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Date: October 22, 2022
I'm sorry for whatever went wrong in your life to leave you so mentally damaged that you'd remain in a relationship with and continue to expose your children to someone who thinks it's fine to strangle women when he's angry. But you obviously have to end this relationship or you're going to die. Strangulation is the single most significant predictor that a man is going to murder his wife/girlfriend. And it isn't just your life at risk, it's your children's as well.
So consider that the relationship is over, when deciding whether or not to continue the pregnancy.
It also sounds like you're reading a fair amount of anti-abortion propaganda. Lay off that, and go to an actual medical clinic for medical information about abortion. There's no point reading about things like termination of late term fetuses who have developmental issues that make them incomparable with life, especially since you're almost certainly in medical abortion (a couple pills) territory. I'm not saying abortion isn't difficult, but the 'trouble getting pregnant after an abortion' stuff is anti-abortion propaganda, not something based in science, and it's best to go into this decision with facts, not scare tactics. Again, get medical opinions. (not from a pregnancy crisis center, as those are anti-abortion clinics)
And please stop with getting emotional support from your children. They shouldn't even know you're pregnant at this point, and it's super fucked up if you told them when you don't know whether or not you're having an abortion. They're lives are tumultuous enough with you bringing an abusive scumbag into their lives on weekends, don't make it worse by involving them in your decisions about whether or not to have a baby.
Lastly, stop having unprotected sex with men unless your intention is to get pregnant, and you've both discussed the topic and are both in agreement with getting pregnant. If necessary, get on a semi-permanent form of birth control.
You are coming at this from the wrong angle.
“I am miserable working, so you should be miserable too.”
That will NOT be good for the relationship.
Even if you agree to split misery, it just means you still get to work, but now have less of a reason to complain, but will still resent it.
Even if you come to some kind of agreement, you won’t solve the base problem.
You EXPECT her to be working in some fashion, and that EXPECTATION is making you irritable every time you pass by.
Fix that, first.
Be happy your wife doesn’t have to do anything. If you swap the roles and she was the one walking by everyday – would you want her having negative thoughts and making faces?
No! You’d want her coming by going “how are my champs doing? Give me a hug.”
So first – reset your head.
Yes chores have to be done, but her taking on 75-100% of the house work isn’t going to make her any happier than your snark and glares.
Realize you are jealous and have been raised to believe that everyone should be active all the time, and your expectations are upsetting you.
When the reality is this – if you could both sit there scrolling Instagram all day while your kid plays you’d be happy.
So fix your perspective, and communicate with your wife.
I GUEST I CAN SAY(I'M THE VICTIM), i can't tell you why i can say that but i have right to say IT
My question is how in the holy hell do you send nudes without sexual or romantic intent?
Communication is important, but respect and trust go both ways.
Yes!
I wouldn't want to be with a guy who either lies to avoid taking care of me when I'm sick or maybe he just wants attention and sympathy and hates when other people are getting those things. But if I found myself in OP's situation I am petty enough that I would turn it into a game.
So I would suddenly have menstrual cramps or an ovarian cyst or some other thing he couldn't possibly have. Or something else that cannot be resolved without prescription medication. Make his lies reveal themselves.
Thank you, I appreciate it
i can't wait for her to leave you. you sound hella abusive.
Give him an ultimatum. He has 30 days to find a full-time job or he needs to move out. ?
There's no financial control. We have a joint account and separate accounts with him also putting money into my own account for me to save.
it’s not confessing to that transgression every time you meet a new person
No one is suggesting it is, and your suggestion that we are is disingenuous at best.
However, if you want any hope of ever having a healthy relationship, you do need to be honest with the person you have a relationship with.
Which includes revealing major character flaws
which sexual positions were used
Oh yeah, specific sex acts you did with an ex is TOTALLY equivalent to “I’m a cheater that you can’t trust” sure
Apparently my husband has got some expectations I need to fill
The expectation that you won’t cheat on him? Good luck. From how naked you’re defending cheating he’s got some major worries there
Yeah giving me sob stories pissed me off because they may be reasons but they’re not excuses. She needs to take accountability
No. This is really weird. Your bf is weird and likely much worse than that. Please, run.
*I was going to text her but she was so beautiful I want to stand out and be mysterious*
I think you are over thinking this, Op. BTW, she doesn't know you from Adam so already you are *mysterious*.
Btw, Op? You already told her that you think she is beautiful so lets not say that again for awhile.
From what I understand, young people tend to text a bit and learn about each other a little first. What do you do? What are you studying? What do you do for fun? Music, reading, movies, hobbies, and so forth. If the texting/conversation is going well, THEN you ask, I would like to take you out to…coffee, lunch etc, What do you think? Would you like to go out with me?
This is my best advice, Op. Good luck!
Well, that’s an interesting way of phrasing it and nothing happened in that hour is it possible she found out something within that hour. Yeah there’s too much vague energy there. But if this is happened twice like this, that may be the missing piece. So I wouldn’t go back and I would go to court and make sure you have access to your daughter when you want to just take care of yourself around this.
