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Sucks this happened to you.
See you at the gym
Updateme!
Get yourself some headphones
Nope.
Dumbest comment on here by far!
How did you know the Ex’s number? My spouse won’t even recognize his number from my phone bill.
Just end it I'm sure infedility has already happened her it's just a justification to say she hasn't cheated at this point.
Do it.
Get ready for an even awkwarder 8 months.
He already knows.
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talked about an SA with a therapist and she told me that it's not actually SA because i was in a relationship with that person at the time it happened.
No, that therapist didn't work. You need extensive therapy, it's not a “try a couple times” and be fixed. If you don't like your therapist or feel it's not making any progress, you find a new one. You don't just quit.
He isn't yours to be addicted to. He's not a something, he's a person. You're being disrespectful still allowing him to have sex KNOWING how it makes him feel after. Yall aren't compatible.
He's a friend, and you like him, but you aren't in love or extremely attracted. Could be aromatic or just haven't met the right guy. Just cause somebody acts and treats you great doesn't make them the one.
Yeah I’m grateful she’s not bothered by her weight but I don’t think she is happy with her body either. Like I said I think it’s an insecurity for her. And like I said I really love her and we’re compatible in a lot of aspects but this one..
Let him break up with you. If his ego is so frail that you have to “let him win” then he is not exactly a man. Real men want a partner in life. They want someone who contributes equally when making plans and setting goals. When he says that you are not feminine when you voice your opinion, he is deflecting. He really means that his masculinity is interpreted by him as having power and control over you. He is manipulating and gaslighting you. This is not the future you want.
Oh that exactly the reason and you should stop. I guarantee you once he has what he wants, he's dumping you.
Just divorce the ?
A friend of mine dealt with the same problem by talking to them twice then moving the house stereo speakers against the door and playing a CD (I know, I'm old) of little children singing “Jesus Loves Me” and other hymns through the door. The girl was religious and the guy got performance anxiety. Cleared the problem right up.
Doesn’t really matter. She cheated. Her reasons are pretty much irrelevant. It’s just her, not taking responsibility for her betrayal.
You already know the answer to this.
I feel him doing it in the shower will probably bother her less because it would work that way for me. Simple because it feels more like a private moment and less like a waiting for you to fall asleep and sneaking out moment. I have no reason to think this other than my own opinion. Just trying to help here.
I always felt like it happened more than once but I’ve been too scared to ask. I’m afraid of the honest answer
It’s not pushy to have an open and honest talk with the person you want to spend your life with. Just tell him you’re ready for that next step and ask his thoughts. Take it from there.
I wasn’t looking for that.. it just happened We have common interest so we had long conversations about that ?
It sounds like he's got some childhood trauma type thing going on. You don't obsess over a casual acquaintance for 20 years while being emotionally distant with your wife of 20 years without some kinda intimacy problem going on.
If you love him and want to repair this marriage, you need to go to therapy together.
Otherwise, confront him and divorce him.
You should grow up. This is exactly why she did not tell you. She knew you would blow this out of proportion.
She's trying to be nice to you and you're actively making her feel shitty for it.
i get that you wanted to do something nice but the thing about love languages is that's how you want to be loved, which may be different from your partner. even if you're close with her boss and she's taken time off in the past for less, it doesn't mean that she felt comfortable doing it at this moment in time. i would say suck it up, apologise for springing it on her while acknowledging the shit time she's having with work, and next time take your cues from her about what she might think is romantic and relaxing.
That's the part that makes me not convinced that she's ok. But Plan B can cause a woman to bleed and cramp pretty badly, with dark clotting and whatnot that can last for months after.
I honestly went through his phone the first time just because I had a gut feeling about something and I ended up being right. I know it’s not okay and is a huge invasion of privacy. I actually stopped for awhile but sometimes I just wanna give myself the reassurance that he’s not doing anything shady. It’s bad I know! :/ Regarding the affair, she was the married one and he was single. When they were seeing each other, he considered her as a girlfriend and vice versa. It was nude to wrap my head around it. And yes, our communication is so bad when it comes to things like this. I think I meant to say that he tries to avoid talking about it instead of dealing with it. I’m also having trouble with deciding to even say something to him about this just because I know I won’t really get an answer I want.
Thank you for your response! It was super helpful, I appreciate it.
This is above Reddits paygrade.
I strongly recommend getting your husband into a qualified grief therapist immediately, and provide as much positive support to your husband as possible.
Sorry for your loss.
