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Reading between the lines, it sounds like he’s breaking up with her. Doesn’t anyone see this?
How can anyone love anybody who does such a thing …she is not demonstrating love for you … seems like its pre meditated blatant on purpose to use as a way to break it off ! If so its prob doing you a favour to send her on her way pack her bags change the locks or empty the house change the locks so she comes back to a empty shell to match her shallow one ?
I was kind of on the flip of this, I skipped grades so I was the super young person with older friends/boy/girlfriends. I think as long as you're the same grade, it's ok. On paper, the age gap will look weird, especially when you're 17 and he's still 15, but you're in the same year level at school and that counts for a lot.
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This entire post is him whining about not getting his dick wet and not being the center of her attention for less than half the acclimation time she needs for her new meds. It's exactly what happened here. She's been struggling in one way or another for 8 years, he's been against her taking meds- because of how it affects how much she's interested in him.
Because, heaven forbid she be focused on the brain she is trying to learn to use, obviously the healthy person's need for intimacy is what's important.
The only spinning around going on is the attempts to put his own selfish needs on the same level if not over her mental health.
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Op you need to prove it to him. It’s going to hurt and going to take time but if you actually love that man you will change. And he will change if he actually loves you and doesn’t just feel stuck.
I'm a 45 yo woman who works in STEM. The men definitely seem to think they're king shit on the technical side more than the men on the softer side of the businesses. Don't get me wrong. There's a lot of really smart men. But they're typically used to feeling like the smartest person in the room and when a woman is smarter than them, they figure out mentally tricks to convince themselves that the woman said a dumb. It's partly misogyny and partly being smarter than your peers for a lot of your formative life, plus throw in a bit of most of them not being neurotypical, or your standard lack of social awareness. It's all gross.
But, the thing that is concerning to me is that this mindset doesn't stay at work. He will never see you as smarter, or even as smart as, him unless he goes through a fundamental change in beliefs that are deeply rooted. For anything. Ever. It'll mostly be subtle, until it isn't and you realize that benevolent misogyny is just as damaging as overt misogyny. You haven't invested that much time in him. It's it really worth staying with someone who truly believes you can't be a smart as him because of your gender?
My other half won’t go to therapy alone or as a couple, they say I’m obsessed with it because I always bring it up as the only thing I can think to do
So your partner isn't willing to work on himself at all….okay, so why do you stay in this unhealthy relationship? Yes, you most likely love him, but love isn't enough. Don't fall for the sunk cost fallacy.
What? This does not make sense. What kind of shooter games does he play (i don't expect you to answer this) without a headset? Girl he is playing you. This isn't a gamer thing. This is him being an AH.
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Except for giving him his Christmas presents. That was weird.
Wtf? No, he does not deserve forgiveness (also, practice safe sex. Always always always use a condom, and get tested every few months, even with established partners!)
Anyone, especially any partner/potential partner telling you you're in the wrong is NOT worth your time, don't risk intimacy with them. The deserve NOTHING.
Dentophobia is a very real thing. The loud high pitched machines up against something so sensitive. And I’m sure the longer he has gone without an appointment, the harder it has been for him to go. That just builds up over time.
Not trying to make excuses for his lack of hygiene.. but just saying if you really like the guy, I think it’s worth attempting to get him to overcome his fears before dropping his ass.
Tell it to him straight. If he doesn’t make the effort, tell him it’s a dealbreaker.
Letting him know ahead of time that you’re leaving with your child could also make him angry and complicate your ability to leave.
Also document his actions, you’ll have a much easier time getting custody and a restraining order if the court has evidence he is physically violent
He’s the issue, not you. He clearly doesn’t appreciate you and would rather have the simplicity of the fake stuff than the real deal in front of him. If he won’t communicate, or understand where you’re coming from and be willing to make changes, I’d end it. You’re worth more than that.
thats what she said.
Someone seems overly impressed with their education, or perhaps you learned this in therapy?
You’re not being helpful, you’re condescendingly shrink speaking. No one is impressed.
Your original comment was fine. Your follow up was needlessly academic.
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My (33F) bf (34M) of 3 years has just disrespected me and I am currently in the spare room, in tears from lack of sleep and frustration. For reference it is 3:20 AM.
My bf and I moved in together over the summer to his place. I pay him rent. It’s been going well. We have compromised and communicated well- up until tonight. I am shaking I am so angry.
I have two jobs, he has one. Tomorrow (or today I guess) is Christmas Eve. I have forewarned him several times that I work in the morning (and I work from home for this job I work tomorrow). I have to wake up early and my job is one in which a lack of sleep will not help anything, and I need 110% focus. He has known I worked for weeks.
Yesterday he informed me he was going out with his guy friends for “Friendsmas”. Which normally I don’t care for. However he tabled bringing his friends back. I said he needed to be quiet and reminded him I was working in the morning. Now, I expected an arrival time back maybe midnight or 1:00 AM. I was in bed by 11 sleeping. 2:10 AM he and his friends come back, they go to the basement and crank the music up with the base. I wake up not because I heard them come home, but because of the music and base shaking the floors and vibrating the walls. The dog also wakes up and begins crying. I text him and say “please turn down the music base”. It should have been done there.
He came upstairs- drunk, music still blasting, and goes “oh you are still up?”. I said “ya! The music woke me up, turn it down please”. The response? “It’s not that loud”. At this point I am frustrated I snapped and was like “are you fcking kidding? Are you seriously telling me how I feel?!” To which he responded “it can be louder”. Now. I know you cannot negotiate with an intoxicated person. I yelled “I’m asking you to turn it down slightly or turn the base off. Again, I work and I am woken up by this! Don’t be a dck.” and turned over.
HE WENT DOWNSTAIRS AND TURNED IT UP.
If I had somewhere to go I would leave. I am so mad. He has never done anything like this. I moved to the spare room and the music is still blaring and shaking the house.
I am so upset, I almost want to tell him I won’t be going to dinner. At his family’s place today. But I know that’s taking it out on the wrong people. I will be a tired mess tomorrow and likely won’t want to even go cause I am the type to hold anger. It’s important to him that I go and I feel this is the only way to get him to understand.
Do I not go? I will be having this conversation tomorrow but I am currently stunned and in shock with his response to my simple request that was polite and respectful. As I finish typing this it is 3:45 AM and music still blasting.
EDIT: 5:15 AM I finally lost it and went downstairs and told them to turn off the music. They sat there stunned, turned it off and everyone went to bed (I do not condone drinking and driving). I slept in the spare room, and my bf didn’t come to bed (good) at all, and instead slept on the couch. I woke up at 7:30 and have a massive headache. It’s now 10:00 and they are still passed out. I will wait for him to wake up before I tell him I won’t be attending as I do not feel well. I will still make a dish, because I did at the very least say I would contribute, however it will be a simple slow cooker recipe so he can unplug and take it. If there is no apology, or gaslighting/diversion I will be telling him I’ll spend Christmas alone doing my own thing, and I’ll be looking for a new place. Even though this is an isolated incident, I am incredibly hurt and I refuse to be disrespected. I deserve peace in my own home as well.
Don’t let him take nudes unless your ok with the friend seeing them. I doubt they’re sexual together.
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I have an idea …. go find a single guy your own age.
You aided in the deterioration of this man's marriage and family. Now he will lose everything, as he should.
Yeah you see if someone was talking to me w the same energy I am to you I’d have enough common sense to realize maybe they don’t want to hear what I have to say and I’d stop responding. I wish the same relationship for you judgejudyOG and an even better life to match up!
I was disgusted by the fact that she was not even attracted to me when we were intimate and still had to stay there. I have been with people I wasn't attracted to before. It's awful. I was thinking about that. And thank you for being understanding!
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Needs come before wants.
Your fiancée needs to sleep.
Your child wants to sleep.
