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It’s not a red flag yet. What he did sounds like post-sex, intimate cuddling. Now you’ve told him you don’t like it, he apologized and said he’d respect your boundary. But you just set that boundary so it’s only fair to reset and judge him from now forward. If he does it again, it’s a red flag.
If you can’t talk to him about sex you shouldn’t be having sex with him.
I feel I’m the same way. Back then, I care more about the other parts of a relationship and bad/good sex isn’t that important compared to everything else. Now that im in my 30s, having a guy that gets me off and does everything I ask him to do to and for me is equally important. I didn’t realize that frequent orgasms makes me a lot happier than sex that doesn’t always make me finish.
Except he’s not – men aren’t thinking that, they don’t imagine their girlfriend in the porno woman’s place. They’re just watching the people on screen not fantasising some imaginary situation based on it.
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he already did, he thought it was nbd when she had done this in the past while drunk…
She could've just read a poem as the bride without a show pretense, but she didn't get that.
She wanted the “then everyone stood up and clapped” meme to become a reality.
And like our God and Savior, Shia LeBeouf, once said “Don't let your memes be dreams”.
C+ for trying, would marry her to divorce her right after again.
Ugh I hate how these posts always attract a swarm of prudish puritanicals who are completely against the idea of enjoying variety of freaky sex while also being in a loving committed relationship. “You are not enough for them” this sounds so insecure and very much a “you” problem that you are projecting on others. Much like how our society loves to shit on anything not in line with heteronormativity, here you go shitting on anything not perfectly in line with monoganormativity. All OP’s gf did was ask a question and a mob of insecure people pile up saying she is trash, throw her away.
Same category: guys who freak out when they find out a girl had more previous partners than them
Guys who freak out when they find an old video/pics etc of their current partner with someone from a previous relationship. They want to pretend their partner was a virgin before them and seeing evidence otherwise just rUiNs eVeRyThInG and they can’t get nude anymore
I could not imagine living my life in such an insecure manner. Ok bring on the downvotes, I’m lubed and ready
You seem to lack the insight that your behaviour likely ruined her evening and was actually a bit selfish. She probably wanted to have a dinner with you at her uni event, enough so that she wanted to cover costs. It’s awkward to have the person you are with not eating, especially when it’s a money thing. She wanted to be there with you that evening, and for you to do things together.
i do not. see a lot of times when we have short conversations over text he’s the one that stops replying to me. but yes you’re so right.
You have built a life with this person. I would say that you have led them on. The only thing to do now is let them be free to find someone who loves them how they want to be loved.
Doing any different would just be satisfying self interest on your part.
Sure
Next time try and think about how relationship dynamics are different instead of jumping to “just break up”
Was there a conversation between just the two of you? No parents, no families butting in? Maybe it’s just a difference in the family dynamics but I would be weirded out if my partner picked up this topic any other way than in private, not to mention that she didn’t even ask or have a conversation but almost demanded you let her move in. All else aside (timing, privacy, bonding with the house) the way she brought it up alone would set off all alarms in my head.
BTW, I think your reasons are totally valid and… rational. Seeing how there is an evident difference in the way you envision financials, a conversation is needed. Ideally, between just the two of you.
So broke and a cheater
Nice
Prob won’t have a pot to piss in once the wifey is done with you
We don’t see other people or have sex with anyone else. We agreed that if that’s what one of us wanted to do then we would stop seeing one another. I haven’t been talking to anyone else, but I’m not sure if he has but, if he were he would tell me. He’s pretty upfront and blunt. He doesn’t lie to me about anything.
The main thing I’m worried about is him saying yes and then telling me to work on my affection. That’s something i don’t think that i can change about myself.
This is very highschool, you guys are too old for this kind of drama. When exes say weird shit you ignore them.
If he wouldn’t send you a Dick pick when you asked and he was interested in you why on earth would you think he’s sending it to other women.
Don’t go through your partners phone, and don’t talk to his ex to try and “solve the case”. You trust humor you don’t, if you do, you need to trust him even when it’s nude or it’s not really trust is it?
You shouldn’t wait for an adult who lets their parents dictate their love life.
