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It can be, or it can be a freedom where you try and get comfortable with yourself, do things you like
You're going to extremes lol, every person is capable of a bad break and killing you on the spot, does it mean It's gonna happen?
I'm not a doctor but your boyfriend needs therapy because he is suffering from some OCD – like phobia that is causing an anger outburst. It's no excuse to treat you like that, but the anger is stemming from fear and won't go away until he gets it under control.
As far as you're concerned, you should probably leave. Abuse isn't okay.
Source: I've had similar outbursts.
This is weird and controlling behavior. Not protective ?? I promise no girl likes this and is probably why she wants to leave…have you considered that maybe (maybe) you’re smothering her? You’re her bf not her father. Plus she’s 21. What do you expect? Stay home and watch movies?
You've asked him not to when you've taken ambien. He says he can't tell that you've taken it. But he also knows you take it every night. So which is it? Unless you take the meds at a completely different time every night to the point he has legitimate reaosn to not be able to track when you've taken it, I'm not finding much incentive to believe he's doing things unintentionally.
Sounds to me like she was content with you not going out with her again. And being you acted strangely that she said hi and she didn't acknowledge you throughout your date, I thought was more of an issue.
Right? I would do the same. I think if you really respect your partner you shouldn’t be friends with someone who is in love with you.
Well do you see yourself potentially marrying her one day? Do you think she's the one for you?
Never buy a house with someone you're not married to. Even then, things have been known to turn shitty. I had a an elderly bank manager refuse to set up joint bank accounts for my gf and I. I was 35. Three years later, we were broken up. He was right.
Tell him if he keeps it up you'll leave, and when he inevitably keeps doing it you keep your promise.
I’ve read a lot of posts of woman who didn’t cheat on their spouse being asked to do the tests. All of them did it, and asked for divorce. What’s the point of being in a relationship if there’s no trust. Are you gonna tell your kids “ daddy asked for tests because he didn’t trust me to not sleep around and didn’t believe you were his.” This is pretty messed up.
They never do despite claiming they do
It’s dependent if you have “Filter unknown senders” enabled under Settings > Messages.
For everyone else the default should show Edit> recently deleted
You're insane. You have a good relationship and you're gonna throw it away over a professional dance in which nothing happened?? This is akin to watching porn. Less, actually, because at least with porn you can jack off.
Are you extremely controlling and domineering in other aspects of the relationship as well?
It seems that OP has deleted her account, which was a very wise move. Yikes, her poor husband and stepdaughter.
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Put it to test, leave your wallet in the car and tell her you forgot it, see her reaction. Also next time instead of gifts, give her things to do as a couple, like a massage, if she gets mad, or looks disappointed, You're not her boyfriend, you're her sugar daddy and you know what to do
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Get a therapist who specializes in NB…do a couple therapy…maybe he needs to educate himself on what it means first. If he's trying to communicate and open up then that's great. It will take baby steps but I'm sure he will get there.
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he came to give back a box of our memories out of nowhere. Don’t want validation just want to know what the best course of action is.
Based on their replies to me, this person didn’t read beyond the title, and then they just jumped in and started stirring shit.
I'm on the left, and see the same shite thrown at Republicans. “Oh you supported Trump, so you must be racist”.
It's the exact same thing here. “You don't want to date a lesbian, so you must be homophobic”.
I wouldn't go that route: it could backfire if one or more has an unrequited crush on (name). And that could explain why they're acting like this too.
Cut them off
Wow. I can’t believe after all these she doubled down. I wonder if anything in the past raised a flag or two for you now in hindsight ?
First get a STD test to see whether you are okay. Then contact the number thr text us from and get all the details. Armed with all the proof confront your bf. If he has cheated end the relationship.
Uhhh no. Women have a body part that can literally feed young children, if that’s not enough of a biological hint that one sex is meant to care for its young over the other then I don’t know what else I can tell you ?
I’d recommend talking to your therapist about this. I’d also recommend asking your psychiatrist about what kind of therapy would be best for someone with your diagnosis. I have BPD so CBT isn’t the best option for dealing with it DBT is. I haven’t started yet just due to scheduling issues, but you may not be getting the best care for your diagnosis and that could potentially be leading you to have worsened symptoms. I would also recommend that you find a support group or accountability partner to help with your alcoholism. Using a depressant isn’t going to help your depression and I hope you can find some help with recovery.
