Therapy, possibly a psych ward, and giving her an ultimatum deadline to move out by. I would literally list the ways in which you’ve supported her, and tally up the finances and confront her with it all. If she still can’t see then that’s her problem. You’ve already done way more than enough. You can offer to get her the help that she needs but otherwise stop doing things for her, and tell her she has to find a job and move out. She’s 32.
For reference, I’m the middle child I lived with my family between 22-27 so 5 years and I didn’t pay rent, but I was working multiple jobs, saving for grad school, and I attended grad school while at home to save money as rent is very expensive in my area and my degree is insanely expensive, and am about to graduate with my Masters and with honors next month. I got an amazing job offer in my field halfway into my program that I accepted and have been working for a year now, and I’m a new homeowner, I own my condo and skipped the renting process. My job, car, home, degree, everything is my responsibility and I have built all of this and pay my own bills at 28. I’m paying all my student debt and mortgage myself and will pay my parents back one day in the future for everything once I can afford it. So it goes to show you can help a family member and invest in them, but only if they’re headed to success. Not if they’re being enabled and working towards nothing and mooching off of you.
Beginning of the end. Sounds like you sexual compatibility is going to become and issue
But all if the “unsent” are on one side (not back and forth)
Therapy, possibly a psych ward, and giving her an ultimatum deadline to move out by. I would literally list the ways in which you’ve supported her, and tally up the finances and confront her with it all. If she still can’t see then that’s her problem. You’ve already done way more than enough. You can offer to get her the help that she needs but otherwise stop doing things for her, and tell her she has to find a job and move out. She’s 32.
For reference, I’m the middle child I lived with my family between 22-27 so 5 years and I didn’t pay rent, but I was working multiple jobs, saving for grad school, and I attended grad school while at home to save money as rent is very expensive in my area and my degree is insanely expensive, and am about to graduate with my Masters and with honors next month. I got an amazing job offer in my field halfway into my program that I accepted and have been working for a year now, and I’m a new homeowner, I own my condo and skipped the renting process. My job, car, home, degree, everything is my responsibility and I have built all of this and pay my own bills at 28. I’m paying all my student debt and mortgage myself and will pay my parents back one day in the future for everything once I can afford it. So it goes to show you can help a family member and invest in them, but only if they’re headed to success. Not if they’re being enabled and working towards nothing and mooching off of you.