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My partner and I have been dating for 2 years.
We love each other, and I can really see a sustainable, respectful and loving future with her, until last night.
Basically, for the past year or so, my partner has been experiencing health issues:
Dry itchy skin, low mood, low libido, intolerance to cold, weight gain, exhaustion, etc.
Over the past few months, it has been getting worse, especially her dry skin. She constantly complains about it, and I help alleviate the condition as much as I can by rubbing cream on it.
Her weight gain has had such a negative impact on her self esteem. The low libido really frustrates me. Her low mood and exhaustion make her lack energy.
A few weeks ago, she was looking up the symptoms of having an underactive thyroid, and she reckons she might have it.
Healthcare is free where I online, so it would be a simple doctor visit with a free blood test, and she'd find out whether she has it or not.
But she just won't go. She says it's fine, but I can see how much the above symptoms have affected her. She has since lied to me multiple times about her calling the doctor to book an appointment. As a child, she was forced to go to the doctor about her weight, and had multiple tests carried out. She says from that time, she wants to preserve the autonomy of her body, and that it's "her body her choice", and I don't get a say in this at all.
This is made worse by the fact that my own mother hid symptoms which would have lead to a diagnosis of her overactive thyroid, which lead down the path of her needing multiple surgeries, bone issues, cognitive issues, etc. I'm still grappling with the frustrations arising from her negligence and inaction, and it just feels like this is all repeating again with my partner.
I feel so stressed about all of this, and I don't feel like I can be with someone who doesn't take their health seriously, and who would lie to be to cover up her negligence.
How should I proceed?
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