Cancel the flight, divorce your wife. Cut that nastiness off and don’t look back
Maybe you are right maybe the spark is gone. Is this relationship good otherwise? Can you live with a person whom you don't have sex with? Some people can, they make an agreement to find sex elsewhere. It's not something to be ashamed of if otherwise you are compatible.
Who greets other people giving a relationship status of their children?
Typically, white female boomers. Especially if they are from a religious/cultural context where women having children is a big part of their standing in the community.
Is this some cultural thing, where people are single unless they are married and dating is not recognized by older generation?
Yes and no. Less that dating isn't accepted, more that single is used as a byword for unmarried. My parents and grandparents liked my husband, but lamented my single status to my face until we were married e.g. “Oh, Inconceivable, your sister has three boys already while you're still single. Boyfriend had best get a move on!”
Is older generation expected to matchmake their children? Not necessarily but I definitely think this language is more commonly used in contexts where you are expected to marry within your community. Single in this context denotes social status more than romantic status. The scale goes like this:
My child is an embarrassment: Alone/looking for someone Shows potential: Single Socially acceptable: Married Praise worthy: Married with children Brag to my friends worthy: Married with male children
Pussy over a scary movie
Wow, that's insanely disrespectful. If you don't respect him, maybe break up?
Some people really don't like scary movies. You can't force people to do something they really, really dislike.
If he assumed that he wouldn't be sleeping with her. You don't wear a seat belt assuming you're going to wreck today. It's a precaution against something you can't foresee.
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Stop searching his phone. Leave him alone. He controls his eyes and can look at what he wants.
Good for the both of you. Sounds like you didn't like the way he was becoming and he shouldn't change for you either. Move on and hopefully the both of you find the right people.
I don't know why Americans treat “fundamentalist” or “traditional” or “strict” or whatever you want to call them parents like they are some normal and acceptable thing to be. Your mum thinks you're basically property, that's what it comes down to. Sounds like the rest of your family are a bit better but she wants you to live the exact same life she's had – which is basically being groomed from childhood to be a slave to some man.
Sounds like your mum got lucky with your dad. Maybe get her to look at r/rpchristians (TW its mostly men giving each other advice on how best to gaslight their wives) to see what you could end up with if you do things the way she wants.
talk to your therapist about learning to filter your anxious thoughts from rational concerns. Instead of voicing genuine, valid feelings and thoughts to him, you’re just constantly voicing every insecurity that goes through your head.
I’m pretty sure this is a troll. OP is literally taking no one’s advice. I know some people are just that naive, but this is an astronomical amount of stupidness.
That's true But with that he knows now…the best thing would be to divorce her
Thank you, a practiced liar. That is a very good way to put it.
It’s possible he has a fragrance allergy.
I have a severe fragrance allergy that is incredibly debilitating. Chemical scents and some natural ones (sandalwood in particular) are very disregulating for me.
That said if he’s complaining about fresh sweat something’s wonky.
Sorry, even after rereading it wasn’t exactly clear to me what you meant.
Yeah to me this isn't funny or flirty, this is selfish. He's using her to get himself off while she's asleep.
So either 1) she can't consent, or 2) he wakes her up because he couldn't be bothered to use his own hand
Either way, I'd be pissed and disgusted
I’m getting the notifications of everyone’s reply but I can’t see them. Does anyone know why ???
It seems like you already know everything anyone here could tell you.
I'm not trying to be harsh, but I will be frank. You both have very toxic tendencies and need copious amounts of therapy before you should even think about being in a relationship with anyone, let alone with each other. You're hurting yourselves, each other, and everyone else who gets in the middle. Your relationship has been toxic the entire time you've known each other, and it's not going to get better if you don't both undergo some major growth first. Once you've done that, you'll both likely recognize that this was less of a relationship and more of an addiction, and wind up deciding not to give it another go.
But your post sounds like you already know all that, and you've already decided to be with him. People who post here, having already made their decision, are usually looking for validation, someone to say “it'll be fine, go for it”. I can't do that. It is obviously not a good idea.
