason”
“she tells me she's going to leave me because I'm jealous and possessive”
“So I tell her she doesn't mean that”
“she tells me she's going out”
“I block the door and tell her I won't let her”
Listen to what is she saying and don't try to be controlling.
“I'm covered in bruises and scratches and I find out she told her mom that I was being violent with her” – is she covered in anything?
Anyway, for no reason she got upset, accused you of being jealous and possessive, wanted to leave you…. And you dismissed her, told her basically that she's drunk and can't think properly.
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A fool of a Took!
Yeah this will not end well for him.
They’re gaslighting you into thinking this is ok, when really it’s LC/NC/restraining order behaviour in my opinion.
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Not uncommon to get contacted by an ex who feels awful about something they did but unfortunately time DOES matter in the timing of apologising for being an ass to someone. Is not an “I matured and I wanted to say sorry” it is a “Now I feel terrible (whatever reason, drinking, suffering the same thing or talking to someone you like and them telling you you were awful and needed to apologise) and I need SOMEONE to reassure me that I am good to go on with my life”
Uhh yeah this is not a you problem. I mean it is, but only because of the men you're going for. This reads a lot like someone who is rushing into relationships, ignoring red flags and only learning who these men really are after being attached.
Some women are more emotional, some cry more than others. For example, my wife is one that actually likes to cry when she's sad. I have never, ever made her cry. I've never disregarded her feelings, never said a cruel thing to her, never put her second. Why? Because I love my wife and her happiness is incredibly important to me. The guys you mentioned here seem either selfish or downright abusive.
You should be with someone because they're fun or you have a lot of common interests – don't get wrong, those are good qualities. But you should be with someone who actually cares how you feel, and whom you have a mutual respect for each other's feelings. Someone you can communicate freely with and don't constantly feel like you're not one of the most important things in their Iives
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Your daughter is the one who's selfish in this scenario. She's also emotionally blackmailing and trying to manipulate you by guilt tripping you into doing what she wants. I guess that kind of behavior was tolerated in the past so she's using it against you now. Her behavior is wrong on so many levels. No one should expect their parents to be babysitters and shape their life to their children's needs forever. A grandparent should feel free to spend their time with their grandchildren the way they can/want and your daughter should think about how many kids she can handle without depending so much on “the village”. After all “the village” isn't what it used to be. She's telling you that times changed when her role is concerned, but times changed when “the village” is concerned too. In the past “the village” wasn't only involved in making the parent's lives easier by babysitting the kids whenever the parents saw it fit. “The village” used to be up the parent's private business a lot in return for their services. I bet your daughter wouldn't be so happy with that kind of “village”.
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Don’t. Bring. It. Up.
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Go away troll and get a life please
Physical attraction? I might be misunderstanding, but I’m pretty sure “chemistry” refers to EVERY kind of interaction. We didn’t have any explicit talks, as I said, she wanted to take it slowly. The chemistry came from books, world views, music, movies etc.
We disagree on the religious front, but that’s probably more because of me and my poor definition of my religiousness.
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There’s never a good time to break up with someone.
IMO: better to break up now than to delay it and stay when you’re obviously not feeling it.
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Well, first, you need to admit to yourself that you don't actually mean it when you say he's free to date whomever he wants.
You're talking out of both sides of your mouth here. On one side, you're telling him these issues you have with this woman are irrelevant to him and he's free to date whomever he pleases. On the other side, you keep bringing up the issues you have with her even though you said they have nothing to do with him and are upset that he's not immediately casting her aside and declaring his undying loyalty you.
What you actually mean is you don't want to be the bad guy and actually want him of his own accord to pick sides, and specifically your side.
It seems like you aren't coping well with this. While simply cutting this woman out of your life worked in the short term to relieve whatever mental anguish you had concerning the situation, it's also clear that you haven't otherwise worked through the underlying issues to make peace with it (note: making peace with it doesn't necessarily mean that you let her back in your life, but that you've released the negative emotions such that the mere mention of her no longer causes you hurt and anger). Perhaps talking with it out with a neutral third party like a counselor/therapist would help and also give you some coping mechanisms for dealing with incidental crossing of paths with her. Because cutting someone out of our lives can be a necessary measure, but it's a one-sided action that you can't always control – as you're now seeing she's managed to make it back into your periphery. So sometimes it can't be the only measure we rely upon.
