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With respect, Anecdotes from the internet are not equivalent to scientific data. If she wants to fix this, she needs to find a PCP and/or specialist who takes her concerns seriously and helps her chase down every possible medically available option.
I also think you guys should explore the possibility that she doesn’t have PSSD. I’m suggesting this not because I don’t believe her — and I have personal experience with being not believed by medical providers — but because the symptoms you are describing strongly sound like depression.
Finally, please please please stop putting any pressure on her about having kids. She’s not in a good headspace to think about having kids, but more importantly, she knows she doesn’t want to have kids. Trying to change her mind is, at a minimum, really pushy and at a max not respect her boundaries or autonomy as a human.
In case you aren’t aware of this already, because of the difference in how men and women are socialized throughout their lives, women often have lots more experience with taking care of children, which gives them a more realistic (and frankly depressing) view on what being a parent can be like. When a woman says she doesn’t want to have kids, you need to believe her.
If you are sure you want kids, you need to respect her desire to not have them and break up with her. Otherwise, your other option is to decide you want to be with her more than you want to have kids, and then you stay with her and completely quash your hopes of having children.
2 little bits of my own history that may interest you:
A friend asked me out. I declined. He took it very well – no embarrassment, said it was fine, not to worry about it. We stayed friends. He took it so well that I actually started seeing him in a different way and we ended up seeing each other for a year. When we did split up (just not compatible) it remained amicable.
I fancied someone in my friend group and also did the 'let me hold your arm, I might slip' thing ? – we've now been married 19 years..
Look I’m no cat expert, but if your cat is going outside the litter box it’s time for a vet visit if you haven’t already just to make sure they’re OK. Your (ex)bf is delusional if he thinks he can “train” your cat better then you. If you really wanna try to make your cats behave better then normal ass cats, there’s videos on youtube that may help, like the kitten lady, jackson galaxy etc. I personally think if you two did break up based on your comments, you dodged a bullet in the long run. I know it’s naked because 5 years is a long time, but he not only fucked around on you but he also is incredibly selfish by asking you to give up your pet he helped name/sleeps with/posts on media.
So you are that twin in the Indian twin dynamics who is always pushed around. I am indian, I am friends with a set of twins who are also indian. One bosses around the other so much that the one was set to marry broke off his engagement coz twin wasn't getting married before him. Guess what happened to that person, he is still sad and single at 32, his ex was so devastated, we were so appalled by his decision that we cut him off for years. He reached out to us (our group) a few months back and has been in therapy and finally understood that he cannot live! under the other twin. Now he is pretty much disowned by his fam but they hardly care for him. His twin is happily married with a kid, he doesn't gives jack shit where and how his brother is. Don't be 32 and in therapy and realize that u should have lived on your terms. Grow a freaking spine before it is too late for u.
“I got her to agree to staying with me and not moving out”
“Honestly looking back I just wanted to hurt Amy”
I I I me me me blah blah blah. You don’t love Amy, you just wanted the ego stroke of dating a barely legal girl as an almost 30 year old man. Seriously, why do males do this? I’m 29 and I see any guy under like 25 as BOYS.
Lol okay I guess it way to early for me to read this cuz I read the 70/80 comment . I mean if you can’t get pass this I 90% sure you should probably break up because your issue will only get worse over time and your feelings will get naked and harder to suppress them. Your young if it’s ment to be it will work out if not then we’ll life moves on and it’s just an unfortunate circumstance that you will have to decide if you can stay with OP.
Can confirm ezpz. Not a fan of the cooking bacon smell when the Dr. cauterized the tubes, but otherwise not a big deal. My wife ended up getting a hysterectomy after our 2nd kid, but I got it anyways at her request.
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Wow…man…. im so sorry this is naked. I honestly dont know what to say…. not saying she was cheating but are u sure it was yours? Maybe she was fearful it would come out and be obvious that it wasnt? Thats a reach but it is possible… its just as possible that she just freaked out… Talk to her before you break things off….
It's driving me crazy that OP won't tell what the 'reason' her bf gave for going to the other girls apartment. Yeah, and then going ghost until returning to the party. It seems fairly obvious what happened, but I sure would like to hear his exscuse!
You are having a naked time trusting her because there is an instance where she was with this same person, and was not completely trust worthy.
So you need to either end it, or decide to trust her, however very hot that will be.
If you decide to end it, tell her that the wedding has brought up the issue from (when ever) and you can’t be comfortable with that friend. Tell her that you know it’s not your place to say where she can go, or who she is friends with, but because of her previous actions, the trust which you thought was repaired, has been shown that it isn’t and you are ending the relationship.
