She wants to wait. So, you either wait, or you end the relationship. There is no wiggle room, here. Her body, her choice. You can choose to leave, or stay
Well, if you want your child to grow up without their grandparents on their life because of your naming choice, go ahead. I mean, it's your right, but they also have the right to be offended.
None of you will bridge, and who'll suffer the consequences? Your child.
The child will pay the price. You can be mad at your in-laws all you want, but that's how things are probably gonna go. A battle of egos where nobody wants to budge.
They feel betrayed, and it's a custom. You should've known that the family's name have an emotional and symbolic component to it.
When people get disowned or disown themselves, they often remove the last name as a symbol of how they cut their family off.
You basically just did that.
Except the disowning part, but you have symbolically cut them off your name. Of course, they got reasons to be mad. It's a bit petty, but you were also petty on changing your last name just to be mushy and lovey-dovey, now you've caused a division in your family.
Home it was worth it for you, because your child will NOT be amused when they grow up. You two caused them to get cut off, basically.
I offer an alternative. Sit add Johnson-Williams or whatever order AND Wilson. Something like Wilson Johnson-Williams, maybe.
Or just drop the idea altogether, for the sake of peace and harmony (now, I'm the last person who would change anything for the sake of peace and harmony, but your choice just felt superfluous, IMHO).
Yup. Personally, I'd decide whether I want to have that baby by myself and then either have him sign a document giving up any and all claim to the child in return for no request for child support, or have an abortion. What a whiner!
Right?? You are way too young to be dealing with. Don’t have a kid for the love of God. You will be stuck doing 90% of everything plus taking care of a kid. Men like this will not be waking up in the middle of the night or change diapers. This should be the push you need to remove yourself from his life
This isn’t your fault. He was going to find an issue and blow up no matter what you did. There was nothing you could do to stop it. And I’m sure you know that deep down, since you sort of describe him that way in the beginning of your post.
I don’t believe this is real
On the bright side, he sounds like the kind of guy who doesn’t do chores because that’s for ******.
He did you a big favor by not moving in with you.
What? People invite their girlfriend to parties with their friends? Have you not met his friends before? It’s a party, just go.
She wants to wait. So, you either wait, or you end the relationship. There is no wiggle room, here. Her body, her choice. You can choose to leave, or stay
Ngl the last name blending is a pretty baller idea.
Well, if you want your child to grow up without their grandparents on their life because of your naming choice, go ahead. I mean, it's your right, but they also have the right to be offended.
None of you will bridge, and who'll suffer the consequences? Your child.
The child will pay the price. You can be mad at your in-laws all you want, but that's how things are probably gonna go. A battle of egos where nobody wants to budge.
They feel betrayed, and it's a custom. You should've known that the family's name have an emotional and symbolic component to it.
When people get disowned or disown themselves, they often remove the last name as a symbol of how they cut their family off.
You basically just did that.
Except the disowning part, but you have symbolically cut them off your name. Of course, they got reasons to be mad. It's a bit petty, but you were also petty on changing your last name just to be mushy and lovey-dovey, now you've caused a division in your family.
Home it was worth it for you, because your child will NOT be amused when they grow up. You two caused them to get cut off, basically.
I offer an alternative. Sit add Johnson-Williams or whatever order AND Wilson. Something like Wilson Johnson-Williams, maybe.
Or just drop the idea altogether, for the sake of peace and harmony (now, I'm the last person who would change anything for the sake of peace and harmony, but your choice just felt superfluous, IMHO).
I understand, it's just my ego stopping me from saying it all out, hopefully I'll be able to confess it someday
Yup. Personally, I'd decide whether I want to have that baby by myself and then either have him sign a document giving up any and all claim to the child in return for no request for child support, or have an abortion. What a whiner!
Expert enough. I will take this advice and heed it to the next step.
Exactly, so someone extremely clueless or selfish.
Right?? You are way too young to be dealing with. Don’t have a kid for the love of God. You will be stuck doing 90% of everything plus taking care of a kid. Men like this will not be waking up in the middle of the night or change diapers. This should be the push you need to remove yourself from his life
This isn’t your fault. He was going to find an issue and blow up no matter what you did. There was nothing you could do to stop it. And I’m sure you know that deep down, since you sort of describe him that way in the beginning of your post.
How very Christian. Adultery.
Smfh.