Has he made an effort to stop? If he can’t stop, or isn’t interested in stopping, and you cannot be happy with him looking at women then you aren’t compatible
Yo – I fell in love at first sight with mine – I am JUST NOW emerging from 3 years of putting up with some serious bullshit at the expense of my self respect. It’s like my life was on pause and I am just now hitting resume.
He is a wonderful person. I love him dearly and desperately. We are in very different places in life.
I don’t think he wanted our relationship to be abusive. But he doesn’t have the emotional tools to have calm adult conversations about nude things.
For the first year and a half we would fight any time I would disagree with him (among other things) and I would beg him “can we not have different opinions?”
Don’t do this to yourself. You are here asking – because you know something isn’t right. EVEN THO IT FEELS AWESOME RIGHT NOW.
You just got out of a terrible situation.
Your ex – You had put a mask on his face and then his true self came out. You are doing the same thing here. This new man has the same mask you put on him. And you’ll keep that mask with you, and you’ll put it on the next man you meet if you’re not careful.
Why are you having unprotected sex after 2 months while you have to get tested at least 3 months after becoming exclusive?
Honestly I stayed so long because half the time, I didn’t even realize he was abusing me to begin with. I just knew he was upset about it. It never clicked with me that it was abuse until way later.
First it's not your responsibility where or hoe he ends up. Your responsibility is your daughter and yourself.
File for divorce and have someone there when you serve him for security and give him a 2 weeks (generous) to get his stuff out whether it's storage or whereever not your problem. Let him know after the 2 weeks it's trash and it will be disposed of. In the meantime he needs to sleep somewhere else not in your house. If you don't have a lease get him out get his keys and change the locks (very important).
Also, let him know that until he has a stable living situation you can meet at a local park and he can spend time with his daughter with you there.
Record this conversation you never know how he'll flip it in court and even with a witness better to have a video copy.
Just let himknow your are done
You tried for x amount of years he's unstable financially he has not contributed to parenting and its just not healthy anymore and your priority is your daughter. No more needs to be said do not get nasty if he does don't retaliate let him react but get him out.
You'll breathe easier.
Worry about dividing your Financials in court.
Also lastly all communications strictly through text or email no phone convos.
He doesn’t sound like a nice guy. It’s not your responsibility to pay for all his needs and families. He’s using you. Maybe if you cut off paying everything that will motivate him to get a better job.
Sooo, let me get this straight. You're upset your partner isn't deadlifting 200 pounds after having more or less just pushed out a baby and taking care of it probably on her own as you're too busy drooling over other women at the gym? And you're asking us how to fix your situation. Seriously?
I wish I had a list of all the things I need to work on. Truth hurts usually. Nothing to get mad over.
V E R K L E M P T
The relationship is toxic. Leave and keep your self respect. In ANY relationship, someone has to respect you. If it isn’t going to be her…then it HAS to be you.
Its your decision. You're old enough to decide for yourself.
Our opinions aren't gonna help and they will each differ.
Yuck.
I wouldn't say anything if you are not prepared to commit to giving her a ride on a regular basis.
If she ends up living near to you, it will be harder and harder to conjure reasons why you can't give her a ride.
I think it is a nice thought, but that you can end up overcommitting yourself.
I think you should talk to SIL. You can't trust your husband but she's done nothing wrong to you. She may be innocent in all this. Either way I'd seriously consider leaving your husband. Trauma or not, he is clearly fucked in the head if he thinks any of this is appropriate.
You're the side piece. He's cheating on her with you.
Don’t set yourself on fire to keep your friend warm.
Wait, her NSFW fanfic handle is the same as her twitter handle?
What is this 1963? Get outta here with your polygraph test. That’s not helpful…
My personal philosophy is that an apology isn't meaningful unless it comes with a plan to avoid repeating the behaviour. In your shoes, if I felt like I had to stay, I would want him to present a plan for working on his jealousy.
You are absolutely not being selfish in thinking about leaving. Kids pick up a lot about what is “normal” and healthy behaviour from their parents, and even if your husband gets partial custody of your son, leaving him and building a life where you model happy and healthy behaviour and relationships would be a tremendous thing to do for your son.
Please consider individual therapy for yourself, regardless of what your husband says. I think having someone trained and dispassionate to help you sort through your feelings and give you some support would be really valuable right now. All the best to you and your son.
go to sleep first. you need the rest after all the crap
That's just nonsense. Divorce rates are actually lowest among people with a higher level of college education, who tend to marry later in life and have typically had previous relationships.
