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She listened to you & stopped. What do you think it means?
An accurate description of my toxic ex that I called a demon in the flesh. That person probably been with ur bf before and been thru hell. My narcissistic ex was fast to call anyone crazy for pointing out the facts of the evil he did . In his mind , he kept lying to himself that he’s a sweet caring angel. So be careful
Not weird at all
One pic probably showed up in her feed and than it most likely sent her down a rabbit hole of “who else has he hyped up?”
You can never be too careful who you are dating and to be honest, she was investigating his loyalty. I don’t blame her honestly.
I rlly don't have any advice for once I think
She has to show you, but you gotta give her a chance, she came back for a reason
Re-read my comment. Stop being ignorant.
You know self control and respect is still valid. If you can’t go at the very least 30 days without sex out of the respect and wish of your SO of 3 years in OPs case, you’re pretty fucking pathetic.
Sure shows you care soooo much.
Be good to your kid.
Your romantic relationship is probably not going to make it.
No matter how much you come to despise her, no matter how much she comes to despise you, be good to your kid.
Please.
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I think at this point you both need to let friends of the opposite sex go. She may feel threatened by your friendship with the girl now because she may feel that you will start confiding in her and grow closer because of what happened. One word of advice is to never let others into your relationship. Keep it strong by talking it out and dealing with problems without outsiders unless it's a therapist.
OP cheating is always a decision. She decied to do it. If she truly loved you, she would never think of doing such a thing.
You’re still young and have good oppurtunity to find somebody who can give you their 100%. My grandparents stayed together even after my gma found out about gpa’s multiple cheating. But after finding out more I realized I’ve never seen them hug, kiss, snuggle…. They were just with eachother like roommates. Gma never forgave him. And the people who stayed together might aswell have strong trust issues or might not be fully happy.
Couples counseling is needed more before some tragedy, not after the tragedy. It’s for couples to help keep the love they have/had. She does not has that towards you and thats why she cheated
You re a side piece, wake up.
she didn't keep fucking him. It was only this one time, which happened not two weeks after our first date
You can’t convince him to come, but personally I would feel the same as you do. Is lack of effort on his part a recurrent theme in your relationship?
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My son is two months while my daughter is six she lives with me full time
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Your first section “300 each is expensive for casually getting two friends chains, that’s 600 you dropped for both in total”
…then you start talking about the women.There’s nothing in your comment that shows you’re aware there’s 3 friends and $900 spent in total especially given that intro, excluding Vik is not doing much to make it that I should’ve known that you already knew that.
If your condition is so serious that anything gets you sick, being around tons of people during flu / COVID, season seems like the much bigger issue here.
if she’s feeling lethargic out of nowhere and has unexplained weight gain it could be hypothyroidism, i was diagnosed with it after some similar symptoms. this post is really sweet, my partner felt the same :’-)
You’re TWENTY years old. They can’t ground you.
Read OPs comment history. He is far from innocent!
It sounds like she needs to be hospitalized for mental health OR she’s actually being super manipulative.
If you really think she’s a risk then start working through the process of having her admitted. And really think about this relationship. If she isn’t getting herself help on her own and you’re basically a hostage to her mental health then maybe this isn’t a good fit.
You should be able to take a trip for a few days and not be worried that your partner is going to go off the rails.
He sounds very immature for 33. Most guys who date younger do so, because they can't handle someone their own age, and because they have some sort of kinky fetish with younger women. I'd be afraid that he would trade me in for a younger woman the moment he felt insecure.
The idea of cat food being near the bed is making me feel sick. I really don't understand why it's there in the first place.
Deep down, everyone here instinctually knows that would be really tacky. Don't take their moment away. Make your own.
Yes break up. Youre 19. You dont need to stay with one person for the next 81 years of your life.
Is it that you’re not over him, or is it that the anxiety of planning to get married is bringing up similar feelings of fear and your mind is associating them with your ex?
In my experience, dreams are seldom as straight forward as your interpretation.
You have to make up your own mind. I’m 54, married for 25+ years with two kids, and a bunch of other things. My wife has been dependable the whole time (afaik). My perspective is going to be a lot different than yours.