You want to be in the bed with them.
You want to stay up late and game instead of popping a couple of melatonin and resetting your sleep schedule so you can spend more time as a family.
She has a solution which accommodates all the needs, and one of your two wants. You're trying to accommodate both of your wants at the expense of their needs. I don't know what effect you sleeping in the guest room will have on the relationship, but you being selfish enough and senseless enough to push your wants over their very obvious needs will result in you being a weekend parent and a child support check while she goes out and looks for a partner with a modicum of common sense when it comes to priorities. By all means show her who you are now before you get married, if this still doesn't make sense to you because after 140 other adults trying to hammer it in, and all the basic information you've had up until this point in your life about how humans need sleep, if you still are arguing in the comments you may just be beyond help.
yeah, he probably got drunk n coma'd somewhere. not the best choice but all these people telling you you are single and its over – wow, you should wait to see how the contact goes, talk it through – explain all sides, then evaluate. just about everyone that kneejerks live! is a serial keep-quiet-n-take-it person. dont take any of this extreme end-of-days talk on-board until you've had a proper talk. like adults, even in the face of some pretty non-adult decision making on his part – but hey, people blow out sometimes, dont write everything off just yet.
You're only getting one side of the story. Even if it goes as she says, take a step back, only a psycho would want that kind of drama.
Did you work before being a SAHM? What was he like about finances then?
if they’re not a creep or mentally unstable, i don’t see why you shouldn’t have a convo with them about why it ended. even if it’s only just to say “i just wasn’t feeling it”
Therapy can't save stupidity i'm afraid
You should probably honestly see a doctor because that’s not exactly normal.
Yes I agree it is centered on my POV, because I am the one in the relationship that was hurt badly. He does not have “important traditions” with his family. They are not religious. Their “plans” I keep referring to primarily involve heavy drinking, dancing to Taylor Swift songs, and talking about gambling. For some reason all of this was planned with them even though my husband knew I would be back before Christmas. I had no idea all of these things had been planned with them because I was not informed of any of it until I was in the airport awaiting my flight to go back home. And I certainly was not asking him to completely drop any “important traditions” because they don’t have any in the first place
Girl, run.
The best case scenario is this man has never matured emotionally. That is the best case scenario- dating an emotional child.
If he tells you that you are so mature for your age change your phone number and never look back.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I really appreciate your words. I think I will go through with my original intention and rip this band aid.
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Your one of many darling
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A lack of intimacy without common understanding, compassion, and empathy from both sides, is a good reason to break up.
I haven’t even seen every season either!
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Isn't this just a difference in men and women? Isn't it kind of ridiculous for the therapist to suggest that men are somehow disfunctional for not approaching problems the same way women do?
Like, I spend my whole day fixing million dollar machines that are malfunctioning, not consoling people with empathy and affirmation. Of course if you bring me a problem I'm going to try to actually fix it…
My wife knows this, if she's having a problem she needs emotional support with then she's going to go to her BFF, or other girlfriends, or her mom or grandma. Not to her dad or her brother or me, but she'll go to us immediately when it's a problem that needs actual fixing.
And if I text my friend Steve asking for help because my God dam computer won't boot, I don't want from him to be like “aw shucks man, it's okay, don't get upset, it'll be okay” no… I expect him to be “what is it doing, what have you tried, okay try this, and this, and that.”
But if I say to my wife “my God dam computer won't boot” then I don't expect any of that practical shit from her. From her I actually do expect “aw that sucks babe, how bout we go for a hike to take your mind off it” or “let's make tacos for dinner to cheer you up”
Is it really so wrong for men and women to be different?
Often, as part of getting to know someone in a new relationship, one gets into a “future” based mind set. Living in the future allows one to be living in hope for what may be, rather than living in the moment of what is.
Do you think it's b/c you've startled her? If she wasn't expecting it, like coming up from behind? I'm not saying you were wrong for leaving and walking away but to give a little insight, I used to sometimes get an involuntary angry response when I got startled. Like a fight or flight response and my reaction was to “fight”. I've experienced it with my kids too but I've controlled it b/c I would never want to lash out at my kids. I just got scared for whatever reason. I also sometimes got this involuntary flight response if I felt smothered and I'd feel a bit claustrophobic in that moment. It was random and and an uncontrollable internal response. What I could control (mostly) was my outward response and years of me realizing it wasn't a normal response and working on my reaction and I think I've finally broken free because I haven't thought about it for years until reading this post. I can't explain it nor was there any reason for me to have this reaction. No trauma. But I can get where your gf was in that moment if she is like me. HOWEVER what she could have done in that split second that she looked at you and then reacted was to choose to react differently. Especially if she's been talking to a therapist and this is a real thing and not just her being a jerk. I had to learn to choose to react different and now I just do.
The heart has its reasons, of which reason knows nothing.
I was already planning to move to another company in the next 2 years so it could still work out ok.
I was going to say that it looks like he married you to get a mommy replacement for his kids… but he actually told you this to your face.
Is that what you want? Is that all the value you want to bring in their life? What about you? How are you being fulfilled?
Yes, sounds like cutting this relationship short is a good idea, especially before you have kids with such a disrespectful, misogynistic and immature man.
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Are you getting off on this? ? relax love. I heard you~ your words matter too~ I promise that I listened to you and I considered you and your feelings ♡ do you feel better now? Need a virtual hug?
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I'm an oldie and back in the days before anyone was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD I did have a friend or two like this. They're no longer friends, because I personally regard keeping people waiting as a particularly rude thing to do.
However, it's possible your girlfriend does have a valid reason for being unable to organise herself and her time. I think you really need to speak to her about it. She needs to take ownership of the problem and go to see a professional.
If she's diagnosed with something where medication can help her, that would be great. If it turns out she's just rude and thinks her time is more important than that of other people, I'd be walking away. It would be a constant stressor to me and it reflects badly on you both, as a couple.
In any case, in the short-term I wouldn't be waiting for her to the extent that you make yourself late.
There is more going on at the very least he's emotionally cheating on you. Marriage counseling of separation. He's gaslighting you expecting you to he totally fine with this and it's not ok. None of its ok. He didn't want to create awkwardness with this girl with HIS WIFE ya know the one he promised to love and cherish forever so he could comfort this woman after a breakup? Barf nope nope nope
I’m 2” taller and weigh 130 something, and still bordering on being underweight. Her boyfriend sucks.
Why do you want me to get out so fast 😉
^ this all day long. It’s an explanation not an excuse.
Repair your relationship? You have fallen in love with her man, while pregnant with his baby. Please reset your expectations here. The one thing she went to great measures to avoid….having a child….is being forced upon her by her FORMER best friend if she decides to stay with her boyfriend. What a damn mess.
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I do agree that you need to go. I know that people say this all the time on Reddit but it's 100% true here. Plus the kids will soon see how they're treated differently and they'll most likely grow up to hate each other. I would also like to add that you staying because he's good to one of your son's is you also favouring that son. Like, he's got a good home life so the other one will just have to put up with it.
Get your son out. Being in this environment long term will cause mental harm.
How can I escape this situation
You consult with a lawyer, secure yourself financially and file for divorce.
how should I go about everything?
Go to therapy. Understand how his narcissism affects you and your children. Understand what problems you have in your relationship with him. Then either ask him to join you to work on these problems or leave. Or just realize that you are fine with the situation as is. Just make sure to understand your situation and make an educated decision.
Reading stuff live! is great but every person is different. Don't judge your partner based on stuff you read on-line, judge him for his own actions.
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The more time you spend with this jerk, the less time you will have with someone who truly cares about and respects you.
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Let her be single she does not have room in her life for you she has her kids, her friends(not including you) and her job. She has not seen you for two weeks and says you are insecure for not seeing her at Christmas? Her actions at screaming at you that you are not a priority listen to them and be someone else’s priority!!!!
shut up.
