This is supposed to be the easiest and best part of your relationship. That isn’t so awful and insecure speaks volumes. Please stay broken up for both of your future sakes.
These are your games he can't get ride of your things. You can buy your own switch and play your games all you want. It is not selfish to now want to give stuff that you paid for away. He is being selfish for not using his games. Who cares if he gets mad, he knows what he did was wrong.
Most girls nowadays would want to live their single life to the fullest, explore the sexual cravings with many men before settling down.
And most men who are serious dont want to wife a woman up life that who has slept around. I didnt sleep around when I was younger and I worked my ass off.
Bruh just re read your story and when realization sets in on how stupid this is move on. This just sounds like drama and a headache you don’t want to be apart of
Absolutely being a creep and a predator. You are super, super young and he knows what he’s doing. Personally, I’ve been in this situation with a similar age gap and it did not end well. If I had someone pull me aside and say that it wasn’t a good situation, it would’ve saved me years in therapy.
I personally would report him to HR and get as far away from him as possible. He’ll only get more ballsy and if it’s not you he’d be preying on, it’d be someone else. If you won’t notify HR for yourself, do it for future women who may find themselves in his scope. If he has a record of doing shit like this, it’s a lot more damning.
I didn’t bleed thankfully. I think the condom was probably a bit lubricated which may have worked in my favor thank god.
I know I have to leave him. Just mustering up the courage to have the conversation is the hard part. I feel so weak and pathetic for literally not even being able to do that.
If shit does hit the fan as you say it, you should’ve even fix it. Why on earth would he be bothered by your endo. If he is, you deserve a better partner. Now stop overthinking it
To paraphrase her possibly fictitious doctor, “if anyone should be upset it's you.”
Is this end worthy?
Man, you passed end-worthy a while ago. I doubt you can still see it in your rear view mirror.
Am I being manipulated or gaslit?
Actually no, she's being very direct about what a trainwreck she is. She's lying a lot, but she's not trying to make you think you're crazy for thinking she's a mess. She's telling you point blank that she's a mess, and she's shown you repeatedly that she's going to bleed you dry so you can't even call it being manipulated either. This is an extremely upfront and clearly delineated dumpster fire.
How can I trust this won’t continue to happen?
You absolutely can not and should not trust that this won't continue to happen, because this continuing to happen is roughly as likely as the sun rising tomorrow. I couldn't find a single reason she's given you in that entire post to have even the faintest hope that this won't continue to happen. She's basically walking around wearing a t-shirt that says “this is going to continue to happen,” and it's spelled out with blinking lights like a tacky Christmas sweater. Of course this is going to continue to happen.
Look, I understand your hesitation in doing the obviously correct move for your own well-being and getting the hell out of there. You are worried about her daughter, and you're also worried about her despite all the heartache because you do care for this woman and are worried that you're the only thing keeping her life intact. The problem is one person absolutely cannot be the only thing keeping someone else's life intact, it's too much pressure for one individual to bear. Especially with a life like this!
There's an expression called “don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.” Once you're burnt down to nothing they're cold again and need to find somebody else; you destroying yourself to keep her life marginally intact is not sustainable and once you're burnt down to nothing she and her daughter will be in the exact same position they would be if you left right now. In fact maybe you leaving will be the trigger she needs to finally make some positive changes herself. It's unlikely, but it's a hell of a lot more likely than if you stay with her and continue enabling her. She'll never change a thing with you there to hold everything together, for however long you manage to last.
Everything was good, we would all just talk, hang out and laugh. She is in therapy trying to work through everything. As far as when it’s just the girls hanging out, I haven’t heard of anything negatively affecting their friendship.
Following you around? You mean responding to the conversation that you keep replying to? Do you understand how a forum works? Did you get hit in the head with a baseball or something? You're an odd duck.
Tell your girlfriend I said to have fun on the cruise with her other boyfriend.
He can’t get hard without porn.
This is supposed to be the easiest and best part of your relationship. That isn’t so awful and insecure speaks volumes. Please stay broken up for both of your future sakes.
These are your games he can't get ride of your things. You can buy your own switch and play your games all you want. It is not selfish to now want to give stuff that you paid for away. He is being selfish for not using his games. Who cares if he gets mad, he knows what he did was wrong.