But if you got 500 comments saying the same thing, would you change your mind and cut contact? I can't assume you wouldn't, but I know that when my mind is made up, strangers on the internet are unlikely to change it.
I've always wanted to be a father myself, and I was in a relationship with someone who was determined to remain childless for life. It was unfair to both of us, and I was blinded by love to the fact that I'd always have that sense of loss at not being a parent as I so dearly wanted to be. The ending of that relationship was a blessing for many reasons, but that was a big one. The fact that OP's partner there clearly is both blinded by love, and wants to be a father so much and is so excited by the idea, shows that they are not actually compatible.
First sentence says they’re in Asia. Try harder
When you leave be sure to take all your belongings with you
Just don't talk to Alex. Why would you even want to be nice to a guy who has hurt your partner so badly? That is disrespectful in my opinion. He straight up destroyed your partner's previous marriage, I wouldn't even give him the time of day were I in your position.
I see it as a compliment when I am trying to loose weight. But yes, op said that the neighbour seems uncomfortable, it might be a problem for her. Either way. Hubby is gonna say what he wants. Maybe he’s hoping that op is going to loose weight and doesn’t know how to bring it up so he just keeps making a big deal about the neighbour’s weight loss. Who knows.
Well that's a ponderous word salad. But people who threaten to break up with their partners constantly over small things are manipulative af. “Bert” and “Sally” here need to just break up already.
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It’s definitely giving misogynistic
I did.
I didn't even date the guy for half the time op and his ex did. Dated for a few months and went our separate ways p peacefully.
But then he reached out one-day last year and we chatted. Eventually, he asked me to meet up again but I had lot more reasons to say no than yes so I cut him off.
I got curious a few months later and the first thing I saw was his obituary. Dead at 29. And now I think about the what ifs constantly.
Tldr, the emotional damage is inevitable
Thank you very much.
It means it’s time to dump him and find someone who appreciates you and is happy to have you in his life.
Did you sit down and decide to separate cooking/cleaning as a team? Because reading this, to me cooking includes dishes if she’s doing the bulk of the other cleaning. If not, I would start there and see if she feels that it’s unbalanced.
Otherwise, I would let her be since she could be going through something she’s not wanting to talk about.
Well, it is not really about you. It is just that it is easier to get aroused through visuals. And besides, we all have the right to have our fantasies, don't we?
Don't know, my wife knows I look porn. It is not an issue because she knows I will only love her, and she knows is it unrealistic to expect from your partner to not feel attracted by beauty. She know that the whole of her and the significance she has for me is more than enough.
Nope ? my wife has a PhD, your sister is lying her ass off. Ask her when her defense was and where was it? Who was on her panel? Did she have any edits to complete after the defense? How come you weren’t invited to the defense (they’re pubic) Ask her the title of her diss…when you’ve put your entire self into a dissertation you’ll never forget the title or the abstract. If she doesn’t know this stuff (cuz she won’t) then you’ll be able to call her out.
Dude let it go. Omg!!!
oy, I'm so sorry that happened. That's simply devastating. Unfortunately, he's a child still. They can often be fun but not ready to step up to the naked parts of a relationship. It is probably impossible to see right now but you dodged a bullet. You are so incredibly lucky. You could have spent 5 more years with him only to have him do this. and maybe those years would have been miserable because he's clearly not ready for an adult relationship. There's no rationalizing with your heart and it's going to hurt for a good long time but the sooner you can start wrapping your head around your incredible luck, the easier it will become. You're young. You're free. The world is at your feet. I'm 58 and my 20 year old loves are but blurry memories. I went on to much greater loves.
You gf is super insecure and it’s weird she only brought up this boundary 4-years later. She doesn’t trust you or else she wouldn’t have an issue with it. This is her problem she has to deal with, trying to control who you’re around at work is insane and absurd. She has every right to set a boundary but you have every right to not agree and leave to relationship, same as she does if this is a deal-breaker for her.
Personally I wouldn’t put up with your gf’s behavior, and I haven’t I don’t want to be with someone who tries to control my friendships.
