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Date: April 18, 2023
Flower, ❤️, 20 y.o.
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Obviously kids are something you can't compromise on. There's no way to meet in the middle and have .5 of a child. But in healthy relationships you don't monitor a partner's location and you don't have to report to each other where you are all the time. So at least part of this could be mitigated by just pulling back and not demanding constant surveillance on this guy. As for the future, unless you come to some agreement on family making you have no future together.
Sis, this is a perfect example of the age spread and why people say not to date people that much older than you.
They see you as an object that can be manipulated and controlled rather than a full person entitled to your own feelings, beliefs and life choices.
You are 24. You have a whole big beautiful life in front of you ripe with opportunities to have fun, have new experiences and date someone who truly loves you, cherishes you, and wants to spend life bringing joy into your life.
This guy isn't that. I don't know why you are dating him. I know why he is dating you. Its not love. Its sex. Its control. Its the fact that at 24 you don't have the life experience to call him out on his BS and how wildly unreasonable he is.
Just dump him and move on. You deserve someone who wants to dance through life with you. Not crush your joy and spirit picking fights with you.
The issue isn't that he did it, the issue is why he did it and why he was lying and risking you and your kids safety. That's where the biggest feelings of betrayal stem from. He broke trust in a big way. You have every right to feel as hurt as you do.
Contrary to others' mantra of the divorce bandwagon, I do think this is salvageable if you both are wanting it to be but that absolutely requires going to a good couples therapist and being vulnerable about the hard shit. Lookup “LMFT” therapists on psychology today (their more specialized in working with couples rather than social workers, counselors, or psychologists), and find one that you jive with from their profile.
If you want things to work, you can make it happen. But it will take deep effort on both your parts to do so. Don't just stay for the kids; if you stay, stay because you want to try to work through this mess.
What do you want because stability isn’t happening with this relationship. His goals don’t match yours. Wanting them doesn’t change it.
This is more about you choosing to stay with a guy with different priorities and complaining.
i can’t believe you called it an open relationship when contextually it seems prettt clear you cheated.
i think if you left her it would be good for her. she deserves to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t have one foot out of it
I also agree with you, relationships with those who want to keep exs in their lives are tiring,
they work in the same place with bob and as you noticed, bob continues to be interested in your girlfriend, moreover, she introduces him to you,
1) Why didn't she cut him off instead of lying to you about him relationship with Bob?
2) What was the purpose of her bringing you together? Would she keep him in your life if you were passive?
3) she can end the relationship at work, texting, drinking coffee, why is she going on an evening date?
I used to think your girlfriend kept Bob in tow and slept with her while you were in a relationship.
I say put the 4 months aside and deal with a new girl.
This has been an argument point for years now in our relationship (almost 6 years now) and I’m tired of it and want to leave. I need advice on how to go about it. Last time I tried to have a conversation about it, he threatened to kill himself, so I need a gentle way of saying it I guess
I guess when you've been abused for 6 years by a manipulative and abusive man, since you were a teenager, you need to GTFO of there. No, he's not going to kill himself, or if he does, it's ENTIRELY about him and not even the slightest bit about you or anything you've done.
Just get your stuff and go. Nobody can be in a relationship with a person who says he will kill himself without her. He is literally using emotional blackmail to get sex from you that you are not even enjoying. He's forcing sex on you THAT YOU DO NOT WANT. Don't you see how wrong that is?
OP, this is an easy fix. Tell him you are sorry and give him a wild night of passion. Sex is always the fix for stupid mistakes.