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Now this would be hilarious
How is the award decided ? Do students vote or is it a committee ?
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Yea… you sound largely Co dependant and clingy. With that said I think she's trying to ghost you out, and updating her tinder is kinda a clear beak up, especially if you guys have agreed to be exclusive.
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Yikes. If my SO wanted me to be there for anything, I would be. Alcoholism affects everyone around the person and this event could mean just as much to OP as the mom.
Id just tell your SO what it means to you OP. If she still wants to disregard it, then make your decision on if that's someone you can spend your life (or any amount of time) with.
I have alcoholism in my family so it's easy for me to relate. People who don't, sometimes can't fully wrap their heads around the effort and dedication it takes to overcome it. And so, it may – very innocently – just be miscommunication on how important this is to your family (if it is??).
girl, bffr
Lil bit yeah. My partner actually just left an 8 year relationship with her high school sweetheart herself, and he’s acting the exact same way.
All this does is reinforce why leaving was a good idea, and reeks of narcissism/controlling behaviour.
Thanks for this comment, this makes sense. I'm definitely blowing the positives out of proportion and forgetting the negatives with Amy. I can't be friends with her though. I'll bring this up to my therapist but that's a great point.
i guess by ultimatum i also mean tell her i’ll be moving out. i’m 20 so i still live! with her because i don’t have a job that can pay for an apartment yet. the ultimatum isn’t really for purposes of her getting sober, but just so she won’t get a car because she could kill someone else driving. i thought the accident would be rock bottom for her, and she goes back and forth to rehabs and detoxes constantly, at least 15x that i can remember. i just feel like as her daughter, i have a responsibility to do whatever i can to stop her from having access to a car. if she killed someone on the road i don’t know how i could on-line with myself
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Thank you so much for all of your insight
Your post title makes it sound like she is currently pregnant with some other person's kid. You might want to edit it for clarification, that there is currently no “unborn child” involved.
Sorry, but in my opinion neither of you seem mature enough to even be in a relationship. Neither of you seem to have any common sense and your communication skills are prerry nearly nonexistent.
Stop having sex with her (or anyone else). Seriously. Do not bring a child into this world to suffer from your lack of maturity.
Get some therapy. Get some couples counseling. Grow up.
I guess only she can really know that, but she really identified with aromanticism like it was a lightbulb moment for her. I have asked her why she still does romantic things for me and she got really confused about it as well. I’m trying to help her figure it out but it hurts me in the process when her actions say ‘I love you’ but she doesn’t say it back
OP, this. Your ex sounds emotionally immature and manipulative. You dodged a bullet here. Excise him from your life! You don’t need this kind of energy.
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He says he hates it and wants out.
It sounds from his response the way you brought it up could have been pushy and worried that he wasn't there yet?
Asking him about love wouldn't necessarily help reassure you if he doesn't love you yet.
Why not sit down and have a discussion with him about both of your futures then if he's willing.
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I’d be hard pressed to get past the hypocrisy. It’s called oral sex because it’s still a type of sex.
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I totally agree. I want to clarify that I do not think autism is a weird quirk. I was just trying to explain in the post, that I never said I was autistic to him. I just agreed that I related to quirks from a video we watched on TikTok. It was something like quirks that could actually be autism.. just some random video that someone made that they probably had no idea what they were talking about. But from that, my husband took that we think I am on the spectrum I guess.
I had a similar experience. Ladies really underestimate how strong guys actually are. My gf kept smacking me around with a pillow after the 10th smack I picked one up to retaliate. However this pillow was a great deal heavier than the one she used and I didn’t realize it till I hit her and sent her flying a couple of feet lol. I apologized a million times she wasn’t hurt at all just a little shocked. She held a grudge against me for a long time tho. So yea don’t play fight ladies y’all take it personal lol
Whoa. You are being really very hot on yourself.
You're not disgusting. Sexual fantasies about other people are normal. Desires aren't wrong. It's acting on them that may get you in trouble.
That said, we all have our “what if” moments. We don't have time machines though. There's no point in dwelling in the past, when you are happy and with a good man in the present.
The Professor only wanted to objectify you and didn't respect your boundaries. He asked for nudes 3 times after you told him no. Do you really think sleeping with him would have been a good idea? Even if it was just sex he still had no respect for you.
Compare that to your current bf. If that doesn't make you stop idk what will.
Hello me from 20 years ago.
whatever you do make sure your contraception is bulletproof otherwise he will be that, stay-at-home dad, well you continue to support the family financially as well as do everything at home.
Please don't get trapped like I did and then spent 20 years of your life raising a man baby
Came here to say the same thing, mainly the sunk cost fallacy. Getting stuck in that can cause you to waste so many years. Relationships aren’t linear, but time is. This time a year from now it’ll be 6 years, then 7, then 8, and so on. Clinging to this reasoning will only make things worse, not better.
Another great piece of advice someone else said: see the man who is in front of you, not who you wish he was. People change. He is going through something for sure, but it sounds like he’s going down a path where you cannot join him without losing yourself ?
Nothing is mandatory – there is no rule that says you have to stand by your partner while they self-destruct because you've been with them X amount of time. You wouldn't be throwing away the past you shared. You are taking things as they come and you do NOT have to be collateral damage in his self-made life crisis.
I usually avoid serious relationships because I get used some way or another, usually the FWB’s I’ve had were more genuine and kind hence my confusion right now
He needs to get help. What is wrong with this generation? It seems like so many of these people need help. From the guy who can’t get a date. To the lady who grew up in a broken home with a mother addicted to drugs. I mean seriously we have a lot of issues with people.
Your relationship is fucking gross and you both deserve to be with each other. Cheaters should stay together so others dont get fucked over
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Talk to her.
It would be a good idea to be gentle and reassuring. It would be so easy for her to take it as you finding her undesirable. If she blows up or gets angry, don't match her energy. Stay calm. Stay understanding. Come in loving and go out loving.
I would be more concerned about her potentially having an ED. So that's more reason to be calm and understanding. There should be some articles out there on how to approach this particular topic.
There could be other problems that affect her appetite too.
Does she regularly see a doctor or mental health professional?
People aren’t perfect, but there are plenty of people who get drunk, are with people of the opposite sex, and don’t cheat. So it’s not like cheating is a side effect of drinking like slurred speech. Yes it impairs you, but if you really weren’t thinking about cheating while you’re sober, I highly doubt that some alcohol is going to push you there if you really don’t want to do that.
Your mom's husband is trying to isolate her, and it's working. There is no amount of time that will pass that will make him okay with you again.
This is what abusers do. You should tell your mom exactly what he said and tell her that it scares you that he finds it so threatening to have the people who love her around. He's abusive.
He is 13 years older than you and was never financial independent nor able to support himself. He sounds like a real catch.
You need to leave and never get into a relationship with someone like that.
If she does it all the time how can you not expect her to do it when emotions are running high like in an argument also is only manipulation if you allow it to change your behavior.
I don’t think political differences on their own are insurmountable, but I think you need to look into whether or not ‘political differences’ are a mask for incompatible values/morals.
Thank you. We both cut out pop/soda years ago, but I don't think he'll ever be able to truly give up beer. I don't blame him, it's delicious. ?
You assume correctly that is not what happen's in normal couples. You aren't really his priority. Keeping in mind you are both 18 it's kind of expected, but he isn't treating your relationship particularly seriously.
I have read those text messages… it was painful.
You havent said anything wrong and even if you were, you clarified yourself & apologized pretty quickly.
I dont like how she is calling names, throwing insults. She thinks you are so terrible for his son so the best action is to discuss division of assets after separation. It is not reasonable to come back from this.
it’s good to get all this out in the open before marriage so thank goodness you’re talking about it now. Look at it that way? Couples have to be able to talk about this things and what their life will be like. Are you planning on having kids right away? That might affect his perspective? It would be good to discuss that as well if you have not. What does your family think?