But if you're truly unable to move past this, then yes, sometimes it's necessary to step back from relationships when they cause more harm than good. Relationships ebb and flow and not all relationships last a lifetime – sometimes people come into our lives for a short period and circumstances don't allow that to continue and that's ok.
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The first question any potential parent needs to ask before kids is “can I do this by myself?”. Spouse can die and one needs to be honest if they can do it alone if needed. I say this as some who has gotten help from grand parents. If all the help went away I can do it and it will suck naked. If you want kids that is the possible life you need to be aware of.
Your daughter has not asked her self the hard questions as evidenced by her statement. She sees you as a nanny not a grandmother. Sure you can help for a month but what about after that. She mentions breaks and tips, did you get those as a sahm? Kids are a naked but rewarding thing and it doesn't seem like she thought this through. Offer help but stay firm in your boundaries. Explain if you want but it's not needed.
Best of luck.
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You can't just get someone back, that's a choice they have to make.
Fair, i guess i don't want to deal with the fallout but is the least i can do, let her be mad at me. JFC i'm really an awful person
Thank you for your advice.
If it was me, I'd break up with her. But I'd want to still offer support. Sounds like you both were willing to talk about stuff, for the most part. Might it be possible to break up romantically, but still be there in some support capacity? (I had this with an ex. We mutually broke up, but stayed friends. Then his mother got sick. And I helped out).
I definitely won’t judge you and respect you recognize it isn’t a good look to ever get in a serious relationship again until one of you moves out. I did what I had to do and I had a couple key people help me until I got on my feet with some money which I repair with my disability back payment. Could you indicate if your arrangement has been confusing for the kids – separated parents still living together or what that is like? I personally don’t think this would work for me but to each their own if everyone is ok with it
OP was literally thought-policed by his ex-gf, who invaded his privacy to find a reason to break up with him….. and your suggestion is that it’s HIS fault?
Humans are human. OP had reason to believe his girlfriend would never be reading his private conversations with his friends, over the course of an indeterminate amount of time, so No, I’m not ready to accuse him of being deliberately hurtful. In fact, I’m willing to be that the vast majority of people would be in a “hurt feelings” situation for one reason or another, if their SO/Spouse was given Carte Blanche to perform a forensic examination of their text and browser history.
Let’s call a spade a spade here. She was looking for a reason to end their relationship, period. There is no other reasonable assumption as to why she would so thoroughly invade his privacy.
To be fair, most adults in relationships also don’t care about their S/Os masturbation habits. While I would also agree that I wouldn’t like seeing my wife speculate about one of my friends bedroom prowess, you HAVE to expect you’re going to see something you don’t like if you pore through private conversations with friends.
OP needs to admit that it’s over… but I don’t think he should exactly be blaming himself here. He probably dodged a bullet.
If you wait until her dad dies that seems far worse. She had her family around her right now to at least be with her when she’s going through this.
NAH besides the guy assaulting pregnant women
Boundaries are Boundaries regardless and as long they arent insane they are fair to request
Move on she's not interested and trying to be nice.
She only moved in for days when she found out about her flatmate being weird and a terrible person so she couldn't afford to move out immediately. but she is going to soon.
No wonder. He sit the whole day on his lazy ass doing nothing. He doesn't understand how it is to have limited time. Because he doesn't work, doesn't go to school, doesn't meet friends, he does nothing. Does he even have a perspective, hobbies? He can't expect that you fill up his whole day because he has so much free time.
And you just say no. Maybe he will find something else to do. He can't be codependent of you. Please concentrate on your on need. You are just 19! And he needs to get his shit together or it will end your relationship. He take away your air to breathe.
You talk with him about marriage? Why? Hee does not respect or value you you. Why tf would you even want to stay in this relationship, not to mention get married. Have some self respect, you deserve better.
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Wouldn’t you have wondered this after the first kids? Lol
I have many straight friends, and we've never shown each other our sex toy collection. That shit ain't normal.
I would straight up yeet her outta my life, and then ask boyfriend to do the same.
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I have no idea how to respond to this other than what the heck? He literally cried?
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Dude, you're relationship is toxic af. She was 30 and you were 21 when this started, and you didn't even want to have a kid
Leave. This isn't going to get better once you're married.
I don’t think it’s necessarily a flame issue, just living life and different experiences?
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INFO: If your GF discussed it with a psychologist, why would she have to tell her mother? And by “she”, do you mean your GF would have to tell her mother? Or her psychologist would have to tell your GFs mother?
