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IMO it heavily depends on the topic that weighs you down. Also you don't have to tell your bf anything about your past relationships if you are not comfortable doing so.
If it is something that lowers your bf self-esteem or he may feel shity about knowing you may reconsider and try to find out why it makes you feel guilty and if this makes sense or if you are just overthinking smth.
If it is something that you may like to do again in the future but you are not sure if he likes it or not you should sit him down and talk it out. Also, you can tell him that there are some topics that you wanna talk about but you are not sure how he will receive those informations, and just directly ask him if he wants to know. You then can ease him into the topic and he may ask you to stop if it's too much for him.
Also, from what I’m hearing, there is a friend bumble.
That's good that she will say that. I understand how she feels as well. Perhaps see a doctor because there could be a medical condition behind this.
How touchy? But if you feel guilty, you already know the answer.
Updateme!
Well thanks. It really kinda took off here, I mostly just wanted to give the poor guy an idea of the turd he stepped in with BPD on the table and it went a bit wild.
Your husband is right. Since It’s not your child you shouldn’t be setting him on fire in order to keep your sister warm. Home should be his safe space. Pay for a hotel room for her
…but now OP has removed that post… I totally sided with husband after reading this. She might be lighting herself on fire for her sister.
She's not a monster to go find someone with more confidence, and experience. It wouldn't make her indecent.
Um. Yeah. Answer is clearly a no.
Nah, her buddy lied as well. He had to wonder why she never said anything.
And if he didn't, I'm sure that Elinor had doubts.
She should jettison the whole lot of them. None of them have her back.
I wouldn’t be friends with anyone one of them
I was spanked and smacked as a kid, people should understand that spanking is very acceptable if you verbally warn the kid to stop multiple times. It teaches a lesson very quickly with the fuck around and find out technique lol
Stfu, this isn't personal, stop acting and projecting personal opinions. Off you go
Leave him alone! Find a dude who doesn't “judge” you. You two aren't compatible and he's not interested so do yourself a favour and move on!
So clearly a troll post
Trans women are included in women, femmes ip just adds gender non conforming and non binary ppl who are femme
has it always been ?
No problem! And remember that if she backlashes against allowing your BF to see into her finances, then she has no right to be asking money from him. Your BF isn't a bank and furthermore, any bank would do the same (a financial overview) before giving someone a loan.
More likeky because he would have been criticised and Judged by the in-laws. He wouldn't have had a clue what to do and no confidence. You've already decided that you are going to your parents place and are trying to sure up some okays to do so.
I think they are connected. I make plans with my friends and him and so I get to hang out with him in New settings. I am not invited so I do not hang out with him or know his world.
The fact he hangs with my friends means more dates, more quality time. The fact he does not means fewer dates.
I think they are connected. I make plans with my friends and him and so I get to hang out with him in New settings. I am not invited so I do not hang out with him or know his world.
The fact he hangs with my friends means more dates, more quality time. The fact he does not means fewer dates.
They dont want you to get Weinsteined.
100% the parent line. And another 100 that she's not acting married, and it can be arranged.
I don’t think there is much you can do aside from you’re concerned about these posts she’s making about not eating and sleeping. There is always the possibility she overdramatizes for attention? It’s a strange think when people start documenting what seems like martyrdom?
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His post seems harmless for the most part. If you were really into him, you probably wouldn't be having the reaction that you're having now. Imagine if your dream man said that after a first date with you. How would you feel?
Dude, SHE has a crush on YOU and SHE wants to date YOU.
Maybe it’s time to be focusing on getting female friends. Remove this problem.
There are many people in this world who are proud of the “boundaries” they set, completely oblivious to the fact that they are actually building walls.
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You tell me ?
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he chooses baggy, mustard-colored cargo pants that he calls “multi-occasion pants”
Oh god, I'm sorry but I laughed out loud at this.
