Girl you need to start ruling with an iron fist. I get it he works like an animal. So do you. He doesn't have time to play games all night and then sleep for 10 hours. You don't have the energy to provide him that. We have 6 month old baby we both wanted. My husband is a gamer and he happens to work night shifts. Goes to bed at 7 in the morning and is up at 1 in the afternoon. That's what he gets/ can afford with broken wife, a baby, dog and a house. He games on his nights off when we sleep. Prioritise! Kids , yourself, house/dog If you don't have clean house, we'll fuck it. Hubby better do it or it's gonna be a mess. Whatever. You have 2 small kids , wtf. Lower your expectations of yourself first and then lift the bar for hubby a little.
Have you ever confronted him that you consider divorcing him?
Maybe you give him an ultimatum and tell him until this date you expect him to find a job otherwise you‘re done.
Then see what he‘s doing.
Yeh or maybe projection. Maybe he already has cheated and wants this to be a even sort of thing for when/ if she finds out…
Girl you need to start ruling with an iron fist. I get it he works like an animal. So do you. He doesn't have time to play games all night and then sleep for 10 hours. You don't have the energy to provide him that. We have 6 month old baby we both wanted. My husband is a gamer and he happens to work night shifts. Goes to bed at 7 in the morning and is up at 1 in the afternoon. That's what he gets/ can afford with broken wife, a baby, dog and a house. He games on his nights off when we sleep. Prioritise! Kids , yourself, house/dog If you don't have clean house, we'll fuck it. Hubby better do it or it's gonna be a mess. Whatever. You have 2 small kids , wtf. Lower your expectations of yourself first and then lift the bar for hubby a little.