![](/cs/camsoda2500.jpg")
0 views
Press right there to start video or
Room for online sex video chat Night_dreams
Model from: ua
Languages: ru,en
Birth Date: 2000-01-30
Body Type: bodyTypeCurvy
Ethnicity: ethnicityWhite
Hair color: hairColorBlonde
Eyes color: eyeColorGreen
Subculture: subcultureStudent
Date: October 8, 2022
I know there is this societal understanding that women and men are the same, but she is definitely acting like a man, like a fuck boy if you will. I have had girlfriends in your shoes, crying and upset because someone played them like that.
You may not like my advice, but you need to tap into your masculine energy to attract a feminine woman. Many women in todays world act in their masculine out of fear to protect themselves from the world and how cruel it can be and has been to women in the past. The truth is, many are lost, don’t know what they want and many have personality disorders that make them see people as extensions of themselves or things of pleasure. Many men also on-line in this type of energy, and you have to learn to weed them out of your life.
I suggest watching divine masculine content and reading books on self development. Once you are on a higher level of living, it is easy to weed these people out.
She did use you, but you let her because you are in a low place.
she says he seems like an easy guy who's just desperate for a girlfriend, but when I had just started talking to him, she was hyping him up by saying he's so sweet and a good person.
She explained that she's disgusted because he asked her out first but I don't see the issue with that since it was so long ago.
You aren't happy and you can still exit and move on. Your sex life has dwindled. I doubt this recovers no matter what you do.
Your choices are to get tied down with a partner you are only partially happy with, try to go to couples therapy and see if things work out for the better or just move on.
u/Diligent_Matter_2077, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Ive never seen WhiteLotus but if the alternative to having the open relationship is “cheating while pretending not to notice,” it doesn’t sound like there is room for monogamy… You made clear that you want monogamy. Do you know if she has been in an open relationship before and if this is something she prefers?
u/Throwaway__bff, it looks like you're trying to post a throwaway submission. Your account is too young and/or your comment karma is too low.
The right way to do it is to create a brand new Reddit account that begins with ThrowRA.
Please create a new account that starts with ThrowRA in the username and try again. Please note that we will not make exceptions to this rule.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Maybe it’s time to be focusing on getting female friends. Remove this problem.
Hello /u/SpiritualSag96,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles use the following formatting:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Your bf hasn't done anything suspicious, you have a great relationship and love each other…why would you even go through his phone in the first place? For those reasons listed I'd say just get over it and forget you read it. If you feel it's worth it and you HAVE to know, then ask, but keep in mind it could be something completely made up and he might feel violating his privacy is worth breaking up over. That's the chance you take when you do shit like this.
Hello /u/stut-tt-t-ter,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Couples counseling is your only hope. You moved way too fast, and your immaturity and communication issues are showing. Get help before it eats your relationship.
You did right. He may have been too sick to think. At least you can hope that was it.
Those are the absolute worst. They feel entitled and untouchable. This makes them extremely dangerous. Maybe he just meant that you’d miss him, but that not the vibe I’m getting.
Do you have any support system like parents or close friends, even if not close by? Bring them all up to speed with what’s going on and what he has said, as well as the details of the upcoming break up. He’s already issued a threat – I expect his next reaction may be worse. If possible, record the interaction. You can set your phone to start recording a voice memo and keep it close by, just make sure it’s in a public place. Honestly, if I were in your position I’d end this one via phone call. Still try to record it, however it’s done.
I think. Couples therapy can work. But people go as the very end when it's too late. Therapy takes a very long time to work so you'd need like a few months to see some real results and that might not be enough for couples who are close to divorce
You might request two visits per week. Also if your insurance covers it why not?
Nowadays they do virtual visits it's so easy
My bf and I are in couples therapy and it's definitely helped though we are having troubles we would prob be close to breaking up if we didn't have the session .
Ah the narcissist mantra, classic
You already lost her.
Talk to your therapist about how to accept it.
Yeah, I presumed all those “readers” just tell people what they want to hear, feels like a cruel joke to start inserting doubt into peoples lives.