Time for a come to Jesus talk. This isn't about fashion, this is about being dressed inappropriately, which is at best disrespectful to the events you're going to and at worst actively dangerous. You can't force him to dress appropriately, but you can tell him that you are embarrassed when you go to a nice place together and he's wearing ratty clothes full of stains and holes. It may sound blunt but sometimes people need to hear the naked truth that how they're behaving doesn't just affect themselves. Make it clear that it's not about money or style, it's about being a functional adult which includes wearing clean and presentable clothing that respects the environment you're in.
At 37 he's either going to listen and step up or he isn't. If he doesn't, you have to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you. For me it would be. I mean, is he going to wear his “multi-occasion pants” to your wedding?
But how old are you now? Because this sounds like the argument I just had with my grandpa the other day. Like yes, people use to get married and have kids at 19. But they also could raise a family on a single vacuum salesman salary and bought their first house for $17,000. The world has changed. If you want to give your kids some shot of succeeding in life, you need to be established in your career and financially stable before you have kids so you can provide them the things they need. Which for alot of people these days means they need to hold off until their late 20s to even think about reproducing.
I don’t want to go to a party tonight, but I’m going because my husband is really looking forward to going. Your gf is probably super excited about a sparkly dress she bought. Suck it up.
Bro, time to step up.
You need legal advice, not relationship advice.
Exactly. This effin breaks my heart and my head feels like it is about to explode. This is a tough pill to swallow. Reality hits me really hard. I even visited there after we broke up. But we never had an engagement because I respect of us being not together anymore. I still even help her from time to time whenver she needed my help. So I really do not know why she still did this. I am not sure how long it will take for me to recover from this. Memories of us living a simple life when we still on-line in the same apartment or the memories of her and everything that we do makes me really cry. I lost my bestfriend my love of my life. Fudge this is really naked.
I don’t mean to be harsh, but this man has given every sign that he doesn’t want to be with you. He has fought you every step of the way. He seems to have felt some pressure to stay with you and have this baby, and therefore he gave in.
Believe him. Actions speak louder than words. Get your child out of this unhealthy situation – that is NOT giving up. You’re doing your baby and yourself a great disservice by trying to cling onto a relationship that this man is not willing to take the steps to fix.
It will never get better. This relationship will lead to frustration and resentment and unending discussions and arguments that will never ever ever result in you having more sex. Would that kind of relationship not ruin BOTH of you? Wouldn't you BOTH be happier with partners that are on your respective sexual wavelengths?
Nah don’t get insecure about what she likes vs what you look like.
Men like a lot of different things. What we prefer is what we date.
They’re following each other lol. It’s likely purely transactional on her end . She is likely promoting an OF page or something you know.
Men have bird brains a lot of the time. So if a thirst trap follows back it’s a whole thing.
If he is following new accounts and they’re following back, WHILE you’re dating that’s fucking weird.
If he was following before y’all started dating it’s whatever. Single men are horny and falling for thirst traps constantly lol.
Big distinction there though. He needs to respect you and not be doing that shit while y’all are dating.
Someone messaged him or he messaged them and they did a on-line video sex chat. The scammer captured it.
I don’t see this as a fantasy because I liked him for him and I didn’t build anything up in my head. How I felt towards him were actual feelings and I know he liked me but not enough. I had times of where I was moving on then moving in. I’m not yet ready to block him. I will do it soon in my own time. So this point in time I’m not interested in dating other people. I just wanna focus on me. I’m not searching either. They won’t come.
I would say that your partner is right, EXCEPT you were married to your ex for many years & you have teens now. That is worth something. Some women, however, never have any intention of returning to work if they know their ex will keep paying. If you decide you don’t want to pay any extras, get a well defined order of support in writing. Let your ex know what she’ll have to do to support her own household. Let this be your decision though, not your new girlfriend of only one year. She’s too new to think of buying a house with already.
Yeah, people really aren’t realizing what all this means financially. His career exists in the form it is now because his wife provided full time caregiving. They have 20 years, probably retirement savings.
The new gf probably should not have hooked up with someone who wasn’t through the divorce process. And she should just kick buying a home down the road for a while until it’s settled.
thank you for your advice
We rarely fight so how shall i take her to a counselor? I mean the reason i dont want to get married anymore is mainly because of the way she handles conflicts, like everything is always my fault and my responsibility so i just dont want to do it anymore. I just figured that single life has very less responsibility so thats why i miss it. But somehow i still dont want to disappoint her..
