You're a 35 year old adult woman, driving by the house of someone you've been dating for less than 3 WEEKS, to see if he is where he says he is. I don't understand why you immediately thought he's lying when he said there was a death in the family just because he wasn't going to the funeral? He could have met up with a few family members to hang out that night, just because they weren't close doesn't mean they weren't still family. Then, he said he couldn't hang out Sat, but how about Sunday, and you were pushy and desperate when you asked him but what about when you get back (based on your logic of it only being a 30 minute drive). He says ok if he gets back early enough (when he really meant no, I said Sunday for a reason) and you respond to THAT with don't disappear and let you know either way. You are embarrassing yourself. He said he was at his grandparents, and you all of a sudden are out driving, remembering you had to drop something off in the same neighborhood that he lives in, and drive past his house. Does he have a ring doorbell, or house cameras? Is there even a 1% chance he watched the chick he's dating for 2 and change weeks roll past his house checking up on him? Maybe he hadn't left yet and just didn't feel the need to explain it to you. But THEN, you thought to yourself hmmm let me drive by ONE more time because this is absolutely normal behavior for this situation. NO NO NO, it's not. What this guy was doing doesn't matter, what matters is these are the actions of a person who has severe insecurity issues, immaturity issues, control issues, trust issues, and doesn't seem prepared for a serious, adult, relationship.
Bro I agree with everything you’re saying but please be careful starting a sentence like this. It makes us sound misogynistic and hypocritical since we’re saying don’t judge the guy for doing something legal, yet it sounds like we’re judging “these kind of women.” I’m sure you didn’t mean anything by it but we want people lurking to take us seriously 🙂
Oh and again, I agree 100% with everything you’ve said.
You're a 35 year old adult woman, driving by the house of someone you've been dating for less than 3 WEEKS, to see if he is where he says he is. I don't understand why you immediately thought he's lying when he said there was a death in the family just because he wasn't going to the funeral? He could have met up with a few family members to hang out that night, just because they weren't close doesn't mean they weren't still family. Then, he said he couldn't hang out Sat, but how about Sunday, and you were pushy and desperate when you asked him but what about when you get back (based on your logic of it only being a 30 minute drive). He says ok if he gets back early enough (when he really meant no, I said Sunday for a reason) and you respond to THAT with don't disappear and let you know either way. You are embarrassing yourself. He said he was at his grandparents, and you all of a sudden are out driving, remembering you had to drop something off in the same neighborhood that he lives in, and drive past his house. Does he have a ring doorbell, or house cameras? Is there even a 1% chance he watched the chick he's dating for 2 and change weeks roll past his house checking up on him? Maybe he hadn't left yet and just didn't feel the need to explain it to you. But THEN, you thought to yourself hmmm let me drive by ONE more time because this is absolutely normal behavior for this situation. NO NO NO, it's not. What this guy was doing doesn't matter, what matters is these are the actions of a person who has severe insecurity issues, immaturity issues, control issues, trust issues, and doesn't seem prepared for a serious, adult, relationship.
I would move on. He’s not loyal or interested in the kind of relationship you’re interested in.
Oh well let her leave and go get knocked up by somebody else
These kind of women
Bro I agree with everything you’re saying but please be careful starting a sentence like this. It makes us sound misogynistic and hypocritical since we’re saying don’t judge the guy for doing something legal, yet it sounds like we’re judging “these kind of women.” I’m sure you didn’t mean anything by it but we want people lurking to take us seriously 🙂
Oh and again, I agree 100% with everything you’ve said.