That is not what a relationship boundary is. He is using the word “boundaries” as a means to control you ehich is not okay. That is a typical tactic of someone abusive trying to establish control of you before you can realize how manipulative they truly are.
He does NOT get to say you can't go out and/or spend time with your friends!
Nope. I have had a lot of fun times in bars as a youngster with a group of friends. Lots of stupid dancing. Karaoke. Hustling at pool. Helping others (made a dude feel better about drinking beer with grenadine when his friends called him girly, I interjected and said it was for the Caps (hockey team) and had his friends and the bar drinking it that way). All kinds of god and bad can happen. Just gotta go with friends you trust and keep an eye on each other. Helped that I never went to flirt because I was always with my partner.
Splitting tabs is the solution, not the problem
If he wants kids and you don’t you’re not compatible.
Oh sorry if I didn't write this well, I still very much want my daughter in my life, but when I say alone I mean without a partner
If you pay rent, not his choice
Why do people put up with this? How does a guy like this get a gf?
The bar is actually on the ground expectation wise. You really can’t go much lower. Any reason why you’re willing to settle for virtually zero effort and no ambition in a partner?
Okay, thank you for ur time
Yikes. You have a lot of insecurities to deal with, both of you. The fact that you’re both using Snapchat, let alone monitoring/agreeing who you can and can not add.
It’s a video game.
He lives here close to me, and I’m struggling with her commitment to the lie. She went through hoops to try and keep it.
How about stop dating criminals and expecting them to behave appropriately?
You were both in the wrong in the encounter, for sure. He is engaged with a child, and while you have no obligations around that, I suspect on some level you knew exactly what you were doing considering you had feelings to confess. Therefore I’m looking at this through that lens. You just have to tell him that you need him to avoid any hint of flirtation in his communications with you so that you feel better about maintaining the friendship. It’s clear you’re not that outraged by the incident itself since you still want to tell him about your other personal issues.
I will say this though, there’s a chance that somewhere down the line his future wife will learn about what happened, and if you end up losing the friendship or are put in an uncomfortable spot, don’t be surprised and most definitely don’t pretend to be a victim in it.
Don’t be concerned about getting with girls, because what leads to mature people forming connections for something other than a quid pro quo – sexual and romantic, platonic – is a sense that the other person thinks of them as a person.
You are more concerned about your sexual prospects with other people than this woman whom you cast as a friend in this story. If she wasn’t your friend, she was in your friend group, and now you’re more concerned about the poisoned well than what you did to her and demonstrated about yourself.
Not the person who you replied to, but that’s what stands out to me. If you were a decent person, you’d be more focused on the distrust you sowed in an individual, not how to avoid further consequences.
You should be focused on improving your mindset.
You’ll be happy to do sexual stuff with the right person. And you’ll know they’re the right person because they will respect you, and make you feel seen and safe.
You deserve that.
No. He just said your minor-child daughter can't live with you.
Please try to see this from your kid's point of view. Try to have some compassion and empathy for her. She's losing the home she knows. And she's completely powerless to do anything about it.
link? also he sounds like busy bee. his interactions with everyone is fine too serve his purpose. he just might be a stick in the mud kinda guy. focused and knows more than others. so he makes everyone look and feel lesser than him, may not do it intentionally, but just happens. while doing this , he didn't project leadership which he Likely did not.
people avoid him because they he fail to connect with him . or more likey falls to read the room and to e out down.
ask him to take the emotional intelligence test. it's short.
You have no idea how female anatomy works.
And not once did I see an ounce of care about the sons feelings it was all “what about me” “imagine my pain” “how will I deal with this pain” lmao I can assure you his pain was a lot more worse.
Stupid fight, if you can't resolve this you have bigger issues
She doesn't understand corporate life, and the worst part is she is unwilling to learn. You need to start putting your foot down and thinking of your money as yours again, because she clearly thinks it's hers. You're going to keep getting passed by other younger more dynamic men and women at your office if you're seen as the sap who has to do as his wife tells him.
If changing her body to make you happy would take so much effort that she wouldn’t enjoy life—that can happen—then are you worth it? Can she really permanently, safely change her body without being miserable? You underestimate how naked it can be for someone to change their body.
