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You didn't answer the second question?
This didn't happen. No one talks/writes like this. Ever.
My suggestion is get your Testosterone level checked by a doctor. You could have some weird hormonal imbalance going on because of an underlying health issue. If that turns out normal, than you just not be with the right woman for you. I had a horrible car wreck many years ago and was put on methadone for 2 years of pain therapy before surgery. As a result, my pituitary gland stopped producing testosterone and I began having ED issues. After going thru all of the available solutions, I wound up having to inject 1 ml every seven days for the rest of my life. It made a huge difference for me, and gave me back my confidence. I wouldn't have known that my pituitary gland stopped producing testosterone if I had never consulted with the doctor and been diagnosed.
Do you want to marry him or are you using this comment to mask the fact that you don’t wanna get hitched?
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Not what I am doing at all.
Age gaps arent the problem.
The younger member of the relationships age is the problem.
Nothing wrong with a 3 yr gap. An 18 yr old and a 15 yr old, there is something wrong. Even if it wasnt illegal. 18 and 21, maybe alittle sketchy but probably okay.
26 and 32. Not bad, 18 and 24, totally different points in life even if we dont look at the physiological differences with regards to maturation of the brain and psyche.
How did a 24 yr old meet an 18yr old? WHY is a 24 yr old starting a relationship with an 18 yr old?
Are there situations where this type of relationship could be normal and healthy? Sure. But those aren't going to be the majority.
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Please do, if she's the vocal kind there's loads of apps where you can download for free and provide to your parents so if you day “sis told me to unalive myself ect” and they don't believe you, provide the recording
If they ask why you have a recording say you felt you wouldn't be believed and this is proof of her veing aggressive towards her
What messages?
You need to stop playing victim, here and now. You can feel bad about what happened, but ultimately you made a choice and you are fully deserving of any consequences that come from that choice.
You cheated. End of story. There is no “it could have been worse.” You still cheated. The betrayal is all the same.
You cannot say you know for sure you'll never do it again. You didn't think you'd ever do it in the first place did you? So if you didn't realize you were capable of it once, you have zero ways of ensuring to yourself or to your girlfriend that you won't do it again. Don't lead with that, because it isn't something you can genuinely promise.
It sounds like your girlfriend was correct to not trust this “friend” and I'm willing to bet this isn't the first time your “friend” has encouraged you to be disrespectful to your relationship. It's time to cut this person off. They are not your friend, and they do not have your best interest at heart.
You confessed and apologized. That's all you can do now. Don't make this about you. Don't make your girlfriend comfort you after YOU betrayed HER. Give her the space she asked for. Let her process her feelings. She might leave, she might not. She needs to decide, independently from you, what's best for her. And you need to accept her decision even if you end up not liking it. Don't love bomb her, don't beg, don't minimize your behavior, don't manipulate her into thinking your betrayal is any different then the other times she's been cheated on. Her feelings here are completely valid. You made a conscious choice because you wanted to have your cake and eat it too.
If she forgives you, commit yourself to doing better. If she leaves you, own up to the fact you deserve it and commit yourself to being better for the next relationship you find yourself in.
hey thanks for the tip. I’ve never really seen it as necessary and never wanted to take pills because I was scared that I would have even less focus, when im not on them. I don’t really have any problems that affect me in a big way. The only problem is that like I mentioned I forget things and that I sometimes zone out my conversation and that can be very frustrating for her. But not in my whole life have I ever heard anyone close to me say that this is serious and that I need help. Not even once!
According to him, they go half-and-half on expenses, bills etc
Would maybe also go with her mum for giving OP a temporary vacation to recharge.
Sorry but this cracked me up haha. But seriously, OP, you invited her to family functions while she was having a hard time, not inviting her to destroy your family.
The only thing I can say in her defense is that she’s probably having a tough time after her mom died and covid years have been naked on us all. I bet BIL twisted shit to make it seem like his wife was so horrible and he needed someone to come save him or whatever. BIL should have been the adult here and he chose to be a complete piece of shit clown instead. That isn’t your fault at all.
firstly correlation is not causation so it's not as simple as saying 'stressed mother = autistic child'. No one knows what 'causes' autism.