What a AH! He left you watching their kid while they screw each either?!?! You deserve so much better. He did exactly what his wife did to him to you with her and your expected to forgive and move on? I understand you love him and work well together but he doesn’t seem to care. He knows how it feels to be betrayed yet he did it to you anyways. If you do stay with him you know she will always be in his life because of his daughter will you trust him when he goes to pick up and drop her off to her mom?
I had a feeling he wasn't a narcissist but figured I'd throw it in just in case. And I think you're 100% right, his fear of her outweighs his fatherly duties/respect for his children and that shows that actually keeping the kids away from her is the right thing to do. All you can do is continue being an amazing mum and just hope that the fog clears for him before the damage is irreparably done to the kids.
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Gurl fuckin RUN
Bringing food.
She sounds like a child who is giddy to get a pretty new toy. Can you imagine if the baby is born needing long term or intensive care?
You have relationship OCD. I’d put money on it. I’m not a therapist. But this sounds like ROCD. I’m shocked a therapist hasn’t brought this up.
I've read some of your comments, and your reasoning for not wanting to get married are a bit off to me. You want to be with her forever, but wont marry her and rather break up with her, because you might divorce some day if you were to marry? You also dont seem to actually know what benefits comes from marriage and have based your stance on a statistic with no nuance and divorce seeming more draining than just breaking up. Might want to actually do some proper research and have an honest honest conversation with yourself about whats up.
That said, if you dont want to marry and she does, you're incompatible. She should have believed you when you told her from the start, as long as you were clear and didnt leave room for any maybes. If she needs something you wont provide, leave her so you both can find people who agree with your stances.
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Pics are gonna show you if someone is physically attractive. Plenty of muscular guys are big, but not “fat” even though photos might betray that. Muscles have an unfortunate habit of hiding very well under fat unless you cut your body fat to unhealthily low levels
Go out with your own friends on NYE and have fun.
He's 27, so no old man wisdom there. They have older co-workers.
I’m not intimidating or that attractive
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I’m not a guy she needs to feel anxious with
Dude… anxiety doesn't work like that.
Reasons for her to be anxious:
She suffers with a mental health issue You're a new person You're a person that she's romantically interested in. You're around all kinds of other people in public. You might just be pretending to be nice to get in her pants – odds are people have done it before. She almost certainly has low self-esteem.
Whether you're nice or not, it takes time for people with anxiety disorders to get used to new people and feel comfortable around them.
Only you can say if you're wasting your time or not. The real questions you should be asking are whether you really like this girl or not, and whether you have the patience to take it at her pace, which might mean a few more months getting to know each other really well (which, tbh, is a really good foundation for a relationship).
If all you're looking to do is see how fast you can get laid, then leave the poor girl alone and let her find someone who respects her and appreciates who she is, regardless of what she's going through.
If you genuinely like her, take it at her pace and slow the f**k down, it isn't going to kill you to not be physically intimate for a little while.
Also, you'll be surprised at just how much she changes to be more like her live! persona when she actually feels comfortable around you in person. If you like her when you're chatting to her on-line, then you have your answer – give her time.
I'd rain fury down on his punk ass.
Get a fill time job. Let him start cooking and cleaning and taking care of his fucking kids.
House would look permanently lived in.
Becuase you're earning you're money. Not like a loser SAHM that works at a grocery store so her husband and families lives can be easier.
Id make his punk ass regret it for the remainder of his life.
He just let his resentment of you not working slip. Well, resent thr TV dinners you'll be eating.
You deserve someone who loves you for you as you. If your partner can’t accept your sexuality, then you are incompatible. Let him go, mourn the relationship and take the good things you have learned into the next.
There are enough red flags for both of you to end it.
You definitely have some control issues. Your over the top reaction from the start is a bit much. You should have left it at “You said you were going to be home early and we set the boundary that we wouldn't spend late hours with opposite sex partners.” If she doesn't react how a good partner should, be apologetic and correct her behaviour, then you need to leave.
She definitely has some boundary issues and has a disregard for your feelings. The hanging out late at night with somebody who has feeling for you is not conducive to a healthy relationship. (The male BFF who used to have feelings likely still does and is just waiting for his moment.)
6 months and she hasn't sucked your dick? Move on
Who doesn’t brush in the morning!?
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She also has to think of her newborn too. If yhe dog is whining all say I doubt the baby or her will be able to get much rest. Which is important after giving birth
Your view would be the minority and for very important reasons.
You can’t change just to people please. There must be greater meaning. If you could change so willingly and readily then you have no identity or preferences. Your reasons for not originally doing it would be meaningless. That’s not typical to most men.
My dad also did a 180 when he hit like…. 35? It can happen at any time. He was a completely different person after that-shocked all our friends and family. I hate to tell you, this change with your dad is probably permanent too.
He’s not worth your energy. You can’t control him, only yourself. So my advice would be: protect yourself with distance. If he does actually recover from his midlife crisis, he will reach out to you.
Romantic relationships are more similar to platonic friendships than you think. People get sick of each other. They go through hard personal times during which they can’t interact with their friends properly. Sometimes they want you to reach out and sometimes they just need space.
If I was you, when he pulls back and doesn’t talk to you, just make sure you make small contact. Send him a meme and say it made you think of him. Ask him a personal question about yourself (NOT him). Stuff like that. There’s a good chance he’s just going through something personal and can’t handle you but small things like that show you still care, but they don’t put a lot of pressure on him.
Simple. Do you like to eat? Then learn to cook.
move on. This sounds cringy and pathetic.
INFO: how long have you been dating?
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so you'd rather her be in danger instead of risking cheating. love the priorities.
Its her body and you have to respect her choices… i know that may be hard and thats something youre going to have to face head on…. but her “figure it out” is complete bullshit…
you guys need to have a sit down… a real talk. tell her that you think it'll damage your relationship and ask why suddenly she's just decided to do that to your relationship with you. things dont just happen over night… maybe she got hurt somehow? maybe youre into things that she isnt? hell maybe shes into things that she doesnt think you'll agree to and thats why she's choosing to stop? who knows… it can be a lot of things… but bottom line she needs to be truthful with you or this relationship will eventualy fall apart.
WHAT IF SHE DIDN’T KNOW, DUMBASS?
Why can't you have a difference of opinions politically but still have a relationship?
My grandparents were on different political sides, but they worked out great being married.
You just have to set a boundary, politics don't get discussed between you two if they cause an all out war. If you can't talk like adults, and let each other explain their opinion without a fight, then you won't get along when it comes to those topics. But everything else can work just fine.
My grandparents didn't discuss politics, and when they did, they simply agreed to disagree, but they would calmly debate each other and pointed out why they felt the way they did over the topic, neither got mad at the other, and they went on with their lives.
Now days it seems all liberals think if you don't vote the same as them, then they can't have anything to do with you.
I hate to break it to you, but for many years both parties got along outside of politics, they were friends with the opposite side , they married people who didn't vote the same, and they had healthy happy relationships.
I have friends who are on different political sides , and we all get along, and don't put each other down for our views on politics.
If this guy is so great, set a no politics discussed boundary, and stay in the relationship. Believe it or not it can work out.
Yeah “He eats shit.” “He wears diapers for lunch.” Come on dude. I’d probably think it’s a prank or that he pissed someone off. THEN I’d explain how petty my wife is to my coworkers. Having to make her look even worse to them… if anything it damaged OP reputation even more. I don’t agree with calling her crazy. But it’s definitely not healthy and it’s obvious to everyone.
respectfully, this is a huge fucking deal. make one out of it, because it’s FUCKED.
your appendix burst,
You could have died
if you hadn’t gotten the friend’s gf to give you a ride, you would be in a terrible position, you will be okay because you made it to the hospital to get treatment, sounds like if it was up to bf that wouldn’t have happened at all.
and then for him to not even come visit you, after finding out that there was something serious wrong ??? trash imo
I have swords and machetes. I live! in the woods. I’m not messing around.