Yes you are a fool to talk to him, you're just an ego boost, knowing that after he left you for someone else he still has access to you makes him feel better. You should, I mean this well, grow a spine and stop talking to him.
My husband and I rent out rooms. We call this ‘picking up a puppy.’ we are too busy, too focused on our family, careers, mental health, etc , too x to have any serious responsibilities to an adult outside our family unit.
Do we care about our roommates? Yes.
Do we remind them of things, make them meals, be their shoulder to cry on? No.
Would they be given notice if they became alcoholics, drug users, had tantrums, threw crying fits, terrified other roommates, etc? Yes. In a heartbeat.
We are not here for therapy, or sympathy or to give someone help in life. Few people are equipped to do this with other adults, in their living space. You aren’t. Your wife isn’t. You cannot have a group home in your house. You aren’t equipped.
We rent out rooms but we did NOT pick up a puppy. The moment we feel pity when interviewing a roommate, we know it’s going to end poorly.
What's going on with this sub recently? People in the comments are displaying a psychotic level of jealousy and can't seem to think rationally.
It sounds as if this is who she is. If you manage to persuade her to change, she'll be tidy for a couple of weeks then slide back into messiness. So you either love her as she is, or you split up. That's the choice.
Will he get a vasectomy???
He's doesn't want sex
you where 18, he groomed you sweetheart. no mature self respecting 35 year old man goes after an 18 year old child. you are worlds appart in life and mental developments as well as maturity levels. he knew exactly what he was doing you just don't want to believe it. please I am begging you listen to us and run. we are all warning you that this is not a safe situation and in 10 years you will be back here barefoot and pregnant asking us how to get away from your abusive husband. don't be a naive little girl.
You need something way more objective than a what if situation. You probably need some type of therapy to work through this, because you need to figure out where you and your girlfriend stand because you need to figure out your dynamic before the baby comes. Doing relationship drama with a newborn is such a bad idea.
You need something way more objective than a what if situation. You probably need some type of therapy to work through this, because you need to figure out where you and your girlfriend stand because you need to figure out your dynamic before the baby comes. Doing relationship drama with a newborn is such a bad idea.
The hypocrisy is great in this one.
Makes you wonder if he’d ever think “well if it’s a stranger then I’m against it but if it’s a friend it’s ok so therefore it would be ok if I do it because my friends do it”.
I am wondering why you started dating someone with a dog to begin with… When I was single, I wouldn't date anyone with a cat due to my allergies. No matter how cute, nice, funny etc. that person was. Because I knew that I wouldn't be able to date someone with a cat and I didn't want to be the reason they had to give up their beloved pet.
Anyhow, you need to make it clear that it's you or the dog. And that she would never be able to have another dog if she chose to have a life with you. I'm pretty sure I know what the outcome will be, given that she'd prefer to see you only once/week than give up her dog. If you do break up, don't even consider dating people who have pets you're allergic to. It's much, much easier than getting into your current situation.
Oh buddy, you're in the wrong.
She is all in the right.
You fucked up.
Last Bday, minimal. It was nothing. She sacrificed to spend time with you.
This year, she wanted to avoid the same type of birthday.
You told her.. you couldn't get the day off. Of course she is not going to think of you, instead she is going organize a bday that she is happy about.
The moment you found out you had the day off, you should have told her.
But, you told her during an argument. For what? To save face? Make the situation better? 1 up her? I don't know why. Like, that piece was to make things all better.
And now you're sad because she snapped back at for being in the wrong.
She's right, what did you expect her to do, wait around for you to get home after work? She's going to go spend the day with her friends.
And now you're causing this to blow and taint her birthday experience even more.
This is so backwards:
I wanted to be one of those special people she spends her birthday with but I guess I’m not that important. I feel like our relationship has been falling apart and since she won’t make plans with me for her special day is really beginning to shine some light.
You told her you couldn't get the day off!!! What do you expect?! For her to readjust everything she already planned?