“He lost more than she gained” is something I heard yesterday that I think you should hear today.
Firstly, I am so, so, so sorry about the SA and trauma you have been through. No one deserves to go through that and I hope you are surrounded by support, care and love.
Secondly, ugh. I truly understand how uncomfortable and unsettling his reaction was. However, please do remember that our bodies have physical reactions that we can’t control. Just like when I had a physical reaction that would have come across like I “enjoyed” it when I was SA’d, your boyfriend’s body could have just reacted to physical closeness to someone he adores and is attracted to. These moments SUCK because he feels guilty and you feel like your trauma isn’t being taken seriously or that perhaps he’s getting off on it. Know that this isn’t the case. Our bodies can be totally disconnected from our minds and betray us at the worst times.
If you need to, take a little space from him in order to decompress and understand how you feel. But do please let him know how you feel, why you feel that way and that you’re not punishing him for something he most likely is saddened happened in that important moment for you.
Sending you love OP. ♥️
Forth, don’t marry at 23 years old. Another step in the reckless pattern. If people want to take seriously marriage why do they hurry so much?
Yea that killed me. Serves him right if it is his
True but I still do feel bad because i would be saving my parents $10,000 each semester I am an RA
she fucked around and didn’t like it when you reciprocated the same energy. seems like she’s a bit of a hypocrite
He’s taking that “we’ll see” attitude because he thinks that you believe in Sunk Cost Fallacy enough that you’ll choose him over the cats when he gives you the ultimatum.
Absolutely tell him that you’re not going to let him move in until he puts it in writing. Yes. Writing.
Do not back down, and make this a dying hill.
Because one day, you won’t be talking about things like cats and where to live!, it’ll be kids and money. And this whole smarmy “I’m being cute but she’ll bend to my ways” thing will be something that’s worked for him so far. Do you really want to invest that heavily into someone who thinks that he gets his way and you don’t? Wouldn’t a partner who is eager to discuss things and can be solution-oriented sound better?
When I first started dating my guy, I told him “I’m never moving 1000 miles from NYC.” And yet, here I am, a thousand miles from home. I told him “no dogs,” but we both know that I’m ok with it. But he also compromises readily, and basically takes direction on anything that I feel strongly about.
It’s not about who gets their way. It’s about finding solutions TOGETHER. The fact that he’s not discussing it with you is incredibly damning. If he’s coming into the relationship with the assumption that your opinions on major life decisions are nothing more than obstacles to be willed away, your relationship is going to be either very one-sided, or very brief.
He wanted to celebrate it together, but then you took charge because things “weren’t moving at a pace” that was reasonable for you. Maybe he did not want to or know how to celebrate it at that point. You ran roughshod over him here. What could he do that would match your personal chef that would’ve suited you? In his eyes, maybe nothing. In reality, with the flowers, you reinforced to him he was correct. “Oh well, at least there was a vase and I didn’t have to cut them” doesn’t sound appreciative.
I regularly have to do this, and it’s primarily to save money. That being said, I don’t work in private industry and my job is atypical. I have have had to shower in remote areas near my colleagues of the same sex too and seen many of my colleagues naked. It’s not a big deal and it isn’t sexual, we just get on with it because we want to be clean.
You say:
Whilst I agree reddit is way too trigger happy to dump/block someone, I think it is reasonable in this situation.
Fuck her. The best way for her to learn a lesson here is to get dumped for it.
He says:
Her flatmates that she lives with are also some of my best friends, so any actions moving forward must take them into account too.
You say:
I'm not saying he should blow up his whole social circle
There seems to be a disconnect in your reasoning here.
People say stupid stuff all the time when they are young/imature. Chalk it up to that + the pressures of society on woman. Be cautious because her previous words have indicated that she is shallow, but actions speak louder than words so you will have to make a judgement based on what you see/how she acts.
As to how to proceed on a date? Just decide together what is good/works for you both. Dinner is always a classic, but beware the expectation of payment/whatever. You can establish those things ahead of time.
