If she was in a car accident tomorrow or suffered some god awful accident you’d have no legal right to find her, be with her, and make decisions for her.
Do you really believe he will be there for her when even the thought of spending money on something that might be her dream is too much for him? A sick partner means bounds, extra spendings, mental issues. Oh, and a looooot of legal stuff.
He wants to be free, without ties. Trust me, chances are he'll run away faster than light should something permanent happen to her.
Isn't that like putting a price on marriage? He may come to devalue the idea of marriage or even rush into it because he just can't afford such a tariff.
The fact the husband shushed the friend was enough for me to say end it.
It sounds like this has been a systemic issue of his. Putting himself or others ahead of Op throughout the marriage. He said he would try to put her first. Instead he goes to s place he knew she wanted to go to and not invite her and then shush the friend to jog tell her.
Hrm 2 yrs is usually the point were people settle and the sex can die down. It shouldn't however get worse of one partner. It's horrible that he has become a selfish lover. I hope you can get him to knock it off or this is likely to continue into the future and be even worse for you. He has to be willing to make that change for you and go back to giving you orgasms.
I read every word. I’m not trying to armchair diagnose but it’s highly likely this guy is some sort of sociopath or narcissist, because of his actions and saying he has no feelings. You’ve been milked dry and used and abused and you better keep this leech from sucking anything else out of you. Please save yourself
If the events as you have related to them are accurate you have dodged a bullet aimed straight at your head. She is refusing to take responsiblility for her own agency and laying it on you. That she has escalated this, even conversationally, into a claim of “sexual assault” should have red lights and and sirens going off in your head. You need to get as far away from her as quickly as you can. You need to run for the exit on this relationship and do not look back.
There is a better than 50/50 chance she is going to try to re-engage her relationship with you, even having said this, the next time she gets bored or lonely. You need to understand that the mask has dropped and the next stage may be a rape or assault charge of some kind if she feels you aren't toeing the line on her boundaries. You need to extricate yourself from this. An assault or rape charge can destroy your life on multiple levels and it sounds like she is primed to do exactly that at some point.
I mean, yeah, that's what you are now. There is no closing that door, the horses have bolted. You can't put that back to the way it was because your relationship has changed on a fundamental level.
Honestly, I would go NC if you feel remorse for what you both have done. Just remember that a duplicitous, two-faced liar is who he is. Yes, you share blame in this, but the lion's share is his for cheating on his wife. Is that the kind of person you want to be friends with?
Color me surprised this comment is from a woman
This is 2022. Women are allowed to have relationships and sex today. Unless you on-line in a religious country where sex before marriage is illegal.
If she was in a car accident tomorrow or suffered some god awful accident you’d have no legal right to find her, be with her, and make decisions for her.
Do you really believe he will be there for her when even the thought of spending money on something that might be her dream is too much for him? A sick partner means bounds, extra spendings, mental issues. Oh, and a looooot of legal stuff.
He wants to be free, without ties. Trust me, chances are he'll run away faster than light should something permanent happen to her.
To be honest sometimes it’s ok to look out for your own mental health. Op is an adult and can make the decision.
I would recommend you to apply the same advice to yourself .
he couldn’t explain why exactly he chose to piss then when my bathroom was like 10 feet away
He could explain it but that would require him to admit his kink is more important to him than you are.
Tbh he sounds like kind of a shitty partner. He should he able to patiently communicate his needs to you without being a jerk about it.
Isn't that like putting a price on marriage? He may come to devalue the idea of marriage or even rush into it because he just can't afford such a tariff.
The fact the husband shushed the friend was enough for me to say end it.
It sounds like this has been a systemic issue of his. Putting himself or others ahead of Op throughout the marriage. He said he would try to put her first. Instead he goes to s place he knew she wanted to go to and not invite her and then shush the friend to jog tell her.
That’s fucked up.
Are you a man? We don’t have a gyno or anything like it ? we go to an urologist and hope the doctor knows one thing or two about penises
Hrm 2 yrs is usually the point were people settle and the sex can die down. It shouldn't however get worse of one partner. It's horrible that he has become a selfish lover. I hope you can get him to knock it off or this is likely to continue into the future and be even worse for you. He has to be willing to make that change for you and go back to giving you orgasms.
why?
She’s going there for attention and as a thirst trap. Just let her be and find someone else. She already has your replacement set up.
I read every word. I’m not trying to armchair diagnose but it’s highly likely this guy is some sort of sociopath or narcissist, because of his actions and saying he has no feelings. You’ve been milked dry and used and abused and you better keep this leech from sucking anything else out of you. Please save yourself
In another post's comments she admits she has children of her own. Those should be her first priority, not this evil pervert.
If the events as you have related to them are accurate you have dodged a bullet aimed straight at your head. She is refusing to take responsiblility for her own agency and laying it on you. That she has escalated this, even conversationally, into a claim of “sexual assault” should have red lights and and sirens going off in your head. You need to get as far away from her as quickly as you can. You need to run for the exit on this relationship and do not look back.
There is a better than 50/50 chance she is going to try to re-engage her relationship with you, even having said this, the next time she gets bored or lonely. You need to understand that the mask has dropped and the next stage may be a rape or assault charge of some kind if she feels you aren't toeing the line on her boundaries. You need to extricate yourself from this. An assault or rape charge can destroy your life on multiple levels and it sounds like she is primed to do exactly that at some point.
I mean, yeah, that's what you are now. There is no closing that door, the horses have bolted. You can't put that back to the way it was because your relationship has changed on a fundamental level.
Honestly, I would go NC if you feel remorse for what you both have done. Just remember that a duplicitous, two-faced liar is who he is. Yes, you share blame in this, but the lion's share is his for cheating on his wife. Is that the kind of person you want to be friends with?