Yes, you're correct. But my goal is not to be correct, my goal is prospective, remove the ego, accepting responsibility. He's responsible for his feelings. His feelings required a break. What does that mean or look like? It's about communication, understanding one's thoughts and behaviors and how it affects you and subsequently your partner. I'm big on communicating. I'm big on taking responsibility and seeking understanding, therefore introspection. I like to examine both sides of the coin and the groves in order to make a decision and accept responsibility. That's all I'm saying.
Basically, a decision was made by two inexperienced young ppl, that didn't pan out the way they expected, which has the potential of ruining what seemed to be a good relationship. However, it would seem that they didn't communicate the what ifs and as someone who has the exhausting personality of over communicating, I was focusing on Op because he's the one with the issue and caused the domino effect.
To me, it seems that the quiet part that's not being said is, as far as I've read, is he watched her cheat on him and he's traumatized by it. Most ppl are putting the blame on her and I don't feel it's fair especially since she aske him if he's sure.
Hey brother, definitely should tell and give her a heads up at some point. If she's a half decent and genuine person, she won't be turned off by this and will very much coach you through it all!
Just make sure to explain that you have dated in the past just never just went to that point for whatever reason.
If she's the type to be turned off by this fact and dismisses you, well then it just means she took the trash out herself imo.
You misspelled ex-wife
Call Jackson galaxy
Hell no
LoL. The only true answer
Why would he have told Op the little details about his trauma? And before making the post OP didn’t talk to him about the trauma specifically. It could have still involved urine
My sister conceived four kids using the pull out method.
There's nothing you can do if he won't pop the question. You can think about leaving him and share custody of your child because in the end it's your decision. Has he given you and answer to this question himself? Have you asked or discussed this with him? How is your relationship otherwise? Healthy? Good? Are you guys happy? Just missing some important info.
I don’t know how to make someone who doesn’t respect you respect you, I’m sorry. The way he’s treating you is awful and coercive. You’re a human being, not a sex doll.
You can tell him that, and if he doesn’t stop manipulating and guilting you into sex, break up with him. That’s all I’ve got.
your husband is abusive, full stop. Take him up on the whole divorce thing.
I am not being flippant. I swear.
Please seek therapy.
What you're describing is incredibly unhealthy for you.
It's unfair to your partner but my heart is aching for how much time you spend feeling anxious, insecure, hurt, fearful, suspicious and worried.
Should she have agreed to your incredibly intense need for constant communication and reassurance? No. She shouldn't have. But 25 is still pretty young to have developed the strength it takes to say “Uh, no, I can't do that ” when someone you care about asks for something that, by itself, doesn't seem unreasonable or undoable….and she very likely thought she could and would keep up with it.
You already acknowledge that your list is irrational. I am not a therapist but this almost has an OCD feel to it except that you need someone else to perform the compulsive acts. You didn't get here overnight and you aren't going to get free of this overnight but I truly hope that you will seek professional help to escape this horrible loop of having needs that nobody can consistently meet and being constantly dysphoric because your needs aren't met. Counseling, cognitive behavioral therapy and possibly hypnosis can help you heal those past traumas and become less reliant on external validation & reassurance.
I wish you the best of luck.
No thanks lol.
So let me get this straight, you want to attend friend 1s wedding, already told her you would be attending and now you want to cancel on her because friend 2 gave you the same date but much later? If I was in the situation I would simply tell friend 2 that you are already committed to friend 1s wedding that day and you can't come because you promised her first. You can tell her you'd like to be moh but she has to move the date, because you can't be in two locations at the same time
The thing is, just because you would be moh at friend 2, doesn't mean it would be more important than friend 1 just because they don't do bridesmaids. You know where you'd like to be more, then go there and tell the other friend. There will always be a villain in the story, but I'd rather be the villain to friend 2 and fiance that I don't know than to be the villain to my close friends
She’s says I am a fundamentally dishonest ass.
The only wrong move is not making a move at all.
Yeah bro you’re already a single mom. Call the lawyer. You don’t have to hire them just gather information. Talk to hubby dearest that you need more help. If he ignores and complains some more just be done with him it’s not worth the stress. You have a baby to care for which should be your focus. So very sorry.
Again, that’s the impression that you got from the above?
That's okay dude. It isn't gonna be a quick fix. But it will be worth it.