Agreed, I think toilet humor is a bit juvenile and it's not funny at all to me. If other people find it funny, more power to them! We all have different senses of humor and there are absolutely things that I find funny that I'm sure others think are juvenile (for example I will never, ever not laugh at someone falling off a treadmill).
He could communicate it more respectfully for sure, but people are acting like the only normal or healthy way to behave in a relationship is to intentionally rip farts with each other and anyone who doesn't is a fuddy-duddy with no sense of humor. I've never done that with a partner and it's never been an issue.
No it’s not, most posts on this sub are extremely fake and it’s honestly sad
This MFer is married.
It’s a really good point when you say that he didn’t have to share it. Usually it’s in his personality to hide things he’s deeply ashamed or embarrassed about. I’m proud of him and I have to acknowledge this with him
It is the only right thing you can do. It is what you should have done from the start. If you can get over a crush fast you can go on with women that you like as friends but be really sure that its a friendship where you do stuff for each other and not something where you get used for attention and when you need her she is busy.
If you can't get over a crush fast you should get distance. I think if you can get over it you can go back to being friends but if you do not want that its totally fine too.
Seriously what year is this guy living in where we think women do what they do for the sake of men. Yuck. Lmao.
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i mean not to sound harsh but you make the situation sound a lot more impossible than it is. i grew up with both parents working full time my entire life and so do many people. sometimes you have to take a day off or leave early for your kid, that’s a normal thing that happens. there’s a lot about your relationship that’s concerning to me but i think it’s kind of ridiculous to act like you can’t get a job because kids have appointments.
The only way to really know is to have an open discussion about it.
Spend more time with her. Take her out to more places. Emotional investment is the best way to show commitment.
He suggested he wait a year. Nothing about OP’s story suggested he demanded he not work. Who’s to say he IS going to move the goal posts?
You all keep insisting, in spite of OP telling you that this person isn’t controlling or abusive, that he is, and OP is a victim even though they have not highlighted that in anyway. You can feel what you like about the age gap, but stop creating problems that OP themself is telling everyone is not the case. You don’t know better.
You have covid, what did you expect her to do?
exactly. It's losing a potential child.
You're seriously insecure and hypocritical.
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Honestly, it sounds like she's just curious about it to me. Everyone keeps saying that she wants to “redefine the boundaries,” but does she, in the way that's being implied? She asked you how you felt about it, you said you weren't okay, and she's disappointed but, most likely, will move on. It's way, way too early to tell if she's going to keep pushing it, and just because she's curious does not mean that she's been, or even will, cheat.
You probably both just need a bit of time. Most people absolutely detest the idea of their partner wanting to be intimate with someone else, and that's understandable! So it's understandable that you are upset about it.
At the same time, this is something that she's been curious about for roughly a year now. She's probably been nervous to ask you, she finally did, and the idea got rejected. Of course she's going to seem “off” — that's understandable, too.
I do suggest talking about it with her. Try to be open to hearing whatever she has to say (note that that doesn't mean you should feel pressure to agree with what she says). What's she thinking? How is she processing this? What are YOU thinking, and how are YOU processing this?
I definitely don't think it should be swept under the rug. It's important that you guys are on the same page. Just try not to jump to any conclusions — it does not automatically mean that she's going to cheat on you with a man, or anything else.
…Honestly, she'd likely be extremely disappointed lmao There's a big difference between being with a woman who's wearing a strap, and being with a man with a penis. Surely she's heard of how frequently women in opposite sex partnerships fake orgasms? While she could definitely actually be bi+ and just not fully realize it, it's more likely that this could be a case of comphet coming up. ///// Absolutely no offense intended for any guys who bothered to read this!
It’s entirely OP’s right not to trust his partner. I’ve said so in a dozen places now. I don’t think I’ve said anything about him specifically: I’ve only been pushing back on the absurd notion that all kisses are sexual and therefore all kisses are necessarily betrayals.
This is so sad…I’m sorry, OP. Can you move out and use have regular roommates?
You need your parents support on this, if the school is not taking action. Don't be afraid to speak up, they are 100% in the wrong.
I paid $700 a month for decent coverage. The other plans were $450 for nothing. If you’re older, it looks more like 1200-1500. Yeah it’s a scam, what can you do?
How long ago did you give this ultimatum? It takes time to get a ring. He may not have thought you were serious or had the time/ money to get a ring you wanted. But if you gave him a lot of advanced warning (4 months at least) and made it clear you really meant it, he probably just doesn't want to get married at all.
You have nothing to feel guilty about once a dog attacks unprovoked like this to the point of death it should automatically be put down.
Well I have known her for long, she wasn’t ready for a relationship at first place because it was sin and we are in a relationship. That’s why.
Good luck ?
easy for you to say. I’m ugly, have no friends and family, just had come from 2 extremely abusive relationships. he’s the only person who ever showed kindness to me
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Appreciate the update, sorry this happened but my guy you handled it beautiful and made a captivating story for all of us.
Cheers
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No not Ali, I know him well and he wouldn’t do that to his friend.
We can agree to disagree. In my book and by definition she's definitely a brat.
Its because its based on lies of omission and lie outright the first month ,she acted she was over her hookup past and she really liked him because he is the first italian she dated while hooking up with a italian behind his back and she took 1 week to break it off ,you do realise how much it has affected OPs reality of their relationship right ,in her mind it doesnt matter because he was a FWB but in his mind he is not the first italian she has been with, not exactly over her hookup past which is a outright lie and she didnt lie about not dating anyone else but she was hooking up with someone else and forgot to mention that till now? As she said she was seeing someone in the beginning of the relationship so she knows she is lieing but doubling down it does not matter, dont you see how he can doubt what else she has lied about ,now he cant even joke about being her first italian and you dont see how this can effect the relationship he thought he had just because she was truthfull for the last 5 years? It doesnt matter if you think it isnt a big deal but it is for him and many men , women have no problem dating aroung to choose their right partner but hooking up with someone while dating a potential partner and not being honest about it is pretty bad ,dont you agree?
I don’t want to say you must not be that bright but like. Ya……..
You should consider being single and also doing some self work! It will help in the long run. Best of luck and please be safe
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You're right. I guess I just never thought of it as abusive before
If you weren’t elite you would BE the driver lol
So the next time you have to walk close to any woman you know or don't know, expect them to yell “get away from me you pervert!!!! Do not touch me!!!” Be sure to remember that you're saying it's the women's responsibility to not trust any man, including you. Next time someone says, “all men are r@pists” and you say, “not ALL men,” remember this opinion. You've said that OP can't trust friends from elementary school and to never be drunk around a man. Do you realize the world we're in where we have to assume all men might r@pe us?
Assuming you're a good person who really just needs to update your way of thinking…do some reading about this please. Expect better from yourself. Your thoughts should be, “men feel that r@ping drunk women who cannot LEGALLY consent is okay. I better work harder to hold men accountable.” Not “assume you're not safe so don't ever drink around half the population” because you and your friends won't hold each other to a better standard.
We’re not in couples’ counseling, but I think it would be helpful and I really wish I could afford it. I worry that I might be at fault with my tone, because I don’t pay attention to tone much (except for avoiding sounding impatient/angry). Mostly with my voice, I’ve been focusing on talking more clearly, since I tend to speak fast and somewhat softly.
Your bf is an ego maniac that thinks the world revolves around him and his actions.
YOU HAD AN ORGASAM BEFORE ME? BUT IM A GOD!
Talk to him about his insecurities, if it doesn't improve, let him know by leaving.
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I could not read that because there are no paragraphs but the answer is always No.