Do you want him to be romantic?
Could be that your friends are becoming friends with each other, which is awesome.
Could be that this is turning into more. How do you feel about sharing? I had a friend once who told me she was one of five women all sleeping with the same guy. In her words “we were just looking for a teddy bear”.
If you're not interested in sharing, which seems to be the case, then it's time to have a talk with your FWB about expectations and exclusivity.
I felt like something was really wrong and read her journal.
Why don't you honor your partner's privacy? That's pretty fucked up of you to read her journal.
It is almost cover to cover filled with denigrating complaints about the physical ailments and struggles I have had since moving here.
Believe it or not, she's allowed to have a private opinion of you. And it would've stayed private if you were a decent partner to her.
Is she gaslighting me?
No, this is not gaslighting. You're really reaching trying to make her guilty to overshadow you violating her privacy.
Why would she do this?
You mean why would she have private thoughts? Like everyone on this planet?
You are being critical, judgmental, and passive aggressive. Stop it.
Hm, honestly now that I’m thinking about it I haven’t really asked him to hangout earlier in the week, we’ve just been hanging out on fridays where as before we’d do 2 or 3 week nights… so I guess we’re spending more time with each other on the one day we do hangout because we’ve been doing sleep overs, vs the amount that we’d spend during the week which was only a few hours. Other than that, there hasn’t been any changes that I know of, but this upcoming week his work schedule has picked up a lot so idek if/when we’re hanging out this week
Im a sports coach and work with a range of levels and ages . I have my fair share of women who have either spent most of their time paying attention to others, sometimes with kids now growing up, needy partners and the day has come where one says I’m going to look after me.
As a generalisation , some of the training is about time allocation , listening to music , doing things one enjoys seeing a friend , resting , pampering etc and getting people into the frame of mind to look after self and be your own bestie. In many ways that’s the first part of teaching and the physical or technical component simply follows and generally women are their own stars once guided in that direction .
To your own credit , youve just decided and are walking the walk . Self motivated . Well done .
Now I’m not here to comment on your relationship but it’s true sone men struggle with their partners achieving . Surely the best men both encourage , support and want what’s best for you, the others think of themselves.
Read some of Lady Gagas quotes on making your own journey, flying and on partners holding you back.
Fly higher and faster I say . ?
$150k… anything else you would like to take a jab at?
She isn't your problem, keep quiet and just move out in 2 months.
Hi neighbour! Well we had not specific rules to be honest but was quiet uncomfortable maybe this open relationship or all open relationships are not for me…lets see what happens.
idk man. I just keep a fanby the bed and sometimes I sleep in a different place.
GET. THE. FUK. OUT. PLEASE!
“Chickened out.” Give me a break. What does that even mean? He didn’t have the courage to do it? Oh great, so it wasn’t the searing pain of heartbreak you’d think someone would feel if they were going to cheat on someone they loved IN ADDITION to being a coward?
HE CAME HOME! AND THEN LEFT! GET THE FUK OUT!
Something important to keep in mind is that unless the brother becomes more independent, and it's not clear that he even wants to, this will not be a temporary thing. This will be the rest of your lives. A permanent third person in a household is a lot even for married adults to handle.
There are no bad guys in this story either way. (I was a little upset with the parents for not considering assistance or encouraging independence but after you added some context for that I get it.) Your boyfriend wants to do right by his brother, and you're worried about what this major change in living circumstances will mean for the two of you. Both completely reasonable positions. No matter what you decide about this it's valid, including if you decide it's too much to handle and break up.
If I were going to suggest a compromise here it might be something along the lines of: “This can't be open-ended, there has to be an expiration date on the arrangement. Maybe he can live with us for X length of time provided he is using Y resources/classes/whatever to learn about his options for independent living with a plan to move out by Z date.” That date doesn't have to be set in stone but you're really going to want to make it as firm as possible if you go this route. A nebulous time frame means eventually one of the three of you is not going to be on the same page as the others on when it should end, which leads to disagreements and chaos and the potential for hurt feelings. The more ironed out you have the details at the beginning the smoother everything will go.
Yeah but by the 2nd, 3rd time… you know.
Break up