If you decide to trust her, tell her that, tell her that you are feeling uncomfortable with the situation, but you know it is a problem that you need to deal with yourself.
When she gets back, her actions and attitude will tell you if anything happened or not.
If nothing happens, then you can continue your relationship, or if something does happen, then you can end it.
If ypu stick to 1 woman, you will end up having feelings for her, if you have s ex with random ONS, you will find that your feelings for your wife will change or diminish.
I suggest stick to 1 woman and tell your wife. It's like you are nkw in poligamy relationship. You of course no.problem. the issue is usually on the 1st wife. She will.find that your affections for her WILL DEFINITELY change, and she HAS to deal with that. IS SHE READY?. Will she get jealous?.
I wonder if it was a manipulative tactic just to see how you reacted to the accusation? He might have been fishing for a confession or just to get you flustered enough for him to catch you out.
His upbeat mood would be due to you “passing” his little test.
It's an utterly disgusting thing to do to someone you're supposed to love & I don't know how you're supposed to move forward with someone that pulls that shit on you.
Just flick it with your tongue, maybe swirl it, be gentle or not depends on how she reacts. Don't be afraid to really get in there, suck on it if you feel like it. It all depends on how she reacts, what she likes and doesn't.
So your relationship with her means more to you than other peoples lives? You’re fine with the risk of her running somebody over because you’d rather she drive drunk than report her to the police?
There is nothing wrong with being polyamorous. There is nothing wrong with being monogamous. However, when the relationship begins, you need to agree on which of those you are going to do, and you need to negotiate your boundaries clearly. Things get really really messy if you try to shift back and forth between the two. If you prefer a monogamous relationship with a monogamous partner, that's fine, but you won't be able to have that type of relationship with this man.
It also sounds like you both have some psychological baggage from either past trauma or just bullcrap you absorbed by living in a crappy world. It sounds like you need to see a counselor/psychologist (if you aren't already doing so, if you can find one, and if you can afford it) to help you work through those issues. Your relationships will get so much easier when you can identify your own triggers, understand and regulate your own emotions, and learn how to communicate in a healthy way.
I don't know what you should do about your boyfriends polyamory. But you need to decide whether a polyamorous relationship is truely something you want for your life. If you want something more monogamous, it may be time to accept you two are not compatable and move on to find someone who is.
You stuck by your boundaries. Shows you have self respect. A lot of redditors on this forum post issues that wouldn’t have happened if they were honest with themself and respected their own standards.
If smoking pot is not acceptable to you, then you’re just being honest about your dealbreakers. But moving forward, dont date people that have a habit that’s a deal breaker for you. People can change, but it’s naked, takes time, and almost never sticks unless they’re doing it for themselves.
His 1st healthy relationship and love, my first love & serious relationship. Said he just needs time to find himself, and maybe we’ll have a future together. He broke up with me and it up seemed to hurt him so badly in the moment and kept telling me he still loves me. Then next day, seems totally fine.
You can ask my therapist and psychiatrists but yeah my dad would verbally abuse my mom and brother and i. there’s certain words that are triggering to me. They’re a trigger because it triggers the physical abuse trauma I faced because of my dad. It’s not all of them but specific ones that make me want to curl into a ball in my bathroom like when I was little.
You just leave. Make a plan. Get all your stuff. Block him everywhere. Stay safe. Do not engage. If he threatens to hurt himself call 911 and let them handle it. Do not engage. Leave and block. You can do it.
Your humor doesn’t have to be the same.I thought one of my bf humor a bit weird but it’s something I just accepted that we were different in that area.
This is a situation where I think it's best to just leave him.
The lack of sex isn't really the problem here, it's everything else. If you say you aren't physically attracted to him and you aren't emotionally attracted to him, then what else is there?
With respect, Anecdotes from the internet are not equivalent to scientific data. If she wants to fix this, she needs to find a PCP and/or specialist who takes her concerns seriously and helps her chase down every possible medically available option.
I also think you guys should explore the possibility that she doesn’t have PSSD. I’m suggesting this not because I don’t believe her — and I have personal experience with being not believed by medical providers — but because the symptoms you are describing strongly sound like depression.
Finally, please please please stop putting any pressure on her about having kids. She’s not in a good headspace to think about having kids, but more importantly, she knows she doesn’t want to have kids. Trying to change her mind is, at a minimum, really pushy and at a max not respect her boundaries or autonomy as a human.