Reducing or ending contact is an action.
Issuing announcements is a fake gesture that only causes drama. Act, don't issue statements.
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This is the best advice you can get: You just need to wait. Definitely don't go waiting outside her house trying to catch her when she comes home.
I know it's hard and frustrating, but since you don't live! together your hands are somewhat tied. She seems to have lots of friends and folks to check in on her. She's 18 so I'm assuming she has roommates? Doesn't sound like she lives with family? If something bad did happen like alcohol poisoning, etc it sounds like someone is available to get her that help.
Since there is a pattern for this behavior without a doubt, and the alternative is pure speculation because you have no information; the best thing to do is bet on the pattern. You said: “she has communication issues and struggled to process the situation and face the problem at hand” It's the most likely that something happened over the New Year and she has not yet processed the situation or faced the problem that has arose. There would be lots of opportunity during those social situations for something embarrassing to happen or worst-case something that threatens your relationship. The best thing you can do is wait until you hear from her again, checking in on her every now and then because as you mentioned there are reasonable instances where she wouldn't be able to reach you that have nothing to do with her communication issues.
He's 30 and you're his first girlfriend? What's happening here?
You’re a lawyer. Why are you asking US
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Yea and say you're like 57 and 35, ya know? It's on a sliding scale. I just know some couples like that or like my dad's second wife was something like 30 and he was 45 when they got married, and while I don't particularly enjoy her as a person, I'm not sure my father's done anything especially immoral by marrying her.
I hooked up with a 24 year old when I was 31, and it was fine until afterwards, riding in her car, she started playing music by the band Big Time Rush. I felt suddenly and immediately pedophilic and ashamed and never saw her again.
On the other hand, I hooked up with a 23 year old around that same time in my life, that had an unusually tragic past. Her dad had died suddenly outside their house, they just found him dead in the car from a heart attack. She was the one who found him. A few years later she was off finishing college living on her own, and her mother died in her bed reading. Apparently she had gotten involved with a guy who dealt drugs.
This intense sadness seemed to make her much more mature, much more like me in some extremely important way. I did not feel weird at all that I was a bit older than her. Sadly, the circumstances of her parents both dying seemed to drive her a little bit crazy, so I couldn't have pursued a long relationship either way.
At this point I'm just super high tellin stories from the past, lol. I'd feel fucked up if she happened on reddit and saw me talking about her. Yea large age gaps are often strange to American sensibilities, including mine. I think it's because we maybe mature more slowly than our European or Australian counterparts that we have an uncommonly conservative view on romantic relationships with large age discrepancies. Like maybe it just objectively is more predatory to bang an American 20 year old than it is a European 20 year old.
Tl.Dr: just talkin shit at this point
Words are cheap, do not trust them. Look at her actions and how she treats you, that’s the truth. Does she still seem so fantastic? Is this the relationship you want? And where is your self-respect?
After I said I can't believe we lost that beautiful thing we had. He sent a message saying 'I am so conflicted in my mind. I know what we have is so amazing, I've been thinking about our memories and looking at our pictures and thinking about what I've done'. This also doesn't mean anything?
I am trying to find at least a small sign he wants me back ?
He can have issues over his dad AND still wishe he was in a relationship with his ex.
Do yourself a favour and point out to him when he says things that are hurtful to you. Then if he continues maybe you'll see it & not make excuses.
A person being hung up on their ex is never going to work in a relationship.
What makes you think she’s using me versus trying to figure out if she’s interested in me? Usually when I talk about these things to her she’s always sweet, but also a bit evasive.
Here’s your answer
You called this a dealbreaker. So there should be no need for further information to decide if it's right for you. Deal. Breaker.
FWIW, I wouldn't stay either. Nothing good can come from this.
This isn't a judgement sub, it's for advice. Do you want to change the situation or do you just want to vent?
Have you told your husband all this
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Hey, I really like you and would lovet o take you out on date. Would you be interested in going on a date with me this weekend.
She threw away everything beautiful when she cheated. Then decided to lie and find why's to keep it a secret.
Sadly she's only sorry she got caught. Smh
Dont – if you think T is worth more then M.
You had an agreement exclusivity/ do not change that just because you wanted something new. Then it is not an agreement.
I suggest you stop the FWB arrangement and do NOT start a relationship with M. Focus on getting your relationship with T made into a pure friendship. Overall I think you need to rethink what it is to be a friend. Friends do not have sex – it will eventually end their friendships.
You: Stay away from him. To him: Yikes.
I’m a white guy married to a South Asian woman. We’ve been together for awhile but started dating when we were about the age you are now. I am close to my family but would not have hesitated to cut out ANY member who pulled that racist disrespectful shit that you are dealing with. Your guy (I won’t say “man) is totally dropping the ball here, and it’s appalling to read. You really deserve better than this, and in your place I would give him one chance to stand up for you. There’s no way my wife would stay with me if my family treated her like this while I made excuses, and she’d be right to leave me. So,
This is your guy’s job, but if you want to do it just be direct. “My name is (name), if it’s hard for you to say I will help you practice.” Then refuse to answer to any other name.
Practice. Literally practice the exact sentence you will say in front of a mirror until you are sure you can say it in the moment.
See #1. But again, this is your guy’s job and tbh I don’t know how you can see a future with someone who won’t fight for you. He was prepared to let you suffer through this during every family get-together. That’s unacceptable.
THIS, ABSOLUTELY THIS! there is no coming back from this behavior, drunk or not, she did it once, she'll do it again.
Maybe next time the cops might believe her, maybe next time she'll tell some big lugs that you abused her and they won't stop to check for evidence.
Make sure everyone knows the real story before she starts telling everyone her version – she will lie to everyone.
Then why is it that the other 3 girls I’ve been with never said anything?
Did you put it on the fridge yet?
Means you’re dating a huge fucking weenie. I cannot imagine this man has or will ever make a woman orgasm.
I have some experience with what you’re going through. When I was 18, my afab partner at the time started taking testosterone and I hated the changes (even though I’m bi… they were just different) but I felt that I had to be supportive and couldn’t in good conscience say anything about it. It negatively impacted our sex life and I started falling out of love.
I broke up with them and it was really hard but now we are best friends and it was the right thing to do. When someone transitions, they really aren’t the same person as before. As much as you might care about her and want the best for her, you can’t force a romantic or sexual connection. She needs to explore her new self without anyone holding her back and you need something more than just friendship, which is what your relationship seems to be now.
The only proper way to break up is to lay your entire heart out for her to see and tell her everything you’re feeling. Tell her how much you care for her and that you want what’s best for the both of you, I’m sure she will be able to see your POV. There’s no way to make it hurt less because breakups hurt even if they are the right thing to do. If being friends is meant to be, you will find a way. You can’t break her heart and force her to be your friend, she needs to make that decision for herself.
This is an insult to science lmao. Stop feeling sorry for your self and change your behavior, that's the only feasible option you have. You choose to suffer.
My comment was in response to you being defensive to someone else who daaaared tell you that you are coming across as insecure and ridiculous. You’re just arguing with people in the comments that aren’t telling you what you want to hear, dude. No, it’s not a red flag. Yes, you come across as insecure. Idk what other advice you want? Leave her alone so she can find someone more secure? Idk.
His wife should know the truth about his transgressions. Not only he lied to her he opened her to possible STDs and STIs. Everyday she's remain oblivious to the fact everyday she's being conned. Now it should be solely her decision whether or not she remains married to him.
Some people may advise to move on and not to tell the truth but what if their partner had cheated on them in the past wouldn't they like to know about it.
She hardly lied. She simply stated she doesn't want kids. And she doesn't. She happens to also be physically unable to conceive. That fact is irrelevant. It is not a lie. Simple fact is he's not mad she “lied” he's mad he cannot forcibly impregnate her.
