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There is no formula but people change and when you enter in a relationship with the age gap you have to how your two mindsets will evolve during the relationship
To change his behavior, I would take him up on his offer to plan things together.
The trick, I think, is positive reinforcement. To avoid playing Teacher, or otherwise talking down to him. To quickly show encouragement when he says or does something right, and when he ventures an idea that seems questionable to you, keep your disdain under tight control. And when he makes mistakes, as he surely will, let him learn by himself where we went wrong, while you hold your tongue.
I realize that after 6 years your patience has run low, and you may feel that this is an unreasonable burden. AFAIK there is no shortcut.
My two cents, it sounds like he has made his home as accommodating to you as possible to support your agency. You said it yourself that you feel most independent here because of how he’s made it for you. None of these sound like a twisted person that’s taking advantage of a disabled person or someone that wants to watch you struggle. People have their weird porn stuff, for sure, and it may be even branched off of his caregiving for you that this kink grew, but it doesn’t sound like there’s anything malicious happening otherwise from what you’ve written. Good luck with everything.
Why is anyone at fault? Not every gift is a winner. Say thank you and move on with your life.
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I am not sure, maybe things will change if we meetup? And i have discussed it with him, the way i feel and differences between us. I just feel like we are in between of nowhere hoping things would get better, what if they actually do?
well… that begs the question.
If you're not getting what you need out of this – support… then how is it going to get better in the future? Is he going to change or you just waiting until you move in with him and the “uber” issue goes away? other than still needing to get to work and what not.
Sounds like you should bring it up again and ask for better support. He shouldn't be paying your bills or doing it 100% of the time but I'd feel like shit as a boyfriend if I didn't drive places if asked.
Y’all act like she’s 18 and he’s 90. It’s 13 frigging years. Get over it.
I’m a family law attorney and based on the info in the post, I would assume the mother’s parental rights are intact.
She ain't sad she did it. She is sad she got caught. Wise up
Internet mom here. He tried to end you. Literally. Don’t you dare go back. You have to get therapy because you did the strongest thing and you’re forgetting. You left an abusive man. It never gets better. It always gets worse. The worse, in your situation, is him ending you. Please seek out therapy so that you don’t go back and so that you never choose an abuser again. You aren’t alone. Almost every woman who leaves abuse thinks about going back at some point but you can’t. It’s why we get help from a professional. You will come out of therapy stronger, more confident and happier than you can imagine. And next time you will choose a kind man. A man that values you instead of hitting you. Please. Call a domestic violence hotline. They have resources that are free. Please.
He's obviously taking you for granted, much like the mixing bowls in the kitchen. 9 years together is a long time. Why aren't you married after 9 years? Then again, it might be something else.
It's worth talking about it to him and not making assumptions without information.
If he doesn't change, it's time to move on.
You should have given up on him when he gave up on you, which was the time of his first incidences of cheating and abusing you.
You should definitely be getting out now with your baby. Don’t subject a Little One to this kind of violent toxicity.
Why can’t she move? Why does this have to be an all him problem? He’s been working towards this and she can’t seem to figure out how to make it work? I mean meet half way, see each other weekends, it’s their “shared future” on the line. People do long distance all the time and 3 hours isn’t much at all.
yeah I'd stay well out of it. he doesn't know exactly what the circumstances of their relationship were when he met her, he barely knows their circumstances now except they are engaged and recently had a child. there could be information or details he isn't privy to. i personally wouldn't even think about getting involved.
This is way bigger than a song. She wants to attach some meaning to the tattoo that applies to her like “oh that was the first song at our wedding”. She wants to erase the original meaning because she can’t stand you have had someone else meaningful in your life. She is NOT doing this “for” you because if she was she’d listen to and respect your wishes. It sounds like a little thing but her doubling down over being jealous over the meaning of a tattoo is really concerning about the future of your marriage
I would be pissed, wtf
I think this is the real point, a serious photographer would be well aware of the possible problems in this situation, I'd never dream of asking a friends partner to do this, and if they approached me about it together there would be some fairly clear ground rules discussed first
And he needs to learn appropriate ways to respond to people…
Anal?
True, most people aren't adults.