This is a lot of words to say you’re trying to get out of marrying your fiancée, bro
That explain a lot, I’m not bored with him. When we stay home and not do anything I feel anxious and just overthink.
If you can get ahold of his phone that’s the way to go!
Most girls nowadays would want to live their single life to the fullest, explore the sexual cravings with many men before settling down.
And most men who are serious dont want to wife a woman up life that who has slept around. I didnt sleep around when I was younger and I worked my ass off.
Bruh just re read your story and when realization sets in on how stupid this is move on. This just sounds like drama and a headache you don’t want to be apart of
Absolutely being a creep and a predator. You are super, super young and he knows what he’s doing. Personally, I’ve been in this situation with a similar age gap and it did not end well. If I had someone pull me aside and say that it wasn’t a good situation, it would’ve saved me years in therapy.
I personally would report him to HR and get as far away from him as possible. He’ll only get more ballsy and if it’s not you he’d be preying on, it’d be someone else. If you won’t notify HR for yourself, do it for future women who may find themselves in his scope. If he has a record of doing shit like this, it’s a lot more damning.
I didn’t bleed thankfully. I think the condom was probably a bit lubricated which may have worked in my favor thank god.
I know I have to leave him. Just mustering up the courage to have the conversation is the hard part. I feel so weak and pathetic for literally not even being able to do that.
Second family. She just got caught before her deth bed confession.
If shit does hit the fan as you say it, you should’ve even fix it. Why on earth would he be bothered by your endo. If he is, you deserve a better partner. Now stop overthinking it
Sounds like you learnt a lesson to dress more conservative at school.
Seems simple. Unless you enjoy the attention or reaction/lack of interaction.
Why would you need to post something that simple?
Do I have a right to be upset?
To paraphrase her possibly fictitious doctor, “if anyone should be upset it's you.”
Is this end worthy?
Man, you passed end-worthy a while ago. I doubt you can still see it in your rear view mirror.
Am I being manipulated or gaslit?
Actually no, she's being very direct about what a trainwreck she is. She's lying a lot, but she's not trying to make you think you're crazy for thinking she's a mess. She's telling you point blank that she's a mess, and she's shown you repeatedly that she's going to bleed you dry so you can't even call it being manipulated either. This is an extremely upfront and clearly delineated dumpster fire.
How can I trust this won’t continue to happen?
You absolutely can not and should not trust that this won't continue to happen, because this continuing to happen is roughly as likely as the sun rising tomorrow. I couldn't find a single reason she's given you in that entire post to have even the faintest hope that this won't continue to happen. She's basically walking around wearing a t-shirt that says “this is going to continue to happen,” and it's spelled out with blinking lights like a tacky Christmas sweater. Of course this is going to continue to happen.
Look, I understand your hesitation in doing the obviously correct move for your own well-being and getting the hell out of there. You are worried about her daughter, and you're also worried about her despite all the heartache because you do care for this woman and are worried that you're the only thing keeping her life intact. The problem is one person absolutely cannot be the only thing keeping someone else's life intact, it's too much pressure for one individual to bear. Especially with a life like this!
There's an expression called “don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.” Once you're burnt down to nothing they're cold again and need to find somebody else; you destroying yourself to keep her life marginally intact is not sustainable and once you're burnt down to nothing she and her daughter will be in the exact same position they would be if you left right now. In fact maybe you leaving will be the trigger she needs to finally make some positive changes herself. It's unlikely, but it's a hell of a lot more likely than if you stay with her and continue enabling her. She'll never change a thing with you there to hold everything together, for however long you manage to last.
You mean ex boyfriend right??
You know how people talk about “red flags”? Or how people in really toxic relationships start to realize there were early signs? Yeah, this is that.
Everything was good, we would all just talk, hang out and laugh. She is in therapy trying to work through everything. As far as when it’s just the girls hanging out, I haven’t heard of anything negatively affecting their friendship.
Following you around? You mean responding to the conversation that you keep replying to? Do you understand how a forum works? Did you get hit in the head with a baseball or something? You're an odd duck.
Tell your girlfriend I said to have fun on the cruise with her other boyfriend.
I’d be avoiding that guy like the next case of covid! Red flags all over the place!