[Update post] My mother 55F and I 30F got into a fight about me not having kids about 4 months ago. She has proceeded to give me the silent treatment since then. I’m not sure what I should do about this?

This is an update to a post I made two months ago. To summarize, in December my mother and I had a fight where she tried to bully and manipulate me into having children and I hung up on her after she ignored multiple attempts to change the conversation and respect my boundaries in not talking about it with her. I believe that the decision on when I have kids or if I have kids is between myself and my husband, which I clearly stated, and she had no right to demand such things from me nor did I want to have that conversation with her. Anyway, I felt that after of month of not talking we had cooled off enough to talk to each other again. I called her a month after our fight and she didn't pick up or return my call. I called her again a week later and again she did not pick up or return my call.

Since she seemed like she was ignoring me I decided not to call her again for the third time. I felt like she was in the wrong and after two attempts of reaching out that it was her turn to call me. I was prepared to brush this under the rug and move on with my life but I don't think she feels the same.

Yesterday we had a big religious holiday. Think Christmas level. I debated whether I should call my mom after the way she had been treating me but felt it would be rude and not help the situation to not at least wish her a happy holiday. I call her, she picks up, says hello, and before I even have a chance to say hello back she is talking to someone else in the background. I figured that she was in the middle of a conversation so I waited. After 30 seconds she switches to video chat. Here I'm thinking she wants to see me and we can reconcile. She has the camera pointed away from her, showing my little cousins having fun with their new toys and talking to my uncle and aunt. She doesn't talk to me or let anyone know that I'm on the phone and after 3 minutes she hangs up.

I'm not sure what to do with this. Nothing is going to get fixed if we don't talk. Heck, if she wants me to apologize – which I will not – I can't do so without talking to her. I don't feel angry, I feel hurt. She disrespected my clearly stated boundaries and now I feel like she is punishing me for standing up for myself. If she calls me in the future I don't think I will answer her call. I want to text her right now calling her a petty bitch for not letting things go at least for the holiday but I feel like that would show her how hurt and frustrated I am at her actions. I will continue to talk to my Dad, and my siblings who still live at home but there will be no calls to her and no forgiveness. I will not forget this and I expect a full apology from her for her actions. I'm going full no-contact with her and in June when another big holiday comes up, I will not be calling her.