After 8 years you owe her either 1) to break up with her as you don’t want to marry her or 2) tell her you do t see her as wife material.
Any other option makes you a huge asshole.
Idk if you’re talking to me or not but I already said all of that.
I never fucking said such thing you retarded cunt ass bitch. Why the fuck are people on this site such a massive asshole that they need to bully people by putting words in their mouth? If you have a problem with me, then argue against something I actually said or advised about. I hope you die from the aids you get when you next rape someone. Piece of shit, motherfucker.
This is more of a legal question at this point.
He may have legal rights but it’s on him to go to court and try to establish them. If he does then you need a lawyer then. If you’re worried about it then contact a family law lawyer now to determine what rights he might have and how best to protect your current family from his possible future interference.
If you don’t want ex, or his mother, harassing your social media then your best bet is just to delete or pause your accounts and lock them down. Yes social media is nice to have but it’s not a necessity and having it right now is leaving the door wide open for the ex and you need to close that door.
Nice…. Try to lessen the argument that I'm making by suggesting that I'm crazy without actually submitting any proof that anything I say has merit.
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Ask him if he’d pay for it either way you’ve got your answer on the future of this relationship
My mother in law was there as well sometimes and I was never greedy and kept the baby to myself I would share with her
Not necessarily, he's been giving his all in the relationship for the past 2-3 months.
I agree. OP says his marriage is near perfect, but he also says he's disabled and his wife has been his primary caretaker. She also seems to be the primary breadwinner. That's a tough position. I'll be honest, even I wouldn't stay in a marriage that put that much pressure on me. Most men don't, and lots of women don't either.
I also think that's going to factor into custody. If he needs his wife to help him with his disability, he's going to have a hard time arguing for half custody unless he can ensure there's someone else there to help him and the kids.
you do not get how long people get to be hurt about your asshole ways. oh. a stay at home dad you say. by you “i'd be lost without her, it seems like you're the type to “babysit” your kids then pass all the chores to your wife when she gets home because you've already done your part and are tired.
Being a sugar baby is in no way comparable to domestic violence.
It most certainly isn’t. But I hope you get the idea. I think the equivalent thing is with the genders reversed would be different for different women.
lol there is nothing to work on you just say no or they gonna get arrested for SA.
Don't ask. They get to choose who is in their wedding. Just see how it plays out, how they communicate with you and use it to inform how you go forward with this person.
There’s no way to move forward except to get your life functioning without him, then find a time and space to grieve and cry.
Your mom is being extremely inconsiderate. Why in hell does she need brand new stuffs of the same items you use of your baby? Because she wants to show off the Grand kids to friends in new things. Unbelievable. She knows you don't work yet and knows your boyfriend is doing his best since y'all are still students, yet goes out to call him a bad father? Are you kidding me? If she didn't want to help with the kid in the first place then why offer to do so? Talk to your mom and reason with her. This is ludicrous.
If you're uncomfortable with it and you can't trust him, why would you stay in the relationship? He won't change.
I will definitely keep that in mind. I had never thought of him in that way. He's never been the possessive type, but I kind of see that a little now.
This is actually the best time to do it. He is in a safe environment with professionals. I had to do this. I called the psych ward and td a nurse what was going on and what I was going to do so they were prepared. It was a damn good thing I told the nurse beforehand bc he went nuts. Didn't matter though, he was in a place where he could not hurt himself. I wish you all the best and don't sacrifice yourself for someone who can't really even give you a small amount of respect. People who respect you don't try to emotionally manipulate you to get what they want.
Former stripper here.
Strip clubs vary wildly depending on where you are, because laws vary so much. They run the gamut from topless only two fully hard, zero physical contact to genital touching during private dances, and shows that are clearly meant to turn you on to shows that are basically gymnastics with fancy costumes that come off.
Customers go to strip clubs for all kinds of reasons. I’ve seen groups of guys who are there just because it’s a fun environment to guys who are looking for a human connection to guys who are there with the goal of coming in their pants.
I don’t think you’re discomfort is unreasonable, and I don’t think you’re boyfriend is necessarily lying or downplaying how he views strip clubs. I wonder if it would help you either better articulate your discomfort or feel less uncomfortable if you actually went to a strip club to see what it’s like? If you do this, just make sure that you are polite to the dancers, and that you bring some cash for tipping.
