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1. Don’t apologize; that was exceptionally well written. I think your post really penetrates to the core of the issue.

   Given his age, it sounds almost like a cognitive or developmental impairment, not the kind of thing that’s going to change anytime soon.

   I’ve taught students 1:1 who exhibit similar traits, and it’s an uphill battle with a lot of “translation” work on my part to map normative experiences of the world onto my students’ capabilities and cognition. Often, the differences are subtle, and it takes months or years to tease them out. So I’m not surprised that this was a long process for you.

   I think the question you have to answer is actually not “who is this person I’m dating“ — because you’ve done a wonderful job of that — but “how do I feel about dating this person“? Now that you know who he is and what he is, are you OK with it? Does he provide enough to satisfy your physical, emotional, and intimate needs? Are you willing to accept his limitations and seek others to fill in the gaps that he cannot provide?

   I don’t think any of us here can answer those questions on your behalf, but please don’t feel bad about whatever your conclusion is. Intellectual, aesthetic, and philosophical connection is important.

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2. There is a time for going outside your comfort zone in the interest of wooing a potential partner. There is a time when you have to get back to your normal state of mind so you can still function in the world. Life can't be a permanent vacation and relationships can't exist in a permanent state of “honeymoon”. But you are probably accurate when you say that you're at risk of “sabotaging the entire relationship”. No one can be in the courtship phase forever. The kind of people who jump from partner to partner just to maintain that “honeymoon” high of the first few months end up with a lot of exes but ultimately alone.

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