I hope it does. She was by his side in marriage for 12 years and supported him through his cancer journey. So how does he thank her? By having a 6 month long affair. What a guy.
with him being a bit insecure and controlling at times
Is this the reason why he started dating someone quite a bit younger? He's already controlling in the early honeymoon stages?
When we first met, I was having issues with yeast infections because of the frequency and roughness of the sex, which I was VERY happy with, but the infections were quite difficult to deal with until I adapted to his size and he stayed on top of his hygiene.
A 30 year old who had to learn to keep up with his hygiene? You clearly won a prize here /s
But whenever I say I'm not in the mood, or I've even noticed it happening when I've just fallen asleep unexpectedly so sex hasn't been proposed at all, he won't be as affectionate, he'll sigh in bed next to me, he'll turn away from me… I've tried to point this out to him and how deflated it makes me feel, but he just says he doesn't treat me differently.
Cut your losses. When I left my first husband, he had drained my student loan account of every cent, left me and two kids with nothing, not even toilet paper or clean underwear, I finally got to the place where I realized it cost me $20,000 to get rid of him, and happiness is PRICELESS
Ahh ok, I mean at 23 I definitely did not need weeks at a time intimacy breaks at all lol Everyone is different though and not everyone has a high sex drive. Unless he's showing other worrying behavior it's probably nothing to worry about
That doesn’t make him a white fucking knight in shining armor, that deserves all this praise he’s getting for some strange reason around here. What that makes her is very naive (this is her very first boyfriend), possibly gullible, possibly easy to manipulate, or low sense of self respect or esteem to put up with the likes of him. We all had a first bf/gf and none of us started out as dating experts, and many of us tolerated a whole bunch of shit we never should have in our earlier dating years, some more than others.
My first bf was when I was 15. Would I have tolerated or been naive enough to stay with a boyfriend who was known to be a serial cheater, who is flirting with his old crush and telling her he would have sex with her when she wants? And then went on to bold faced lying to me about a swimming date involving her a year later? I would like to think I wouldn’t (and I definitely wouldn’t now) but maybe not. Maybe I could have fallen for fancy lip service bullshit like OP is with this guy. Unfortunately, OP seems to insist on learning the nude way and experiencing first hand why it’s not a good idea to date serial cheaters and give them extra chances after telling old crushes they will fuck then. Hoping she comes out of this wiser.
“Babe, I’m really worried that there might be something up medically since up until recently your BO wasn’t like this. Can you please book an appointment to see your doctor? In the mean time can we come up with some ideas so I don’t make you feel bad about it but so that we can both enjoy our time together?”
Because increase of body door for no reason can honestly be a medical issue and he should for sure see someone
This man flat out raped you. Please please get far away from him. Call the police, file a report.
My god these entitled horny assholes just make me want to scream. How DARE he do that to you after you begged him to stop? What an absolute piece of shit.
Please get away from him. If this slides he will do it again and again and again (how do I know that? Because my ex raped me over and over, including anally, while I cried and begged him to stop and while I was PREGNANT with his child, AND had an STD that he gave me because he was cheating.
Get rid of this man, call your friends and your family. Ask for help. Please do this. Even if you think your family has written you off, please reach out for help in any way you can.
This is only the first sexual assault. There’s more coming, I promise you. And it will get progressively worse. Not might, WILL. These sick fucks get off on women crying and pleading for them to stop. It literally makes their dicks nude. It’s what they want, and they’re counting on you not reporting it, and if you do, they are counting on the cops saying “well they were in a sexual relationship so she wanted it”.
Let’s put a stop to these pieces of utter, utter garbage.
No means no. You don't need to fight back. This was not your fault at all. I know such a situation can be confusing, it was for me, too. You have every right to feel violated and hurt. Being a bad texter and going out with your friends doesn't give him the right to rape you. It's never ok, no matter what you've done. Never ever ever.
As a guy who's had a bunch of surgeries (from cleft lip/palate and related complications), I wanted to ask about the lip and tongue ties. Has the speech therapist talked about the possibility of surgery for those? Has a pediatrician, oral surgeon, or ENT? Tongue and lip ties can cause a bunch of complications. For example, lip ties can cause dental issues.
I don't know about tongue/lip tie procedures in particular, but a lot of surgeries work best (and are the least traumatizing) when we're kids. I had one pretty severe surgery when I was 18 and a very minor sort of inverse of that surgery 16 years later. The recovery from the first one took several months, but I remember basically laughing it off the whole time. I had a few issues, but they really just didn't bother me much. The more minor one kicked my ass, and it was truly a tiny fraction of the first one.
If you haven't, I'd really recommend you to talk to a doctor about those procedures.
Yeah, flattery and love languages might make you feel loved but not sexy. Has your husband tied you up and talked dirty to you? Has he told you at work how horny he is and he is looking forward to coming home and just have his way with you? How much have you two thought outside the box?
we have had a couple low key conversations about it but im going to sit him down and tell him we need to have a serious conversation about it i have a idea on what i want to say
Haha there is no way this story is real
I hope it does. She was by his side in marriage for 12 years and supported him through his cancer journey. So how does he thank her? By having a 6 month long affair. What a guy.
with him being a bit insecure and controlling at times
Is this the reason why he started dating someone quite a bit younger? He's already controlling in the early honeymoon stages?
When we first met, I was having issues with yeast infections because of the frequency and roughness of the sex, which I was VERY happy with, but the infections were quite difficult to deal with until I adapted to his size and he stayed on top of his hygiene.
