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agree…when i was married i never let my ex refer to me as her biggest kid.
it also irks me when men say they are babysitting their kids. dumbass- you’re their parent, not a babysitter.
It sounds like you and your boyfriend are having a disagreement about how to care for your dog while you are away. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with each other about your concerns and come to a compromise that both of you are happy with. It may be helpful to come up with a specific plan for how to care for your dog while you are away, including leaving the lamp on and the blinds open, and discussing this plan with your boyfriend. It may also be helpful to explain to your boyfriend why the light and the blinds are important to you and your dog's well-being, and to listen to his concerns about electricity usage and come up with a solution that addresses both of your needs. Ultimately, the most important thing is to make sure that your dog is happy and healthy, and to work together with your boyfriend to ensure that she is well taken care of.
This 🙁
There are two valid paths here:
One, you can absolutely break up with him for this. Whether it could be due to his autism or not, you are not obligated to stay in a relationship where your emotional needs are not being met. You are also not obligated to teach him basic emotional requirements for a situation like this. It's exhausting to be experiencing something difficult and then have to explain yourself and why you're upset on top of that.
Two, you can choose to explain to him, not only that you were upset about the accident, but that his non reaction hurt you too. Depending on his reaction to this, it may help you make a decision. You can either ask for changes or get out of it, both of which are completely valid and understandable reactions. Think about the life you want.
In healthy relationships when there’s conflict, each side shares their perspective then listens and validates the other. After that, solutions that work for both are explored and then implemented. That’s not what happens here. Google defensiveness in relationships as that’s what’s happening.
Rather than discuss the problem, he counter attacks, minimizes, gas lights and stonewalls, to get you to give up your emotional needs. And how much and how extreme he does it would be considered emotional abuse, regardless of if he does it intentionally or not. Additionally being treated like this can lead to you experiencing depression or other mental health issues like learned helplessness and conflict avoidance. And it’s a behavior that rarely changes but often gets worse unless the person gets years of therapy.
Yeah, paying for a hotel room or hostel seems like a good suggestion.
You’re right bro, I mean the relationship is over now it’s just now I’m dealing with the loss. And I need to work on myself to get my confidence back. Just feels really difficult at the moment.
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No you should not ask him about, imagine it's an issue and he is actually conscious about it. Maybe he just doesn't like public toilets. There is a lot of people that only really use their own rest-room or people that they are very close with restrooms
How exactly does he complain about your body type? Like what does he say specifically? And have you had a conversation with him about it?
Who’s paying for kid #1?
He wants to get married then buy a house. I’d personally rather rent longer and buy in a few years. I’m personally not ok with buying a moving in a year or two. We’ll end up buying, having a kid then wanting to be closer to family and selling it. It’s a bad investment move.
I think it’s wrong in general for a sober person to have a sexual interaction with somebody that’s drunk. The drunk person can’t think straight and might fall in and out of consciousness. When I’m sober I hate having to deal with/take care of drunk people, and I feel like having sex with one would be taking advantage of them.
But ultimately it comes down to two things… A) was he also drunk, and B) how you feel about it. Do you feel like you were assaulted by him? Does thinking about the situation make you feel abused or taken advantage of? Would you have done the same if you were sober?
Your only looking at advice you want to keep going forward on your agenda. you want your cake and eat it too as the saying goes.
A relationship will not work without communication and trust.
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He wasn’t ever paying for everything. He was paying for his children with money, she was paying for them in time. They were both doing full time jobs the entire time, just hers was more important but unpaid.
I see you haven’t figured out high school yet, playing victim only gets you a target. If you saw your way out of this situation it would be the best chance at him ever dating you, and your best bet at reducing the obsession before it becomes a criminal case.
You are harassing people with very traceable fake accounts, manipulating everyone around you and think you have no way of getting caught. Get help before you go to jail.
No one here sounds mature.
Break up, stop talking to your ex and move on.
Clearly she doesn't respect you and you don't respect yourself.
You need to respect yourself my accepting a GF that is full committed to you. Anything less then full commitment is not worth your time and you move on. Go be better for you next partner, your ex's time has already passed.
You’re right. Although he has no history with drugs, and typically disposes of our expired prescriptions (antibiotics, supplements etc) responsibly at our pharmacy, I guess I shouldnt have put her old meds in the lot that day.
Dated a guy like this in my early 20s. Sweet guy but absolutely terrified of trying anything new. I keep in touch with him here and there and sure enough it took him 20 more years to get a passport. I would have been so unhappy for so long had I stayed. Sweet guy and means well, but that he considered California rolls exotic (and refused to even try) just started eliminating the options of things to even do. Everything was a “no”. Everything. Hard pass.