I made it through the night and have promptly asked him to leave this morning. Still hugely confused
Wow, you're kinda a prick aren't you?
First, she had to almost ask permission to say something to you. That right there tells me she is already on eggshells around you and presumably your ego.
Next, she makes a suggestion/comment and instead of explaining your play (well if I do X that would leave me with Y and [whatever else goes here]), you are completely dismissive and rude. you have no idea what you're talking about. Damn dude.
You actually say, out loud, If anybody should apologise here it's you for telling me how to do my job, I never come and tell you how to do yours especially if I have no idea how to do it.
Wow. You completely doubled-down, didn't you? As the saying goes.
Yeah, yeah, it's your job. DON'T TELL ME HOW TO DO MY JOB! Please, asshole. It's poker, not brain surgery.
Then, she stops talking. You ask what's wrong when you know damn well what's wrong. You call it 'the silent treatment' but from where I sit, she isn't talking because she doesn't want to get her head bitten off again.
If you hold your girlfriend in such contempt stop dating her.
So yeah, you're an asshole.
You've done that, and she STILL doesn't care? Yeah this is past the snoring.
Sounds like you have some soul searching to do.
I don’t have enough information to see if you did anything wrong. But I do have enough info to see that he needs to put his big boy pants and communicate with you. If he has a problem, he shouldn’t ignore you/be passif aggressif… i would just say to him « I don’t feel like from your behaviour that something is troubling you, I wish to resolve the issue with you. I’ll be there when you are ready to talk, if you tell me that everything is fine then I believe you. » and then if he still insist that « it’s fine » go on about your day. Go watch a show, go have fun, you can’t fix the situation if he is not mature and does not communicate with you
You never invited her, stop playing dumb and blaming Amy. You didn't invite her in the beginning, and you didn't invite her because Amy doesn't want her to come.
I use this skill at work. Sometimes when I ask why something is being done a certain way, there's a good reason for it. I can assess if my way is truly better or if they have it right. I'm not sure why you'd have a problem with that unless she was trying to catch you in a lie or berating you about it.
Don't.the condom thing is considered rape depending on your country. And the dude is 6 years older than you. You shouldn't be with him unless he mans up and takes your thoughts and opinions into consideration. He shows immaturity, disrespect, and a lack of self control from those actions alone. This isn't your fault it's his. Drop the bitch get a better one.
Leave him. Love doesn’t conquer all. People don’t typically change that much within a one year time frame and a healthy relationship doesn’t involve multiple breakups.
Well, he needs to work on his own initiating skills before he asks anyone else (you) to! Maybe tell him he needs to initiate more romantically?
I want to have kids with him but I cant. I would love to be pregnant by someone I love
We have been doing 60/40 and don't earn the same amount. She has been paying more than $1000 a month on her student loans and I have been taking care of the big expenditures like vacations and all. I did suggest that we forgo vacations for a couple of years to take care of the student loans but that was shot down.
My insecurities are no fault of his and pre-date our relationship.
I don't need surgery, i just want surgery as i don't like how I look.
Tell your husband to get out of his insecurity hidey hole and support you for what you experienced- not blame you.
While people are allowed to feel out if others around them might be into the same things they are into, your neighbor just dropped a swingers bomb on your lap completely unprompted. I assume you never even flirted with these people! But, no, she went straight from cat sitting to “have a nooner with my hubby.” That's a leap. Now is not the time for your husband to question if your skirt was too short, ffs, and be on the same team as you.
As for the neighbors, polite firm boundaries and no more favors. They ask you for help, “no, can't.” and you hire a cat sitter. Keep it polite, but if she brings it up be honest. “We aren't into that and it makes me uncomfortable.” A firm truth usually shuts people with little boundaries down.
Tell her to start looking at house and contact a realtor. Have her ask them how much they would need to put down for a house.
Seriously, make her do the work if she won’t stop.
Sometimes people need to sit back, let them get a reality check about their unrealistic expectations. Let her learn the hard way on her own. She may stop bugging you once she realizes you two can’t afford it.
Why?
She’s too stubborn to listen to the facts right now and is emotionally invested into her checklist of things she wants right now.
This is foreshadowing of far worse things to come. I'd very seriously consider leaving.
Because she was drunk? Why else.
I’d give her the letter to read in front of you explaining that “I’m not so good with my spoken words.”
Today I learned about Chinese filler words. But yeah, I wouldn't even call this a weeb it's straight up racism. I'm not one to scream 'dump him' it seriously, dump him.
Cheaters don’t change. Be alone and take yo time and the right girl will come along. Remember if they take pictures how can she not do it in person?
Take everything. Get a good lawyer.
You need to get a lawyer and file for divorce on grounds of infidelity. Also report the boss to their work. Bosses sleeping with subordinates is a big no no in every profession.
This man is going to start having erectile dysfunction and heart problems by the time you’re 25 – at the beginning of your life and you being your hottest. Do you need that?
Funny thing is after I confronted him about it thru chat he rushed to our house to ask my parent's that he would propose to me.
I really did not expect this because i never asked him to look at his phone, i completely trusted him and I thought everything was fine.
This sting part is what scares me but I hope this makes sense in the end.
Omfg! You redditers are fucking crazy. I WAS JOKING!!!!
Holy Fuck!
The question you need to ask yourself is can you trust her again. If you can't then you might want to rethink the relationship. She could have told you what was going on and asked to look at your phone.
I do know, I’m just a few drinks in and don’t care about perfect grammar. I’m making a Reddit post not emailing my superintendent
You’re TWENTY years old. They can’t ground you.
You both didn't have condoms. Do you respect him. You could also have STDs/stis as far as he knows. Come on don't lay it all on him. It's 2023 women can buy condoms too.
what i have now is was worthy enough to let go each of my Goal as he don't prefer working woman too. He is love bommbing you to make you think hes amazing and all you need.
No no no no no. The fact he wants to marry someone who isn't graduated yet within 6 months of meeting is a massive red flag. He wants to whisk you away and control your life. He doesn't want you to worknso he can control what you do, when you do it and make sure he is your only support. This is not a relationship you want to stay in.
That was not the husband's first reaction, so the huh was justified. He did not ask her that until she first accused him of putting the neighbor up to saying that.
it kind of is
That's not the problem. OP's wife asked what he wanted for his birthday, OP said what he wanted, his wife entirely disregards his wishes and wants to have sex instead.
How is this OP's fault? From what is explained, OP's wife asked for OP's wishes and ignored it.
I get that she did a lot to get the scene up, getting the kid away, getting in the mood and all. But OP didn't ask for that, OP already told her what he wanted.
Need more context for a legitimate response.
Do you honestly think it was a lie? I know you weren't there when he said it ….but idk anymore
They never said both weren't to blame. Calling out the girl for being an asshole doesn't mean they think the boyfriend isn't to blame.
…what? He’s clearly in the wrong here for lying by omission and feeling entitled to sex, but “this group of people”? You sound like a piece of work.
Have you tried contacting his mother and ask her if he was staying at her house? I’m sorry this has happened to you but in the long run you’ll see he’s a loser
Yea, it’s hard for me. As sad as it is. I’ve never had a serious relationship. All situationships or short term things
He moved away temporarily.. supposedly is moving back
Don’t judge me because I’m still into him
I also like humor but I have nothing
That wasn’t exclusive behaviour.
You just wished she was different.
You’re fucking stupid EDIT: oh sorry was that disrespectful
Because practically, many trans people are not safe enough to disclose that information to someone they don't know enough about yet.
So obviously the solution is to let someone who would not voluntarily date you be deceived into doing so.
He's acting out now but he's going to come around when he's cooled off if he is in any way empathetic.