A 30 year old who had to learn to keep up with his hygiene? You clearly won a prize here /s
But whenever I say I'm not in the mood, or I've even noticed it happening when I've just fallen asleep unexpectedly so sex hasn't been proposed at all, he won't be as affectionate, he'll sigh in bed next to me, he'll turn away from me… I've tried to point this out to him and how deflated it makes me feel, but he just says he doesn't treat me differently.
Yeah, that's not healthy.
Then it’s time for nude choices. They get swapped for occasions like that.
Ex. Your parents for yours. Hers for hers.
Whatever decision you make will have friction. Better it at the start than during the event.
The look on my face when I read this….
Cut your losses. When I left my first husband, he had drained my student loan account of every cent, left me and two kids with nothing, not even toilet paper or clean underwear, I finally got to the place where I realized it cost me $20,000 to get rid of him, and happiness is PRICELESS
Dont waste your time and turning yourself into the other woman.
And this man is not good too, he is married yet still flirting with you. This may not be his first time straying from his marriage.
If you’re in different time zones then you and him aren’t compatible at the moment.
Self soothing is what adults do as a matter of course.
Find a new job?
Not every wife cheats. Sorry yours did.
The amount of single women that own crotchless lingerie that aren't cam models is probably around 0%.
I’m so glad you found him. Poor kitty
Ahh ok, I mean at 23 I definitely did not need weeks at a time intimacy breaks at all lol Everyone is different though and not everyone has a high sex drive. Unless he's showing other worrying behavior it's probably nothing to worry about
Yes, I believe this is the same post republished
That doesn’t make him a white fucking knight in shining armor, that deserves all this praise he’s getting for some strange reason around here. What that makes her is very naive (this is her very first boyfriend), possibly gullible, possibly easy to manipulate, or low sense of self respect or esteem to put up with the likes of him. We all had a first bf/gf and none of us started out as dating experts, and many of us tolerated a whole bunch of shit we never should have in our earlier dating years, some more than others.
My first bf was when I was 15. Would I have tolerated or been naive enough to stay with a boyfriend who was known to be a serial cheater, who is flirting with his old crush and telling her he would have sex with her when she wants? And then went on to bold faced lying to me about a swimming date involving her a year later? I would like to think I wouldn’t (and I definitely wouldn’t now) but maybe not. Maybe I could have fallen for fancy lip service bullshit like OP is with this guy. Unfortunately, OP seems to insist on learning the nude way and experiencing first hand why it’s not a good idea to date serial cheaters and give them extra chances after telling old crushes they will fuck then. Hoping she comes out of this wiser.
“Babe, I’m really worried that there might be something up medically since up until recently your BO wasn’t like this. Can you please book an appointment to see your doctor? In the mean time can we come up with some ideas so I don’t make you feel bad about it but so that we can both enjoy our time together?”
Because increase of body door for no reason can honestly be a medical issue and he should for sure see someone
If she says anything about having had the same rug, “I think it came from target,how do/did you like yours?”
Are you asking advice on whether you should CHEAT? Or advice on if you should break up? I think your wife deserves better either way.
WHAT IN THE ACTUAL FUCK
This man flat out raped you. Please please get far away from him. Call the police, file a report.
My god these entitled horny assholes just make me want to scream. How DARE he do that to you after you begged him to stop? What an absolute piece of shit.
Please get away from him. If this slides he will do it again and again and again (how do I know that? Because my ex raped me over and over, including anally, while I cried and begged him to stop and while I was PREGNANT with his child, AND had an STD that he gave me because he was cheating.
Get rid of this man, call your friends and your family. Ask for help. Please do this. Even if you think your family has written you off, please reach out for help in any way you can.
This is only the first sexual assault. There’s more coming, I promise you. And it will get progressively worse. Not might, WILL. These sick fucks get off on women crying and pleading for them to stop. It literally makes their dicks nude. It’s what they want, and they’re counting on you not reporting it, and if you do, they are counting on the cops saying “well they were in a sexual relationship so she wanted it”.
Let’s put a stop to these pieces of utter, utter garbage.
No means no. You don't need to fight back. This was not your fault at all. I know such a situation can be confusing, it was for me, too. You have every right to feel violated and hurt. Being a bad texter and going out with your friends doesn't give him the right to rape you. It's never ok, no matter what you've done. Never ever ever.
GTFO while you still can plz
As a guy who's had a bunch of surgeries (from cleft lip/palate and related complications), I wanted to ask about the lip and tongue ties. Has the speech therapist talked about the possibility of surgery for those? Has a pediatrician, oral surgeon, or ENT? Tongue and lip ties can cause a bunch of complications. For example, lip ties can cause dental issues.
I don't know about tongue/lip tie procedures in particular, but a lot of surgeries work best (and are the least traumatizing) when we're kids. I had one pretty severe surgery when I was 18 and a very minor sort of inverse of that surgery 16 years later. The recovery from the first one took several months, but I remember basically laughing it off the whole time. I had a few issues, but they really just didn't bother me much. The more minor one kicked my ass, and it was truly a tiny fraction of the first one.
If you haven't, I'd really recommend you to talk to a doctor about those procedures.
Yeah, flattery and love languages might make you feel loved but not sexy. Has your husband tied you up and talked dirty to you? Has he told you at work how horny he is and he is looking forward to coming home and just have his way with you? How much have you two thought outside the box?
She just replied ok to my long paragraph Idek if she read it.
if she didnt assume things we could work out but idk now.
Anyways thanks for replying
Stop communicating with me!
we have had a couple low key conversations about it but im going to sit him down and tell him we need to have a serious conversation about it i have a idea on what i want to say