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Date: October 5, 2022
GO TO THERAPY.
Thanks everyone for your advice.
Everyone that was telling me to just dump him, I appreciate the sentiment and gave it some serious consideration, but at the end of the day there are more complexities to relationships than meet the eye (or that can be included in a reddit post), and we wouldn’t have any chance at having good relationships if we ran away from people every time someone has a flaw or makes a mistake.
Those people insulting me for having little or no self respect, I’m in my 20s and it’s something I’m learning to get better at, but I want to make sure I’m being fair in my relationships at the same time as not being walked all over:) Self-respect doesn’t always mean dismissing everyone the second they make a mistake.
That being said, I did feel that this was a huge breach of trust based on a boundary that wasn’t clearly defined previous to this situation. I did heavily interrogate him about what happened, and I won’t be popular for saying this, but I don’t believe that I was cheated on. For one thing, Mike is not a very good liar, and he has really obvious tells when he lies lol, and those just weren’t coming through.
It also turned out that Leah did not show up drunk, but apparently got drunk at Mike’s. And her “touchiness” was apparently due to her “having a bad day and needing a hug, but holding on a bit too long.” When Mike revealed this to me, I pointed out that maybe he shouldn’t have let her get drunk, but he said “Leah’s an adult and can do what she wants.” I pointed out that she can’t do absolutely anything she wants, especially when there’s another person involved or if that person is in a relationship, or given that it’s his apartment and he’s allowed to have boundaries.
At the end of the day, it really just seems like Mike was being legitimately dull about the situation while it was happening, and he has since admitted that he should have communicated better.
One thing I considered is that maybe he feels like he can’t have boundaries with Leah as she’s significantly older than him. I still see that as a recipe for disaster as she really does seem to have some kind of intentions, but that seems to be Mike’s issue to work on, and I’ve pointed that out to him.
We decided that a good boundary going forward is that we won’t hang out with exes or people of potential romantic interest at night in private places.
He expressed a sincere willingness to keep to this boundary. And I made it clear that if it’s ever crossed again, I will not stick around. I know that might also not be a popular thing to say, but as I previously mentioned one of the complexities that escaped my original post is that Mike is a bad liar and we can tell when something is “up” with the other. I know I can’t read his mind of guarantee that I’ll always catch anything, but it is worth something.