For the record it’s impossible to do anything gay with a woman. That just doesn’t make sense. Also the prostate is up there and it’s basically the male G spot and that’s just anatomy.
Ultimately though you should never do anything you’re uncomfortable with.
and each time he says he just needs more time to save up and plan
So you're 2 years behind what you expected to happen. How much saving and plan is required? Has he ever gone into depth on that, I'd expect after 3 1/2 years you'd both be able to discuss the entire ins and outs of the saving and planning.
Do you think he's serious? Is it possible he just sees you as a port of call when he travels for business? Maybe he is serious, but I'd expect that the amount of saving, and the amount of planning is a two way open and transparent discussion.
“I know I'll never meet another man like him”
There's plenty of indecisive people out there, you could totally find another the same. That's tongue in cheek but even if he's one in a million, that just means there's 8,000 other people out there just like him. Either way it's fundamentally never true, you may meet better, or just simply different. Nobody's romantic happiness needs to be tied to someone who fundamentally isn't making them happy.
I’m kinda with the other commenter – it’s unhygienic to keep if it smells/ potentially leaks. If this is something you both want (?) just tell her “I love the gift, but I don’t think it was sealed right. Can you please give me another and we can learn how to seal it together?”
If you like the witchiness, but not the blood, just keep it in your room. If she asks why, give her the same “I love it but it wasn’t sealed right.” Or a general “I’m worried about wearing body fluids in public, but it’s very sentimental.”
But I think you like it? If you like it, and your only issue is the smell, just ask her to redo it! She’ll probably love that you love it and want it to be preserved. Asking for better preservation is not, in the slightest, an offensive thing to say. She’ll hopefully see it as how you honestly do: you love it, and want a version that keeps better.
A strong woman would have kicked her ass to the couch, or told her to take the Uber because she’s not welcome to stay the night. I can’t imagine letting some girl disrespect me like that, or let alone my partner allowing someone to disrespect me and our relationship like that
You were completely in the right, and he is pulling a very typical narcissistic tactic and gaslighting you.
Time to end the relationship. And shame on that girl for even meeting up with him after knowing he had a girlfriend. She should have confronted him about that too.
If you find yourself looking around you lately and wondering why everyone is so miserable, depressed, anxious, sad?
This. This sort of shit. This toxic crap that you felt the need to spew on someone who is struggling and reached out to strangers for help. And for some reason, you felt the need to cut them down. Look at yourself.
If you are going to tell them (and you don’t have to), I would go with a really simple, “Hey I’m pregnant! We’re excited, wanted you to know.” Or something. Real short and casual. And then mute her texts. Don’t look. If she’s snarky ignore her. Only respond if she’s nice and if you feel like it.
To be honest, if that how you see the situation, you neeed a better therapyst.
BUT you are doing correct by taken accountability of letting him harm others, even if you were scared of him. But that WONT make you responsible of him, not then, not now.. That at most makes you responsible of being a coward and let that cowardice make you take bad decisions.
He stopped talking to them years ago
For the record it’s impossible to do anything gay with a woman. That just doesn’t make sense. Also the prostate is up there and it’s basically the male G spot and that’s just anatomy.
Ultimately though you should never do anything you’re uncomfortable with.
and each time he says he just needs more time to save up and plan
So you're 2 years behind what you expected to happen. How much saving and plan is required? Has he ever gone into depth on that, I'd expect after 3 1/2 years you'd both be able to discuss the entire ins and outs of the saving and planning.
Do you think he's serious? Is it possible he just sees you as a port of call when he travels for business? Maybe he is serious, but I'd expect that the amount of saving, and the amount of planning is a two way open and transparent discussion.
“I know I'll never meet another man like him”
There's plenty of indecisive people out there, you could totally find another the same. That's tongue in cheek but even if he's one in a million, that just means there's 8,000 other people out there just like him. Either way it's fundamentally never true, you may meet better, or just simply different. Nobody's romantic happiness needs to be tied to someone who fundamentally isn't making them happy.
Move on and find someone better and honest ?
21 and 18? That’s not that big of a difference
trust to god im trying…
I’m kinda with the other commenter – it’s unhygienic to keep if it smells/ potentially leaks. If this is something you both want (?) just tell her “I love the gift, but I don’t think it was sealed right. Can you please give me another and we can learn how to seal it together?”
If you like the witchiness, but not the blood, just keep it in your room. If she asks why, give her the same “I love it but it wasn’t sealed right.” Or a general “I’m worried about wearing body fluids in public, but it’s very sentimental.”
But I think you like it? If you like it, and your only issue is the smell, just ask her to redo it! She’ll probably love that you love it and want it to be preserved. Asking for better preservation is not, in the slightest, an offensive thing to say. She’ll hopefully see it as how you honestly do: you love it, and want a version that keeps better.
As soon as I saw the turtles name was Sheldon I knew he was having us on lol
A strong woman would have kicked her ass to the couch, or told her to take the Uber because she’s not welcome to stay the night. I can’t imagine letting some girl disrespect me like that, or let alone my partner allowing someone to disrespect me and our relationship like that
You were completely in the right, and he is pulling a very typical narcissistic tactic and gaslighting you.
Time to end the relationship. And shame on that girl for even meeting up with him after knowing he had a girlfriend. She should have confronted him about that too.
If you find yourself looking around you lately and wondering why everyone is so miserable, depressed, anxious, sad?
This. This sort of shit. This toxic crap that you felt the need to spew on someone who is struggling and reached out to strangers for help. And for some reason, you felt the need to cut them down. Look at yourself.
Girl what? OBEY?? What are you? His pet?
Absolutely not.
What country do you live! in?
If you are going to tell them (and you don’t have to), I would go with a really simple, “Hey I’m pregnant! We’re excited, wanted you to know.” Or something. Real short and casual. And then mute her texts. Don’t look. If she’s snarky ignore her. Only respond if she’s nice and if you feel like it.
To be honest, if that how you see the situation, you neeed a better therapyst.
BUT you are doing correct by taken accountability of letting him harm others, even if you were scared of him. But that WONT make you responsible of him, not then, not now.. That at most makes you responsible of being a coward and let that cowardice make you take bad decisions.