What she did before you is none of my business…repeat over and over in your head. Her past is her past and shouldn't be held against her. She could've lied about her past but she didn't…she told you the truth…stop holding it against her.
if a man is clear he does not want to have kids ever, why would it be a problem if he'd had a vasectomy? I would be confused if a man kept this information from me but it wouldn't really have a lot of effect on anything so it isn't really harmful.
Secretly trying to get somebody pregnant against their will, on the other hand, is harmful.
I mean depends how open minded OP and their circle of friends is, if she posts on reddit about everything, I understand why the allegedly cross dressing spouse is afraid to confess.
You nailed this and it's nice to see a post go right in this sub. As you said people will always have co-workers they find attractive and there's nothing wrong with that, or even talking about how we find them attractive. Calling someone a “work crush” is very different. It implies that there's more here than just the fact that your gf (well ex gf) finds the person attractive and if the opportunity arises she would probably take advantage of it. If you have crushes while you're in a relationship yes you might not cheat but usually that crush will be the next person you date.
Why? Why does she only want you there?
Hold up – you have to go to business dinners because he needs you to translate for him? As in, he can’t speak a language necessary for his business/career? If that’s the case…of course he wants to still live with you. He literally depends upon you for a portion of his work.
Clearly something is off about him. Thinking he should have stayed with someone who chased him with a knife? Girl. Move out. Contact some friends and their SOs to help you pack and move in one day. You will need a couple of men there who are there for YOU in order to get out safely. Start separating accounts. Make sure he doesn’t have access to your papers etc. Any person who thinks they’re being cheated on because of a long disused sex toy? Not super stable.
Just read him this post and leave asap
Ahhhhhh lmao come on mannnn
I see what you mean. I do have a tendency to be long-winded but that is only because I don't want any misunderstandings and want things to be as clear as possible. I know for a fact I wasn't demanding anything of my friend though, I even said in explicit words during the text exchange that I wasn't trying to accuse her personally, that I was sure there was no ill intent, I had no doubts about her as a person or our friendship, but that I wanted to be open about when I found something hurtful/not okay. At the end I even conceded perhaps things had changed and I wasn't a core member of the group like I believed previously, and that's fair and I will just have to change my mindset moving forward in that regard – which I was fully willing and prepared to do. But I didn't appreciate her reacting with anger. It was very important to me that I didn't come off as combative because I wasn't trying to argue or fight, just wanted to be honest about how I felt with a close friend. She has done the same with me many times previously, and I can't imagine reacting with anger over it even when of course it is uncomfortable to be in that situation. I also don't understand that extreme of a reaction as she had. If I am coming across as accusatory or demanding that is of course something I will need to work on moving forward, because that was truly not my intent – and perhaps being less long-winded can be helpful in that (lol, I say as I write yet another longwinded reply :') ).
I don't understand why it's considered needy to express hurt over being exluded from a group activity though? I never demand she hang out with me or anything, and for the past few months we both hung out with other friends/groups more than eachother which I am 100% fine with, and so was she afaik. But this was a group I was always invited to hang with before, us 4 always did things together, and so I felt hurt when the only one not asked to join that day was me. I really do want to understand why that's wrong for me to be open about? Genuinely asking.
What about before they had kids? What's the excuse then?
checking it out! thank you 🙂
i dont know if i mentioned this in the post or not but we have been super back and forth. like he pops up. i had to help him in something (super urgent finals thing) and he revealed that his mom asks about me and how hes turning into me which i found funny since i would always feel he saw himself as better.
he invited me to dinner with his mom in march when she comes.
its so weird. he also wished me a merry christmas lol.
i was stupid enough to ask him out for coffee to just catch up and he just said he would let me know and that’s about it idk
he sucks and im dumb haha
Leave her alone, she's not and never was romantically interested in you!
How dumb you are?
Her friend told her not to have sex with you, her ex told her not to have a relationship with you… Buddy she never wanted to have anything romantically with you!
“Did she ever really love me?” – NO, why do you think that she ever loved you?
You were right all along and she knew it too.
Instead, he thinks l'm cheating on him with the vibrator.
I assume this guy has yet to discover that he's a fucking moron.
Is this an issue you ever acknowledged before and apologised about? Did she know you were waiting for therapy so that you can start working on this? Have you done anything else in the meantime to improve, like reading self help books? Has she complained about it before, and if so, what was your response?