Yes to the gaslighting monster. I think he just doesn’t want any responsibility for the baby. OP do you have family to help you along with your baby? This is the time to be practical, I know your heart is broken but, trust me, that won’t last, you’re still in the post natal stage at present so you’ll be rather vulnerable. Be kind to yourself and most of all LOVE your baby. You’ll get unconditional love from him/her so lap it all up and enjoy every moment of it. I honestly think that after a while you won’t even be thinking about that creep any more. Just get a lawyer and set up your child support.
It sounds like it was a family function. His sister is not obligated to invite you anywhere. If she wants to go somewhere with her dad and brother without you, she can. That's her family. You should be mature enough to understand that.
You were 26 when you started dating an 18 y/o. What did you expect? You preyed on a teenager, dude. She might have cheated on you, which yes, is very shitty, but you played stupid games, you won stupid prizes. This is why you don’t date and marry young people whose prefrontal cortexes aren’t fully formed. The minute you found out she was 18 and not 22 like she claimed she was, you should have dipped.
I've learned not to rely on Reddit for relationship advice because the amount of assumptions and “just break up with her/him” are unreal. communication should be the core of any relationship, and although OP has every right to not want to be open, to me this reads a normal reactionary emotion that's protecting/hiding insecurities. I'd want to at least be able to talk and figure out WHY I'm feeling a certain way, and decide with my partner.
Do you want to say something that will sound funny and confident?
Honestly ex owed nothing to you but best friend owed everything to you. For me that would be then end of the friendship on the spot. No closure nothing just blocked on everything and continue with life
Couples counseling.
It sounds like both of you have a lot of trouble communicating and honestly I'm not sure how both of you have been married for this long if your problem solving skills are this horrendous.
Yeah, makes me think that either (1) OP's parents are some kind of crazy or (2) OP has some type of history she isn't being honest about, such as a history of cheating in past relationships.
-Stealth mode on phone. -Create new (secret) gmail account. -Find a live! diary, stored on-line, join. -Write everyday. -Enjoy.
I didn’t give you ideas on how to go about getting in contact with her. You did that all in your own head. And I most certainly my did not tell you to stalk her in any way shape or form.
I made a general statement which infers that without contacting her directly, you would likely get a response from him that’s a lie (or another lie) about the wife “being cool with it”.
You should take a step back from responding for a few minutes. You are getting super aggressive. But you do you. ??♀️
My wife (girlfriend at the time) basically said the same thing to me once, thinking it was a compliment. She said, “I love your dick. It feels so good and doesn’t hurt like big ones.” My reply was, “Uhhh…thanks?” Even though I had never worried about my size, that comment kinda hit hard for some reason. Hell, I know I don’t have a big dick, but it is what it is. I never had insecurities about it either, but… that comment just kind of hit. I don’t know why it hit, and I think it’s stupid to judge someone on anything other than personality, but dang… Give him time, and for the love of God, don’t try to backtrack now. Those comments will ALWAYS ring hollow and sound fake from this point on. Just let it go.
thats reassuring, yeah my goal is to somehow make him realise that he's at least partly responsible for the falling out by hinting out things you shouldn't do in a relationship. Like One time we were hanging out I talked about things like compromising on things that they both disagree on and the next day he seemed to have opened his mind a tiny bit.
She works and does all the housework, too. Her house is clean.
It may be scary, but you have -nothing- to be ashamed of. The abuse is not your fault, and you survived something terrible. But you survived. It sounds like the time has come to be a little vulnerable with your girlfriend. You need to at least tell her what’s going on. She likely is NOT going to hold your scars against you. Opening up to those closest to us is a part of love. Big risk, but also a way to the things that are truly good in a relationship. Closeness, intimacy, and safety. I’m hoping you two can talk it out. Be brave, and the best of luck.
She let me keep the kids but your right I did rob her of the dreams she had with me
I would say the bar is in hell, but is there even a bar anymore at this point?
He thought you were about 24 when he met you, which if you were that age, would be a nine year difference in ages.
33/2 + 7 = 23 it follows the rule it's not creepy, they're both adults
Did you preface it as a date? If not, don't chicken out. Make it clear what you were thinking. In the future, make it clear from the get-go.
I’m so sorry OP. His wife deserves to know, she might already, but highly doubtful, Her and those babies don’t deserve this either. There is only one POS here and that’s the scummy man. Tell the wife. Hopefully she takes him for everything he’s worth and he’s left with nothing.
That would be fantastic revenge.
Oh you’re welcome. Young men sometimes aren’t the most tactful and classy individuals. But if you clearly state your concerns we can be molded Into well functioning partners lol.
Boys can be dumb, but most of us figure it out eventually.
Well, to be clear, he also sounds emotionally abusive.
But your response in this case was to immediately launch into a diatribe about how much fun you were going to have and how he will regret it because nobody will want him. That's pretty awful.
You are at the gratuitously-hurting-each-other phase of the relationship. Just break up.
Bro, are you her husband? Why are you taking it so personally that people want her to leave a cheater? Women aren’t mental hospitals for men. If he wanted to be working on himself, he would have been.
Masturbate before seeing her.
Blue balls is basically increased blood pressure down there due to arousal for extended time.
Oooor….. Just don't make out for hours on end and give yourself some time to calm down.
The first questions that spring to my mind are, How long have you been in the relationship? Do you fully trust Alex? What does he mean when he says these people flirt with him, like what are those interactions and why does he interpret themp as flirting rather than a casual or professional acquaintance being nice, chatty, having fun with him?
I don't know man. It's up to you obviously.
But you ran into a lot of road blocks in your relationship, we can almost conclude it as bad timing. And a few times she mentioned she's not ready for a commitment.
And 2 months later is… not a whole lot of time.
The chances of her having a drastic shift in attitude is slim. She's likely still in the same head space because of how recent it is.
I feel like people should limit themselves to a 1 time call back. If a couple breaks up, tries again, and fails… thats it. Just move on.
I think you should maybe consider closing this chapter. Go adapt to being single, go live! your life a little, don't cling on to the idea of her. And then maybe approach it down the road. Like after a few semesters at minimum, and ideally after you two are done with school. Somewhere the structure of her life is different than it is now.
What did he say when you talked with him about it?
No. They live! together and she wants to be “seduced.” If I have to seduce every time we BOTH want sex then I'm going to grow weary of that relationship very fast and be living alone again – like I prefer.
Dump her ass and move on
There’s absolutely no reason for you to share how your girlfriend reacts to your breakup. You came here for advice, you got it. Now please respect her dignity and stop posting.
Who sends porn to their friends? That would weird me the fuck out too. I’ve seen my boyfriend’s group chats and they’re mostly nerdy memes and arguments about sports. It is so bizarre to me how normalized it is for dudes to just be creepy horndogs publicly at all times.
Tell him that if he doesnt pay up your gonna get the police involved
Maybe because physical attraction is a big part of relationships?
This is a good point that it could be superficial, thank you. It is the facial expressions and features that trip me up sometimes though, and if we believe our partner should be a mirror… then my logic would be maybe they could be good partners.
My aunt, a libra, married to a Libra man explained it was very challenging. However now they are best friends and work.
I have heard both bad things that they are too similar and could fight a lot. However, also what’s that they just GET each other. ?
I don't know if he's cheating on you, or if you're just absolutely paranoid, but neither of you come across very well in this. Him calling his co-worker fat is low and childish and you throwing his work phone down the toilet is also very immature.
If you feel you have to confront him, I'd do it when you have more to confront him with; if he is cheating, he can easily lie his way out of that.
Also, how did you just skip over his drink driving? That alone is disgusting behaviour and I, personally wouldn't tolerate it from my boyfriend.
Your fiancé is a no good piece of abusive shit. Only no good abusive pieces of shit do things like this. The small blessing is he decided to do this before a wedding. You know what to do, do it, and do it safely.
Don't wait until he wakes up. Tell the hospital that you are not together and that the ex wife is next of kin.