Doesn't mean he shouldn't have turned around and said that you were too young for him. While a 7 year age difference is absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of things, when the younger is 15 there is a gross imbalance of power. You said yourself he has provided for you financially – of course he has, because you're too young to have money of your own, and therefore he holds financial power over you.
There is a lot wrong with this and while your parents are okay with it, and you may be too, please heed the advice given here. We could all be wrong, but from an outside perspective it very much appears that he has done and continues to take advantage of you. Please be careful.
“Do what you wish BIL but this is our day not yours. We plan to hire security to ensure our wedding guest stick to the code so if you want to show up in a clown suit and make an ass of yourself you are more than welcome but understand you won’t get in the venue. You won’t ruin our wedding.”
Our biological father was verbally, emotionally, financially and physically abusive and he's in jail currently. So we (Kate and I) have had that experience on the victim end.
Everyone else in the family adores John but I don't know if he'll listen. I was thinking of giving it a few days and getting him out the house to a cafe or park to talk about it? Idk I only want him to be safe.
We have sex quite a bit when we’re together but have to keep it very quiet because we on-line with our families making any kind of experimental sex or foreplay very difficult to do. He works nights and I work days but try to make an effort to stay up and so does he so when we’re together we go on dates and we do other stuff like walks in the park, going to the movies and recently he even asked my parents if he could marry me. But like…sex when we’re together is short and he really wants me to give him a bj (and I do but like he wants a bj all the time while he’s gaming or if by chance we shower together) and in his mind I think me not doing it all the time means I don’t sexually desire him. That’s definitely not the case! I let him know when I’m in the mood but it’s not all the time. Yes, i have self confidence issues and am overweight which he told doesn’t turn him off at all. I just want him to not compare me to internet posts.
There is absolutely NO REASON why daycare workers share personal phone numbers. All correspondence should be through the center or at least an app like class dojo. I'm a teacher but used to be a daycare worker. This whole thing screams red flags.
how often is he going out to do other shit? like concerts or whatever. what proof do you have that the ex really is just an ex?
…maybe because he wanted her for himself?
Well if I were you I would have a conversation and set boundaries on this
He’s not that delusional if he’s successfully knocking up all these strippers.
It’s cringe to announce to the world that you’re hopeful.
He's a grown man and has to figure that out.
Doesn't mean he shouldn't have turned around and said that you were too young for him. While a 7 year age difference is absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of things, when the younger is 15 there is a gross imbalance of power. You said yourself he has provided for you financially – of course he has, because you're too young to have money of your own, and therefore he holds financial power over you.
There is a lot wrong with this and while your parents are okay with it, and you may be too, please heed the advice given here. We could all be wrong, but from an outside perspective it very much appears that he has done and continues to take advantage of you. Please be careful.
I secretly think OP actually doesn’t mind a baby. Her partner though…
((HUGS)) Sounds like you already are feeling better!!
Tell him ASAP. Talk about it. Yes, this will affect your relationship, but there is no other way. Good luck
Talk about first world bloody problems
You’re actually arguing with your girlfriend because you don’t get to pick the place to hang out? Really?!
Really?
“Do what you wish BIL but this is our day not yours. We plan to hire security to ensure our wedding guest stick to the code so if you want to show up in a clown suit and make an ass of yourself you are more than welcome but understand you won’t get in the venue. You won’t ruin our wedding.”
Ask her if she is distracted or worried about other things when you are “together.” Get her to relax and not stress.
I’ve asked her tonight and she has responded yet, my gut instinct is telling me something if off..
Consent can be withdrawn at any time, even partway through. However, I’d really not do this
Our biological father was verbally, emotionally, financially and physically abusive and he's in jail currently. So we (Kate and I) have had that experience on the victim end.
Everyone else in the family adores John but I don't know if he'll listen. I was thinking of giving it a few days and getting him out the house to a cafe or park to talk about it? Idk I only want him to be safe.
Have some self respect.
We have sex quite a bit when we’re together but have to keep it very quiet because we on-line with our families making any kind of experimental sex or foreplay very difficult to do. He works nights and I work days but try to make an effort to stay up and so does he so when we’re together we go on dates and we do other stuff like walks in the park, going to the movies and recently he even asked my parents if he could marry me. But like…sex when we’re together is short and he really wants me to give him a bj (and I do but like he wants a bj all the time while he’s gaming or if by chance we shower together) and in his mind I think me not doing it all the time means I don’t sexually desire him. That’s definitely not the case! I let him know when I’m in the mood but it’s not all the time. Yes, i have self confidence issues and am overweight which he told doesn’t turn him off at all. I just want him to not compare me to internet posts.
There is absolutely NO REASON why daycare workers share personal phone numbers. All correspondence should be through the center or at least an app like class dojo. I'm a teacher but used to be a daycare worker. This whole thing screams red flags.