Always go with your gut as your subconscious usually picks up on tells that may not be obvious to our natural senses. These stories usually end badly due to the trusting partner not digging and investigating the situation thoroughly. Call the company and get the particulars of the party and the particulars yourself. Say that you are a spouse that needed details for babysitting purposes as you were going to join and see what they say. Better yet, demand to go anyway and see what happens. Something tells me that parts of her story are fabricated and you should t take no for an answer.
Bottom line is that you’re fighting for the integrity of your marriage and you can’t act naive to your concerns. Tell her you’re going and if they turn you away at the door you’ll go to her hotel and wait for her. If she refuses then something is going on.
Are you actually 33? I feel like those a typo.
You have only been together for a month. You drag her to a wedding where she doesn't know anyone. You can't expect her to be talking to everyone like they are best friends.
And about the bouquet. What were you expecting exactly? That's what women do at weddings. They go try to catch the bouque.
So you complain when she is not being as social as you. But then when she does out to be social. You complain more.
Sounds like you really need to grow up, buds. And go be single while you learn that.
Yes run now.
Why u are changing anything ?
This idea has crossed my mind, doesn't really bother me that much, it's just not something I would personally do, or at least can't see myself doing it. Thanks for the answer!
I think it’s because I don’t know how to deal with the problems. There’s a lot I don’t understand.
how will a break teach you to deal with the problems?
Opening a relationship to try and “solve” incompatibilities or meet an unfulfilled need is really just bringing other people into your mess. Ask yourself this, what kind of dynamic would him or you even be looking for? He says he needs sex to feel a deeper connection to his partner and that's valid well and good but getting that from another person means he intends to connect with another woman on a level he isn't connecting with you, are you okay with that?
Also it's not just sex, VERY few women he'd likely be interested in are gonna hear “oh you want sex and intimacy from me but not a relationship and also you're in a relationship, SOUNDS GREAT!”. On a level there will be the expectation on both sides of a separate relationship and chemistry building separately from you. And it's fundamentally selfish to tell a whole ass person to be your third and not have equal negotiating terms in the relationship with all parties (it's not what you would want if you were pursuing someone after all yes?).
Which means this third new person gets to set EQUAL terms for how the relationship goes. it's not you and your bf as a team with a third woman, it's a 3 way equal partnership that fundamentally changes the dynamic of yours. There will be time he spends with her that doesn't involve you, feelings between him and her that are between them and not you. yes you all need to communicate but you cannot control this person and your relationship with your bf (regardless of how long you've been together) doesn't take ultimate priority.
You don't get to tell her “this isn't working out and is putting OUR relationship in jeopardy so leave, because it will no longer be just his and your relationship. People don't work that way and feelings don't work that way. And there is a very real chance that your bf may start prioritizing time with this other woman, regardless of what he is going to need to spend time away from you to build a connection with her.
This is why “open the relationship up” as a solution infuriates me so much, fundamentally people think of it as treating another whole ass human being as a band aid for THEIR relationship and wanting the third to be part of it but a lesser part and that is putting them in a box telling them their feelings are less important and they aren't equal in what's happening. It's sickeningly selfish.
If you both have relationship problems in regards to mismatched libidos then work to resolve that together and maybe look into a couple's therapist. Evaluate why it's so easy for him to suggest that, that if he finds sex emotionally fulfilling and as a way to feel connected why does he want that from another woman? Does it not matter who it comes from for him? If so that itself is very telling.
T.L.D.R. Don't involve another person as a bandage for your incompatibility, either work on your relationship together or break up.
Reditt is literally the Worst place for advice, everyone’s answer to anything is to dump them and move on. Well if you like her and want to be with her maybe she cares for you and wants to see you be a better person. If she breaks up with you then take that time to do better. Maybe better job or clean yourself up. Then come back to her and dick her down
Your girlfriend needs to learn to lose a game of chess and not take it out on you.
I guarantee all this is because she got flagged or swamped at the board.
Brother that's a pretty bad red flag.