In case you aren’t aware of this already, because of the difference in how men and women are socialized throughout their lives, women often have lots more experience with taking care of children, which gives them a more realistic (and frankly depressing) view on what being a parent can be like. When a woman says she doesn’t want to have kids, you need to believe her.
If you are sure you want kids, you need to respect her desire to not have them and break up with her. Otherwise, your other option is to decide you want to be with her more than you want to have kids, and then you stay with her and completely quash your hopes of having children.
I wish you luck in your journey.
2 little bits of my own history that may interest you:
A friend asked me out. I declined. He took it very well – no embarrassment, said it was fine, not to worry about it. We stayed friends. He took it so well that I actually started seeing him in a different way and we ended up seeing each other for a year. When we did split up (just not compatible) it remained amicable.
I fancied someone in my friend group and also did the 'let me hold your arm, I might slip' thing ? – we've now been married 19 years..
what I'd like to know is why did your mil decide to call you everytime her son was acting up?
How is calling someone a bitch sarcasm?
Look I’m no cat expert, but if your cat is going outside the litter box it’s time for a vet visit if you haven’t already just to make sure they’re OK. Your (ex)bf is delusional if he thinks he can “train” your cat better then you. If you really wanna try to make your cats behave better then normal ass cats, there’s videos on youtube that may help, like the kitten lady, jackson galaxy etc. I personally think if you two did break up based on your comments, you dodged a bullet in the long run. I know it’s naked because 5 years is a long time, but he not only fucked around on you but he also is incredibly selfish by asking you to give up your pet he helped name/sleeps with/posts on media.
“so im a minor and let an adult fuck me without her knowing, risking her going to jail if something goes badly. Should i tell her my real age or no?”
Like wtf kinda of person are you??
So you are that twin in the Indian twin dynamics who is always pushed around. I am indian, I am friends with a set of twins who are also indian. One bosses around the other so much that the one was set to marry broke off his engagement coz twin wasn't getting married before him. Guess what happened to that person, he is still sad and single at 32, his ex was so devastated, we were so appalled by his decision that we cut him off for years. He reached out to us (our group) a few months back and has been in therapy and finally understood that he cannot live! under the other twin. Now he is pretty much disowned by his fam but they hardly care for him. His twin is happily married with a kid, he doesn't gives jack shit where and how his brother is. Don't be 32 and in therapy and realize that u should have lived on your terms. Grow a freaking spine before it is too late for u.
He doesn't have room to chase lol
I agree
“I got her to leave her girlfriend”
“I got her to agree to staying with me and not moving out”
“Honestly looking back I just wanted to hurt Amy”
I I I me me me blah blah blah. You don’t love Amy, you just wanted the ego stroke of dating a barely legal girl as an almost 30 year old man. Seriously, why do males do this? I’m 29 and I see any guy under like 25 as BOYS.
Can I ask did you want the bite marks?
The baby won’t even know so how are you taking anything out on her. But honestly how big was this fight? It’s been almost a year.
And if you are wondering, yeah, I'm from the US, and my government REALLYYY doesn't like communist
THIS!!!!!
Means you're allowing yourself to be a booty call/place holder
Lol okay I guess it way to early for me to read this cuz I read the 70/80 comment . I mean if you can’t get pass this I 90% sure you should probably break up because your issue will only get worse over time and your feelings will get naked and harder to suppress them. Your young if it’s ment to be it will work out if not then we’ll life moves on and it’s just an unfortunate circumstance that you will have to decide if you can stay with OP.
Can confirm ezpz. Not a fan of the cooking bacon smell when the Dr. cauterized the tubes, but otherwise not a big deal. My wife ended up getting a hysterectomy after our 2nd kid, but I got it anyways at her request.
So only “alpha males” are allowed to have cats in an apartment that they share with a roommate? You are ridiculous, man.
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Wow…man…. im so sorry this is naked. I honestly dont know what to say…. not saying she was cheating but are u sure it was yours? Maybe she was fearful it would come out and be obvious that it wasnt? Thats a reach but it is possible… its just as possible that she just freaked out… Talk to her before you break things off….
It's driving me crazy that OP won't tell what the 'reason' her bf gave for going to the other girls apartment. Yeah, and then going ghost until returning to the party. It seems fairly obvious what happened, but I sure would like to hear his exscuse!
You are having a naked time trusting her because there is an instance where she was with this same person, and was not completely trust worthy.
So you need to either end it, or decide to trust her, however very hot that will be.
If you decide to end it, tell her that the wedding has brought up the issue from (when ever) and you can’t be comfortable with that friend. Tell her that you know it’s not your place to say where she can go, or who she is friends with, but because of her previous actions, the trust which you thought was repaired, has been shown that it isn’t and you are ending the relationship.