I was commenting more on why I think the therapist has a point. She’s far from the only therapist to hold this view as you may know. And I would question that the therapist would give such direct advice. A good therapist would have had a conversation, offering up different sides and perspectives, but would leave the decision to the client. I think your gf made the decision to net tell you.
You can’t know she’s telling the truth. It’s impossible to prove. That’s why we trust, because we can’t know. And she shattered yours. Really sorry for you.
I’m sorry but your husband is not a good man if he can’t see how his behavior has directly impacted your lives with your children for the worse.
You need to have a discussion with your husband about all you have written above and unfortunately you will probably need to make a decision. Have a positive and meaningful relationship with what seems like lovely children or stand ideally by a man who has no regard for children but only his image
Just makes me think of what else he could be lying about ):
I'd be the angriest about the years he stole from you. You busted your ass trying to be a good partner and there was never any chance he would appreciate you for it. He set you up for decades of feeling like you're not good enough.
You could have spent all that time with someone who was all in like you were. You could have spent that time cherished.
Up date?
I dunno. That is a crappy precedent to set in a relationship and I’m not sure I would entertain a future with this one. “Why would we get married? It’s just a piece of paper.” “Birthdays are just a day” Why? Because drugs. And he has a major attitude when called out! Pass on this one, op.
Now block him on everything.
It is sad. No one likes ending a fantasy but you haven’t given up dating people.
Be determined that this has ended.
Time to find someone that wants you and not casually.
Now block him on everything.
It is sad. No one likes ending a fantasy but you haven’t given up dating people.
Be determined that this has ended.
Time to find someone that wants you and not casually.
If you're not willing to end the relationship I'm not sure what you can do.
I'd probably tell him what I found. If he tries to deflect and change the subject to you snooping, own the snooping but tell him that's a conversation for a different day. I'd also say I want access to his devices for an undetermined amount of time. And I'd insist on marriage counseling.
He wins control. You do what he wants. He doesn't have to do what you want, unless he feels like it. He can abuse you and you put up with it. You won't date treat him the same way, because you're too beaten down. He can use you as a toy, and you'll tell everyone how great your relationship is and how healthy your communication is.
That's exactly what he wants. So you're here telling us how unhappy you are in your “healthy” relationship, while he's content with things exactly as they are.
The only solution is to leave.
You can tell her a lie like….I work 12hrs a day 6 days a week, I'll get in contact with you when it's a better time for me. Or tell the truth and say your prior connection with her isn't worth the reconnection…and just because she is older doesn't mean she is more mature.
You DO NOT mention her weight at all. Just tell her how very hot she is & make her feel good about herself.
OP, don’t listen to this advice. The person you’re posting about declined to share her phone number with you because she isn’t interested in you, you need to respect her by leaving her alone.
No but he verbally said to stop. He could not be more clear about what he wanted. If a girl tells you to stop during sex and you continue there is no ambiguity there, you raped her. Why is the same standard not applied here?
What would be considered cheating in that situation?
Yeah I thought it would be a humorous way to refer to her. Bad idea. Oh well online and learn.
Girl you ended the relationship he can kiss whoever he wants after that ?
You are not Rachel and this time a not a sitcom. You’re in a toxic cycle, no laugh reel.
I actually cannot believe what I've just read.
This is such a cruel, mean, misogynistic, controlling and immature post. So let me get this straight, your views are completely different in terms of marriage and kids. This means you are absolutely wasting this womans time. You want to change everything about the way she looks and your only attracted to her because she looks like a porn star, but you don't want others to be attracted to her in that way as well (you're insecurity is showing). You feel 'embarrassed” to be seen in public with her and you happily scrutinise her appearance on reddit??? At your big age of 34, I think you should check yourself and actually think about why you are with this woman. She doesn't deserve to be treated this way by you. PLEASE for her sake, break up with her so she can find someone who likes her for her and doesn't slag her off all over the Internet.
OR he could wear a condom
I know it's not your business, but I'd want to know if I was in her shoes. It's not your shame, it's his, and you weren't to know especially as he was using tinder. Tell her the truth, block his ass, and find a quality dude you deserve cause this guy's a douche.