You can't out-cunt a cunt
It’s simple. He is not into his wife and would rather spend time with other people. He’s telling you that he’s out with friends but do you actually know for sure.
After 2 years and he’s already mid-30s…. Yeah… he’s not sure because he’s probably waiting to see if he can find someone better than you or he needs to settle for you.
I would cut my loss and move on.
Personally, since she's apparently a therapist (????), I'd tell her point blank that she gets one more chance before she never gets the opportunity to do that again. She withheld affection from GD because her son
I would set a nude no on this. I can understand the fiance wanting to help, but I'm telling you once she's in, she won't leave.
This will be an added layer of stress on your relationship you don't need.
Takes time, but it'll pass. Grab friends, grab beers (or tea if you're at risk for abusing alcohol), occupy yourself, heal up a bit, and then go find someone who's not a jackass. Betrayal sucks. Letting it consume you sucks WAY more.
There’s a degree of pretending to be stupid to where you overplay it and make it transparently pointless for anyone to attempt to reason with you. You passed it a while ago.
I hope your balls fall off you creep
“I feel uncomfortable everytime we hang around with Gemma, especially with how much she flirts around you and uses you to get back to her ex. I fully trust you but I don't trusr her having our best interest so I ask you not to interact with her anymore.”
I think your therapist friend is basically an idiot. No one can be THAT stupid to think fooling around and/or sex with other women isn’t cheating IF there is no feelings attached. See how absurd that claim looks? How your friend got you to “agree” with him is astonishing, to say the least. I would find smarter friends who won’t talk you into winding up with a nasty STD if I were you.
Now back to the midnight spa. You did the research, saw it is seedy AND one of its numbers advertises as an escort service. You know what’s going on. Even worse is chances are decent that these are sex trafficking victims he is exploiting by paying for them. I would dump this creep too, if I were you.
They’re sneaking around and probably booking up on the side of the road like trashy, horny, disgusting people.
This is exactly what I was thinking. So gross.
You are not sexually compatible. You should find someone who wants the level of sex that you like and he should do the same.
Trying to stick it out will leave you hating each other instead of having an amicable breakup.
I don't know anyone who doesn't have that .01% of fear of a relationship not lasting. Even if they are 100% sure of themselves. There will always be that negative voice nagging you.
And being drunk only adds fuel to the doubtful voice.
I was drunk and told my husband I didn't know how i knew I loved him, and I wasn't sure if I actually did(all before our wedding). Sometimes fear escapes through Alcohol.
To those saying “drunk words are sober thoughts” have obviously never heard me yell to the trees at 2 am drunk off my ass that “you need to stop breathing so loud you're scaring the son.”(it was recorded so yes I know what happened.)
Did you read the whole post? This is a symptom of a much larger issue, which is that she ALWAYS has to beg him for the least bit of affection or care despite him offering it freely elsewhere. Some of the stuff she's describing doesn't even meet the bare minimum treatment of a person you are indifferent to, let alone someone you're supposed to love.
I think she honestly should divorce this man. Better to be single than to be lonely within a relationship.
Your fear is rational.
You fear her “taking on this complete 'single' personality” because she is behaving exactly like a single woman.
Are you 100% certain they are always at this gay bar?
Always question. Always question the intentions of someone who thinks minors are fair game. Always question the values of someone who grooms those minors. Always question the consequences for yourself if he'd pressed a little more and you fell victim to his advances. Always question who else he might be grooming now since you took yourself off the table. Always question.
Maybe look at your own comment about quiet quitting 40 days ago? She needs to explain – but maybe she needed a breather after so much time on the trip and she can’t articulate it.
It’s not bad she needs some friend time, it’s bad she won’t communicate – or if you won’t hear(?)
In terms of the sex that’s usually opposite like someone pulling away wouldn’t want to be intimate instead of not wanting to go out?
It wasn’t a group. It was just this one girl. A girl that messaged her privately on a video of me saying that I looked like her. And this girl has invited her out to a gay club twice already. And her friend is literally my age. I get going with your own friend group, she has gone once to this place with her, I kindly asked if I could join this time and dance too.
You've been together two years and he genuinely got mad you went into his room?
He may be hiding something but regardless that is a giant red flag.
Repeatedly exposing himself to this will be a mental drain quickly.
Hmmm. That can't feel very good. Maybe he doesn't enjoy it, and it makes him uncomfortable?
I’ve never even heard of a penis sleeve, but does it mean you cum in a toy instead of your partner? Sounds gross and messy