Secondly the neurodiversity movement takes a rather different view to the one you present here. It's neurotypical people who make life very very hot for most autistic (and other neurodivergent and/or disabled people). The Deaf liberation movement is also instructive on recognising the diversity of people and different cultures/languages/ways of communicating
If you read the post you're responding to – he doesn't really care about this, he's looking to get out of his relationship.
Look up shelters. It’s hard to imagine because you’ve been in this hellish situation so long, but even a rickety bunk bed in a room with a bunch of other people who mostly leave you alone is better than sharing an apartment with someone who goes out of their way to hurt you.
Get out like your life depends on it.
Being undressed around other women is completely normal for most women. Nudity by itself is not something to be ashamed of. We come into this world hard. Should babies be ashamed?
Perhaps you should be more careful and make sure you knock before entering someone else's room. What do you expect to see when you enter a woman's closed door without knocking?
It's not your kink, you don't have to indulge his kink every time you have sex, and he shouldn't expect you to either
Suspicious AF
I'm sorry, but you are taking this too personally… It's okay to feel sad that she has decided to move out, it is not okay to take it as a personal insult when clearly her moving out is about her and not you and not a slight against you.
Thank you. I'll look into the book. I think you're on to something with the abandonment issues. As best I can tell, my wife hasn't spent much time as a single person since she was 14 or 15. She was with a guy for 4 years, they broke up. I don't think she was single for very long then she met the guy she married. I don't know how long they dated but she was married to him for 17 or 18 years. We got together while they were still separated. We've been together since 2009 and married since 2011.
Have a woman in your life look at it before sending.
But it's a day trip, right? No overnight stay?
Yeah, I don't have kids and I don't understand what this mom went through. But I don't know how you could just cut off your kid like this. I can't imagine involving them so heavily in something that wasn't their decision in the first place. Raising and loving a kid for such a long time, forcing them into an impossible choice, and then cutting them off when you're supposed to be there for them. Idk.
He's intentionally putting nail clippings in her drinks? What do you think he's going to say?
My husband and I got together when we were 20 and we did all that stuff together. This is normal for your age group, she is enjoying her freedom and independence. If you try to stop her, she’ll likely resent it and have FOMO all the time. Her friends will slowly drop off because she isn’t participating. You not joining in may mean you’re growing into different people, which is the danger of getting married young. I’ve seen so many friends over the years grow apart in stead of together.
That said, I think you need to examine why and what about this is a problem for you. Is it the likelihood of drug use? Is it jealousy? (Not just fear of cheating but begrudging her having a good time and independence from you). Is it that you feel your relationship is suffering from lack of time spent together and her not prioritizing you? (If that’s the case talk to her about wanting to spend more quality and fun time together and agree on a way to achieve that. For a few years my husband and I worked opposite schedules and I’d go out and spend time with friends because I’d get lonely. The only day off we had together was Sundays though. So Saturdays I would prioritize getting enough sleep to be my best on Sundays and we would always treat that day as special for the two of us. It’s the only thing that kept us together when I was baking and leaving for work at 3:30 or 4 AM and he was working nights, getting home around that time.) These are all things you can work on as a couple and individually, but if your answer is to stop her entirely things probably aren’t going to work out.
If that is considered flirting,than she's cheating on me.
Of course, you feel how you feel – but I don't think there's anything shameful about it.
But if you want to share with her – I would say just a high level summary is good. Basically what you've shared here is enough. It basically gets the point across of what happened and how you feel about it. If anything, I would focus more on how you feel about it than specific details of what happened – because how you feel is what's most important and why you want to even share it with her.
Thank you for sharing this, this too is very reassuring for me. To hear that people/men out there are okay with this or that relationships have survived without having to do things you don’t prefer to do.