Thanks. That makes total sense and yet I find it extremely bad to talk about. He is overall an incredible chill and awesome hubby and the thought of such a double standard is pretty shitty.
I feel horrible.
The only problem you have is the asshole you're dating. What a shitsack this dude is
Yup my fiance last ex was like this. Never offered any date ideas, didn't text first, only minimum responses. Didn't even acknowledge his birthday, which he reminded her of the week before (a text would have been fine). He broke up with her for these reasons but she focused on his desire to be physical (they had only hugged and kissed per her request in a few months of dating, he didn't push it but asked for more in the future). Not that they were fundamentally not working out.
Actually OP said they don’t have a problem with thinking about committing crimes (auto theft).
Actually OP said they don’t have a problem with thinking about committing crimes (auto theft).
Actually OP said they don’t have a problem with thinking about committing crimes (auto theft).
A few days and he’s “patiently” waiting for the ability to start monitoring you? Make like Jasper and ghost…this guy is a budding psycho.
I agree with you, I don’t think that OP had any malicious intent. He probably wanted to help people who he thought were in a vulnerable position, because he can’t actually help his own father who is in a permanently vulnerable position.
But no cop is going to believe that.
Thank you for the advise ? ? I'm gonna ask him for proof
I feel like he's just using you at this point. Things were probably real at the beginning but it seems he met this other girl and has built a connection of some kind with her and he's choosing that over your connection, which is a dick move. I feel like you're just being kept as a backup if things don't work out with the other girl. Personally you deserve better than that and should tell him where to go, block him on everything and find yourself a real man who will treat you with the respect you deserve!!
OMG! I sure hope you had no inkling at all that somehow you might be responsible for her phone bill! Because if you did, you are gonna be really used by a lot of women.
Send her a nice picture of you flipping her the bird, then block her! Because I can about guarantee she’ll be wanting the PS back, after you say no!
Dude, she was over there sucking this guys d1ck, or worse……and came home to kiss you with that mouth? Or brought you a disease? I mean seriously, did she even brush her teeth? While the thought of being alone sucks………so does your GF. Dump her!
tell photographers that he is to be in no photos and warn everyone what he is planning beforehand. that way if he is planning on coming like that and manages to get in, it's really embarrassing because everyone knows what he's doing. even practical jokers don't like being made fun of.
I wouldn’t let her “explain” herself or even try and say the words “its not what it looked like”
It was cheating and she was so wrong for it. I’m sorry man, you’ll manage to pull through, don’t give her the slightest idea that you will forgive her or be with her again.
This is really not cool. I think in a long term relationship the mentality needs to be about contributing to the team. I have historically made more than my partner, a significant amount in the past two years. Recently, he now makes significantly more than me. But all of it is about bringing home as much as we can to build the life we want, which doesn’t mean going without just because your bf doesn’t make as much.
Exactly this—thanks, misogyny everywhere!
OP, she needs therapy. She should not feel like her natural body is disgusting. It breaks my heart.
But I wouldn’t do the whole “eat fruit” thing, tbh. That just reinforces notion that she has to fix herself.
Your getting feces in your urethra. If you do anal you need to immediately pee, then clean the area. I once wiped with rubbing alcohol, not recommended but effective. The problem is your bf.
LMAO! Her husband is literally being a racist, divisive twit. He doesn't want help, he will never accept that he's in the wrong. She should absolutely divorce him.
Naw if anything it’ll leave her single. Not like his bro finds his girl attractive. She just started feeling these things herself.
It sounds like the two options were, come home or go to 2nd country. He's effectively leaving her.
I mean she looks exactly like M3gan in addition to the sociopathy.
No.
Your friend is wrong.
You were walking around campus with someone who at that point in time, was someone who could have become a friend.
Definitely not cheating.
Now had you said yes to dinner, even if you still thought it was as friends, that might have been cheating.
Don't do this.
Yeah, yeah, you love cleaning, the place is a tip, they'll be so grateful, it's your love language, etc etc. Doesn't matter.
