I wouldn't push for couples counseling cuz if she's a lesbian there is no getting around that but I would say you want shared custody of your children cu you did nothing wrong but get everything in writing
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Ok well u may be gambling your whole life on this if u don’t do sth to find out who he really is. Another relevant question, how often does he initiate lovemaking?
On the flip side, if your partner cares about you and the health of your sex life, which is a big part of a relationship, they should put in a bit of effort to keep up their appearance and shape. Not saying you have to have six pack abs, but obesity isn’t really an excuse. Honestly I think what you wrote, which is common rhetoric on Reddit, all holy is though…is just an excuse to not exercise. Bring those downvotes ?. Personally op, my gf is also gaining weight, and I have six pack Abs and fit af. I do love her for more than her body, but I know what you mean, a little effort for your man would be nice every once in awhile ya know
“Our issues” are actually HER issues. You’ve been changing trying to be a better person for her. Apparently SHE hasn’t done anything to be a better person for you? She blames you for HER issues. That’s bull. She’s a grown woman and should not be acting like this.
There’s nothing to maneuver, in my opinion. Let the break up stand. She’s ridiculous. Your life will be much more peaceful and happy without her.
Is it possible that they could have filmed him without his noticing and then put the clips in with other clips of someone who isn't him? Personally, I'd be very leery of believing a stranger who can provide me a video of his face and his dick in the same shot. Especially if the video of his junk is as indistinguishable as you say.
On a side note, have you checked his browser history?
You shouldn't be having a baby yet, by the sounds of it.
Go take the morning after pill, then sit your husband down and work it, set rules and if you ever go there again, make 100% certain and don't change your mind seconds after he had put his sail up.
You aren’t happy in the relationship and you don’t have to stay in it. You can’t take responsibility for his choices. If he’s faking it – good riddance! If he’s not, you aren’t the one that can help him. He needs professional help. And he isn’t alone, his sister also knows.
Please do yourself a kindness and cut off all ties so you can learn to live! again.
You don’t know anything about this person except what she’s shared. She says she’s straight. End of. From you’re post history, you’re clearly projecting your own experiences with this stuff onto everyone else. It does not matter even if literally everyone in the world is bisexual and down for experimenting except this one girl. She couldn’t be more clear that she is not and you still decided to go ahead and slip it in there at the end. Your opinion on her sexuality is completely inappropriate.
Yes you can. You’ll be fine. It was 9 months. That’s barely a blip in your romantic history over a lifetime. There is more and better to come, once you get free of this abusive asshole.
This is 100% what is happening here OP. I have no doubt in my mind. I'm also from Central Texas and this is exactly what several of my friends have experienced or have told me how their family members have acted towards their white partners. Some don't outright say it, but others do. It's pure ignorance on their part. It's ridiculous and petty and there isn't much you can do about it but acknowledging it will only make it worse. It's best to just distance yourself from it (like stop going to the restaurant or greyrocking convos where it is brought up) cause confronting or acknowledging it in any way can make you come off as threatened by it. But not even acknowledging it and killing them with kindness is what will get to them the most. They will either wallow in their own grumpy ass misery or will move on to some other drama or thing to be mad about cause you won't feed into it.
Lol, he would be like how you going to pay for that? We don't share finances.
I wouldn't push for couples counseling cuz if she's a lesbian there is no getting around that but I would say you want shared custody of your children cu you did nothing wrong but get everything in writing
And don’t forget to ask her what her plan is for when she’s inevitably a middle-aged widow. By then she’ll be too old to snag another rich dude.
Id feel hella slighted. The ease with which it was done and said is appaling to me
Yes, my mother has tried hard to try and form a relationship with her because she knows we intend to get married someday.
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Ok well u may be gambling your whole life on this if u don’t do sth to find out who he really is. Another relevant question, how often does he initiate lovemaking?
On the flip side, if your partner cares about you and the health of your sex life, which is a big part of a relationship, they should put in a bit of effort to keep up their appearance and shape. Not saying you have to have six pack abs, but obesity isn’t really an excuse. Honestly I think what you wrote, which is common rhetoric on Reddit, all holy is though…is just an excuse to not exercise. Bring those downvotes ?. Personally op, my gf is also gaining weight, and I have six pack Abs and fit af. I do love her for more than her body, but I know what you mean, a little effort for your man would be nice every once in awhile ya know
“Our issues” are actually HER issues. You’ve been changing trying to be a better person for her. Apparently SHE hasn’t done anything to be a better person for you? She blames you for HER issues. That’s bull. She’s a grown woman and should not be acting like this.
There’s nothing to maneuver, in my opinion. Let the break up stand. She’s ridiculous. Your life will be much more peaceful and happy without her.
Is it possible that they could have filmed him without his noticing and then put the clips in with other clips of someone who isn't him? Personally, I'd be very leery of believing a stranger who can provide me a video of his face and his dick in the same shot. Especially if the video of his junk is as indistinguishable as you say.
On a side note, have you checked his browser history?
I’m in my 30s and this is a silly take.
OP people can't read your mind, nor should you EXPECT them to you have a mouth and you can talk like an adult and say what you would want also.
Was it a baby?
I’d give back the accessories just cause those are like small Reminders but the practical stuff would stay Get a security camera
Date people your age.
Don’t have a child with someone you know for less than 4 years.
People over 25 dating people under 25 is always suspicious, rarely innocuous. The end.
He won't apologize bc he's psycho, please leave before you are a victim to them
You shouldn't be having a baby yet, by the sounds of it.
Go take the morning after pill, then sit your husband down and work it, set rules and if you ever go there again, make 100% certain and don't change your mind seconds after he had put his sail up.
You need to advocate for yourself.
You aren’t happy in the relationship and you don’t have to stay in it. You can’t take responsibility for his choices. If he’s faking it – good riddance! If he’s not, you aren’t the one that can help him. He needs professional help. And he isn’t alone, his sister also knows.
Please do yourself a kindness and cut off all ties so you can learn to live! again.
Iive at home Go to school Have same boyfriend Problem solved
Or leave for school And have him Live! with you
Or get married Scarrfd
You don’t know anything about this person except what she’s shared. She says she’s straight. End of. From you’re post history, you’re clearly projecting your own experiences with this stuff onto everyone else. It does not matter even if literally everyone in the world is bisexual and down for experimenting except this one girl. She couldn’t be more clear that she is not and you still decided to go ahead and slip it in there at the end. Your opinion on her sexuality is completely inappropriate.
Yes you can. You’ll be fine. It was 9 months. That’s barely a blip in your romantic history over a lifetime. There is more and better to come, once you get free of this abusive asshole.
This is 100% what is happening here OP. I have no doubt in my mind. I'm also from Central Texas and this is exactly what several of my friends have experienced or have told me how their family members have acted towards their white partners. Some don't outright say it, but others do. It's pure ignorance on their part. It's ridiculous and petty and there isn't much you can do about it but acknowledging it will only make it worse. It's best to just distance yourself from it (like stop going to the restaurant or greyrocking convos where it is brought up) cause confronting or acknowledging it in any way can make you come off as threatened by it. But not even acknowledging it and killing them with kindness is what will get to them the most. They will either wallow in their own grumpy ass misery or will move on to some other drama or thing to be mad about cause you won't feed into it.
That sounds awful. What I meant is other times he has mentioned it blaming you for what happened?
I hope you managed to press charges with cctv evidence.