Tbh to me the reaction sounds like maybe you’ve been dismissive about the issue in the past. Or, you haven’t fully acknowledged (and apologised) how your problem has affected her, and are focusing on how it affects you. She could feel like you’re only working on it for selfish reasons (your behaviour started to cause you problems), and you didn’t bother back when she was the only one suffering. (These are ofc just guesses)
He said SHE moved on and would be lying if he said he hasn’t. He needs to distance himself and you need to find someone who will love YOU and not be hung up on their ex.
NOPE. I'll break up with his cheating Ass. Please check yourself to make sure he didn't pass you anything.
OP refers to both of the sexual pasts and now she wants more experience, so id bet that she was meaning sexual based on that and the fact OP thought she wanted an open relationship. The problem with dating now is that people will fuck on the first date, or hook up faster now. Young people men and women want a hoe phase and want hook ups and use “dates” as a way to do it. Dating isnt actually about getting to know people anymore its about banging other unfortunately. Also what experiences would she want to break the relationship for that isnt physical?
Some lessons can only be learned the hard way
I've never heard of cnc no sorry 🙂
Funny how these conditions were only revealed when it was way more difficult for her to extricate herself from him, and they give him a pass to be a useless bum. I hope she doesn’t waste too much of her life supporting this lying parasite.
It's different, look I understand your skepticism. And I would do the same . He was not a criminal when he had the license as she told me he started dealing like few months ago. I know it sounds strange, maybe it's all in my head I don't know..
Funny thing is after I confronted him about it thru chat he rushed to our house to ask my parent's that he would propose to me.
I really did not expect this because i never asked him to look at his phone, i completely trusted him and I thought everything was fine.
Sorry to hear the update, but I think you made the right decision. You'd never be able to forget this, it'd always be in the back of your mind, and you'd never be able to trust her the same way again.
You have no idea how much I appreciate you typing all that out. That is exactly what I’m experiencing right now. It’s very tough to navigate.
I do know, I’m just a few drinks in and don’t care about perfect grammar. I’m making a Reddit post not emailing my superintendent
Sure, but her post doesn't infer that at all. It reads that it's her out so she doesn't need to discuss it. Her BF did an awful thing by trying to baby trap her, but she should also be honest with her SO and/or future serious partners about it in case it's a deal breaker. Lying by omission is a thing that it seems like you and others can't comprehend.
Write down what you would like to communicate with her. Do you want to stay her friend? If so, mention that. You could say something like, “I think you're a great person, but I don't have any romantic feelings for you anymore. I just want to be friends.”
I’m surprised at how so many people aren’t acknowledging that she made you console her even though she hit a super sensitive insecurity of yours. That’s not okay, and you should talk to her about how that makes you feel. I recommend couples therapy if this is something she does often.
It sounds like she’s suffering from burnout or depression. But depression can be a symptom of burnout. A day off from her daily life is unlikely to do much if she’s burnt out. I have experienced depression due to burnout from several years of being a workaholic and supporting a workaholic spouse. While I’m not currently depressed/anxious, I am def still burned out. Therapy really helped me get out of depression, but ultimately I needed radical change in my life. Currently I am taking a break from working (several months) to literally do nothing (besides rest/sahw responsibilities) and explore other career options. If this is something you can handle financially, highly recommend seeing if this can improve things for her, unless you’re already ready to bow out of the relationship.
No, this is done.
He hasn't come clean at all, if he does now it'll be because he knows that you know.
Get your ducks in a row and get out of there asap, better doing this now than next time you catch him cheating.
There will definitely be a next time.
Good advice thank you
He sounds like a jerk! Personally, I don’t think anyone will “be good enough” for him because of his feelings towards himself, he will always be nit picky and mean to anyone who he deems as doing better than him (having a job, a good personality etc)
He can’t always get what he wants. He doesn’t get to force you to stay, or punish you financially by making you pay rent in two places, just because he doesn’t like the third option as much.
And FWIW as a smaller woman, I would feel safer living with another small woman than with an angry resentful ex-boyfriend. My favorite housemates have been people I didn’t know before I moved in.
That's exactly what I'm thinking. I never post any pics of my SO, especially if it's something overly romantic. I'm not going to tell them what to post on their own page but I don't want it on mine. Some people are just not comfortable with it, it doesn't have to be for some nefarious reason.
If he wanted to, he'd be with you.