By cleaning up after your boyfriend you are signalling:
I am your mummy
Cleaning up is my job
It's cute when men are lazy
It's fine for my boyfriend to disrespect me by not cleaning up before I come over
I'm so desperate for you to thinking I'm “marriage material” that I'll even scrub the shit off your toilet bowl
Stop. Go home. I know that right now you feel like it's kinda fun and sexy and loving to play at being a stepford wife, but that gets old fast. All you're doing is selecting for a boyfriend who thinks you're an appliance.
You think hes going to think “wow, OP must love me so much. She's a keeper, all the other men will be so jealous. I'd better do something in return to show how grateful I am”, when actually he's more likely to think “Huh. I guess houses really do clean themselves if you leave it long enough”. And then years later “Hey, do you remember that try-hard who used to clean the apartment? “
This is not even a remotely normal cost for the average university
It doesn't sound like you made a mistake breaking up. He was emotionally checked out and you seem to be aware it's not working.
Move on and find someone else more suitable for you.
Every single issue here has a common denominator; you. Sex lasts a few minutes? Non-issue. You make it one. You love blowjobs. Crazy. What a unique guy. Jokes aside, you keep saying “she forgets.” No one “forgets to give a blowjob.” In saying that, it's perfectly normal for that not to be top of mind. But all you need to do is ask! Instead, you sit around waiting and get pissed off when it doesn't happen. That's on you.
You're also talking about special occasions like “this is my chance.” Valentine's Day was a failure? Sure. Because you didn't use your words.
This is the most unique sex/sexual compatibility post I've ever read and I give a ton of advice on here. The reason for that is because you're sexually frustrated because of yourself. Wake up to reality, use your words, and realize you can be quite happy.
Trust your gut. See an attorney while she is gone. Know what you need to know before you speak to her about any of this. Also, call her or the kids at weird times. In-laws and kids should know where she is, if not with them
Don't confront now. Hire a PI to follow her to gather proof. Then file for divorce
he’s gonna change pretty soon. right now he’s doing the honeymoon faze lovebombing. enjoy it while it lasts but be prepared to clear out.
I agree. They're both assholes. But OP is in fault here as well. He could've chosen to keep his cool and ignore the rude comments or at least tell them that what they're doing is hurtful and disrespectful.
But no, he instead chose to wrestle with them (and lose), not just once, but twice. I mean, at this point it's your fault for getting embarrassed.
As I said unless it's work related don't bother mincing words with him. If he complains about attitude or hands not being washed especially when you do waeh your hands just don't reply. As they say, silence is the best answer for fools.
Lol that's a load of nonsense.
Most women know. Let's assume she didn't know, maybe she's very naive. But she's dating you, and you said this to her, and she “just forgot”. I am sceptical, if my partner expressed concern about any male friend of mine, I would remember, because it would be a concern.
So she either pretend 'forgot', or she actually dismissed a relationship concern when you addressed it. Neither sit2is great here tbh.
If it matters, the service received was almost certainly limited to a hand job. The risk of STD was probably very very low. It could be more, but like 95% of their business is hands only.
This girl was originally more than a friend and they are still talking? That's a legit cause for concern. Also, guys don't procrastinate “minor” talks for 5+ days. Whatever he has to say, he is clearly stressing over it.
‘I don’t want him to feel rejected’. Why not ? He’s making you feel that way. There isn’t a totally nice way to do these things. Just tell him that you don’t think it’s working out. Good luck. ❤️
Because of the emotional reaction to my response to the situation?
Yes, when she knows full well she was in the wrong, despite that you forgave her and I assume knows about your past too.
Imo she should have been more empathetic and understanding and even more so after you forgave her for repeatedly lying to you knowing full well what would've happened if she didn't. Yet she's getting emotional about it and instead of trying to fix the loss of trust caused by said lies she's going to have a pint with the guy? That's exactly how I see it too.
I don't know man, as I said, I would breakup. I'm too emotional a person to see past the repeated lying, it makes me very hateful when people are cowardly and can't be truthful from the start.
I am glad to hear you have cut your losses, you deserve better than her, regardless of if she's poly or bi she went about it in the worst way possible.
Know your worth and onto the next, king.
I feel he’s being unfair with you, specially because it’s a new job and you’re still in a developmental phase of your career.