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Some people have said he has a point, so trying to get a larger perspective
Idiot woman haha
I’ve been married for 10 years and my wife gave me herpes 5 years ago, we’re still together
Well now I'm blushing. 😉
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I am probably going to have my mom come and get us on Monday when he is at work. I think that would be safest. I just hate this, all I want is for my child to not come from a broken home. But a broken home is better than an unsafe home
You are right, the affair had nothing to do with you. I would tell your mother not to make you choose one over the other, she may not like the outcome. You should affirm you love her but you also love your father, her ultimatum is unfair.
She was deeply hurt by the affair but that's her issue, not yours.
Blow it up… yolo
You tell her she is the most beautiful woman in the world to you. Because, to you, she is, isn’t she? No bullshit about angles or whatnot, this is the woman that likes you? That sleeps with you? That cares about you? That does nice things for you? Does none of that make her a beautiful woman to you? People’s feelings matter. I understand you’re ND, but you asked how you should respond, and I’m asking you to reframe how you perceive the question, and that’s the dilemma. Relationships are not black and white, and thrive on nuance. That’s what you’re missing here. She’s NOT asking for a critique of her face. (No woman ever wants that.) she was asking for reassurance that YOU find her attractive. As long as you’d like to keep a particular partner, it’s in your best interest to make them them feel loved, desirable and wanted. You don’t do that by telling her her face is ugly at a certain angle. You do that by reassuring them that they are the most beautiful, important, and desirable person you know. Brutal honesty is just mean spirted bullying. I get that you’re maybe not picking up on social cues, but there is a universal social law. If you want the person sleeping with you, to continue sleeping with you, then it’s never a good idea to tell them they ever look ugly. True or not. Unless you’re ready to lose their companionship completely. So, authentically apologize, and metaphorically, fall on your sword, and tell her your ND got in the way of expressing how beautiful, and important, and desirable she is to you, and you won’t make that mistake, going forward. You DO appreciate all the things she does for you, and you find her soul as beautiful as her face. And then, truly reflect on how much this woman loves you, flaws and all, and doesn’t she deserve, at least, the same in return? Nobody is perfect. But someone can be perfect for you. Is she? If not, let her go, and quit wasting her time, or if she is perfect for you, stop looking to highlight her flaws, and start looking to build up her best qualities. You’ll never have a successful LTR by nitpicking at your partner’s perceived flaws. Successful relationships are born out of selflessness, and care, and kindness, and respect. So, the rule you should on-line by is, is it true, is it kind, is it necessary, and is it helpful? If it’s not one of those things, then seriously, think twice, three, maybe four times before you decide to say it. The offended can’t unhear the offensive thing, and some actions can’t be undone, so you need to be careful with the way you treat people. Most people don’t do “matter of fact” well, and do much better with understanding and nuance. Sucks for you, if “gray” areas don’t normally register, but the thing I’m trying to impart here is, if you like someone, and want them to remain in your life, it’s not a good idea to tear them down, in any way. If they’re mistreating you, then by all means, speak up, and stand your ground. But if the person is someone you like, care about, and genuinely respect, then it’s never a good idea to tear them down, over anything that doesn’t hurt you. (Assuming you wouldn’t like, or respect a bad person, doing bad things, that needed called out.) if someone wrongs you, by all means, call it out, but if your loved one “asks” you for reassurance, please give that to them. It’s not a huge ask. Just follow your feelings, not your ND brutal honesty. Nobody wants that from anyone, ever. Generally, people want kindness, understanding, and compassion. If they give those things to you, the social standard is to return the same.
You wrote a post about how you're upset that you walked in on your siblings together in a hotel room, and you're confused as to how some people jumped to incest?
You are not the person that gets to determine what makes her feel safe or unsafe. Doing something like that out of anger is generally what makes someone feel unsafe, it doesn’t even have to be menacing or make a lot of noise. You have no idea what her actual reasons for ‘changing her mind and kicking you out’ are. It doesn’t have to be spite or fear, or it could be both and then some. Her reasons are completely valid reasons to her. The only thing you can do is be a better person in the future for your future partners, hopefully
These arrangements were all made BEFORE you came into the picture. It’s none of your business and the fact that you’re still hung up on it is concerning.
