What a way to waste your time, and retire with y ou to look after him. 17 years is all he has to hang on for…Dump him….The age difference is too great, too much of a power imbalance in the relationship….
My partner would be pissed if I asked her parents. Its effectively asking a father to 'give' you his daughter. Its creepy as fuck. As is that whole father handing over the bride thing in weddings but we tend to let that pass. Shudder.
I see your situation as an intersection of fertility, autonomy, and generosity.
Overall, I think it is something to raise with a potentially serious life partner. I think you can express a feeling of satisfaction about this, in the same way you would if you'd donated a kidney or donated a headful of your hair.
Fake, didn't you just post about getting together with your sister's affair partner? And she warned you not to get together with him?
I think her expecting to rent a $5k apartment is beyond the pale & doesnβt bode well for financial responsibility.
How sure are you that he's actually seeing an actual therapist?
What a way to waste your time, and retire with y ou to look after him. 17 years is all he has to hang on for…Dump him….The age difference is too great, too much of a power imbalance in the relationship….
My partner would be pissed if I asked her parents. Its effectively asking a father to 'give' you his daughter. Its creepy as fuck. As is that whole father handing over the bride thing in weddings but we tend to let that pass. Shudder.
Ask him out for coffee or something you both enjoy and tell him how you feel. Don't ask him to the prom. He doesn't want to go.
Thanks for the context, I did find it helpful.
I see your situation as an intersection of fertility, autonomy, and generosity.
Overall, I think it is something to raise with a potentially serious life partner. I think you can express a feeling of satisfaction about this, in the same way you would if you'd donated a kidney or donated a headful of your hair.