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Depends on your views of polyamory. I don't believe in polyamory, so no, I don't think you can. I think you developed a crush because you've been with one woman for a decently long time. It's nude to envision a scenario in which a person, perfectly in love with his partner, fell in love with another girl.
I believe you like your gf but if you loved her, you wouldn't have told this other girl you love her and you DEFINITELY would not have continuously thought about her.
Yeah men absolutely cannot write poems. ABSOLUTELY CANNOT EXPRESS FEELINGS OR EMOTIONS THAT AREN'T ANGER OR RAGE. Can't even wash our own weiners cause that shit is gay AF
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But it's a lot more innocent and it's more understandable why it would be hot to tell her.
I think he's cheating though.
My ex was like that. He hated when I drank coffee. Instead of communicating he’d be passive aggressive. He was a bad communicator. I honestly think OP should leave.
There’s not much you can do besides try out different medications and hope for better side effects (as far as not being able to orgasm goes). Your other option is to talk to a couples counselor, especially if you can find one focused on sex. Yes, it’s an important part of a relationship, but you’re not responsible for your partner’s past issues or his insecurities. Talking to him and letting him know you enjoy sex with him is great. You can’t do much else without professional intervention.
i dont recommend getting back together with your exes, you broke up for a reason. anyway. this isnt about that. its not a big deal if you tell him now, but it will be a big deal if you hide it from him. don’t start a relationship already lying, even if by omission.
or tell their partner all about it.
She didn't “tell” him until HE LITERALLY ASKED HER, POINT BLANK. So what, you think it's healthier to lie? Because snoopy OP was feeling insecure?
I am so glad it went well! I'm proud of your dad as well, I know firsthand how horrible addiction is and I'm glad he made it out.
I understand your point, and I’m pretty sure you understand mine, so I’m not really sure why we’re disagreeing
I’m just saying I’d prefer my girlfriend to shoot someone down by bluntly and simply saying she’s not interested and not feel the need to explain why
Clearly that’s not your preference, and I respect that
another suggestion: i don’t know how mad he could be, but it might be a good idea to subtly take his car keys (if has one) until he’s calmed down; if i was put in his position i’d probably want to go confront the guy right away. maybe even his phone, too.
remember that groomers like to instill a “us against the world” mentality, if he angrily calls/texts your sister, she’ll probably feel very attacked and defensive and immediately tell her bf and he’ll poison her against you and your brother for trying to break them up. don’t let it come to that
You are only 20. Your brain doesn’t finish developing until 25.
When I was 22, something similar happened to me. My parents didn’t know about it but I felt I had no other choice but to terminate at the time. I knew I wouldn’t have resources, there was no steady father figure for the child, and I personally had no money. I also knew it would be foolish and selfish of me to expect that my parents would support me or the baby. I was already an adult! Looking back, it was the best thing I could have done for myself. I was so not ready to be a mom in any way, and I couldn’t have had the life I have now if I had become one.
Your parents are wrong to pressure to you to terminate, but they aren’t wrong in refusing to support you. That’s their choice, same way having a child is yours. Why should they offer you anything they have been-that was a privilege and a gift to you! No offence, but someone who is SO dependent on their parents (down to their cell phone bill !?!???!?) is clearly not ready for a kid, and truly doesn’t understand the financial implications of one. Like you don’t support YOURSELF in ANY way, how do you expect to have a kid? And you are the parent, and so you are the one who needs to pay for your child and be responsible for now yourself and your child.
Also, the father is a fwb? So does he even know or want the child? So, are you totally ok with raising a child who is going to be estranged from the grandparents but also the father??? Honestly, I don’t understand voluntarily becoming a single mother (unless Ofc abuse or something horrible is involved). You are just choosing a hard life for yourself, but also for your kid. Doesn’t your kid deserve the best shot at having a nuclear family with the dad around?
But leaving all that aside, the fact that you are so dependent on your parents- for almost every little thing- tells me you’re not ready to be a mom in anyway. Had you lived by yourself, paid your own bills, sustained yourself- I would say not an ideal situation (STILL), but I think you can handle it. You’re not even done school, and you’re not even paying for school yourself. Seriously consider the termination. Don’t just not get one because you want to rebel against mom and dad- which again is immature thinking.
Thissssss
she fucked around and didn’t like it when you reciprocated the same energy. seems like she’s a bit of a hypocrite
I've been more careful about washing carefully since I first heard she was getting UTIs (I was less so on first meeting her) so that could indeed be part of it.
I think she might be using a fragrance or soap of some sort since I do smell that on her underwear but she's been reluctant to share details on that. She's also adverse to drinking much water and likes sugary food which may be making her more susceptible to it. Ultimately I agree there has to be other factors but I guess we've found something that works so we're reluctant to risk a situation where she gets another UTI when washing does enough to prevent it.
