Your child would still have his biological parents' love, just from separate households if you leave him. It isn't like your own situation with your step-dad where it sounds like he was your primary or only father figure. I think you would be happier than staying with someone who treated you the way your husband did – And that will rub off on your kid, they can sense tension.
Your husband threw you out when you were pregnant, spread lies about you, divorced you, and slept with other women, and now snaps his fingers and expects you back with him and back to how things were. I don't know how you could ever, nor should you, forgive someone who did this to you.
I just want to say that not all step parents are bad. My step mum is amazing, she is such a positive and loving influence in my life. Truly a third parent. I am so grateful she is in my life.
Don't stay just because you don't want your kid to have a bad stepdad. I think your bigger concern right now is whether or not your child will have a bad father, and whether you have a bad husband
You’re two years into this relationship. You’re young and her mistake was dumb BUT… the questions to be asking are “why would you put yourself in a situation like this with somebody you’d been intimate with before?” “Are you able to have friends of the opposite sex and do you believe those friends should be people with whom you have been intimate before?” She should be able to answer those questions with something other than “I don’t know.” “I don’t know” is a hallmark of somebody who has a lot more growing up to do…
It’s good that she admitted her mistake quickly to you and that it didn’t go any further, but there are women out there who know better than to make mistakes like these in the first place.
Why stay friends? It only makes it harder to move on when you find someone better. That's his problem to get help if he wants it or not. He shouldn't be your problem anymore, hence why you broke up with him.
You know that's his actual partner and child and he is coming up with a cover story for when that comes out?
Also if he's looking at 10-20 years for something he did at work, it sounds like he assaulted someone or he stole. Either way there is likely evidence for them to have brought such a heavy charge.
Don't be so gullible. This is some dude you met on the internet that's either catfishing you or lying to you. Just walk away before you screw up your life for him either way.
Thank you for this. I appreciate this advice and will take it. You have helped me build a further understanding on my situation and I will make sure to keep it in mind.
Your child would still have his biological parents' love, just from separate households if you leave him. It isn't like your own situation with your step-dad where it sounds like he was your primary or only father figure. I think you would be happier than staying with someone who treated you the way your husband did – And that will rub off on your kid, they can sense tension.
Your husband threw you out when you were pregnant, spread lies about you, divorced you, and slept with other women, and now snaps his fingers and expects you back with him and back to how things were. I don't know how you could ever, nor should you, forgive someone who did this to you.
I just want to say that not all step parents are bad. My step mum is amazing, she is such a positive and loving influence in my life. Truly a third parent. I am so grateful she is in my life.
Don't stay just because you don't want your kid to have a bad stepdad. I think your bigger concern right now is whether or not your child will have a bad father, and whether you have a bad husband
You’re two years into this relationship. You’re young and her mistake was dumb BUT… the questions to be asking are “why would you put yourself in a situation like this with somebody you’d been intimate with before?” “Are you able to have friends of the opposite sex and do you believe those friends should be people with whom you have been intimate before?” She should be able to answer those questions with something other than “I don’t know.” “I don’t know” is a hallmark of somebody who has a lot more growing up to do…
It’s good that she admitted her mistake quickly to you and that it didn’t go any further, but there are women out there who know better than to make mistakes like these in the first place.
Why stay friends? It only makes it harder to move on when you find someone better. That's his problem to get help if he wants it or not. He shouldn't be your problem anymore, hence why you broke up with him.
You know that's his actual partner and child and he is coming up with a cover story for when that comes out?
Also if he's looking at 10-20 years for something he did at work, it sounds like he assaulted someone or he stole. Either way there is likely evidence for them to have brought such a heavy charge.
Don't be so gullible. This is some dude you met on the internet that's either catfishing you or lying to you. Just walk away before you screw up your life for him either way.
Thank you for this. I appreciate this advice and will take it. You have helped me build a further understanding on my situation and I will make sure to keep it in mind.