I suggest intermittent fasting and CICO. Keep it simple.
This is how it feels. If I mention that I'm unhappy with any of the above, he gets defensive that I'm trying to make him look like a bad father.
this reminds me of how I had to engage in a complex, logical argument to convince my engineer friend that he should arrange his living room to be an attractive and inviting space as opposed to “the most efficient design for playing board games.”
I know I never want kids, but that doesn't stop me from saying shit like 'I'd never name my kid xyz' or 'I'd never take my kids door away'
Cause if I'm never having kids, then I'm absolutely never gonna do anything to them lmao
What did he say when you told him your reasoning?
There's nothing wrong complimenting something you love about yourself. Maybe he felt it came off as conceded? Hey, if you have a great ass, feel free to be proud of that!
And wearing a turban is a tradition in some cultures but not mine… I reject feeling shamed cause I want a traditional family name structure… If you want to be “modern” then cool.. Date other people who want that then and leave the rest alone.
What I see in your comments is a lot of excuses. You say that you tell him that it’s over and he ropes you back in, making it seem like you have absolutely no role in it. It’s your responsibility that you let yourself be talked into staying with him.
Everybody here has given you great advice, and all of your responses. I’ve been to tell them why that advice won’t work.
I think you need to get honest with yourself. I think you’re addicted to the drama of it all. I don’t think you want it to be over.
Go have sex with someone else. He will get over his bs real quick.
Stop making excuses for bad behavior. You saw something she did on video and the first thing she did was turn it on you because you looked at her phone. Someone who has nothing to hide would've been honest and upfront about stuff like this and not gotten upset at how you came across it. If they truly cared for you, they would have sat down and spoken about it like an adult and tried to clear things up. She didn't delete it for a reason.
Not helpful.
You will have to deal with this man for the rest of your life. Even if he bails, you'll have to deal with the abandonment issues he gives your child.
And its honestly irrelevant how he feels, because this is your body. Which yes that does kind of suck for him, but if he wants a baby so badly, he can find someone who wants to also have a baby and feels ready to. It isn't on you to do this for him.
You guys aren't even able to stay together consecutively for two years but you're going to raise a child together?
If you don't want to have a baby right now and don't feel 100% confident in yourself to be responsible for a child for the next 18 years, MINIMUM. There could be medical issues or complications or something can happen that your child can never online a fully independent life.
I know the struggle of this decision and I hope you choose what's right for you ?
How can I (46f) fix my relationship with my (69m) husband?
How can I stop my husband from financially abusing me?
Fixed that for you.
You literally posted it in your title “hook up” and that’s all it was. He doesn’t want the touchy freely stuff after the deed and post nut clarity because that’s what “couples” do. You knew this would be a hook up so now you have to play that role now there’s no “chase” for him.
Facts. I am a people pleaser and suffer serious guilt when people are not happy with my decisions.
this is not a mistake. This is him testing the waters. He has a utility mindset on women, and you are just a partner-module. Find someone who sees you as a person first
Nothing is wrong with what you asked. What’s wrong are the people in your house don’t respect you and this is a toxic situation and your husband doesn’t care about how you feel.
If he has the time to come up with this, he has the time to come up with a plan to improve his mental health imo. As a very mentally ill person myself I wouldn't ask of someone it's just too much. He needs to work on himself look, look into charities himself etc
You deserve a relationship that doesn't cause you to resent your partner. Yes, he is struggling that doesn't mean you have to struggle too. You should do what you are capable of and find acceptable anything beyond that is asking too much.
Also, not everyone is cut out to be in a relationship with a mentally ill person. I will say obviously we're not all the same and our symptoms and personality impact everything so don't write us all off. But if it isn't working don't force yourself to be someone's carer if you don't want to be.
If she's smart she will realise that someone has been through her suitcase and she will do just that, but we know she's not particularly clever and most likely is going to back home to boink an old boyfriend while the folks look after the kids.
Get tested. Think about how you are feeling in the waiting room before the test. Your probably got it. This is a dealbreaker.
How much of the household stuff does he take care of- shopping, cooking, laundry, cleaning, keeping the bills organized and so on?