Whether he's cheating on you or not, he's neglecting his role as a parent because he doesn't believe it is his role. He said he thinks it's your job.
Don't marry and have kids with people who believe this. Date to find out what someone is like before you get stuck. You can't change a person. He's not going to suddenly come around. You need to do what's best for you and your baby and leave him.
Yeah there’s all kinds of red flags here
It's not foreplay, it's sex.
I’m sorry but it doesn’t sound like this relationship is fixable.
So much damage and hurt has been done, I’m not sure how you both can get past that.
For you, how can you be with someone who wasn’t there for you when your father died? Not only did she abandon you physically, but emotionally as well.
She didn't get to find out what she wanted to do with her life until you burdened her with what you wanted.
She's finally discovering what she might have missed out on before her potential was cut short having your children before she was ready to settle as a dependent.
It sounds like she hasn't actually cheated on you yet, she's just enjoying the attention as any 20 something would. Like any 20 something should be able to do – enjoy their 20s, like you did.
That thought is also on my mind too but at least I am too obsessive right now to be ready for it.
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Based on past experience with infidelity, I agree with that. These are my worries exactly. I appreciate you taking the time to answer and provide your insight!
I thought similarly, the catch is that I'm okay with sex and stuff it just seems like if I do it now that's all us will be and that bothers me.
I know their ex personally and he is very religious and with that comes the whole no sex before marriage rules so it's not them dissing but they have expressed how that made them unhappy
Put plainly, I'm afraid, because I want this to work out because I think it could all come up roses in the end, I'll have a serious talk when I see them tomorrow. I appreciate the insight!
Not really a viable option unfortunately. If that were as easy to do as it sounds, he’d have done it. Nowhere is “cheap” right now, and then what is he suppose to do once he spends all his money on transport? He’ll just be stuck in another state with no money and no job (i assume you know how hard it is for homeless people to find work), accrue MORE child support debt, and be in the same exact predicament again.
There is, I’m on it. But there’s several reasons why he doesn’t qualify.
Don’t let no one degrade you or make you feel bad. Don’t apologize for your behavior he deserved it rather he needs to apologize to you. Watching porn in front of your partner is downright wrong. My ex treated me like you and guess what I’m better off without him and have a loving bf
Ali’s husband is a cheater so they’re made for each other.
Why go? Get her straight first. This needs to be handled and corrected. You can’t live like that forever. Therapy needs to be mandatory
There has to be some level of boundaries if we’re serious about each other right?
“he never told anyone apart from his therapist and me.
He then told me that when he did tell his ex girlfriend's about this they either left him or cheated on him openly”
Anyone apart you, therapist and then how many ex girlfriends?
How should you deal with what? What his sister did to him?
My wife (girlfriend at the time) basically said the same thing to me once, thinking it was a compliment. She said, “I love your dick. It feels so good and doesn’t hurt like big ones.” My reply was, “Uhhh…thanks?” Even though I had never worried about my size, that comment kinda hit hard for some reason. Hell, I know I don’t have a big dick, but it is what it is. I never had insecurities about it either, but… that comment just kind of hit. I don’t know why it hit, and I think it’s stupid to judge someone on anything other than personality, but dang… Give him time, and for the love of God, don’t try to backtrack now. Those comments will ALWAYS ring hollow and sound fake from this point on. Just let it go.
No he didn’t.
33 year old who will only date younger? Yeah, massive red flag. He likely only dates younger because women his own age won't put up with his shit.
They are both for the streets. Your ex either slept with him on purpose or told you to get a reaction. Don’t give her one. Just block and move on.
Throw your friend in the trash and call it a day
She let me keep the kids but your right I did rob her of the dreams she had with me
She also said that and I get. And what I meant what as far as logic goes, what more do you need and I’ll gladly explain as best as I can
I really think that is a bullshit law. If you don't threaten to use the pictures for anything but your personal viewing what right does the state have to remove a photo from your phone? The photo wasn't gained coercively. I personally would delete photos if my ex partner asked (I mean I would delete them before just to help move on) but I dont think the state should have the right to force you to if you don't want to.
Yeah, and you know what’s terrible parenting? Making your relationship problems your children’s problem. Demanding your child pick one parent over the other.
Aw. This is surprisingly sweet! I wish that baby nothing but goodness and future invincibility with you as pop or honorary pop.
That baby is gonna have you all wrapped around little toe-ee-es!