Your fiancé made this decision and no matter the reasoning you’re going to have to get over it. If that’s not possible it’s probably time to end it before he does.
Snowflake
I mean, she could send an etiquette book ?
Frankly, your parents are douche bags. as you have said, they cared more about their sex lives than you.
You however, are getting married and will (presumably) have children of your own. They will never know the pain you have endured and will grow up knowing they are loved.
Focus on the above and don't allow your parents to your wedding.
Wow, are you me? This happened to me exactly (spoiler alert, we aren't together anymore).
Partner and I had a child, she immediately went off the rails. The doctor called it post partum psychosis. She wouldn't care for our child, I had to bring him to work, I eventually ended up losing my job. She was leaving for days at a time, going to bars and going home with random men.
I really insisted on therapy, I tried to make it work. She continued to cheat and of course she kept accusing me of cheating, although that never happened. Like others are saying, her projections are very strong.
I gave up when our son turned a year old and ended up with full custody. We coparent just fine now, but it was a wild ride.
PPD or not, your wife is sure making herself the victim. That's too much insecurity to be around and stay sane.
Yep. She should sue his sorry ass.
It is an extremely stupid thing TBH.
So how does this come as a surprise right now?
Tbh… when you were dating, did you regularly travel to Canada and give it a real chance? Did you network? Did you get your qualifications recognised?
Right now it really sounds like you've just hoped that your wife would eventually want to settle in the UK permanently…
At 18+, your son will be able to decide himself where he wants to on-line and start his career
If it's a personality issue, he can't change it. Does he gave a job? How does he have a whole week to play video games? Since this behavior won't change, you have to decide if it's a dealbreaker. He's been quite clear. He won't stop this behavior.
Girl, have some self respect and don't go through with this wedding.
Why are they? It sucks cause first i just thought it was weed sometimes. Then i found put his smoking was affecting him a lot and he also does a lot of lsd and he told me he had quit but now he doesnt want to quit
Look man I forgot there was a subreddit were women was glorying they cheating on their husbands to me cheating, I just don’t agree with cheating man and especially letting someone on-line a lie
She is a single mom in denial.
Let out a long satisfying fart. Then just flat out tell him you're not interested.
The only motive I can see is if your sister's friend likes you and wants you to break up with your gf.
Med student here. No they are not.
I don’t think expecting that common areas of the home be kept clear of clutter. Setting up a man cave/craft room downstairs seems smart. Then he never has to clear it and you don’t have to look at it.
Personally, if he won’t pick up just out of respect for your wishes then….I guess you can do what I did with the kids. When they went to bed and I was tidying up, anything that wasn’t put away where it belonged or left out went in a basket and they could earn the things back by doing an extra chore.
You shouldn’t have to treat a grown man like a teenager but here we are….
Ask him what he does value from your contributions. You could even exchange contribution compliments.
“I really value that you…”
You could say. “Hey. I want us to try to have a positive conversation. Let’s exchange positive contribution commitments.” (Dunno ?♂️. Just a thought)
I don’t have anyone to check on me, they gave me a number to call if anything happens. I don’t have anything in the house prepared or anything. I am sitting on the bathroom floor in a puddle of blood because I just want even get the strength to get up. He hasn’t even sent a text to ask if I’m ok or anything. I feel so totally lost beyond belief I didn’t know this existed.
Well you're not in her position. If your feelings and intentions are about her then the past does not matter.
call animal protection and ask them what they need from you to go forward here, reddit can't tell you that, they can.
Updateme!
OP you are smart, capable, and strong. If you cannot find courage for yourself, find it for your daughter. Do you want her to grow up with a dad that tell her that her purpose in life is to marry rich and be a baby factory?
I definitely agree that I am more in the wrong.
Tbh I don’t necessarily care that she slept with or is sleeping with this person. I asked specifically because I’d rather not be in that mix if I could avoid it.