This is why folks shouldn’t get married before 25. This is also why folks shouldn’t get married only one year into the relationship. You guys jumped the gun. You barely know a person in a year. You change as much between 18 and 25 as you do from newborn to kindergarten. Walk away, restart your life. Make sure you really know someone before marrying them again.
Put the cat bowls elsewhere for safety, but she shouldn’t be dropping them on the floor! I myself am scared i accidentally would do that with my meds, so I am very careful.
Ahh, that does change my opinion a bit, I didn't see that comment. Yeah, that isn't great.
I think ultimately she still proved herself trustworthy, and it's one of those “work through it because we're all human and make mistakes, and you held yourself accountable” moments, but yeah. That is less awesome.
The thought counts. No matter what. He tries his best. That matters
I was with you until you were trying on women's jewelry and taking pictures lol
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
May be controversial to say, but ngl she cheated and what's to stop her from doing it again, let alone she with this same guy. You either need to have her stop associating to this guy, or find some way to not let it bother you, otherwise the jealousy is just gonna tear you down, and that'll be the downfall of your relationship.
it does feel really unfair to me personally – but i don’t know if it’s just because this is my relationship and i’m feeling upset over this. i definitely don’t need to comply for sure, i think i would need to figure it out a lot slower than she would be willing 🙁 thank you ❤️
Move out of her house, problem solved.
Walnut is a good one too!
My ex husband was pursuing a masters degree and he still was able to contribute to half of everything so don’t settle for less
Lmao
I only read the title. No
I was just like your boyfriend. I dated someone for five years who was not a great person but we were up, down, naked, cold, hate, love. It wasn’t electric; it was dopamine. It took me a long time to calm down when I met the true love of my life because I thought relationships were supposed to keep you always off-kilter and my new guy was so dependable and honest and honorable. I grew up with a lot of chaos, my first guy was chaos and I didn’t know how to be calm. It felt boring but it was calm. Luckily, I started to realize I was just looking for that dopamine hit and I calmed myself down and learned to love sanity.
Don't apologize. Your “friend” is a bitch. People who go around spreading their ideals to situations that they don't even understand have nothing going for them. So everything you said was true; she's jealous that there are people out there who have a happy relationship. She's upset that your husband bought you a designer bag because no one would even buy her a grocery bag.
Not everybody values gifts. How big of a deal is this for you?
If she did, it would be literally none of my fucking business and I would not give one iota of a shit.
That last edit is heart breaking. If people are telling you you have to be okay with their lifestyle, fuck them. There's a difference between an open relationship and how they treated you. Any parent that ignores their kid's panic attack deserves to never be contacted again, frankly. And it's not like this distance happened overnight, it sounds like they just NEVER tried to bridge this gap with you again. Because of they wanted to bridge the gap they would put a pause on things and care for you.
Your problem isn't that they have an open relationship, your problem is that they repeatedly prioritized their sex life over you. Your entire childhood.
I think your disgust for them is in how they treated you, and people telling you that you need to be okay with polyamory are just not seeing that. They hurt you deeply, and as an adult now I bet your couldn't give a flying fuck what their bedroom life is like, but while you were struggling as a kid right after thinking your mother was cheating in public (do neighbours know? Are you your father's kid? Do people catch them and then not tell you? This changes things when you appear to cheat so PUBLICLY your child sees) they didn't help you and wouldn't put their dating and fucking on the backburner to reorient their family with you.
Don't let them at your wedding. What the hell did they contribute to your relationship? A coffee or lunch is the most I would see them for just to say, I'm getting married. Oh and therapy.
Start gifting him some filler lashes to compensate… or be honest and let him know it’s a complete turnoff and like the other user mentioned, your vagina has become hermetically sealed. That’s a bad stache that prob ain’t getting better considering he already had the beard grown.
This mustache does not spark joy – that one lady.
I promise you he’s not hurt lol he laughed about it and thankfully has more emotional intelligence than most commenters here and realized I wasn’t calling HIM a pedophile but rather his mustache pedophile-esque. I didn’t post this on AITA lol.
Op stated above that she's not sexually attracted to him and if she was, her “conditions” might be different.
Op is a piece.
Three years? The patience of a Saint. I would say you are very special to him. Look at it that way.
She needs to see a pelvic floor physical therapist. It could be her fear of pregnancy is making her tighten her muscles too much. Sometimes also the fear of pain causes the muscles to tighten as well. The PT will help and will usually tell you to get a pelvic wand. You use it to help get the knots out of your pelvis. She is likely embarrassed which is why she doesn’t want to talk about it but it’s very common.
Take them at face value. They sound like nice people. This isn’t something worth ruining a relationship over. Sure, if it was awkward between all of you (them showing obvious disapproving signs of you being there) it would make sense you feeling this way.
Instead, you could be shooting your self in the foot by self sabotaging your relationship like this.
Your family may not have been that way with others, but some are. His is one of them. Enjoy it.