You should apologize is what you should be doing.
Yes if you were a minor yourself. Or close in age. It's normal for a 13 year old to be attracted to other 13 year olds … It's creepy af when a full blown adult is into 13 year olds. So yes whether you are or aren't a minor yourself will always matter. And before you ask, no I don't see a problem with 17 and 18 even if one is technically a minor because the difference is a literal year only. .
Stop suggesting OP was baby trapped. A 35 year old man with a 27 year old women with 5 kids and he didn’t think to turn around or keep his buddy to himself. ????tf he thought would happen???? If she keeps it, you will have to take care of your pet sperm…welcome to adulthood where we take care of our responsibilities!
This seems like a compatibility issue, wherein your partner is both complacent and cautious whilst you are ambitious and spontaneous. Unless you two can talk about that part of your relationship and find some middle ground, that resentment will build until you decide to end things.
It will probably help him move forward to see consistency in your plans for the future, as well as formal planning on the topic. IF you are the type to jump from dream to dream and just wing every thing, he will get anxious about the future and retreat inward. Of course he needs to meet you in the middle and be more open minded, but from his perspective he could be afraid that you're going to have a “grass is greener on the other side” mentality and never settle down.
I genuinely think your original terms are keeping him from accepting your help. I hope you can find a way to express that things change and we all need help sometimes and that it's okay. Sometimes the ultimatum that you won't help at all to pack a punch about how serious young parenting is can be impactful in a way you didn't intend.
What is your straightforward and simple question?
Lmao she literally mentions her weight in every sentence. You can tell she isn't happy with who she has become either. It's at the point where it has affected her reltionship. Is the guy a dick though from the information we've gotten? Yes he is. However we don't know everything and if this is a problem he has now been dealing with for 6 years with minimal effort on her part I can see why he would feel trapped and hopeless to the point he is now lashing out.
And to be clear I'm not justifying how he's acting but I can see both sides and they both need to get their shit together and put effort into the relationship if they want it to work.
If she can go, you can go.
Your boyfriend is an alcoholic and is not available for a real relationship right now. Until he gets sober, his number one love is alcohol, and everything else will sooner or later take a back seat to that.
Did she start taking hormonal birth control lately by any chance? It can have an effect on her sense of smell.
Did you feel real love after that? I'm curious because i'm really getting wedded to the idea that's it's super rare and not everybody is meant for it. But thank you so much, i'm having tears rn, probably it's my period but i'm really thankful for your comment. I hope i can feel it soon too.
Racism alive and kicking still I see.
Why are you with this man? Maybe remind me?
This is your husband’s responsibility. He is responsible because he accepts this behavior. He needs to set things straight with his mother. He needs to I tell her to stop babying him and to respect his wife and child. HE is 50% of the problem. Your MIL is the other half. You have taught this man that it’s OK to allow this by letting it go on for TEN YEARS!
Because if OP's husband was going out alone at 7pm every sat night to meet friends at bar, she might think he's cheating. But if she sees the actual friends, the “guys' night out” at the bar is a lot more plausible. So the three guys are there for OP. Maybe they pick up other husbands before and after him using the same strategy and that's why punctuality is important.
Because if OP's husband was going out alone at 7pm every sat night to meet friends at bar, she might think he's cheating. But if she sees the actual friends, the “guys' night out” at the bar is a lot more plausible. So the three guys are there for OP. Maybe they pick up other husbands before and after him using the same strategy and that's why punctuality is important.
We had been together for slightly less than a year and a half before moving in
Is it flirting to you? I feel that if she was flirting she'd probably hang around them more,but she doesn't. The first guy she went extremely low contact and the last 2 stopped immediately
This is some major BS! Your GF has been an adult for 6 years and has been fully capable of waking herself up on time for 14 years! Unless she has tried EVERY alarm clock, vibrating watch, etc., then she hasn't really TRIED to get up on time.
This is 100% a HER problem! What did she do before you two moved in together? Did her Mommy wake her up? If so, she needs to move back home with Mommy to facilitate her having an adult job. She needs more practice adulting!