Please make sure you are not * (!) alone with him and / or in a private space when you break up with him (!!). This is one of the situations, where breaking up via text/phone is legitimated. He has tried to rpe you multiple times and has “joked” about drugging and rping you. If he gets *this angry by you simply decling sex while you are a couple, I think his reaction to you telling him you don't want to see him again ever (and therefore also don't want to have sex with him ever again) is very likely very violent (r*pe and/or physical violence).
Please don't underestimate this man's readiness to assault you when he finds out he is about to lose you and his power to further abuse you/violate your boundaries and bodily autonomy! Please do some research and/or find a friend/friends who know what kind of situation you are in, so you do have some protection and are not alone in this dangerous situation you are in right now.
This title should read: my EX-bf
The moment you are lower in priority order for your partner then their friends is when you call it quits.
But the thing is, even her friends weren't her priority. She didn't keep in touch with any of them, not even her parents. Friends always came to me and complained about how it took her 2-3 weeks to respond to a text message.
Give her what she wants.
Relationships rarely a have a fixed date of origination and they just kind of drift organically toward either some level of commitment or dissolution. So you can't really fault this guy for keeping his options open prior to getting more serious with you ('cause that's basically just called “dating”). But if he started getting psycho territorial about you immediately that's a huge red flag. Even minus the glaring double standard, people who try to cut their dating partner's off from friends are just insecure, jealous and they don't trust you. That he exchanged some loaded texts with someone else early on in your dating process is infinitely less important than that he seems to believe you're just dying to jump into bed with all your male friends.
You never need a reason to leave a relationship but this is a pretty darn good one. Zero respect, no effort, you deserve way better
It hasn't just 'become' normalised…its been this way for the entirety of history. A man in his 40s? In what world would any age man not be attracted to a woman if she is fully developed and has a figure and appearance which is instinctively attractive to him. It's sexual attraction….not how interesting the person would be to engage in conversation.
People want things they are told they can not have.
Oh dear… girl – major red flags. You seem like the more mature one in this situation even though he’s older. I would be kicking him to the curb. You can do better. Your body was literally in the midst of something very serious and he asks for a piece? That’s pretty ignorant.
Absolutely do not “let it ride” until you are in pain. Follow up as your doctor recommended or at least get your routine Pap smear.
Pap smears reduced cervical cancer deaths by like 90% because catching it early improves survival by that much. If you did have that kind of problem, by the time you had symptoms it would likely be too late.
I mean I get that she is moody after he fantasy of her has been crushed. But he absolutly didn't lie to her. Opinions can change. Consent can change.
And the real problem isn't her being in a bad mood but her still trying to make him do it after he cleary expressed how uncomfortable he is with all of that
Should I open this topic and talk to her?
I genuinely hope that some random person will start kissing OP and walk off with him. Poor dude needs a rescue.
If you trust her, ditch the ex. That's a relationship problem waiting to be a marriage problem. If she doesn't do exes, neither do you. Welcome to married life.
Divorce hi, seriously you owe it to yourself and your daughter
Please have some empathy for his situation, whether you want to see him again or not. By you being kind, reaching out just to say you hope he is okay, might be enough to keep him from being permanently traumatized.
He made the agreement with the understanding that they were going to have sex with the regularity of normal people. The stipulation was he can’t watch porn if they are having sex which they weren’t. Turns out she was playing him and just wanted a friend. Someone as deceitful and controlling as her likely has no friends so she leads this guy on just to have some kind of companionship.
As someone who’s played Stardew Valley, there aren’t that many options to choose from. That games been around a while now so he’s probably just marrying and divorcing everyone because there’s only like 5 people (last time I played. It’s been awhile lol). Maybe you should play Sims or something.
Tell me some crazy story about Hanna please ?
I second all this. Very good comment.
Girl. I was in a relationship once and felt myself falling in love with my best friend. I made the jump. Broke up with my boyfriend, took some time, and confessed my feelings. I’m engaged to my best friend now, getting married this year.