It has occurred to me that we don't have as much sex because of the trouble incurred by having so many showers. She's complained about this in the past.
Break off the engagement, conciously or subconciously she (severely) cut down on sex when you went closer to marriage.
Surgery is scary.
Fat yikes. Knew it would happen.
Dnd is the greatest game of all time.
He can do what he wants. You can’t control him. You’re not compatible, end of story.
Surely the best solution is for OP to take his wife's name, and have the son change to that too? Family unit achieved, son isn't left out, and far less jarring for the ex.
Yah, I think you just exposed OP’s cheating husband and his lying affair partner. IF that’s true, OP’s husband just falsely accused Kev of revenge porn, a form of sexual assault, in an attempt to hide his affair. Fran went along with it. Despicable.
I don’t even know where to begin here.
There’s no such thing as “stealing” in a serious relationship. You’re a partnership. And this childish outlook of ownership shows you guys don’t even like each other anymore.
I don’t even know where to begin here.
There’s no such thing as “stealing” in a serious relationship. You’re a partnership. And this childish outlook of ownership shows you guys don’t even like each other anymore.
When you decide to stay with a cheater, two things need to happen; first, then need to work to regain your trust by being fully honest and transparent. Second, you need to actually allow yourself to trust him again. If you can't, no one would ever blame you. But that means you should just end it now. Healthy relationships can't work without trust.
Obviously I'm not here saying you should trust him immediately. But if he does in fact show you that he's made an effort to be someone you can trust, you can't just hold things over him forever. We're putting the cart way before the horse here, but it's something you need to consider.
Finally, you should ask him why he did what he did. And don't accept any cookie cutter answers like I was drunk, or I don't know. Being drunk isn't an excuse. He knows why it happened. Good luck.
To answer your questions: 1) It comes up every now and then, and we both bring it up in different ways. Sometimes he makes cheating-related jokes acting like he never cheated and this is when I usually bring it up saying that he has. It bothers me that he acts completely innocent on this. It also sometimes comes up during relationship discussions. We are in a committed relationship but I have told him there are certain things I will never fully trust him on. He believes I should trust him. 2) We both agreed that one of us will finally “win” on this question based on the outcome of this post. If you all agree he didn't cheat, I will drop it. If you agree he did, he's okay with me never trusting him in this specific aspect.
Yeah, she didn't really consider “what will the neighbors think about me lying and my own family calling me out?”
And you believe him??? How is telling you he wants to screw the woman at work and how if they did fuck, he would tell you…a joke? How is going out of his way to tell you, you are not his type and just barely had a chance with him, a joke? You DO realize, you are also entitled to dump someone because you don’t like their jokes don’t you? Example, racist and womanizing jokes are my deal breakers. With that said, what he is doing is actually NOT jokes. They are a combo of tests and abuse. You’ve been dating for months. Abusers like to use the disguise of jokes in order to hurt their partner, kill their self esteem and self worth. They all do this. This clown shoe you are dating is abusing you and seeing whether or not you will continue to give him the green light for this. As long as you stay with him, he has the green light to keep it up.
He went full Conte, you never go full Conte.
Naw, I know all about my partners past and vice versa. There are still pictures live!, it’s not about putting blinders on, it’s about not being weird about having details of things you already know are the case.
You know everyone has a past, why would someone telling you about it make you insecure? It’s just part of who they are as a person in this moment.
OP don't ever compromise who u are for some chick that can't see the value and potential you have. You are a good dude she's clearly taking advantage of. She made her choice. Make yours!
Don't make yourself second choice or backup plan for a girl that doesn't even respect you!
Why would u want to be with her knowing she:
Played you. Led you on. Is literally sleeping with someone else rn 4 is telling you while she's in a relationship (great trust there btw she's definitely a cheater) that she loves you!
Come on now… there are alooot of good girls out in the world that actually won't treat u like a tool for their own amusement when they feel like it.
You need to consider who you really need to tell. Parents and boyfriend definitely can get the full story and maybe a few other people who are invested in you. Everyone else can get the redacted story. It didn’t work out as there were ‘creative differences’. That covers everything and any questions can be met with a shrug.
Well yes, the child she was at 15 years old isn’t the insanely young woman she is today. I question your ability to function as and adult among adults if this was a shocking development to you!
your hubby should have told you something along those lines: you are special, incomparable, irreplaceable. no other chick can ever give him what you give and you are safe no matter what.
the fact he is okay about other dudes seeing you hard sounds more disrespectful that him bonin' other chicks though