My ex was like this…”Wake me up for a conference call at 9:00am!” I'd try to wake him up repeatedly. He'd finally get up around 10:30am and never mentioned the conference call. This went on for months. I finally wouldn't even bother trying to wake him up…he was a grown-ass man. But surprisingly, he managed to wake himself up at 4:00am one morning to go FISHING! F*ck that noise! So glad I'm rid of him!
You have a “hold her against her will with weapons” AND “a crying kink”??
I'm sorry, but that's terrifying.
I think your ideas about what is healthy are rather euroce tric
If to decolinse myself I need to get a little std I am fine with that.
I assumed reddit would more progressive
If you're not reading the OP's comments, then why are you commenting about making assumptions?
You're mad at something he didn't even do when he was 17? Just break up with him and do him the biggest favor of his life.
I lied and said he did.
You might always get pangs of missing him, or sadness, or that stuck feeling. I’ve always heard the rough relationship math of; it takes about half the relationship’s length to get over it once it has ended. So about a year 1/2 or so for you.
But it really depends. Grief comes and goes like waves and can surprise us way after we thought we were done with the thing. But it won’t be forever, especially if you focus on doing things for yourself, learning new skills, etc. you got this 🙂
This is the real question
I don't think men even talk about their girlfriend's boobs and ass that much. At least I've hardly seen anyone above high school age do that and think it's not awkward
Lol ok
Why does he want technical details of what you are working on?
Tell him client privilege, that you cannot discuss it.
He’s a cheater and a user, he’s thinking about himself, not her. Give him no credit.
What a jerk, blowjob is by far my most favourite sexual thing ever but my girlfriend simply refuses to give me any… in 3 year of relationship only ever did once or twice after I begged and bribed them with expensive gifts.
If only I was that lucky to have someone willing to do things I enjoy for me, I would support and reinforce my partner and not shame them.
Why are you even dating the dude honestly? The D that good or something?
you really messed up bad. you don't compare a person to their vile parent ever. now you know. i learned that the naked way too. you haven't figured out how over the line it was yet. you're too busy thinking about yourself to really look at it. she should not have brought it up when y'all were getting into bed – its an important discussion to have sober – but that didn't give you the right to go there. at all. people can change their minds. its ok. it happens. it doesn't mean you got manipulated. people grow up. why anyone would want to bring a child into this world at this time is beyond me but if you do and she doesn't its ok. don't talk her into it. don't think she'll just take to it or it will grow on her. accept how she feels and move forward. if kids are a dealbreaker for you find someone who wants them a lot and who is kind and just be so very grateful you found this out before you two brought a child into the world with a mother who would rather not be
Ooh, good advice! And hang it somewhere you can see it easily, like on the refrigerator, the wall of your toilet or above your bed, until you're absolutely completely over him. You don't have to put his name on it (in case of visitors), but it helps to see how much better off you are when you need it.
Boy that is a tough situation, I'm sorry to hear this.
Perhaps you could go do some fun activities together. Go grab ice cream. Get her mind off it, and show her that you love her. Be there for her, but not smother.
Have had a similar issue. Gave her one chance saying I don't do bullshit drama. We are new to dating and I wouldn't cheat if I wanted to be with anyone else, I'd just end things with you and be with that other person. It's been a month or two, it's not to a point of being that connected. Trust me or don't but never bring this crazy pants drama to me. .A week or two later she did it again. I told her if you don't trust me then no need to be together and just stopped replying. Got a lot of fun messages after that which further showed I did the right thing.
You will have a similar experience if you stay with this loony toon.
You guys need to stop enabling her and her husband. She’s scrambling to bail her lazy POS husband who has other kids he’s not even supporting. She’s focusing on that instead of providing a home for her two toddlers.
I wouldn’t let her move in without two paystubs proving steady income. There’s a reason they won’t get jobs and it’s because they expect everyone to pay for them.