It’s not his right to dictate your behavior. You aren’t “defying” him
So I’m not sure about the calloused dick, I’ve never heard that before but that sounds painful af lol.
As for death grip, I’ve been there tbh. During COVID I was single for nearly two years. I used to jerk off more than I’m proud to admit, once a day basically every day. When I had my first girlfriend post-COVID, it ended up being a real issue. I’d get hard no problem during foreplay, we’d start getting into it, but then in the time I could get my condom on and get into position to have sex I’d lose my boner. Or on occasion I’d lose my boner during oral. This was really naked on me… I felt like a failure. But it was much worse on my ex. She developed some real self-esteem issues and thought she wasn’t good enough/attractive enough to keep me turned on. It was my biggest regret from that relationship, and I hope she doesn’t still carry any self esteem issues from it.
I tried all the tricks in the book to get rid of the death grip. I tried loosening my hand, using lube, trying toys instead, but I’d still lose my boner when we’d try to sleep together. The way I finally fixed it was by not jerking off all together. I wasn’t satisfying my addiction, so when it came time for sex I was so horny that I couldn’t possibly lose my boner. Quitting porn + masturbation was the only way to fix those issues in my relationship. Nowadays I’ll jerk off every once and a while, but I’ve learned my lesson… i always use my left hand, lube, and I go slow. Even if that means taking a while
If he is not willing to work on his trauma why should you subject yourself to if? He’s manipulative and slowly destroying your mental health. A life with him is a life of misery in which you do not matter at all. Please leave
My roommate told me she saw my boyfriend go into a room to chill a bit because they both got there a lot earlier than me and I was going to surprise him because he said he wanted me to be more spontaneous in our relationship and be more willing to initiate intimacy.
But I realize I should have verified it was him.
More Trust won’t do it.
Lot to reply to, but no to 1,3,4,5,6. 2 maybe because she does sometimes act before she thinks while drunk (who doesn’t though). 7 is possible yeah, but it’s something we’ve never talked about and haven’t really ever been around that subject either
For two years you couldn't cough up that you like to be touched in bed?
Of course nobody can change from doing stupid shiet in the past. Of course it couldn't have been a lesson for the person doing bad things because everything is black and white.
feeling unsafe isn't an excuse to be emotionally abusive. she should leave if that's what she needs. doesn't give her a right to hang it over their heads for the rest of their lives.
He needs to be honest with you if he's not seeing your relationship in a long term way, the way you are. It's not fair to keep someone hanging on to a 'maybe' if they know deep down that the maybe isn't true. Good luck.
I don't think anyone on this planet would be ok if their partner went on a date (yes it is a date) with a person of the opposite gender. It's even worse if you're married. I honestly wonder what kind of a sick person you must be to put your SO in that situation
Call the cops and get her arrested. Walk into some door knobs, claim she hits you. Get her to stay in prison for as long as possible. Send her pictures of everything you receive from your friend in the mail with you smiling next to them. Change your haircut and dress nicer and be more hygienic all around to give her the sense that her being locked up is actually doing wonders for you. When her birthday or events come up, send her stuff to her cell, but make sure it's completely busted and unworkable. Send her updates on the house by sending her pictures of what she's missing, but turn any pictures with her in it fave down or edit them so that she's not there anymore. Frame the shot in such a way that it's noticeable. Get an older woman friend, and start giving her updates like “got our replacement!” Ideally, get her to wear your mom's old clothes to really hit home that she's not missed or needed. Make plans to come visit her and say you want to put the whole thing behind you. Never show up or answer her calls for the next 3 days after. Call her after saying ” woops, lol. Guess it slipped my mind!” Then change the subject to the newest cool thing your friend sent you. Eventually, stop contacting her all together until maybe 6-8 months later. Send only one message at this point, smile and pose next to a tomb stone with her name on it, and caption it, saying, “Don't say I never do anything for you.”
I wouldn't say 45 and 30 is a red flag but I would say it's kinda weird.