My (26f) husband (26m) wants to date other women, I got upset and I’m having trouble knowing if I’m fair or unreasonable, how do I do this?

EDIT: wanted to clarify a couple things I seen in the comments: he’s not already cheating on me, he does not leave the house and has a flip phone and one friend, no car or job currently but we are working on that. We have been married for 2 years but together for 8. He also said he would want me to/wouldn’t mind (can’t remember exact phrasing) if I went on dates with other men as long as we didn’t kiss or have sex, which is what he plans not to do for his dates.

(I originally posted in AITA but it got removed for relationship post and I’m not sure what’s the correct sub to put this in)

My (26f) husband (26m) brought up to me over dinner tonight that he thinks it would be a good idea for him to seek out attractive women to go on dates with because he’s married and doesn’t get to experience being single anymore. He wants them to be attractive women who are attracted to him to make him feel better about himself because more women wanting him = more attractive.

I felt offended and speechless by this suggestion. He said they wouldn’t be real dates because he wouldn’t have sex with them, he would just come home to me, and that he just needed to get out and have dinner with people who aren’t me. I told him he can go out to dinner with anyone and go out with friends, including female friends, any time he wanted to but that seeking out women he finds attractive specifically to go on “dates” with them to feel single again is not okay.

He’s upset and says I’m untrustworthy as a wife because he can’t come to me with a “simple and harmless suggestion that doesn’t break any boundaries” without me getting defensive/upset/angry and then said that it’s because I’m insecure that I don’t want him to do this.

In my opinion, I don’t feel insecure at all. I don’t care if he spends time with females, it’s the intent of the time being spent that makes me upset. I will admit, when I said that it was inappropriate and I don’t like it at all and he kept pressing it and telling me I was wrong/unreasonable I did get pretty mad and shut down. I raised my voice, not yelling but raising my voice. And I did say it was a stupid suggestion and say he was crazy for thinking I would be okay with that. So it’s not like I was an ultra rational epitome of peace or anything, but I still don’t feel like I was an asshole for getting upset at that suggestion but he is adamant that I’m being an asshole.

He’s now reading me articles about how it’s controlling and insecure to not want your partner to have platonic relationships with people of the opposite sex, but I am trying to tell him it’s the intent behind it that makes it inappropriate and hurtful and he is telling me I don’t know what I’m talking about. I said that if he were to have a female friend he made at work or something and hung out with them it wouldn’t be an issue, the issue is specifically seeking out only women to have one on one dinner dates with and he has no intention of even being their friend afterwards. So in my eyes, that blurs the line of platonic. Technically it does fit the textbook definition as he is not having sex with them, but I feel as though textbook definition is not always how things are perceived. How do I handle this situation? Where do I go from here? Was I wrong and should apologize?