Adults don’t cuddle with a stranger in a hotel room. They had sex.
Why are you still with this guy?! And why are you still friend's with that person?!
See, I feel sympathy for Mary in this situation. She was 20 when it came out they were together but the affair had been ongoing for 5 years. I couldn’t spell it out in the post due to posting rules. His preference are for girls who look like they just hit puberty. Prada, his current gf, looks 15 and is very slender. He didn’t act like this with me no, but I’m not sure If that was because I was his daughter or just not his type. He goes for blonde, blue/green eyes, skinny. I was always chubbier very developed, brown hair and eyes. He is very vocal about this.
I don’t plan to be in his life at all anymore
Why didn’t she tell you when you were dating and before you married? Because she was trying to hide it and knew you wouldn’t be happy about it.
That double betrayal should have you ending it.
Deliberately make the situation uncomfortable and awkward so your lose interest. Ask about his wife, tell him you found out he’s married and that you’re not this type of person.. the flirty and relaxed atmosphere will quickly be gone and hopefully sense will be knocked into you like that
It sucks because it was the right person at the wrong time
That’s one of the hardest pills for adults to swallow. What could have been, what should have been, but life was in the way
Reach out to him, explain your feelings. See if you guys can make it work
Just wait for the other test to come back, as it very well could be a false positive result. I see this a lot in pregnant woman. (I do infectious disease investigations).
i told him this?
Contact a company financial advisor about what your best option for getting paid from the company is.
Also you stating that you're unemployed might come back and bite you since it sounds like tax fraud.
In conclusion contact someone who knows this stuff before you do something potentially stupid.
Yeppp
My god, I am so happy for you that you've been heard and not blamed or chastised. That is a huge step for someone who has been through this before and not only that but then denied their own reality. Well done for standing up for yourself, it takes so much courage. Wishing you and your partner and his family the best!
I said in my responses “I acknowledge your lived experience with women in your life”, however to take that and make sweeping generalization on women is harmful not only to women but also to you. I'm not going to be that person and say “then choose better” because as a woman, I can acknowledge that there is a problem with the pool of options to choose from.
The boundary you set is valid; it's a valid protection to your peace. But again, to turn around and blame women for not violating that boundary and also faulting them for side-stepping the boundary is what I find issue in. (Capslocking merely for emphasis) YOU EXPRESSLY TOLD THEM YOU DON'T WANT TO THEM TO GET TO KNOW YOU INTIMATELY, so they don't make the effort to then you becry women for doing exactly what you told them to do.
I think the disconnect is this
I have seen no difference in the level of effort between being in a full blown relationship
As a person with experience in both, there is a massive difference, subject of course to your agreement. A casual relationship is quite literally a “no strings attached situation”; there is no incentive for either party to emotionally invest because it was agreed beforehand that it wasn't going to go anywhere. You can't fault them for being “self-serving”
Also assuring exclusivity (asking me about my whereabouts and then cursing me out for being with another woman)
If you give yourself time away from her, stop helping her emotionally and relying on her, you will adjust.
She's relied on you for 10 years, you've treated her good and been her rock and she's not sure if you're right for her?
You're better off with someone who doesn't need to see the rest of the world to know they want to be with you.
Also, not to be too blunt, but if you're doing well for yourself and in shape, you're coming into potentially the best years of your life. Why don't you do what she's doing? If she wants to see the world, why don't you take some time to do the same. See how life feels not having to cover for her and help her along. Go see sights or find hobbies you enjoy.
That guy isn’t letting his girlfriend get in the way of meeting his future wife-
another case of you’re way too young for this shit. Get out
I said that in another thread here and was met by loads of “noooooo!”/ “but… but… but”.
Where you are 100 % right: effing the factory is unwise. For the precise reasons you stated.
You should play super mice and ask for things to go back how they were. The open your own account transfer your portion and leave. At bare minimum you need to at least no longer share a account with him.
HE JUST TOLD YOU THE TRUTH.
Honey, if your best friend told you this, what would your advice be?
You are not safe.
Please call someone you trust, let them help you.
You and your baby deserve a soft life full of love. You are worthy. Love doesn't have to be like this.
The post is about her being upset with his delay in communion. If you want to argue it's arbitrary, I can agree, assuming she hasn't given him a timeline. He needs to discuss a timeline with her. Whenever he damn well feels like it isn't acceptable. He has to actually communicate.
the person who's feelings are hurt
Fuck his feelings, first of all. There's more to life than OP's feelings. His girlfriend has feelings too. They need to set aside their feelings and actually communicate.
It sounds like you just want to justify OP, and perhaps yourself, for being a poor communicator. Having anxiety, lacking social awareness, whatever the reason, is not something a partner has to put up with. If OP can't communicate, he's going to have a rough time being in a relationship. His girlfriend is not required to sit meekly and listen to his complaints about something minor (his words) she did last week. No one deserves to online like that, wondering when they're going to be bombarded with complaints.
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