If you decide to trust her, tell her that, tell her that you are feeling uncomfortable with the situation, but you know it is a problem that you need to deal with yourself.
When she gets back, her actions and attitude will tell you if anything happened or not.
If nothing happens, then you can continue your relationship, or if something does happen, then you can end it.
Yep sure sounds like your relationship is a relationship.
Hahaha me too!!
If ypu stick to 1 woman, you will end up having feelings for her, if you have s ex with random ONS, you will find that your feelings for your wife will change or diminish.
I suggest stick to 1 woman and tell your wife. It's like you are nkw in poligamy relationship. You of course no.problem. the issue is usually on the 1st wife. She will.find that your affections for her WILL DEFINITELY change, and she HAS to deal with that. IS SHE READY?. Will she get jealous?.
I wonder if it was a manipulative tactic just to see how you reacted to the accusation? He might have been fishing for a confession or just to get you flustered enough for him to catch you out.
His upbeat mood would be due to you “passing” his little test.
It's an utterly disgusting thing to do to someone you're supposed to love & I don't know how you're supposed to move forward with someone that pulls that shit on you.
I just let it go im not worried about it i realize i was worried over silly shit
Just flick it with your tongue, maybe swirl it, be gentle or not depends on how she reacts. Don't be afraid to really get in there, suck on it if you feel like it. It all depends on how she reacts, what she likes and doesn't.
So your relationship with her means more to you than other peoples lives? You’re fine with the risk of her running somebody over because you’d rather she drive drunk than report her to the police?
If your girl is still exploring her sexuality you better be prepared to get her “stolen” by a female.
No matter the sex, engaging in sexual activity with another person while in a relationship is cheating.
I'd be interested to hear her perspective, especially given what people in the comments are revealing about you.
There is nothing wrong with being polyamorous. There is nothing wrong with being monogamous. However, when the relationship begins, you need to agree on which of those you are going to do, and you need to negotiate your boundaries clearly. Things get really really messy if you try to shift back and forth between the two. If you prefer a monogamous relationship with a monogamous partner, that's fine, but you won't be able to have that type of relationship with this man.
It also sounds like you both have some psychological baggage from either past trauma or just bullcrap you absorbed by living in a crappy world. It sounds like you need to see a counselor/psychologist (if you aren't already doing so, if you can find one, and if you can afford it) to help you work through those issues. Your relationships will get so much easier when you can identify your own triggers, understand and regulate your own emotions, and learn how to communicate in a healthy way.
I don't know what you should do about your boyfriends polyamory. But you need to decide whether a polyamorous relationship is truely something you want for your life. If you want something more monogamous, it may be time to accept you two are not compatable and move on to find someone who is.
You stuck by your boundaries. Shows you have self respect. A lot of redditors on this forum post issues that wouldn’t have happened if they were honest with themself and respected their own standards.
“I dont plan on turning them on”
If smoking pot is not acceptable to you, then you’re just being honest about your dealbreakers. But moving forward, dont date people that have a habit that’s a deal breaker for you. People can change, but it’s naked, takes time, and almost never sticks unless they’re doing it for themselves.
His 1st healthy relationship and love, my first love & serious relationship. Said he just needs time to find himself, and maybe we’ll have a future together. He broke up with me and it up seemed to hurt him so badly in the moment and kept telling me he still loves me. Then next day, seems totally fine.
You can ask my therapist and psychiatrists but yeah my dad would verbally abuse my mom and brother and i. there’s certain words that are triggering to me. They’re a trigger because it triggers the physical abuse trauma I faced because of my dad. It’s not all of them but specific ones that make me want to curl into a ball in my bathroom like when I was little.
You just leave. Make a plan. Get all your stuff. Block him everywhere. Stay safe. Do not engage. If he threatens to hurt himself call 911 and let them handle it. Do not engage. Leave and block. You can do it.
You’ve only been together for a month. Please, slow down
“Understandably angry” absolutely not.
How does this affect him at all? He’s being ridiculous. If he insists on making this a big deal, he’s a jerk.
Your humor doesn’t have to be the same.I thought one of my bf humor a bit weird but it’s something I just accepted that we were different in that area.
I was also going to suggest removing the lingerie so she'll know.
Try the website survivinginfidelity.com and post in ‘just found out’
This is a situation where I think it's best to just leave him.
The lack of sex isn't really the problem here, it's everything else. If you say you aren't physically attracted to him and you aren't emotionally attracted to him, then what else is there?