If you want to do anything consider taking in the kids IF you can. And if you do that make sure there’s legal protections in place so she cannot bounce around with the kids. That would be the ONLY thing I would consider at this point. If your sister wants to be lazy and bail out her deadbeat husband they can do that alone
First her condition is curable. Second if the physical aspect is only desired by one party then the relationship as a whole is not equitable and will eventually fail. Love and respect will only maintain things for so long when not everything is mutual. There is no balance and when life is out of balance it teeters and falls.
Right? BF is so dumb.
I don't think you overreacted – I would not even have let him get his foot in the door. He'll tell you anything, he'll be nice for a while, but I don't believe for a second that he will never be abusive to you again. It's the cycle of abuse – make nice, love bomb, once you feel secure he starts abusing again.
Keep going back to “it's just a game”.
That’s not how kegals work. That’s not how vagina work.
Not even considering the giant slap in the face that would be to your girlfriend, you don’t even know what your talking about. You probably won’t recover from an ask like that, even if she agrees to try.
I’ll sometimes not share every single detail about my work life, whether it’s fishing a difficult excrement from inside a toilet, to a bag full of dog Pooh opening up on me as I try to trash it. Abuse from bosses and customers, being audited, yelled at, told I’m trash, told my leadership is awful, etc. I got to a therapist and share that shit. When the time comes and I’m comfortable, I’ll share it with the wife and she already understands this. Just don’t want to get retraumatized over the work day, just as I wouldn’t ask her to go over her traumatizing moments in life.
You did the right thing!
I wish more people recognized and acted upon these type of red flags, there would be a lot less divorce. I say this as someone who is divorced because of ignoring stuff like this.
You saved yourself a lot of heartache. Even though I know it doesn’t feel great now, but it’s wayyyy better than wasting years, money and energy with someone to only end up separating later because you were incompatible the whole time.
Yea she should, since when the group was together in the beginning one of them asked me and I said it to all of them.
And yea I thought of maybe she only would want to hookup but then we went over a topic that suggested that she doesnt like hookups, tho I dont know for 100%
Wait until you and your partner are out with his buddies AND THEIR WIVES, and ask the same questions of the group.
In particular, ask how your partner could satisfy you better.
In one sense, that helps, but it doesn't change anything I said.
In your own words, you don't want to deal with this again. Yet here you are. Dealing with it again.
There’s nothing I can do to bring us closer anymore. He says that he’s not truly in love with me anymore. That some of it is left but just not enough. He’s focused on school, and I’m sure if someone gave him the time of day he’d pursue but he says he has no interest in any relationship for a while.
I don’t intend to fuck other guys, but even if I did, he says “if it makes you happy, than do it” he seems to care, but like his feels towards me, “just not enough.” He doesn’t tell me not to see other guys. And I don’t think he’s monogamous at heart. So I don’t think he’s shocked by the idea of us fucking other ppl and getting back IF we ever wanted to do that.
There’s zero chance of us getting back right now. It would have to be after these 4 months and after some time has passed in my new place. I imagine minimum 1 year apart.
I think he’s too busy, and a little immature to be able to appreciate me right now. And our past arguments bc of those exact reasons have just pushed him away further.
But ty for your advice/comments
2 1/4 camels and 301 pencils
i honestly feel far less safe in a rural area than in a city. then again, i'm queer.
Sounds like your wife likes the attention from her co-worker otherwise she wouldn't keep texting him certainly after the detailed sex talk. Anychance they keep their texts sorta nonchalant as cover?
For 2 years 2 times a month she says she is going to a bar for after work drinks what if shes going to that guys place you wouldn't have a clue wouldn't be naked for them to plan their hook ups in person or quickies in the car its all speculation but i just find it a huge red flag you have not met even 1 of these people in 2 years practically unbelieveable there has been no double dates or drinks at someones house.
I don’t even know.
He sounds completely toxic.
You need to set boundaries now. 9 years is a long time for you not to know the friends. You should know the friends if you don’t.
He knows it’s inappropriate and that’s why he didn’t tell you. He was avoiding an argument. He needs to understand how messed up that is.
You have no proof for anything happening so you do need to take his word for it. He needs to know that this kind of shit won’t happen again if he wants to stay married.
He also needs to understand that no one in a committed relationship behaves like this