My wife 33F ended our marriage 35m but is trying to keep excessive contact what should I do ??

Our relationship lasted just under 3 years. We had two baby girls together who are very young. We got married last August and honestly was the worst thing that could have ever happened. The relationship was a mess constant toxic arguements and getting far too heated. I had many reasons to leave myself and tried to a few times. She ended our marriage just under a month ago saying my shouting when I get angry wasn’t ok anymore. I accept this reason and am actively getting therapy and trying to be a better version of myself.

Since we have split she is constantly in my business. Asking me what am doing, who am going with, what am spending my money on is there females around. Like it’s constant. Every other day it’s a comment about me and another female. I pay my way with my kids and I see them as much as possible because I adore them.

Am trying to make this situation as easy for myself as possible by limiting contact only replying to what I need to and only liking the pictures she sends of the kids and no actual words but it feels like she keeps trying to suck me back in and then when I stupidly try to get her back she rejects me instantly. I have repeatedly told her that my contact with her needs to be limited and only talking about the baby girls. She ignored this and finds so many reasons to just message me or starts sending me excessive amount of pictures of my children. Don’t get me wrong I love seeing pictures of my girls but I don’t feel like it’s so I don’t miss out and it just feels like a way to keep contacting me.

I want to move on with my life. I have embarrassed myself far too much chasing after somebody that doesn’t want me. How do I work around this without ending up getting my kids taken away from me like she has already threatened because I wanted limited contact. I feel like the whole thing is for her to have this power and control over me and it’s making me feel like a weak man. I love her still so fucking much but I know I need to let her go and move on but it’s like she doesn’t want that to happen

What do I do ?? Do I stay strong and keep the minimal contact rule and stop making a fool out of myself being available whenever she needs me and stop the non necessary texting and telling her how much I love her ?? I feel like am becoming so weak because of it all