Towards the end of your post, you talk about how he does sexual things you’re not comfortable with because “he’s more sexual” than you. He is not more sexual than you, he found a young girl that does see that his pervert shit is super weird, and he’s trying to like you down so he can do weirder shit, because he knows you won’t object. Get away from this loser. If he wasn’t a loser, he’d be dating women in the 33+ market. But he can’t because the know he’s a loser.
Because that’s not the case for me and I’m just confused. My husband is on medications that negatively impact his libido but our intimacy is still 100% there. It’s been there after pregnancy and childbirth too, even when sex isn’t always on the table. I think you need to consider how you would deal with it if you had difficulty with libido related to medical causes, and not your partner’s weight/looks, and consider whether you would feel like “intimacy” is dead because you can’t get a boner.
You have to think about your life, not about this relationship that was basically a non-relationship.
First, this is a 21/22 year old that was dating a 17 year old? That's already shady since you were probably in high school (I don't care if it's legal!).
Second, why are you making decisions about YOUR life with a BF you have dated less than a year? How were you going to financially support a baby? Do you live in fantasy land?
Third, he blocked you 3 weeks ago and possibly accused you (falsely) of cheating 4 weeks ago. You should have had an abortion then, but instead, keep waiting for him and now you are at 21 years weeks, which is already too late.
You should learn a lot from this. First, decisions about YOUR life are YOURS. This is something that affects your life forever. You don't owe anyone to make a decision with them. He should not have had any input. You should have talked to your best friends and your parents, to knock some sense into you. Second, you don't wait for someone that blocks you and makes false accusations when there's a CLOCK ticking.
Stop contacting him. If you don't want to have a baby, then work with an adoption agency. Don't contact the BF anymore, because you don't want him blocking the adoption or telling you again that he is going to be with you, then leave again and you are a single mom. You clearly don't want that and you don't sound capable either.
I’m going to find the “don’t rock the boat” for you (commenting so I can find my way back here), but I think you’ll find it helpful. At the end of the day, as the old saying goes, you can’t light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm
She told you why she didn't want to marry you. It's pretty weird that you don't believe her, or you didn't even notice that she gave a complete explanation.
Deciding not to marry someone because you feel like it would be a mistake, it doesn't feel right, the closer it got the more nervous she felt.
All reasons to end the engagement. So she did. And you think that it is something else like she is cheating or she just isn't ready so maybe down the road she would be ready to marry you.
I'm sorry she dumped you. She has been clear that she doesn't think you are the right person for her. That must hurt. But it is a complete, real reason that people speak up and break up. Why would she cheat and break up rather than just break up?
This was really harsh, and unnecessary. OP is struggling with mental health issues and was making an effort to organize she room. Dad acted like a jerk and undid all the work she had put into it, and made it worse. You sound like her dad.
You forgot +0
Funny how she says you are disregarding her feelings as she disregards yours.
Towards the end of your post, you talk about how he does sexual things you’re not comfortable with because “he’s more sexual” than you. He is not more sexual than you, he found a young girl that does see that his pervert shit is super weird, and he’s trying to like you down so he can do weirder shit, because he knows you won’t object. Get away from this loser. If he wasn’t a loser, he’d be dating women in the 33+ market. But he can’t because the know he’s a loser.
Gonna second cognitive decline if she's not overtly sexual, please get her tested for Dementia.
If she's always been like this, then laugh. It was probably hilarious.
So, for you, intimacy = banging?
Because that’s not the case for me and I’m just confused. My husband is on medications that negatively impact his libido but our intimacy is still 100% there. It’s been there after pregnancy and childbirth too, even when sex isn’t always on the table. I think you need to consider how you would deal with it if you had difficulty with libido related to medical causes, and not your partner’s weight/looks, and consider whether you would feel like “intimacy” is dead because you can’t get a boner.
You have to think about your life, not about this relationship that was basically a non-relationship.
First, this is a 21/22 year old that was dating a 17 year old? That's already shady since you were probably in high school (I don't care if it's legal!).
Second, why are you making decisions about YOUR life with a BF you have dated less than a year? How were you going to financially support a baby? Do you live in fantasy land?
Third, he blocked you 3 weeks ago and possibly accused you (falsely) of cheating 4 weeks ago. You should have had an abortion then, but instead, keep waiting for him and now you are at 21 years weeks, which is already too late.
You should learn a lot from this. First, decisions about YOUR life are YOURS. This is something that affects your life forever. You don't owe anyone to make a decision with them. He should not have had any input. You should have talked to your best friends and your parents, to knock some sense into you. Second, you don't wait for someone that blocks you and makes false accusations when there's a CLOCK ticking.
Stop contacting him. If you don't want to have a baby, then work with an adoption agency. Don't contact the BF anymore, because you don't want him blocking the adoption or telling you again that he is going to be with you, then leave again and you are a single mom. You clearly don't want that and you don't sound capable either.
It sounds like you’re taking the choice away from a young woman who has been through trauma just because you feel like it.
I’m going to find the “don’t rock the boat” for you (commenting so I can find my way back here), but I think you’ll find it helpful. At the end of the day, as the old saying goes, you can’t light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm
I've never called my wife names like that. It's something only total shitheels do. He's belittling you to control you.
I would guess porn, but why don't you ask him?
He's calling other people morons?
It doesn't get more moronic than this. Tell everyone he had a psychotic episode.
Correct. I should have clarified that
She told you why she didn't want to marry you. It's pretty weird that you don't believe her, or you didn't even notice that she gave a complete explanation.
Deciding not to marry someone because you feel like it would be a mistake, it doesn't feel right, the closer it got the more nervous she felt.
All reasons to end the engagement. So she did. And you think that it is something else like she is cheating or she just isn't ready so maybe down the road she would be ready to marry you.
I'm sorry she dumped you. She has been clear that she doesn't think you are the right person for her. That must hurt. But it is a complete, real reason that people speak up and break up. Why would she cheat and break up rather than just break up?
This was really harsh, and unnecessary. OP is struggling with mental health issues and was making an effort to organize she room. Dad acted like a jerk and undid all the work she had put into it, and made it worse. You sound like her dad.
Women can't be dicks? You sure got me there! And now I want a donut.
Every time I asked him about it, he said he would launch the project soon but it’s been awhile already
Its never gonna launch. Honestly just leave. You're a babysitter to a 35 year old