Honestly. Follow your heart. It may not work out perfectly but at least you’ll have tried.
Okay, I would suggest putting this decision onto your GF & her parents. Since you & your GF know what happened, and you want to make her parents comfortable.
Maybe they’ll find the humor in it and not be bothered by it…
Maybe they’ll want to not call attention to it…
Etc.
The plan would be to put her parents the one in control of this situation.
Have your GF give them a call about it and let them decide what to do.
GF on phone with them: I accidentally elbowed … and gave him a black eye. Right now, we’re trying to decide what’s best to do for tonight. Should we make alternate plans?
Okay, I would suggest putting this decision onto your GF & her parents. Since you & your GF know what happened, and you want to make her parents comfortable.
Maybe they’ll find the humor in it and not be bothered by it…
Maybe they’ll want to not call attention to it…
Etc.
The plan would be to put her parents the one in control of this situation.
Have your GF give them a call about it and let them decide what to do.
GF on phone with them: I accidentally elbowed … and gave him a black eye. Right now, we’re trying to decide what’s best to do for tonight. Should we make alternate plans?
What have you been doing for 10 months?
While this is unfortunately a question that does have to be asked, I get the sense that he has kind of felt this way for awhile and just never fully communicated it before. He seems to have just taken it as a given.
I think he knows because he has been touching my nose like the point and pressing on it(you do that because if it doesnt bend its obviously a nose jobe). So yea i find it a bit weird he tells me those comments when he is suspicious about it
Appreciate the thoughts. A meal service might be out of our budget right now. My wife already does some of the cooking during her off hours. Or she will cook other stuff for herself, or bake, etc. So she definitely does some prep. But she does want to make food fresh for when the kids get home, and either way continues to blow my mind with how many dishes she uses (which will be left for me even if she cooks breakfast).
White board is a good idea. And you are probably correct that this is a pretty small issue, but indicative of larger issues. After reading these responses and thinking about it, I am thinking the real issue may be that my wife has set mentally set certain tasks or chores as mine, and is taking them for granted. Like, she doesn't think of then as assigned to her partner, she just doesn't really think of them. Now I am self examining if maybe I do the same thing. Right now I feel I work more hours, do more chores, and do the same amount of parenting.
Idk. As always, the answer is to talk about it, not let it fester, and never to assume ill intent.
Good point, thanks
Her saying that was completely selfish and cruel. She should have known better and owes you an apology. If she gave you one and doesn’t do it again then forget about it, but I think that this would have been upsetting to most people.
There are a few reasons I 've had trouble sleeping with ex boyfriends: 1) his house was dirty and smelled really bad because of him smoking in there and his bathroom was also disgusting and I didn't want to go in there. Thankfully he was clean himself but I couldn't sleep there. 2) we only dated for 2 months and I didn't feel safe enough around him to see me messy, without makeup, or hear anything I 'd be sleeping. 3) i suffer from insomnia a lot of nights, mostly due to anxiety, and I knew I 'be awake in a foreign place without being able to do what I 'd do in my place to help me sleep (read a book, do yoga, listen to guided hypnosis or relaxing music); I remember once it happened and he was working at 2 jobs and needed sleep, but I was wandering around his house in the dark looking for my book to read and rolling over the bed and he would wake up often and I felt really bad for him. 4) sensitivity in sounds, different fabrics and sensations in general; I can't sleep if there is light or sound in the room or if the pillow is too big or too small or the mattress is bad, etc. 5) not being sure that the guy will be there, because sleeping with someone is more important (IMO) than having sex with someone and not everyone wants to let go and invest so soon in someone that may leave you in a week. Honestly there could be so many reasons that if I were you I 'd wait it out and get to know her better and see what this is really about. If it's so important to you that she sleeps with you so soon and you don't have the patience to wait it out and get to know her better, then yes, maybe it's better for both of you to break up..
I’m sorry man it’s tough 🙁 there’s a bunch of yt videos on how to financially plan and depending on your state there’s different kinds of assistance