You tell him he either wears a condom or gets a vasectomy, otherwise, no sex.
Don’t have sex with men who refuse to take responsibility for their own fertility and who believe birth control is entirely the woman’s responsibility. You do not want a baby by this guy.
Nothing about what you described is remotely clingy or inappropriate behavior. You’re just dating a dickhead (and it sounds like your friends aren’t great either.)
Thank you for pointing it out!
Let it go.
It was a long talk but it was good for the both of us, and I’ll just wait for some months to get used to it, as I love her and every other thing about her very much.
Yes! I'm so happy for you two! Best of luck!
Listen, you get to invite or not invite whoever you want.
But I think you need to spend some time examining how you’ve responded to your parents, because I think it was really over the top and self-centred.
Would I have been surprised to learn my parents were poly? Sure. Would I have sobbed and raged and demanded they end a relationship (or relationships) that have nothing to do with me? No. The fact that you felt entitled to tell them to stop being poly tells me that you still see yourself as the centre of their world and feel betrayed that it’s been revealed that you aren’t.
Your parents should have insisted on therapy at the time, but since they didn’t, you should seek it now.
It really seems like you still haven’t gotten over discovering that your parents are, in fact, people.
Blatant disrespect. Kick her to the curb and find someone worthy of you.
Ok. There’s exploring and there’s exploring with your best friend. That’s so far out of line that it’s stunning. A rock should be able to understand that. She has no right to put this as you being insincere. None. Of course your best friend was as put off with this as you are. I don’t know how you get past this.
She needs to not move in with you.
The whole “watching porn is considered cheating” thing is a bit unreasonable in this day and age. But you did agree with her that you won't, so you are in the wrong here.
What was going on during the time you had a ‘falling out’, exactly? Do you know what red flags they specifically think there are?
Girl, that's is rape. You can not have consented in any way in this. Please talk with campus police and get yourself checked by a doctor.
Everyone vomits whether from food or drinks going down wrong, lol. I wouldn’t expect my wife to be in the bathroom with me but at least a “Are you ok?” would suffice.
This literally the only genuine and helpful comment so far, thank you, that's exactly what i will be doing.
First of all get your own bank account. Second stop doing all the chores. If he does not do his fair share of house work then you should leave.
Unless you've video chatted a few times, you can't really verify pics are originating from him.
Giiiiiirl, I used to drive 60 miles to my FWB through Sacramento rush hour traffic, four times a week, every week, for 3 months.
It almost killed me, but I made the time. He can too.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I know this is so hard, but I think you need to recognize you're a single parent now. Even if he wakes up tomorrow and decides he wants you and the baby in his life, it's not like you can unhear what he said or unlive this experience he's put you through. It's very hot, but you need to start to concieve of your life without him in it. Get every penny you can from him. Wishing you and your daughter all the best
This guy: “I don't like people that aren't me seeing my hard partner”
You, absolute genius: “You are just insecure lol”
The human race deserves extinction if this bullshit can ever be said unironically.
It's completely possible he's lying, but it's also completely possible he's telling the truth. Sometimes my ex would masturbate in his sleep and I'd wake him up to have sex. He didn't realize he was doing that when he woke up.
Wanting time to myself for selfcare/decompress is not selfish. People wouldn't bat an eye if he was going hunting for the weekend or to play DND with the boys or golf.
Not sure how that's acting like a single person. I spend the rest of my time either working, or hanging out with him and Stacy.
I try to plan family trips all the time. For all three or us, and for just him and I. We actually all went to Switzerland not too long ago.
Communication is important.
Talk to him that you don’t want guys in your home. Figure out/help where he wants.
Change is not bad.
When I read that a 23 yr old started dating an 18 yr old then got into crypto I would've put big money on you being the asshole but damn
You answered your own question with the last sentence.
Did you not see where she basically thought about having another life with a strange just because he looked at her. You can find other attractive but it’s best to keep those thoughts to yourself. Honestly how would you feel if your boyfriend was day dreaming of another woman he sees often. Stop trying to justify her actions/behavior tf.
He has been going to therapy for about a year, because told him he should. That was around to time he decided to cut contact with his mom. After his therapist said he should try and talk to his mother again, I was the one who had to keep reminding him that he was avoiding it and to sent her a message. It isn't like I was expecting change even really, just for him to talk to her about this after a year of therapy and 3 years of me having to deal with his mom, and one especially bad year