It's way past time, as you already know, to have a meeting of the minds about the money that goes into his “business” but if he's carrying a big majority of the domestic workload and parenting duties, is he really freeloading? If you are coming home from work and pulling a “second shift” of household stuff, that is bullshit but please, before you make any big decisions, think about what he IS bringing to the table . …maybe with the help of a therapist, individually AND as a couple.
(By the way, it's incredibly common for new parents to find their sex life in the crapper until about 6 months after the baby is consistently sleeping through the night- between the overall upheaval of becoming parents, the sleep deprivation and the almost-but-not-quite subconscious expectation of being interrupted, an infant is a very effective chastity belt and in your case, simmering resentment is a cherry on top of an already libido- suppressing situation)
Do you want to be OK with this? This is a pretty big deal.
She did, but she initially told them earlier in the morning when I just had a small purple lump over my eye and not a huge ugly mass that covered the whole thing. We also got majorly caught in with the whole doctor fiasco before dinner that we never gave them an additional heads up. It's kind of tough to not be embarrassed though; I'm getting stares everywhere I go.
I have an autoimmune vulvar disease since I was 15 but didn’t know til o was 21 (36 now) that is painful and has caused permanent structural damage. I have done everything I could to still retain function and try have a normal sex life even if it’s not easy and takes lots of mental and physical work. It’s unrealistic to just cut a partner off for good when you could be trying to better the situation. She seems selfish in general.
Either say no gifts, your attendance is the gift, or say nothing about gifts. Don’t register anywhere. But telling people not to come is not helpful.
You may find that some people just have to do something. If they continue to ask what they can do, say that you’re fortunate to have everything you need and suggest a charity.
He is already shopping around for your replacement. Why is this a question? Set yourself free. He doesn't love you or he wouldn't be looking for attention elsewhere.
Oh god can you imagine this guy once they have kids? Sorry babe I didn’t sign up for tummy overhang and stretched out boobs. What’s that you wet yourself when you sneeze? No thanks. Sorry you mean you haven’t showered for 3 days? I’m not down with that. Did that kid of ours just puke down your front and it soaked through your clothes? That’s it I’m done.
Leave this man. Someone out there will love you no matter what!
Was it her flat?
Sex as sport.
Maybe someday she'll go pro.
One thing he has consistently said is that I am probably the healthiest relationship he has ever been in, and he really cares for me, but that this might be the most boring relationship and he is “just coasting”. He says that he loves how non drama I am but also I think he misses the drama.
this tells me he's not healthy enough for a healthy relationship. my partner and i agree that our relationship is the healthiest either of us has had- that there is no drama – but neither of us feels bored by it. it's deliciously low-key and comfortable not having drama.
Not that i can think of. Our relationship was amazing. We always had great times together. The situation with the guy was so out of character for her that at first, i thought she was trying to tease me, like trying to turn me on by making me jealous but when it was apparent that she was really going to give her phone number out, i stepped in and stopped it. None of it made sense to me. She doesn't drink a lot so it was the alcohol speaking that night.
Probably because if he told you that he wouldn’t sleep with him also you shouldn’t be sleeping with people that you can’t trust
No normal, well-adjusted man who's almost 40 years old wants to date a woman that much younger than him…I just smh at how many of these posts I see with such a massive age difference…
I'd call it cheating for tipping girls more so they'd take their clothes off.
He doesn’t care that you are not okay with this and is willing to cross your boundaries and continuously disrespect your wishes. He is also unwilling to compromise as you suggested. If he cared at all he wouldn’t be doing any of this. She would be respecting you as well, lien what girl thinks this is a good idea unless she has I’ll intentions..like it’s just super sketchy all around. If I were her I’d be like “you have a girlfriend, if I was her I would not be okay with this” this is how you get cheated on. Too many flags on the play. Tell him he made his choice by deciding to ignore your feelings and needs. No one in a relationship they care about would jeopardize it this way.
That's on her if she isn't communicating that. She's only at fault. If she wants something, she needs to verbalise it like an adult. Not dance around the subjects and expect OP not to get hurt.
Your boyfriend is allowed to choose standards for himself. If he doesn't want to date someone with a face tattoo, it is his right to say that.
So basically you need to choose between who you want to be and who he wants you to be.
(Hint: choose yourself. ;D)