Update: I (21f) accidentally read some of my girlfriend’s (22f) messages. Now I feel betrayed and have no idea what I’m supposed to do. Where I go from here?

So I decided to talk to her about what I saw. She didn't take it very well. At first she said that I was just being dramatic, and that it wasn't a big deal. And that I probably complain to my friends too about stuff that's going on. I told her that there's a difference between talking to a friend about something that's frustrating in your relationship when compared to telling your friend everything about your girlfriend and your sex life. She said if I didn't like it, then I shouldn't have been reading her private messages.

It turns out she had been cheating on me, several times. Mostly with friends, but she'd also hooked up with strangers, and she said that it was far better than all the times we had sex. Also that she'd been completely lying about who she had slept with, in reality it was far more people than I ever would have thought. She said it was my fault, because I was so boring to have sex with and that she shouldn't have to need to have sex with other people. I said to her that if she really had such a problem with the way we were having sex, then she could've talked to me about it and told me what she would've liked instead of just cheating on me instead. And also that having sex with me is just like having sex with a straight girl and apparently it's a turn off. I have no idea why she was even with me at all, and didn't just break up with me.

She found a lot of ways to insult me. Apparently I have a non-existent chest and that's a turn off, I act weirdly during sex and that's a turn off, I'm impossible to get to orgasm which makes her not even see the point, and I cuddle with her too much and I'm too clingy and that I even cling onto her when I sleep. She also kept calling me straight and desperate and how I'm always looking at men. Also that I'm not even pretty apparently and that I just look generic and like any other desperate girl. And kept bringing up how I taste like a straight girl as well, which literally makes no sense but she seems to think it's actually a thing. I'm basically a walking turn off according to her.

I did break up with her, and I don't really regret it. I think I'll miss the aspects of being in a relationship but I'm not sure that I'll miss her. She was really pretty, and she did seem to be really lovely but clearly that isn't the case anymore. I'll probably just spend some time on my own instead, and try to appreciate my own company instead of feeling like I need a girlfriend to be an adequate person. Thank you for all of the advice, it gave me a lot to think about.

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