I understand exactly what you mean, and this would be my ideal situation. I don’t need anyone to tell me or assign to me what needs doing, I just see it and do it. I’d like the same from my partner. The problem is, he apparently sees no issue with living in a mess. If I left anything up to him, we’d be living in a gross, cluttered mess. He doesn’t see something that could use doing, and just take initiative. That’s the reason we’ve (attempted to) set things up the way they are, with things being “split.” But even splitting doesn’t work. He’s even said that he doesn’t care about cleanliness as much as I do, so why should he have to on-line by my standards?
I’m really at a loss here and considering just giving up and leaving. But I, as per usual, really love him and am saddened by losing him. ?
Precisely, that’s why he should have not given her his number so she wouldn’t have any means to communicate with him.
He knows other women won't put up with his bullshit, so he's trying to play on your emotions.
IMO, do not do this. Talk to a lawyer and do what they advise.
Giving away her possessions will almost certainly be used to show animosity in later proceedings.
What would you tell your daughter if she said her boyfriend did this? You’d tell her to leave, right?
She’s a grown ass woman. Like, so am I, and I live alone – somehow I manage to survive when I’m sick. I don’t just keel over and die. What is there to even help her with? You can’t puke for her.
I don’t understand why these things even bring her to tears so much, much less puking.
No. I just have a lot of fun with her, which was something I valued, so it was something I didn’t care about much. I trust my partner and I don’t know, he lives in another country too so I looked passed it. Then I moved to this state and her and I became really close, a year + after that happened. I don’t enjoy people being jealous though, it makes me uncomfortable.
Omg girl. Putting myself in your shoes has me feeling so angry for you. I would never speak to any of them again. Don't let anyone tell you you're overreacting. And that girl. .. she is lucky she didn't get beat up by you. I would have absolutely knocked her head in.
Sounds like BPD + possible boredom in the relationship, seems to me that you need/crave some excitement/spice in life.
Thank you for the book recommendation, I will look into it!
Babe, if it’s “happened before” without your knowledge, you did not have sex with your husbands twin. you were raped by your brothers twin and your husband is an accomplice in a sexual assault.
Don’t have a child with this man, don’t stay with this man, and don’t convince yourself for a second that you were not assaulted. This is 100% non consensual.
Yeah don't take that shit man. Tell her the lack of conviction and fidelity is unattractive, and then dump her. Don't fuck around with people like this, they'll screw with your brain.
Break up! I know that’s reddit’s go-to answer for like, everything, but I’ve been you—I was even the same age as you. I wish I would’ve broken up at 3 months instead of wasting 2 years of my life. It ruined me. You’re way too young for this, and if he’s already this cold, it’s not gonna get any better. ❤️
He may be feeling financially insecure and for some men that can be detrimental to their ego and make them feel that they are not worthy of being a dad.
Try to take the approach that money into the household is shared money and it can support a family that has children. That might shake the insecurity about finances due to his job situation out of him.
But also realize that he may not want kids at this time or even ever. I hope that his situation is just financial insecurity as I laid out above, if he comes from a poor or lower middleclass upbringing, that type of insecurity can be a real burden for some men who want to give their kids the best life.
Which is perfectly valid. That it took her a week to find a new boyfriend honestly makes me question what was going on before you broke up, but I suppose it doesn't matter at this point.
So the issue here is your boundaries and comfort. Try it out and see how it goes, if it's something where the good is outweighing the bad, then carry on. If it's causing you more grief than joy, step back.
You deserve so much more and I wish you knew it. What are you fighting for? This is not an improvement at all as it is still abuse.
Blimey, there are enough red flags to hold a Beijing May Day parade.
Run as fast and as far as you can.
Stop calling him your boyfriend.
I’m scared of him and i can’t trust him I on-line in very strict and religious society , I’m scared someone will caught us or getting pregnant by him and I’ll never get help
How can you have a “long distance relationship” if you are in the same city? You just aren't ready for a relationship and that's okay. Stringing him along is not. Time to make a choice.
No I just need perspective and when I asked her she said the boss warned her his wife might do that cause she likes women